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Claire Danes' ball gown did a sweet trick at the 2016 Met Gala

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That made for a ton of great celeb gawking — and a ton of great couture — but there was a clear winner on the red carpet: Homeland star Claire Danes.

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Her pale blue Zac Posen ball gown was reminiscent of Cinderella, complete with Disney-esque up-'do.

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At first it didn't seem to fit with the 2016 Met Gala theme of Manus x Machina: Fashion in an Age of Technology theme, but that all changed when the lights went out. The gown was outfitted with fiber-optic lights that illuminated the gown with a beautiful glow.

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Zac Posen Claire Danes

"Celestial grandeur," Posen wrote hours before, teasing the fairy tale-meets-future look.

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Zac Posen Claire Danes 2

Pretty sure she's the belle of the Met ball — and we'll be talking about this dress for years to come.

More: 27 stunning dresses on display at tonight's Met Gala

Check out our full slideshow before you go:

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Alisan Porter dominates The Voice with one of the most emotional songs yet

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Alisan Porter has enjoyed the status of frontrunner on The Voice for a long time, but tonight sealed the deal: She is the most likely to emerge from Season 10 a champion — and to secure Christina Aguilera her very first victory. Not only does Porter have a powerful voice, she also now possesses the emotional punch that viewers have been looking for all season.

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Viewers always love a good sob story, and while it would be unfair to reduce Porter's journey to a calculated, but nevertheless tearjerking reality TV moment, it's hard to deny that her tale of redemption is perfect for The Voice. Although she didn't offer up a lot of details about her past struggle with addiction, Porter did address her journey through song, using her stunning voice to capture the most difficult time in her life. Her song choice — Patty Griffin's "Let Him Fly" — was perfect, as always, but based on how much emotion she brought to the stage, she could have transformed the worst possible song into a vocal masterpiece.

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The coaches always adore Porter, and while some critics claim that she garners way too much praise, she definitely deserved the accolades she received tonight. Aguilera was especially proud; she applauded the singer for sharing "such a personal heartfelt story," adding that "pulling back the curtain" can be more challenging than hitting high notes.

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Needless to say, viewers were, like the coaches, very, very impressed with Porter's latest performance. Porter has consistently delivered stellar performances all season long, but as several delighted fans noted on Twitter, tonight marked an emotional breakthrough.

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Alisan music history

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Alisan's light

A lot of people scoff at sob stories on The Voice, but I think they fuel some of the show's most stunning performances. When artists are able to personally connect to the music, they shine that much brighter.

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I'm so glad that Porter was courageous enough to share her story through song. I have no doubt that she'll continue to deliver exceptional performances as Season 10 draws to a close.

What did you think of Alisan Porter's latest performance on The Voice? Was it just another sob story or do you think it was a breakthrough for the Season 10 frontrunner? Comment and share your opinion below.

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Alisan performance

Before you go, check out our slideshow below:

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I agreed with Nathan Griffith on Teen Mom and I don't feel good about it

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It pains and confounds me to say this, but Nathan Griffith behaved reasonably on the latest episode of Teen Mom 2. I might go as far as to say he acted... maturely. It's not like this is the first time ever that he's behaved this way (one could make a sturdy argument that once he started wearing shirts that covered his nipples, things were on the up and up), but still, it's surprising, given all the time he spent being a scary jerk.

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On Monday's episode, Nathan moved forward in his quest for custody of Kaiser, meaning he's done more in one season to the end of getting back his son than Jenelle has in seven. He talked to an actual lawyer, who gave him some solid advice, not only about how to behave but how not to behave, particularly around David, Jenelle's boyfriend. I am aware that this sounds like I am giving out cookies for basic behavior, but the thing is, we haven't seen a ton of this kind of behavior from Nathan at all in the past, so at this point, I will take anything. After Jenelle assaulted his new girlfriend, moved in with David after 45 seconds and still refused to give Nathan her phone number, it's no wonder he's being more aggressive in regard to custody. I am cautiously optimistic about Nathan actually learning from his mistakes, but stranger things have happened. It's also possible/likely that Nathan's seen himself on TV behaving like a total trashbag and, unlike some people, decided it was a bad look.

On the latest episode, Jenelle got David to volunteer to act as the middle man between her and Nathan, which I'm convinced is more of a means to control Jenelle and her interactions with Nathan than to actually help. Nathan is totally right to be suspicious of that situation, especially since Jenelle thought it was OK for David, a dude Kaiser has known for 10 seconds, to supervise a visit to the arcade. Look, maybe David is the great love of Jenelle's life. It's possible. But as Kaiser's father, it's not weird that Nathan's upset or creeped out by how much responsibility Jenelle's giving to him in regard to her son. I'm not saying Nathan has suddenly become an A+ parent and that he won't return to being a ridiculous beast creature in the near future (he wasn't totally sure how old Kaiser was this week), but at least he's showing some parenting instincts and taking some action. To review: It's totally destabilizing to agree with Nathan. I might be coming down with something.

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Did you think Nathan was shockingly reasonable on the latest episode of Teen Mom 2? Tell us in the comments!

Before you go, check out our slideshow below!

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Houdini & Doyle needs a bit more magic to keep the crime caper going

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The premise is promising enough: At the turn of the 20th century, two historical icons — beloved illusionist Harry Houdini and Sherlock Holmes author Sir Arthur Conan Doyle — team up to help the Metropolitan Police in London solve a string of bizarre cases. Such will serve as the basis for Fox's new 10-part mini-series.

Let me start by saying I was a bit besotted with the series prior to the premiere simply based on the talent of the show's two anchors, Michael Weston (Six Feet Under, Scrubs, House M.D., Law & Order: SVU, Elementary) as Houdini and Stephen Mangan (Episodes, Rush, Free Agents, Never Better, Jane Hall) as Doyle.

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In the series, Houdini is a skeptic, Doyle is a believer and they ping-pong witty barbs back and forth due to their conflicting ideologies. Houdini's strict adherence to science and rationality do not sit well with Doyle's belief in the paranormal or supernatural, and vice versa.

