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Maroon 5 Is Playing the Halftime Show at Super Bowl LIII & Twitter Has Opinions

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Husband, daddy, rock star, coach on The Voice — Adam Levine is juggling a lot of balls these days, so why not throw an actual ball into the mix? A football, to be precise. Because according to Us Weekly, Levine’s band, Maroon 5, will be headlining the halftime show at Super Bowl LIII. 

“The offer has been extended and they’ve pretty much accepted,” an insider reportedly told Us. Two sources have since confirmed the news to Variety, although reps for Maroon 5 and the NFL have yet to respond to requests for comment. Journalist Eric Alper also reported on Twitter that rumored musicians believed to currently be on the short list for guest appearances are Cardi B and Travis Scott. 

More: 12 Things You Didn't Know About Maroon 5's Adam Levine

Still, even without an official confirmation, the idea that Maroon 5 is the halftime headline (or, at the very least, the frontrunner for the job) was enough to get Twitter going. Not surprisingly, the internet had thoughts. And even less surprisingly, that includes a contingency of NFL who aren’t particularly pumped about the pairing.

To be fair, there were definitely plenty of fans who defended the choice and are looking forward to the show. 


But, by far, the biggest complaint to come from news of Maroon 5 being tapped to perform at Super Bowl LIII has to do with the fact that the event takes place in Atlanta, Georgia — a.k.a. the capital of rap. 

Twitter's not wrong on this point. The ATL is home to some of the hottest rap and hip-hop artists today. Which is to say they are some of some of the hottest artists in music today, full stop. 

Bringing a more pop band like Maroon 5 in from Los Angeles to do the show is bound to raise some pointed questions about the process the NFL uses to pick performers. With so much talent right there in Atlanta, did they reach out to anyone local? 

More: Donald Glover Tweets Poem About Being Black in America

Having said all of that, it’s worth noting that Maroon 5 routinely collaborates with artists outside of their “genre” (although we use that term loosely because their margins are blurry). The two most recent examples to come to mind are their collaboration on “I Like It” with Cardi B and “Don’t Wanna Know” with Kendrick Lamar. 

Not to mention we all know how pissed Levine was when he thought the VMAs had snubbed Childish Gambino, whose real-life alter-ego Donald Glover is from Atlanta.

So, while it doesn’t negate the fact that the NFL definitely had tons of ATL artists that arguably should have been asked to headline, we’re going to hope for the next best thing — that Maroon 5 will reach out to some of the phenomenal local talent to perform alongside them. 


Meryl Streep Is In Every Episode of BLL & It's Proof She's a Pivotal Character

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Looks like we aren’t the only ones who are super-fans of HBO’s Big Little Lies. During a panel for her new book, Whiskey in a Teacup, Reese Witherspoon revealed that Meryl Strep had a special request when it came to her highly anticipated role in season 2 — she wanted to be in every scene possible. 

“We just finished shooting the second season,” Witherspoon said, adding, “Meryl Streep is in it. She’s in every episode! She wanted to be in every episode and I told her she didn’t have to be, but she was having fun.” 

More: Meet the Newest Cast Member of Big Little Lies

Did you hear that, fellow fans? Not only are we getting a second season of BLL, but we’re also more Streep than even Witherspoon originally thought possible. News of Streep’s casting originally broke in January, with sources pegging her character as the Mary Louise Wright, the mother of Alexander Skarsgård’s character Perry Wright, who was killed at the end of season one. 

Although Witherspoon insisted during her panel appearance that she was “not allowed to tell anyone anything about the season,” the actor and producer (two hats she wears for Big Little Lies) did hint at what will undoubtedly be a nuanced performance by Streep. “I’m always looking for a different perspective or something I haven’t seen before an she got humor in a very serious story.” 

The serious part? That we get. Perry’s life came to an abrupt, albeit arguably well-deserved, ending. When we last left Celeste (Nicole Kidman), Jane (Shailene Woodley), Renata (Laura Dern), Bonnie (Zoe Kravitz) and Madeline (Witherspoon), they appeared to be under surveillance by cops — presumably over the death of Perry. 

The fact that Streep is in every single episode, per Witherspoon, suggests she is a pivotal character. We always suspected that, as Mary Louise, she'd be disrupting the sense of calm that had swept through Monterey after Perry's passing, but with this new hint that she figures into every episode, we have a feeling she'll do more than just disrupt. Will she become an ally to her daughter-in-law, Celeste, and the other women? Or is she coming in as an adversary, possibly trying to get custody of Celeste and Perry’s sons? 