Weston and Mangan do not disappoint, both delivering their lines with crisp aplomb.

What the show also had going for it was the addition of relative newcomer Rebecca Liddiard in the role of Constable Adelaide Stratton, the first female constable for the London Metro Police. Here's where the show really has an opportunity to impress... if they handle the character well.

Because history has so often been written by men, we don't always get to see the strong women central to progress. Stratton's story arc already does double duty: It adds a much-needed female narrative to this historical perspective and it also makes a pointed social commentary about the oppression of women throughout history.

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We learn that Stratton spent years trying to get anyone (read: any men) to take her seriously, only to be stowed away in the basement once she became a constable.

During a particularly heated conversation with Houdini, she uses her voice to tell him a life of "frilly dresses and condescension" is not the fate she wishes for herself. "This might be a bet for you, but for me this is my life," she says.

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The only reason Stratton is given the chance to work with Houdini and Doyle, her commanding officer drives home, is so she can play "nursemaid" and nothing more. When she helps crack their first case and Houdini passes her praise onto the C.O., he assumes she must be sleeping with Houdini. So Stratton gets moved out of the basement, but only in so much as it might benefit her boss to have her under a more watchful eye.

Liddiard, a woman slight in frame, proves large in presence. She pulls back at the right moments and plows full steam ahead when the subject matter merits. Here's hoping they don't reduce her to a mere trope... the vehicle which drives a love triangle or romantic dalliance with one of her colleagues.

Aside from that potential nightmare, what's the problem then?

The premiere was fun enough and certainly visually pleasing, set against a stunning steampunk-esque backdrop of period London. The acting was impressive, if not a bit over-acted at times. The problem, then, was that the series simply lacked a certain... magic.

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It has all the elements to make it a success but, to be honest, it's all over the place. It's as though The X-Files and Scooby Doo had a love child, and that love child was Houdini & Doyle — it toes the line between comical crime caper and supernatural silliness too hard at times.

As for the historical aspect, I'm admittedly not incredibly well-versed in Houdini and Doyle's real-life friendship. However, I think it's safe to say the show is very loosely based on history and takes great poetic license. Which is fine! Just don't expect a historically factual experience every week.

The biggest issue, though, is that — despite its supernatural whims — the show lacks originality. It's a British period drama. It features partners on opposite ends of a spectrum who have a symbiotic relationship. We've seen procedurals like this before, from Fox no less.

Having said that, it was an amusing way to pass the time on an otherwise dull Monday night. I'll tune in next week, keeping my fingers crossed that Houdini & Doyle has more tricks up its sleeve.

We shouldn't punish Nyle DiMarco for being confident

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Nyle DiMarco faced a tough week on Dancing with the Stars after a few comments he made. In the package before his dance last week, DiMarco called himself the frontrunner in the competition and said that he doesn’t see any of the other stars as competition. As you can imagine, it didn’t sit well with many people.

The model, who has been vlogging his entire experience for People, addressed the comments he made and the reaction people have had toward him in a video earlier today. "So much happened in our package this past Monday on the live show, and I feel like it was kind of a negative perspective of me," DiMarco explained. "It showed me as kind of being arrogant and cocky, and that's not who I am."

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As the first deaf contestant on the show, he’s extremely vulnerable to miscommunication. Not only does he speak through a translator, but he also gets cut and edited by the show’s producers after that. He’s not in a great position to get his intended message across to the audience and his fellow stars.

DiMarco has high hopes that he and his partner, Peta Murgatroyd, will bounce back this week after he’s able to explain that he isn’t the arrogant contestant that his package portrayed him to be. And I think we definitely should all give him the chance.

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At its core, DWTS is a competition. Although it is fun to watch the dances and see the stars work together with the dancers, it’s about finding one winner. Why are we surprised that any of the competitors are boastful about their talents? It’s only natural for someone in a competition to believe they're the best. Otherwise, how can they expect to win?

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I understand that many people want it to be a light-hearted show, but these stars are putting in crazy hours rehearsing and performing — they should be able to brag a little bit!

The 2016 Met Gala introduced us to a whole new Taylor Swift

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The platinum-haired singer, who served as Wintour's cohost for the 2016 Met Gala, opted for an edgy Louis Vuitton mini that fit this year's "Manus x Machina: Fashion in an Age of Technology” theme.

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The silver mini featured cutout detailing around the waist, along with a tiered ruffle skirt. She paired it with knee-high caged heels and dramatic black lipstick, along with her shaggy bob.

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Her best accessory, though, is her confident attitude. The model-like posing helps, too — she's learned a lot from her supermodel squad.

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The whole Met Gala look is a serious departure for Swift, but she told Vogue that she embraces change.

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“I can look back at an old photo and tell you roughly what year it’s from,” she said. “Going through different phases is one of my favorite things about fashion. I love how it can mark the passage of time. It’s similar to my songs in that way — it all helps identify where I was at in different points of my life.”

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Check out our slideshow of all the 2016 Met Gala looks before you go:

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DWTS' Jodie Sweetin is glad she isn't one of the top stars

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Jodie Sweetin is maintaining a strong and steady pace on Dancing with the Stars this season, and that’s exactly how she likes it. Sweetin, who is dancing with Keo Motsepe, experienced a few ups and downs during this season, but she says all of it has been worth it for the live performances.

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In her blog for People, Sweetin said, “Last week was definitely not an easy week. Not only did we have one of the most difficult dances I could ever imagine, but I also was really shaken by my injury.” She continued her blog admitting, “I could not have happier with how things went during the live show. It was really worth all the pain when I watched our dance back and saw how much the audience responded to it.”

The actress suffered a bad bone bruise during the competition, but it luckily hasn’t hindered her much at all. In fact, her slow and steady climb toward the front of the pack is exactly what she wants from her journey on the show.

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She wrote, “I'm glad we didn't peak early on in the competition because I think we are showing America that we are working hard and getting better every dance.”