More: Big Little Lies Almost Didn't Get Made, Because Sexism

According to a report from Variety at the time of Streep’s casting, Mary Louise is concerned for her grandchildren and wants answers about her son’s demise. Or, in other words, she could stir up big trouble for our favorite ladies of Monterey. Plus, considering leaked photos from the set of season two show Witherspoon hurling an ice cream cone at Streep, we’re pretty sure Mary Louise bumps head with the women along the way. 

To be honest, though, we’re excited either way. Having an actor of Streep’s caliber on the show is, well, fitting. The series has one of the best casts on television today. That’s the good news (it was a lot, so yay!). As for the not-so-good news, HBO has yet to release a premiere date for the second season of BLL and that's only making this waiting game even harder.

3 Strategies for Talking to Your Daughter About Sexual Harassment

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A few weeks ago, I was talking with a mom who told me a story about her teen daughter getting ready to go to the mall. Her daughter came out of her room in a cute crop top and shorts, confident and excited to see her friends — and thrilled about showing her midriff and feeling great. Mom thought how beautiful her daughter looked and admired her self-assurance. But she also had a vision of a predator walking through the mall — and her daughter standing out from the crowd.

What’s the best way for parents to make sure we foster our children's love of their bodies and respect for those bodies — but also explain to them that threats do exist? How can we let them know that although someone might approach them differently because of their outfit, any kind of sexual harassment is never because they "were asking for it"? How can we warn our daughters about potential risks while still encouraging them to be, say and wear what they want?

First, parents: If you’re coming from a place of love for your kid, you’re doing it right. There are always things we’re learning and improving, and every parent-child relationship has its own tricks and dynamics. But you know your daughter. Your relationship with her — and your respect of her — is key. No one else knows as much as you do about your relationship with your kid.

Having said that, these are a few strategies that, in my work as a lawyer and life coach, I ask parents to take when working with their daughters on harassment and safety.

More: 7 Books to Start the Conversation About Sexual Assault

Model the boundaries you want her to have

This one is the hardest, so don’t get too discouraged if you struggle with it. And note: Modeling boundaries does not mean wearing conservative clothing. That's not a boundary; it's a way we change our behavior to try to manage or avoid violent people. A personal boundary, on the other hand, is like a property boundary — and enforcing it involves setting consequences that protect you when a boundary violation happens.

And if you can’t set and enforce consequences in front of your daughter, she has no model to follow. Usually, I see this show up in the ways parents respond to certain friends or family members. For example, maybe mom feels she can't ask Aunt Susan to leave even when Aunt Susan comes over interrupting family dinner to ask to borrow money again. Or maybe dad told mom he needs one hour alone after she comes home from work just to be by himself after being with the kids all day — but when mom seems annoyed at that, dad relents and doesn't follow through.

So with role models like this, when the daughter runs into similar situations with people who want to push or violate her boundaries, she doesn't know how to enforce them, let alone set consequences. Someone touches her in a way she doesn’t like, but she has absorbed the idea that love and kindness mean giving in.

On the other hand, if she is used to seeing her parents respect their own boundaries, she will absorb the message that respecting boundaries is an important part of love. Yes, it's hard to set boundaries with people we love, but parents: That hard work could start with your daughter or it could start with you and come naturally to her.

More: How to Talk to Your Kid About Sexual Orientation

Listen to her

You may have more life experience than your daughter, but cultivating her own respect for her perspective and opinions is crucial to her being able to judge whether situations are safe or dangerous. Practice listening and deferring to her opinions. If you disagree, still listen to the good reasons she has for her perspective.

One of the most serious contributors to people staying in violent relationships or putting themselves in dangerous situations is that they doubt themselves. This can start or stop at any age, so if your daughter doubts herself and falls into confusion often, there are many things you can do to help. It starts with you listening to her and respecting her intuition and opinions.

Often, when someone is in a violent relationship, they reach out to a family member or friend, and the support person tells them they shouldn’t be in the relationship and that they deserve more. This seems like a completely fair response; the only problem is that the survivor often takes it as more evidence that they're a bad decision-maker and that there's something wrong with them. Then, because there’s "something wrong with them," they decide they can’t make a change. They have to keep looking to their harasser or abuser for the answer.

The more we can do to trust girls’ opinions and gut instinct and help them build skills in those areas, the more they will also trust those parts of themselves that are able to keep them safe. In the instance when harassment happens, she will look to herself, not the outside world, for what to do to create safety.

Make it about her

When we’re teaching young girls about the unfair and sexist ways in which much of society expects her to behave versus any benefits (or lack thereof) to them, it can be easy to make the experience about us, the parents, and our own failures. When our girls have a negative experience, we can do the same, blaming ourselves for being "bad parents" or reliving what we could have done differently. This actually steals from the child’s experience. Your child’s experience is about her growth and her challenges; it is not a measuring stick for your abilities or value.

Now, don’t get me wrong: It is very typical to make other people’s experiences about us and to blame ourselves for their challenges. Sometimes, it's good to take responsibility for what they’ve done wrong if we taught them to do it wrong. This is your work, but it is separate from what you have to offer your daughter or her experience.

More: How Accusing Someone of Sexual Assault Affects Your Mental Health

Your daughter’s trip to the mall is about her, not about whether you are a good mom or dad. How can she have the best experience possible? How can she get everything that would help her from your experience? How can you hold space for everything that’s going on with her and offer her the most success and safety possible?

It may be unfair (and yet also reality) that our girls face more scrutiny and danger because of clothes, where and when they can walk and almost every other behavior than our boys. Share that discussion with your daughter, and ask her what she thinks about it. Ask her what we can do to change that for future kids — and then listen. These problems are falling on her generation to solve, and she may have a better answer than we do. Be honest with her, do your work on your story ahead of time, and support her in solving her next challenge. She’s got this.

A New This Is Us Special Clip Shows Jack & Rebecca's First Date

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The countdown is officially on! In less than one week, we’ll finally be reunited with TV’s most beloved family, the Pearsons, when This Is Us season three premieres on Sept. 25. NBC clearly understands how excruciating the wait for season three has been, because just one week before the premiere, they aired the Paley Center Salutes This Is Us special (available online at NBC and Hulu as well as below thanks to YouTube)  and dropped one final teaser before the new episodes arrive.

More: Mandy Moore Hints That This Is Us' Jack & Rebecca Origin Story Is No Fairy Tale

In the final few minutes of the special (starting at 35:00 in the above video), fans were treated to a never-before-seen clip of the upcoming season that centered on the Pearson family patriarch and matriarch. In it, they’re on what appears to be their very first date, faux though it may have been. (Remember, Jack noticed Rebecca when he was about to rob Ray’s Tavern. She was singing, and he was smitten.)

As they set at a table next to the window, Rebecca can't stop talking — telling Jack that she’d been sending demos out and had a dream to be signed with the same record company that produced Joni Mitchell’s last album. When she realizes she's probably talking too much, she asks Jack to say something.

“Well, my name’s Jack,” he replies, which elicits the first laugh between the two. They then decide to leave together, and Jack heads outside while Rebecca gets her jacket. When Jack’s friend approaches, Jack tells him he met the girl. 

Well, now we're simultaneously torn between feeling all the warm and fuzzies and bawling over the fact we know Jack and Rebecca don’t have forever together.

But the clip is also interesting because it really brings to our attention how differently this beloved couple's special kind of love changed and evolved over the course of their time together. Fans can probably all agree that meeting Rebecca saved Jack’s life. In meeting Jack, though, Rebecca knew she had met someone truly special and that it ultimately means we're going to have to watch her make the choice to walk away from the very thing she defined herself by prior to meeting Jack: her singing career.

More: This Is Us Has Big Plans for Miguel in Season 3

Still, that’s yet one more part of this pair’s past that speaks to the strength of their love. Truth be told, we can’t wait for This Is Us to really dig into Jack and Rebecca’s early years.

Both Milo Ventimiglia and Mandy Moore, who play Jack and Rebecca respectively, hint at the fun to come, with Ventimiglia confirming during the special, "[Y]ou see Jack and Rebecca as their love is developing." Moore adds that she's, "excited to travel back to the beginning of Jack and Rebecca’s courtship in season three."

Even series creator Dan Fogelman seems to be caught up in these two’s great love. “It’s so much even more emotional to just go back into a period in the 1980s when he’s alive, because everything is loaded — you know how borrowed his time is,” Fogelman says.

And if you want to get even more swept up in it all, you can check out the audition tapes released as part of the special. Just try not to cry during Ventimiglia and Moore’s “chemistry reading,” we challenge you.

You can watch the entire special, which is just over 40 minutes, by heading to NBC or Hulu or clicking play on the video above. 

Khloé Kardashian Disabled Instagram Comments Because Racist Trolls Targeted True

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It goes without saying that racist comments, whether they're stated in real life or on social media, are reprehensible and inexcusable. But they're especially stomach-turning when directed at a young child. Unfortunately, racist Instagram commenters, from behind the safety of their phone screens, decided to take aim at Khloé Kardashian's 5-month-old daughter, True. 

More: Khloé Kardashian Shows Baby True's Face for the First Time, & It's Precious

It all started last week, when Kim Kardashian West shared an adorable photo of the three Kardashian-Jenner babies, who were born this year. 

"The Triplets," she captioned the sweet picture.