Her strategy seems to be working. And it’s worked for people in the past. Many times, if a star does super well in the beginning, the judges expect more out of them and they eventually fail to meet their standards. By building slowly, Sweetin will make sure that she is always surprising the audience and exceeding the judges’ expectations.

And it also helps that she’s not calling herself a frontrunner like Nyle DiMarco.

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Only time will tell if she has what it takes to win the mirror ball trophy, but it’s great to see her enjoying her time in the competition.

Brandi Redmond's potty language is ruining RHOD

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If you've watched even two minutes of The Real Housewives of Dallas, you've figured out that Brandi Redmond is oddly infatuated with human excrement. At first, the poop talk was amusing and even a bit refreshing. Then, by weeks two and three, it started to feel a bit excessive. Now, we're just four episodes in and the word "poop" is starting to feel like Redmond's version of Yolanda Foster's "journey," but much more juvenile.

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Poop was once again the name of the game tonight, with the fallout of the memorable poop hat incident still creating tension among the Housewives. I was really hoping that the show would move forward with a new and more interesting theme, but instead, it went, dare I say... down the toilet.

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The latest and greatest device for advancing the plot was the discovery of LeeAnne Locken's own very traumatic encounter with human waste. Apparently, she once soiled herself while inebriated. Needless to say, Redmond was over the moon when she heard the exciting news. She is eager to hold this discovery over Locken's head as often as possible, which means we're bound to continue hearing about poop on a regular basis.

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Most viewers took issue with Redmond's language from the very beginning, but a few were willing to tolerate her early on. Now, however, people are rapidly jumping ship. While live tweeting tonight's episode, several disgruntled viewers shared their disdain for Redmond's very limited vocabulary.

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RHOD Poop Tweet 1

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Bravo's Real Housewives shows have been disappointingly repetitive as of late. RHOD fortunately does not appear to have a fake illness plot, but its emphasis on poop is bound to get just as annoying as Lisa Rinna's determination to blame the Munchausen drama on everybody else... or as annoying as Vicki Gunvalson's continued willingness to make excuses for Brooks Ayers. At least those common tropes have some subtext. There's really not much to say about an ugly poop hat or an unfortunate loss of bowel control. Please, Bravo, give us something new!

What do you think of Brandi Redmond's language on RHOD? Do you find it annoying or amusing? Comment and share your opinion below.

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

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Thousands of schoolkids are going 'on strike' today

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Thousands of kids could be missing school today but it's not your typical truancy. It's the parents who have decided on a day of unauthorised absence in an unusual "strike" action to protest against exams for 6- and 7-year-olds.

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The Let Our Kids Be Kids campaign, which has been encouraging parents in England to keep their children off school today because they are "over-tested, over-worked and in a school system that places more importance on test results and league tables than children's happiness and joy of learning," began as a group of five parents who were "tired of having the same discussion about the pointlessness of SATs."

The U.K. government's controversial academisation programme has been hailed as the biggest shake-up to the education system in decades. Currently SATs (standard assessment tests) are taken by children aged 6 or 7 in Year Two and then again in Year Six, aged 10 or 11, before a third set in Year Nine aged 13 or 14.

The original small group has now grown to thousands and caught the attention of parents across the country. Over 44,000 people have signed a petition to "bring back the creativity and fun" and "say goodbye to repetition and boredom."

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Hundreds of organised "educational fun" activities are taking place today, such as nature walks and museum trips. It's hoped that local councillors and MPs will attend some of the events — to hear directly from parents why they don't support unnecessary school assessments and discuss possible alternatives.

Many teachers are backing the campaign and some head teachers have pledged to mark the children taking part in the strike as "educationally absent on the day." Head teachers at the NAHT conference called for a "fundamental review of the assessment of pupils."

"We are not advocating a lack of any form of assessment; we obviously want to know our children are doing well and our teachers need to be able to use their assessment of our children to plan how to help develop their learning further," said the Let Our Kids Be Kids campaign leaders in a press release. "What we are against is unnecessary testing that is not age appropriate. We trust our teachers. They have been trained in teaching and assessing our children. They know what our children are capable of and what they need pushing to do. They also know how to do it well. What we are asking for is an education system that allows them to do this and one that is created in unity with teachers, parents, unions and the Government."

The Government needs to listen to these parents and teachers who ultimately have the pupils' best interests at heart. Missing one day of school won't do the kids any harm. In fact it could be the most educational day ever. Whatever other activities their parents have planned, one thing their children will learn is how important it is to make a stand against something that you know is not right.

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5 powerful truths for every adult child of a mentally ill parent

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Growing up, I knew plenty of kids with alcoholic or abusive parents. But those of us with the mentally ill parents, we stayed on the fringe. What looked like a normal home was heartbreakingly empty inside. It was too hard to explain.

Back in the '80s and '90s, awareness for mental illness was just beginning. Having a mentally ill parent in my house was like having a secret I never asked for. I knew something was wrong — I knew my dad had outbursts and wasn't himself — but like many other kids growing up in dysfunctional and eventually divorced homes, I assumed it was my fault.

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It took two more decades until I had my own kids and started therapy that I began to realize: Maybe all that darkness wasn't about me. That realization was life changing, but it didn't automatically fix things. I still had the guilt, the scars and the shame from growing up how I did. I never received outside help as a child raised by a mentally ill parent, and now I was an adult with the same problems — I was just better at hiding them.

This got me to thinking. One in four adults has a mental illness, and while not every mentally ill adult is a parent, it's pretty safe to assume that you or someone you knew grew up in a home like this. Not only does a child's risk of mental illness increase when a parent suffers from a clinical disorder, but these damaged kids grow up to become adults who have no idea what to do with the pain they still feel.

Which is where I am today. Step by step, I'm working my way through the mess I grew up in, and it's not even close to easy. If you also grew up with a mentally ill parent, there are a few important things you need to understand:

1. It's not your fault

Think back to that famous scene in Good Will Hunting that stabbed you right through the heart and promise to repeat this to yourself every day until you believe it: It's not your fault. It's not your fault. It's not your fault.

Nancy Virden, author and suicide-attempt survivor, says her adult children were raised in a home with two parents who struggled with major depression. She candidly shares, "There are things I'd like to go back and do over again, but what I can do is encourage my own sons and others: It was never and still is not your fault. There is nothing you could have said or done that made your parent ill. There is nothing you could have said or done to save your parent from their illness."

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2. You're not alone

Growing up in a dysfunctional home where mental illness was never talked about will do a number on you. I'm a grown-up, I live in my own house and the coast is supposed to be clear. But it still feels like a superhuman feat to open up about my feelings. As hard as it was to admit I was still lonely and hurting so many years later, reaching out to a therapist was the best thing I ever did for myself. Don't be afraid to ask for help, says Shannon Battle, clinical director and CEO of Family Services of America. She continues, "Make calls to your local mental health and social services agencies and ask for specific services that are available. There are many programs that provide support to help you with personal care, vocational rehabilitation, behavior management and more."

Even a simple support group could be enough to make you feel heard and understood. Andy Cohen, co-founder and CEO of Caring.com, recommends, "There are both offline and online support groups that can help the adult children share their experience with others like them who understand what they're going through and who will offer tips and encouragement to help them through their day or week. Online support groups have the added perks of anonymity and convenience. The journey doesn't have to be lonely — help is available from peers and professionals, as well as nonprofit and government organizations."

3. You deserve a break

The biggest side effect of my painful childhood is also the easiest to overlook: I don't know how to be nice to myself. There wasn't a parent who showed me how. I'd rather punish myself by restricting food, working too much and beating myself up for not being perfect — because that feels like home to me. It wasn't until I started therapy that a lightbulb finally went on for me: I'm the only one who's going to be living with myself for the rest of my life. If I don't start treating her better now, no one's going to do it for me.

This self-care model becomes even more important when you're still caring for your mentally ill parent as an adult, says Dr. Christine Moll from the American Counseling Association. "Similar to putting one's own oxygen mask on first, before assisting others — taking care of one's own emotional, physical and spiritual health first is necessary."

Virden also explains why it's so important to let yourself off the hook, "It was not your role or responsibility to fix or save your ill parent. For one thing, you were a child trying to learn your own way. Your job is to accept them as-is and develop your own life."

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4. You aren't your parent

I thought I'd escaped my volatile childhood, until I had kids. Then it all came rushing back with a clip of the umbilical cord: What if I'm just like my dad? What if I don't know how to bond with my kids? What if I screw them up forever? Virden insists that adult children of mentally ill parents don't have to live in constant fear of repeating the past, even with a similar mental health diagnosis. She says, "You can make your own decisions concerning treatment. The majority of people who seek treatment experience improvement and even normalcy."

Whenever I find myself hitting a wall with my kids, where I inevitably feel like I've screwed everything up at least a few times a week, I have to sit down and remind myself: My dad's past doesn't dictate my future.

5. Your story can have a happy ending

I'm not going to lie: There are still many days where I feel sad, lonely and disconnected — just like I felt growing up. But as I've taken the time to get to know myself, to feel those painful feelings and to process my grief, something truly remarkable has happened: Not every day is bad. Some days, I feel like myself — that happy kid I was before my dad's world came crashing down on me. In just a few short years since I've started therapy, the good days are starting to outnumber the bad.

I don't think there will ever be perfection. I'm prepared to deal with many of these negative emotions handed down to me for the rest of my life. But I can also see now how my painful childhood has shaped me — I'm more empathetic. I'm learning how to treat myself better. I keep my eyes wide open so I don't do the same thing to my kids. I doubt any child of a mentally ill parent would say everything happens for a reason, but with a little perspective and a lot of healing, I'm beginning to appreciate the person I've become in spite of it all. Jennifer Snyder, a self-described successful and resilient daughter of a narcissistic, bipolar mother, sums it up nicely, "Ultimately, I have to love myself more than I hate her."

Blogger puts Donald Trump firmly in his place over abortion comments

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One of Australia's most prolific bloggers has reached out to U.S. presidential candidate Donald Trump in response to his latest misogynistic statement about women.

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During a discussion with MSNBC host Chris Matthews, Trump said that should abortion become illegal, women who get them should be "punished." He later tried to backtrack, releasing a statement in which he said women who get abortions are "victims" and that doctors who carry out the procedure are the ones who deserve punishment.

Yeah, whatever. It's too late for backtracking, we all know it and Constance Hall of Queens of Constance fame has perfectly summed up how so many of us are feeling.

Posting on her Facebook page to her 618,000 followers, Hall kicked off her open letter to Trump with, "Dear Donald Trump, I hear that you're anti-abortion...

"I find if odd when people who will clearly never fall pregnant decide that pro choice and pro life decisions are decisions that they can rightfully make... An abortion is a choice that can only be made by the person whom is carrying the pregnancy. It is not about men or women, it is about everyone's ownership of their own bodies. Because we abolished slavery Donald, you can no longer own or buy the power of someone else's body."

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"To say that you have the rights to an embryo because it could one day turn into a baby is like me saying that I have the rights to your sperm, because a sperm cell too, could one day turn into a baby," Hall continues. "So unless you fancy seeing your balls dangling in decorative form from my ears… I suggest you leave the abortion choices up to the people whose bodies they will be performed in.

"And they will continue to be performed, because abortions are an essential part of equality and as much as you hate that word... Equality isn't going anywhere. So Donald, until you invent the technology that grants you the privilege to carry a baby in the ball sack that is yet to become my earrings... Not one single abortion choice will ever be your choice to make."

Hall signed off with a dedication to her "beloved American Queens."

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Constance Hall letter to Trump

Hall has totally nailed it. It's not about how people feel about abortion, because everyone is entitled to do what they wish with their own bodies. If a woman wants to have an abortion, that's her choice. If she wants to have a baby, that's her choice. What Donald Trump thinks shouldn't come into this decision at all.