More: Khloé Kardashian Shared the Sweet Reason She Named Her Daughter True

A number of Instagram commenters, who apparently have nothing better to do with their time than attack babies, were quick to post abusive comments, primarily directed at True. In addition to criticizing her appearance (yes, really), there were also more than a few racist comments about True, who is biracial. 

Although no one in the family has directly addressed the comments, it appears they haven't gone unnoticed. Kardashian has continued to post photos of True, but has disabled the comments on all posts featuring her daughter. 

More: Khloé Kardashian Announces Her Newborn Baby Girl's Name

Kardashian has kept comments open all photos that don't include True, so it appears that she's taken this step in an effort to protect her baby from hateful attacks.

Regardless of how you feel about the Kardashian-Jenner family, every halfway decent person can agree that racist comments directed at anyone are unacceptable — and it's completely egregious to attack a baby for any reason whatsoever. 

These Twin Sisters Gave Birth on the Same Day, & Their Story Is Amazing

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Identical twin sisters Jalynne April Crawford and Janelle Ann Leopoldo have always dreamed of giving birth at the same time. But what are the chances, right? Well, in Crawford and Leopoldo's case, the chances were exceptionally slim. As Crawford told People this week, both women had difficulty conceiving. 

Due to polycystic ovarian syndrome, Leopoldo dealt with fertility issues and had an ectopic pregnancy. Meanwhile, Crawford had two miscarriages before this pregnancy. But the stars aligned and the sisters were overjoyed to learn in the same week that both were pregnant with boys.

More: How Common Are Naturally Occurring Twins?

"When I got the text my face lit up," Crawford told People. "I got chills in my arm and then seconds later she called and we were both like 'Thank you, thank you God.'" 

Of course, the next challenge was distance. The twins' parents naturally wanted to be present for both births — but Crawford lives in Arizona and Leopoldo resides in California. So the sisters made arrangements to be in the same location on the big day. 

More: What Your Mother's Reproductive History May Have to Do With Your Fertility

After consulting with their doctors to ensure it was safe to deliver on the same day, Leopoldo headed to Arizona six weeks before the sisters' shared due date. "We both made it to 39 weeks and made it to our scheduled delivery day," Crawford explained. 

More: Trying to Conceive? The Important Test Your Gynecologist Isn't Telling You About

On June 18, Crawford, Leopoldo, their husbands and, of course, the twins' parents headed to the hospital. The sisters gave birth within several hours of each other and were moved to neighboring recovery rooms shortly thereafter.

"We’re going to remember this for the rest of our lives," Crawford said, adding that now-3-month-old cousins Bryson Ryder and Jace Alan are "best friends already." 

I'm not crying — there's something in my eye.  

8 Women Share How They Cure the 'Sunday Scaries'

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You know that stress characterized by laying in bed on a Sunday with a spinning head, wondering how you'll ever possibly get through the imminent workweek? That's what we like to call the "Sunday scaries" — the kind of irrational worrying of your impending future when your weekend comes to a close. The emails — oh, the emails — through which you'll finally have to dig. You have meetings scheduled back-to-back. You have an interview and a business lunch and a billion deadlines and a vet appointment because your cat's not eating, and you don't even think you have time to eat yourself.

Is the exhausting weekend you just had "unwinding" really, actually, already coming to a close?

It is. It really is. But you don't have to succumb the Sunday scaries. The Sunday scaries don't have to consume you like the pile of work waiting for you. We spoke with eight professional working women who share how they beat the Sunday scaries when the stresses of the approaching week and the regrets of the last week kick in.

More: The Simple Routine That Gets Me Through an Otherwise Stressful Morning

1. Prepare for doing what you love

"I haven't dreaded Monday in the last four years, as I've discovered that the key to beating the Sunday scaries is to find something that you love to do — something that makes you want to jump off the bed and run to work in the morning," says Samantha Diane, visibility strategist, entrepreneur and aerialist. "For me, it was starting my own business and working with clients who I truly care about. If you're doing something you want to do, when Monday rolls around, you'll be glad, not scared. And even though I love what I do, I always make sure I get in a workout on Monday, as getting in exercise on Monday can set the tone for a positive and productive week."

2.  Practice self-care

"I definitely battle the Sunday scaries — I have a full-time job and two side hustles, so my weekends are filled with work on my passion projects," says Taylor Morrison, founder of Emancipation. "The pressure of my businesses and my day job often comes to a head on Sunday evenings. I created a Sunday night ritual to help me fight against the Sunday scaries. I shut off my laptop and put away my phone, and I don’t look at them until Monday morning. Then I take a bath while reading a good book. That self-care practice helps me beat the Sunday scaries every time."