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8 thoughts you have when you're being catcalled

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If you're a woman, and you've ever been to a metropolitan city even for one day, you've probably been catcalled. It doesn't matter if you look like a model, or if you haven't washed your hair in weeks, you've got no makeup on and are wearing a giant parka — catcalling doesn't seem to discriminate. While many men (usually the ones most guilty of doing it) say we should stop complaining, because it's just a form of flattery, we women who experience it daily know differently. It's sexual harassment plain and simple, and despite the numerous catcalling videos and the progression of feminist movements like #heforshe, it doesn't look like it's going anywhere anytime soon.

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So how do we get through it? We work on becoming expert speed walkers, and of course, try to make jokes about it. As with anything that's an unfortunate reality, it always feels better to know there are scores of women standing behind you feeling just as vulnerable, scared and pissed. As such, here's what goes through my mind (and probably yours) when I'm being catcalled on the streets of New York City, aka the flagship city of catcalling.

1. Aaaand it starts

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This is an eye-rolling moment because it's 8:30 in the morning, and I'm in sweats headed to my local coffee shop. It's a mere 20 paces from my apartment, so the fact that I can't make it there and back without some harassing, male comment is mind-boggling.

2. Maybe if I ignore it, it will go away

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You know, like when bullies taunt you. It sort of worked in middle school, so maybe it'll work now? No? OK, well you can't blame a girl for trying.

3. Should I start running?

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There's occasionally a moment where I feel physically threatened by catcallers, and am compelled to break into a dead run. That is not a thought one should have on a regular basis while just trying to get from point A to point B around the city, but it definitely happens.

MoreI'm sick of explaining to my kids why men catcall me on the street

4. This is ridiculous — I'm going to say something

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And sometimes my frustration is so great that I get the urge to make some sort of retort at these obviously immature, possibly dangerous males. Usually I can quell said urge until I'm out of earshot, but the fact that I feel like I can't speak my mind when they are absolutely taking that liberty is infuriating.

 5. How can I film these guys without them knowing it?

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I'm a creative person, so part of me always wants to buy a secret camera and film my own catcalling videos for internet distribution. While it might not solve the problem, at least I'll feel like I've gotten some retribution against a few offenders.

6. Why didn't I sign up for that Krav Maga class?

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Hey, you never know what sort of situation you might end up in, especially if you and a cat caller are the only two people on the street after hours.

7. Is there a way I could calmly explain to them why this is so offensive?

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I've always been pretty good at mediating discussions, so a part of me genuinely believes I could get a catcaller to understand what he's doing is wrong without getting mean about it. However, it's usually a fleeting thought because if everyone reacted well when they were given constructive criticism, there wouldn't be so many International conflicts.

8. I wonder if this would happen to me if I lived in Vermont?

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Probably not. But this is still a reality of city life. That is until science invents magical webs you can shoot out your hands at offenders' mouths to shut them up. Or all men become feminists, whichever comes first.

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Still hunting for Becky? Beyoncé gave a major clue as to who she is not!

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Over the past week, Beyoncé's fans have been on a witch hunt to find Becky, aka Jay Z's alleged mistress, and although countless female celebs have been caught in the crossfire, Bey has successfully shut down the rumors about one star.

More: Move over Rachel Roy — it's Rita Ora that Beyoncé's fans have an issue with

On Monday night during the 2016 Met Gala bash in New York, Beyoncé and Rita Ora decided to put an end to the Becky rumors in the best way possible: with an epic selfie. The two women posed together (Jay Z did not attend the event this year) in an ultraglamorous Snapchat — Beyoncé wore an incredible latex Givenchy gown, and Ora wowed in a feathered Vera Wang creation.

And Ora accompanied the snap with a simple but meaningful caption: "family" followed by a heart emoji.

Rita Ora and Beyonce SnapChat

Rita Ora and Beyonce SnapChat

Still think she had an affair with Jay Z? Well, at least the Beehive can cross Ora off the list.

More: Don't mess with Beyoncé, and eight other huge lessons in pop culture this week

This is not the first time that Ora has denied that she and Jay Z had a romantic relationship, as she previously took to Twitter to make her feelings about the matter perfectly clear.

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Rita Ora Twitter

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Rita Ora Twitter 2

As for Beyoncé? She has shed no light on who Becky could really be, but she doesn't seem too concerned with the social media firestorm her fans have been creating, either. Instead, she took to Instagram to share an image of her bold Met Gala look.

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Beyonce Instagram

More: Beyoncé declares her undying love for Jay Z because — duh — they're married

If Bey is not concerned with the rumors of her husband's infidelity, perhaps it's time we all started enjoying Lemonade for what it is and put an end to this ridiculous witch hunt. Do you agree? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

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Being a yoga teacher has shown me the uglier side of yoga

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I decided to finally become a yoga teacher last year after years of personal practice. I am not sure what I was expecting. Maybe enlightenment. Maybe friendship. Maybe the community I have been so sorely lacking since moving hundreds of miles from home three years ago. I have found those good things in spades. From the two owners of my favorite studio to the director of the program that trained me and an old friend of a friend who has now become my friend, there have been countless women who have held my hand, offered me support, and encouraged me when I was feeling less than confident.

But there have also been some really bad experiences, too.

More: Becoming a yoga teacher without being 'perfect' at yoga

I've been rejected and treated unkindly. I've seen the cliquish side of yoga. I've been rebuffed by yoga teachers I thought were demi-gods. I've seen teachers use their "spirituality" to make others feel less then and to discourage, rather than encourage.

The web series Namaste, Bitches was created by Summer Chastant, a yoga teacher in LA who aims to expose the underbelly and hypocrisy rampant throughout the western yoga community. It's hilarious and, as I understand it, also true. There are chain smoking yoga teachers who live and die by their Instagram following and do all kinds of things to undermine and conquer their competition. It's not so yogic, as it turns out.

Last month, I went to a yoga conference where I attended workshops with some of the "rock star" yoga teachers — Baron Baptiste, Sadie Nardini, Seane Corn, Rodney Yee, Colleen Saidman, Kathryn Budig, and more. In my classes, I learned what makes a great yoga teacher. I was pushed to my limits and encouraged to go beyond them. My muscles shook as I held poses for three minutes, listening to the Corn remind us that these are the moments where we find out who we are. I lowered my knee. But I brought it back up again. I failed and I came back and tried again.

Corn is the real deal, a yoga teacher with charisma and love for all. I left her classes feeling inspired and loved. Next week I am taking a weekend workshop with her as the teacher just because I want to be in her presence again. She's that inspiring.

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But not all the famous teachers are so wonderful. Seeing the ego was disheartening and I learned it is possible to be a kick ass yoga teacher during class and a less-than kind human outside the studio. In the yoga marketplace at the conference I attended, I saw sales people end conversations mid sentence with customers when one of the "big" yoga teachers came by to say hello. The teacher seemed to caught in their own mystique, they failed to notice they'd just interrupted a sale. It's as bad as walking into a restaurant and being re-seated because someone "bigger" than you walked in. Not cool.

Meanwhile, I was asked not to take photos of one teacher because if I took one, then everyone would want one. I saw yoga teachers surrounded by an entourage shielding them from any student interaction before or after class. As a student watching these teachers in your living room or reading their books, you become enamored of their style and fall in love a little bit. Meeting them in real life and seeing the truth is painful. That was my first introduction to the the uglier side of yoga.

Of course, it's not just among the "big names." Yoga can be cliquey and hard to break into. Each studio has its own vibe and if you don't fit, they can let you know. In one studio, I inquired about teaching and was told I'd need to practice there every day before I could even be considered. Another has students every morning who roll their eyes when asked to move their mats and huff and puff at the new students who don't know the "drill."

After a lifetime of practice and growing up with a mother who was a teacher, I thought I knew a lot about the practice. And I did. I know the poses. I can plank all day. But I was a student then. Teaching is another thing entirely. It has its perks. What could be better than sharing this healing practice with people on a daily basis? Unfortunately, that goodness comes with a side of ego, cruelty, and disappointing hypocrisy.

Is it possible to become a yoga teacher without a heaping side of ego? Or does "chasing the money" end up causing a person to surrender the reason they came into the craft to begin with? If yoga is about being humble and sharing this life-changing practice, why are so many of the big name teachers more about self promotion and a cult of personality. It's anterior to everything yoga is supposed to be. And it's disheartening.

Maybe the answer is to keep things small. At least for now. It's hard to find the places — and people — who feel like home. I am still finding my voice as a teacher. I definitely can't command a room the way some of the big names do. Yet. But it's not about that for me. I started the process with curiosity and passion. That's it. I know am not going to be the prom queen teen dream cheerleader yoga teacher. I am not sure I want to. My only hope is that some day the students I get to teach walk out of my class feeling a little better than they did when they walked in the door. That's the contribution I hope to make. I choose to believe my vibe will truly attract my tribe.

Reba McEntire talking about her mom is all you need to read on Mother's Day

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Who doesn't love Reba McEntire? I mean, she's a country icon-turned-actress-turned-clothing-line-designer-and-owner (what, you didn't know she had an eponymous clothing line at Dillard's?). How could you not love such a strong, successful, powerful woman?

And with Mother's Day coming up, it felt like an appropriate time to ask her a few questions about her mom, Jacqueline (Smith) McEntire. But then we said screw it and decided, why not dedicated the entire interview to her mom? From the quirky personality trait she gets from her mom, to what it's like to be mother-in-law to Kelly Clarkson, McEntire spills it all.

Without further ado...

SheKnows: First off, why is your mother your WCE (Woman Crush Everyday)?

Reba McEntire: My mama is my best friend. We have fun, we can talk about anything, she always is on my side but really quick to tell me when I'm wrong. That's a true friend. She's loyal, smart, witty and intelligent. She loves family and loves to travel. All the things I love!

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SK: What's the biggest lesson your mom taught you?

RM: "Be on time." When Mama said, "We're leaving at 3," you had better be in the car. Susie and I were in the back seat at 2:50. We didn't want to get run off and left!

"When you say you're going to do something, do it." Mama was a stickler on keeping your word. That's helped me to make the right decisions in so many situations. Because of that, I also think really hard before I make a decision because I know I'm going to have to see it through.

SK: What's a quirky personality trait you got from your mom? And why do you love it so much?

RM: Having a great sense of humor. Mama is funny. She has a great sense of humor and loves a good joke. Loves a practical joke, too. Watch out!

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SK: When was the first time you said to yourself, "OMG. I'm becoming my mother"?

RM: Early on. When I would get on to Shelby in a certain way, I knew I was echoing something Mama had said or done. I loved it.

SK: Do you have a tradition on Mother's Day? If so, what is it?

RM: I send Mama flowers and a card.

SK: How are you, your mother and your grandmother all alike?

RM: We all love being outdoors. Grandma was in her garden or fishing; Mama loves to fish and I love to be outside. We all love the Lord.

SK: Do any of your songs or songs in general remind you of your mom? If so, which one(s) and why?

RM: I think my song that reminds me of Mama is "I'm A Survivor" because she is one. Also, any older song, especially any World War II songs remind me of Mama. She goes around the house either whistling or singing all the time. It drives my sister Alice crazy when we're playing games and Mama does that while it's Alice's turn!

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SK: Mother-in-laws sometimes get a bad rap. What are some misconceptions about being a mother-in-law?

RM: I love my mother-in-law and I think I'm a really good one, too. It's a stereotype that has been proven wrong and right over the years. I'm the type that I don't interfere or get into their business, I only give advice when asked and I love to hang out with them.

SK: What do you love most about being a mother-in-law (especially to Kelly Clarkson)?