3. Make a to-do list

"I have a habit that isn’t perfect but seems to be working well," says Tiffany Humfeld, founder of Peace, Love & Wine. "I put all my calendar items on Google Calendar — including some important to-dos as 'all-day actions' so they show up at the top. For these, I emphasize priority by putting one to five exclamation points in front of the to-do item to indicate the level of priority). I review my calendar before I go to bed and make updates or additions of any new items. This also serves as a reminder for me to send a confirmation message to anyone I am meeting with the following day, so people — including myself — remember the meeting is scheduled. I’m also playing with the free version of HubSpot as a task list where I can schedule reminder emails and check items off the list by date priority."

More: How to Increase Diversity & Promote More Women

4. Have fun with friends

"After many years of realizing how daunting Sunday was, I decided to turn the weekend on its head by creating a ritual Sunday funday with all my best friends," says Lori Cheek, a New York City-based architect turned entrepreneur and founder and CEO of Cheekd. "There’s a group of 15 or so of us that meet every Sunday — [and have] for almost two years — around 3:30 in the afternoon for happy hour at our local watering hole on the Lower East Side. We play Scrabble, Jenga, Connect Four and all sorts of other fun board games and hang out until 7 p.m., which is still early enough to get home for dinner and go to bed early. It’s a solid three and a half hours of fun where we’re not focused on the beginning of the workweek. The other fun thing is that, because there’s so many of us, it’s almost always someone’s birthday, so we often throw that celebration into the mix."

5. Phone a friend

"When I'm facing the Sunday scaries, which I remember getting even as a kid in school, I phone a friend," says Gabrielle Costello, a content marketing supervisor. "Even if I don't want to, I find a way to get out of my own head and get connected with someone. It can be a friend that I haven't caught up with in a while or a call to my grandma to say hello. This usually helps put things into perspective so that I can focus on preparing for the week. I also find that if my space is cluttered, it makes it harder to beat the blues. I'll stop everything I'm doing to tidy up, and it usually helps significantly."

6. Prep meals

"The idea of meal prepping is totally fun for some people," says Angel M. Hoodye, a licensed professional counselor, certified anger-resolution therapist and the owner of Flourishing Hope Counseling PLLC. "If this is you, then get rocking. Blast those meals out. This gives you one less thing to have to do during the upcoming week. Cooking can be very relaxing and a wonderful way to try something new [and] flex your creative muscles in the kitchen while still being productive for the upcoming week. This helps to decrease your stress as you get geared up for the upcoming workweek."

7. Get organized

"As the chief creative officer and cofounder of one of America's fastest-growing companies, my Sunday is just an extension of the workweek ahead," says Sana Javaid director of public relations for Eff Creative Group. "I answer any open emails and prepare employee schedules, uninterrupted and with a clear mind. I also spend my Sundays with my two daughters and dogs, helping them with homework, shopping and preparing dinners for during the week when I may not have time to do so. When you love what you do, there are no Sunday blues. Keeping yourself organized and setting aside time for family and personal care is key to be able to achieve a healthy and happy work-life balance."

More: 7 Ways Tech Companies Can Fix Their Gender Diversity Problem

8. Coach yourself

"Sometimes, I have a little talk with myself," says Vanessa Valiente, a San Diego-based personal stylist and the creator of V-Style. "'Hey, Monday is not a big deal. You kill it every week, and the weekend will be here again before you know it. It's silly to waste a moment of this beautiful life on anxiety.' If a talk with myself doesn't work, I reach out to someone who knows me well. My boyfriend or fellow anxious girlfriends are beyond helpful when I am overwhelmed on a Sunday."


A version of this post previously appeared on Fairygodboss, the largest career community that helps women get the inside scoop on pay, corporate culture, benefits and work flexibility. Founded in 2015, Fairygodboss offers company ratings, job listings, discussion boards and career advice.

Emilia Clarke Got a Game of Thrones Tattoo, & We're Emotional

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In late 2019, we'll be living in a post-Game of Thrones world. Fans of the series may have a hard time wrapping their heads around that since the show has been such a massive success since it premiered in 2011. For the cast, it's got to be even weirder — but some of them, including Emilia Clarke, have opted to get Thrones-related tattoos so they can carry the show with them forever in a tangible, visible way.

More: Maisie Williams Is Ending Her Game of Thrones Journey With a Tattoo

As reported by Entertainment Tonight, Clarke took to Instagram on Wednesday to reveal her new ink, which is three dragons on the inside of her wrist. These likely represent her character Daenerys Targaryen's three dragons, Drogon, Rhaegal and Viserion.

Clarke looks over the moon in the photo as she shows off the simple silhouetted dragons. In her caption, she wrote, "MOD 4 LYFE!!!! @_dr_woo_made sure this mamma ain’t NEVER forgetting her babies...." She included the joking hashtag, "#dontworryionlybrieflypassedout" and referenced the Targaryen house words, "With fire and blood," in the hashtag "#withfyreandinkbaby." 

Game of Thrones has already finished filming its eighth and final season and will allegedly premiere in the first half of 2019, per ET, though an official premiere date has yet to be announced.

“It’s been long enough because we’ve just been making the best season ever! Ever! Ever!” Clarke told ET during the Emmys, where the series won outstanding drama series, and Clarke's costar, Peter Dinklage (who plays Tyrion Lannister), won for outstanding supporting actor. When asked if she's happy with how the series ends, Clarke apparently laughed and repeated, “Best season ever!”

That gives us a lot of hope. Cast interviews about what's to come have us on the edges of our seats, desperate to know what happens to Daenerys and everyone else in Westeros. We're also ready to cry a lot, because this series knows exactly how to tug at our heartstrings — and again, it's even harder for the cast.

On filming the finale, Clarke told ET, “[It’s] so sad, but then everybody gets ready for the emotion and everyone’s there being like, ‘Ohhh, it’s going to be the last… wait, how many more takes?’”

More: Kit Harington Credits Game of Thrones With Helping Him Meet the Love of His Life

We doubt that Clarke could forget playing the Mother of Dragons even without a permanent reminder inked on her wrist, but we love that she is invested enough in her character to celebrate the series' end with a tattoo. She joins costars Maisie Williams (Arya Stark) and Sophie Turner (Sansa Stark) in that camp, but we're sure more of the show's stars will opt for Thrones tattoos before long.


The Best Same-Sex Kisses in Television History

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The fight for better LGBTQ representation on television is a long, slow process, but in 2018, it seems like things are finally starting to improve. After writers on the CW series The 100 killed off a major lesbian character in 2016, taking scene cues directly from a 2000 episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, fans took their ire and created a nonprofit dedicated to seeking better LGBTQ representation in media. LGBT Fans Deserve Better aims to dismantle negative LGBTQ tropes in pop culture and fights for better, more positive representation across the board.

Unfortunately, lots of TV shows that introduce LGBTQ characters end up killing them off in a harmful trope called "Bury Your Gays." LGBTQ characters in romantic relationships seem to be particularly targeted for this plot, which suggests that we can't be happy in love because our stories always end in tragedy. However, there are a handful of not-straight characters who had more than just fleeting moments of happiness on their various TV series, and that's worth celebrating. Heck, even the history of same-sex kisses on TV is worth celebrating, so we're doing exactly that.

We've rounded up some of the best same-sex kisses in television history, from the most groundbreaking to the most romantic.

C.J. and Abby on L.A. Law

L.A. Law was known for pushing boundaries when it aired in the early '90s, but when C.J. (Amanda Donohoe) and Abby (Michele Greene) kissed in season five, it was a groundbreaking, historical moment. Theirs was the first lesbian kiss on network television; to make that even better, they kiss twice, though each one is little more than a peck.

Rhonda and Suzanna on Relativity

When the short-lived 1997 drama Relativity gave its lesbian character Rhonda (Lisa Edelstein) a kiss scene, it was deeply affecting, especially for the episode's writer, Jan Oxenberg. The kiss was groundbreaking because it was the first lesbian kiss on primetime television, and it was more than just a peck. Oxenberg, who is a lesbian, told the Los Angeles Times that watching the kiss brought her to tears. 

Jack and Will on Will & Grace

Furious that a same-sex kiss was apparently cut from a network television show, Jack (Sean Hayes) takes Will (Eric McCormack) to the Good Morning America set and tells Al Roker his feelings on the matter. "How long will I have to wait to see two gay men kiss on network television?" he demands, to which Will responds, "Not as long as you think." They kiss, live on GMA, and it's a moment that none of them can believe. At the time, this was the longest same-sex kiss ever to air on network television. It lasts only seconds.

Ally and Ling on Ally McBeal

There were several same-sex kisses on Ally McBeal, though most of them were intended to make creepy men stop hitting on Ally (Calista Flockhart). When she and Ling (Lucy Liu) kissed after they had dinner together, it was romantic, sexy and one of the longest-lasting same-sex kisses on TV up until that point. The episode aired in 1999.

Jack and Doug on Dawson's Creek

Dawson's Creek followed a pretty classic gay storyline with Jack (Kerr Smith), whose coming-out process was arduous and heartbreaking but ultimately very satisfying by the end of the series. His happy ending with Doug (Dylan Neal) was one of the best things the series ever did.