RM: Kelly and I have been friends since she won American Idol in 2002. We toured, recorded and had a blast vacationing together. I was thrilled when she officially became a part of the family. She's a great mom, wife and friend. She's always in a great mood, even when she was throwing up all day long when she was pregnant. She always has a great outlook. She's very grateful for what she has and that goes a long way with me.

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

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My toddler's toy cellphone gave me the wakeup call I desperately needed

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Remember the first time your kid copied you? Perhaps it was the way you put your hand on your hip or the way you sip your coffee. It’s adorable, right? I mean, our kids learn by watching us — they copy our behaviors. It’s instinct. Learning from Mom and Dad is how they learn to survive.

But imitation is not always the finest form of flattery. I was trying to get my kids ready to go out. Every parent knows that trying to get your kids dressed and out the door on time is the ultimate test of one’s sanity. Let’s not even talk about the ever-occurring missing shoe dilemma that always presents itself when we are running late.

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On this particular morning, my precocious 3-year-old was “talking” on his play cellphone. I told him it was time to get dressed and to put his toy away. He turned his back on me. What? I took a deep breath to help quell the annoyance and told him again to put the phone down and come to me to get ready. He waved me away. Now I was really mad. I yelled, “Get over here now!” He gave me an exasperated sigh and said, “Hold on! I need to check my text messages!”

I was speechless. It hit me square in the face. He was imitating me. This is how he sees me when I’m on the phone and he’s trying to get my attention. I never imagined that I looked that rude and impatient to him. Needless to say, I felt ashamed.

I work from home full time and I freelance, so I am glued to my phone and computer. I’m constantly checking my email or answering calls for various projects I work on. Like any parent of young children, it’s uncanny how your child needs you at that very moment you are on the phone.

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So, do I wave him away and/or ignore him when I’m on the phone? Yes — all the time. It wasn’t until I saw it from his point of view that I understood how it made him feel.

I am addicted to my cellphone. Not only do I use it to communicate with friends and family, but I use it to read electronic books and magazines, watch shows, check the weather and jot down notes. It’s an extension of myself. It’s even an occasional babysitter when I’m out running errands and need my 3-year-old to occupy himself so he doesn’t throw a fit in the store.

Let’s face it: Mobile devices, whether it’s a smartphone or tablet, are part of the modern parent-child relationship. Is it a good or bad thing? Nonprofit Common Sense Media surveyed 1,240 parents and their children earlier this year to examine this relationship. The results were astounding and insightful.

This statistic did not shock me:

59% of parents feel their teens are addicted to their mobile devices

50% of teens feel they are addicted to their mobile devices

However, this one did:

27% of parents feel they are addicted to their mobile devices

28% of teens feel their parents are addicted

I expected the percentage of teens feeling that their parents were addicted to be higher. But the plot thickens with this finding:

69% of parents and 78% of teens check their devices at least hourly.

Guilty. I am a part of that 69 percent. I didn’t think that many parents check their devices that often. We expect our kids to respond to their texts immediately; it’s part of their social networking. I do it because it’s part of my work (and who am I kidding, it’s social too). What does all of this mean? For me, it means I need to set a better example.

I put away my phone during play time with my kids and at meal times. I make an effort to give my kids attention without looking at my phone every five minutes. Also, if I have to take a call, I give them plenty of warning to let them know that I need to talk without them trying to get my attention. It doesn't always work, but at least they know I'm aware they are trying to get my attention and ironically, it makes me feel less annoyed.

More: I had to take drastic measures to save my son from internet addiction

Mobile devices are a part of our culture and it’s not going away anytime soon. Our kids are supposed to be a reflection of ourselves, and I did not like what I saw in the mirror. What’s my next step? Put down the phone. A few minutes of undistracted attention to help my son put together a puzzle or dig a hole won’t make or break my career. Those few minutes mean a lot to him. If you need to get ahold of me ASAP, leave a voicemail. I’ll check it later.

Did Michael Weatherly seriously just tease future NCIS appearances?

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It's no secret that Michael Weatherly will make his final appearance as Tony DiNozzo in the NCIS Season 13 finale on Tuesday, May 17. That said, based on an interview with TV Insider about his exit, Weatherly says this might not be the last time fans see him as DiNozzo. Say what now?

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After his departure was announced, I assumed that just because Weatherly would make his official leave after Season 13, it wouldn't be the last time viewers would see him. I mean, he has to at least come back for the NCIS series finale (whenever that happens), right?

Well, it sure seems like that will definitely happen, if you ask Weatherly. As he told TV Insider, he would come back to NCIS if the story line really needed him to. The 47-year-old actor is open to appearing in the other NCIS franchises, like he did in 2015 for NCIS: Los Angeles. He said, "I wanted to do L.A. because I knew I was leaving. I really wanted DiNozzo to touch all corners of the NCIS universe before I had to go."

More: NCIS: I'm definitely not prepared for Abby & Tony's goodbye

Despite his impending exit (I can't believe it's right around the corner), it's good to know that Tony DiNozzo could pop up somewhere in the future of the NCIS world.

Plus, the way Weatherly is talking about returning as Tony, that means he won't die in the Season 13 finale, right? There have been talks and worry about it happening, not to mention fans will soon see an NCIS colleague fighting for his/her life, per TV Guide. Weatherly also told TV Insider, "There will be carnage and death and destruction. I’ve never worked harder on an episode to hit all the right emotional beats.”

There's no doubt the finale will be an emotional roller coaster, especially for die-hard Tony fans like myself, but I'm going to continue to believe that DiNozzo will be alive and kicking by episode's end.

With that, it's great to hear that Weatherly isn't ready to leave Tony DiNozzo behind for good just yet.

NCIS airs Tuesdays at 8/7c on CBS.

More: NCIS spoilers: Tony DiNozzo's exit will see him put family first — but which family?

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

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Reason 1 million why no one should care about BMI

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For the love of all that is holy, can someone please put the final nail in the coffin of BMI? This bogus "health measurement" has been disproved time and again, yet, like body weight alone, lives on in its discriminatory assessments, despite offering no direct bearing on a person's individual health.