Willow and Tara on Buffy the Vampire Slayer

Truth be told, every time Willow (Alyson Hannigan) and Tara (Amber Benson) kissed on-screen, it was a huge win for fans. When they reunited in season six after a series of terrible decisions on Willow's part, it was particularly satisfying. "Can we just skip it? Can you just be kissing me now?" is a line that sticks out across all seven seasons of Buffy canon because it's romantic and hopeful and so indicative of these two characters and their relationship. In retrospect, it's also heartbreaking, because the BtVS writers killed Tara off almost immediately after this moment.

Paris and Rory on Gilmore Girls

When Paris (Liza Weil) decides she wants to do spring break the way her high school friends do it, she kisses Rory (Alexis Bledel) in an attempt to do something crazy and possibly get free drinks. The kiss is played for laughs and it's incredibly brief, but it sparked a lot of feedback from Gilmore Girls fans who, to this day, wonder what could have been.

Lena and Bianca on All My Children

The first same-sex kiss on daytime television didn't happen until 2003, when All My Children's Lena (Olga Sosnovska) and Bianca (Eden Riegel) locked lips in a passionate, honest farewell scene.

Kalinda and Lana on The Good Wife

The Good Wife's Kalinda (Parminder Nagra) is a bisexual femme fatale who has a number of super-steamy moments with FBI agent Lana (Jill Flint) while she's trying to glean information for a case. Their semi-slow-burn sexual tension leads to a kiss that had viewers on the edge of their seats.

Luke and Noah on As the World Turns

When Luke (Van Hansis) and Noah (Jake Silbermann) kissed in 2007 on As the World Turns, fans sent Hershey's kisses to the studio to ask for a second kiss until one finally aired, over a year later. The American Family Association called for a boycott of one of the show's sponsors, Procter & Gamble, which stood behind the show and the relationship because it "values diversity," the company said in a statement.

Will and Neil on Days of Our Lives

Days of Our Lives didn't air a same-sex kiss until 2012, putting it nine years behind All My Children and five years behind As the World Turns in the inclusion department for daytime soaps. However, when Will (Chandler Massey) and Neil (Jesse Kristofferson) finally kissed, it was a sweet, earnest moment.

Blaine and Kurt on Glee

When Chris Colfer auditioned for Ryan Murphy's Glee, the writers liked him so much that they created a character just for him: Kurt. In season two, when Kurt finally found a love interest in Blaine (Darren Criss), their romance became one of the staple components of the show, which was heralded for its LGBTQ inclusion throughout its run. Their first kiss was also a far cry from early predecessors in both passion and length.

Santana and Brittany on Glee

Glee didn't just have a long-term gay relationship; it also had a long-term relationship between a lesbian, Santana (Naya Rivera), and a bisexual woman, Brittany (Heather Morris). These two saw a lot of ups and downs throughout the series but ultimately had a happy ending. Their first on-screen kiss was a makeout scene, which was definitely bold, even for Glee.

Cam and Mitchell on Modern Family

After several seasons of not nearly enough PDA between longtime partners Cameron (Eric Stonestreet) and Mitchell (Jesse Tyler Ferguson) on Modern Family, they tied the knot in an incredibly sweet ceremony on the season five finale. It's so, so nice to see same-sex couples have happy storylines that last, and Cam and Mitchell are a paradigm example of that.

Nomi and Amanita on Sense8

Netflix's Sense8 featured a primarily LGBTQ main cast, including a transgender main character played by a transgender actor. One of the show's two long-term same-sex couples, Nomi (Jamie Clayton) and Amanita/Neets (Freema Agyeman), had quite a few incredible kisses and sex scenes. Their dual proposal in season two, however, is one of the most positive and joyous moments on the show.

Petra and J.R. on Jane the Virgin

Jane the Virgin embodies all the best things about daytime soaps and brings them to a prime-time audience. In season four, when Petra (Yael Grobglas) realizes she's super into Jane Ramos (Rosario Dawson), the writers make them jump through a ton of hoops, in true soap-opera fashion. When they finally work it out, though, the payoff is so worth it.

Are Digital Nomad Families Raising Savvy Kids or Robbing Them of a ‘Real’ Childhood?

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Jack, Miley and their five children, ages 7 to 16, divided the hostel in Chiang Mai, Thailand, where I met them, into two ideological camps. The Australian family had left their home, jobs, schools and nearly all of their belonging over a year ago to travel the world — without a plan. While the majority of the guests at the hostel were on a similar quest, one big difference was that they were in their 20s with no family responsibilities. 