Let me say that again: Weight and BMI are fundamentally unhelpful measurements on an individual basis when determining a person's health.

To fully understand what I'm saying, you need to wrap your head around three factors: What, exactly, weight is; what BMI is; and ultimately, what health is.

Health, in and of itself, is simply the absence of illness or injury. If you don't have an illness or injury (including chronic predictors of illness, such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol, or yes, even high levels of fat that qualify you as obese), then you are, technically, healthy. Does this mean you'll always be healthy? Does this mean you're not at risk for future illness or injury? Of course not. But, if you go to the doctor today and you're given a clean bill of health, you are, by definition, healthy.

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Weight, by definition, is simply the way in which the mass of an object (or in this case, a person) is attracted to the earth by force of gravity. It's how gravity pulls on your body. Nothing more, nothing less. It doesn't say anything about how much fat or muscle you have. It doesn't provide information about your blood pressure or cholesterol. It doesn't assess how active you are during your day. It says nothing about your personal health or fitness.

Enter: BMI, or body mass index. For whatever reason, doctors started using this measurement as a "better" predictor of health sometime in the mid-'90s. The reasoning is that while body weight fails to take a person's height into account, BMI does. And surely, then, if height is taken into account, shouldn't BMI be a semi-accurate way to predict body composition, or a person's leanness or fatness?

That's certainly the claim, as seen in doctors' offices and websites including Medical News Today and even the National Institutes of Health.

And yet, it's completely bogus.

BMI does not, and cannot, accurately assess your body composition. It does not, and cannot, accurately assess whether a person is obese. And most importantly, BMI is fundamentally bad at predicting internal health on an individual basis.

In fact, an April 2016 study from the Intermountain Medical Center Heart Institute in Salt Lake City and Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore found, yet again, that when compared with other measurements, BMI is fundamentally sucky at predicting risk of disease.

In this particular study, researchers looked at diabetic men and women without any apparent symptoms of coronary heart disease, then used total body weight, BMI and waist circumference to see which factor was most closely associated with regional left ventricular dysfunction, a common cause of heart disease.

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The researchers concluded that a high waist circumference, often described as an "apple-shaped body," is a much more accurate predictor of this particular heart dysfunction than BMI or total body weight.

Please put another nail in the BMI coffin.

All BMI is is a ratio of your height to weight. Like weight, it can't say anything about your internal health. In fact, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recently updated their website to say, "BMI can be used as a screening tool but is not diagnostic of the body fatness or health of an individual. To determine if a high BMI is a health risk, a health care provider would need to perform further assessments."

Boom. Thank you, CDC.

And yet, the measurement lives on. Partly because it's so easy to assess, and partly because, in a broad, epidemiological way, it's a helpful tool for predicting disease and risk across a broader community. But individually? It's terrible and needs to be put out of our collective misery.

Can I get an amen?

Scott Disick's finally done something to truly impress Kris Jenner

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There’s a pattern with Scott Disick and the Kardashian ladies. He does well for a while, they all love him and then he screws up big time. He disappears, maybe goes to rehab and then slowly creeps back into everyone’s lives by displaying good behavior. Right now, we’re in the last phase of that cycle and this time he’s bought a house in order to get back in everyone’s good graces.

The problem is I don’t think he means any of it.

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In a deleted scene from Keeping Up with the Kardashians, Disick gives Kris Jenner a tour of his new home, and while he walks around showing her his new home life, he mumbles stuff like, “It’s a lot to get used to.” And when Jenner mentioned that he’s going to be domestic before he knows it, he says, “I wouldn’t go that far.”

You really start to feel bad for him. It’s not that a father of three should be blacking out in Vegas clubs all the time, but he’s never given the impression that he wants to be a soccer dad. Kourtney and Kris are trying to mold him into someone he’s not and it just isn’t fair.

More: Insider reveals Scott Disick's concerning behavior after leaving rehab

He does need to grow up, but I don’t think it’s fair to expect him to go from the party-boy lifestyle he loves to living in suburbia and being happy about it. All these changes he’s making, he’s doing it because he has to, not because he wants to.

If Kourtney were trying to break the cycle, she could be a little more willing to compromise. Maybe they live closer to the action of Los Angeles and not an hour away in Calabasas. It just seems like meeting in the middle on these lifestyle choices would make it easier for Disick to be consistent and get the whole family out of this cycle.

If for no other reason than there are three small children involved.

More: Scott Disick's emotional apology doesn't get any sympathy (VIDEO)

Certainly, no one has the right answers but the two of them, but from the outside, the fix seems pretty simple.

Science shows we can only handle this many BFFs at a time

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I'm pretty sure he stole that from someone else, but the message resonated: It's better to have a few good friends rather than a bunch of crappy ones. And, as with most things he preached to me, he was right — but not for the reason you'd probably expect.

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During the 1990s, British anthropologist Robin Dunbar studied the correlation between brain size and number of friends and found that people with bigger brains were better capable of maintaining more friendships. On average, people can handle a social circle of about 150 people — five best friends, 10 "close" friends, 35 acquaintances and 100 contacts.

His team recently tested that theory by evaluating phone calls made by 35 million people in a random European country during 2007. Why 2007? It was before smartphones were everywhere and people actually still made phone calls.

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"The team assumes that the frequency of calls between two individuals is a measure of the strength of their relationship," the MIT Technology Review wrote in a recent post about the study, adding that, "Dunbar and co include only individuals who make reciprocated calls and focus on individuals who call at least 100 other people."

They found that Dunbar's initial estimates weren't that far off — and that it didn't really matter if a person was an introvert or an extrovert; they all pretty much had the same number of friends.

This makes me feel better since I tend to keep a pretty small circle of close friends, but I still have a question for Dunbar and his team: What if you have fewer than five BFFs? Does that mean my brain is smaller? Because, I assure you, my large head seems to indicate otherwise.

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