So even the freest of spirits looked upon this family with a bit of doubt. What was it like for the kids to leave their friends behind? Are they able to socialize and sustain long-lasting relationships on the road? What about education – is dropping out of school to sleep in dorm rooms around Asia really a good idea? At the other end of the spectrum was the "I hardly remember anything I learned at school, doing and seeing is better than just reading” point of view. And the reality is both sides are right.

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Fueled by bloggers and influencers, the digital nomad lifestyle is becoming more popular by the minute — and with it, more and more families are packing up to explore the world without a deadline. In the meantime, the debate (within groups of digital nomads themselves as well as regular old nine-to-fivers) is about the children’s best interests: Does a life of travel and adventure deprive them of stability and security?

Even though nomadic societies have existed for thousands of years, the new nomad is driven by desire rather than necessity. Understandably, this lifestyle has come into fashion only recently, along with the advent of remote work. Consequently, there are also no extensive or conclusive psychological studies on the impact of this specific type of modern nomadism, especially on children. But we can easily apply some conclusions from former research to digital nomad children.

For instance, psychobiologist Jaak Panksepp explores the neurological mechanisms behind emotions, and according to him, both we and nonhuman animals have a set of seven primal emotions that aid survival. Two of them are “play” and “seeking.” And while play, Panksepp explains, is vital for social skills, bonding and boundaries, seeking — an inevitable part of any travel experience — produces enthusiasm. A diminished enthusiasm is one of the well-observed symptoms of depression — and so Panksepp believed that stimulating the seeking system could improve mental health and even prevent depression. And what better way to seek than to travel?

Another obvious part of world travel is that you see and experience many new environments. In psychological terms, this is known as “environmental enrichment,” and many scientists are interested in its impact on brain development. For instance, a 2014 study by the University of Melbourne found that environmental enrichment is beneficial for brain injuries, depression and autism spectrum disorders and aids brain cell repair. Another group of researchers at the University of Southern California, Los Angeles, tested the IQ of 1,795 children at 3 years old and once more at 11. As predicted, the children who were keener on seeking novelty and stimulation had an IQ of 12 points higher than the other group. 

On the other side of the coin, a Danish study published in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine found that children who relocated more than once a year were at a high risk of committing violent offences, attempting suicide and abusing drugs. However, this study only took into consideration children who had relocated from one part of the country to another, which does not provide the learning opportunities and brain stimulation of moving internationally. Another study published in 2014 in the journal Developmental Psychology looked at elementary school children from the U.S. and Canada. While they did find that changing schools meant children were more likely to either withdraw from their peers, affiliate with maladjusted ones or show signs of aggression, the researchers also added that the specific circumstances of the transition were also important as well as how the parents would talk to the child about it.

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Why become a digital nomad?

It might seem incomprehensible that someone would abandon their carefully organized, comfortable life in order to wander the jungles and expose themselves (and their children) to risk, disease and the unknown. But they have some pretty great reasons to pack up and travel too.

Lara Gizelle (from the blog ZZZ World Ninjas), for example, went on a trip around the world with her son, not because their lives at home in Barcelona, Spain, were bad, but rather because she felt they could be better. 

Meanwhile, Robert Taylor and his wife thought that South Africa was not a safe place to raise their son and started looking for ways to leave the moment he was born. 

“Our families where convinced that we would be back and begging for help since we sold everything,” says Taylor. On the contrary, they now slowly travel around the world, striving to live like the locals and "unschooling" their son, whom Taylor says “knows five languages (enough to make friends) and has the freedom to absorb as much of the culture as he wants." 

For other families, digital nomadism wasn’t so much a planned choice as a consequence of international love. “We didn’t decide to become a digital nomad family," explains Jamie Touttavong. "It was more that we had to travel because I couldn’t live in Italy and my partner couldn’t live in Australia. I was already nomading, and most of my clients were in Asia, so from day one, we’ve been back and forth across three continents. Our son, who recently turned 1, will likely live like we do [when he grows up too] — because half of his family is in Australia, while we are currently based in Italy.” When asked about the best part of being a digital nomad mom, Touttavong says it's definitely being "able to pay the bills while I am at home with my son.”

A school on the road

Digital nomad parents also have plenty to say when it comes to the two most controversial topics in regard to the lifestyle: the kids’ education and their social lives. 

“We homeschooled, and the kids learned far more than we could document," explains Heidi Wagoner, who runs the blog Wagoners Abroad with her family; they are from the U.S. but are currently based in Spain and previously spent a nomadic year in Southeast Asia. "Buddhist monks taught [the kids] meditation; in Laos and Vietnam, they saw a different perspective of the Vietnam War. Our son loves to create videos and learned some tricks of the trade from digital nomads and vloggers we met along the way. The children saw in practice how to treat animals, such as elephants, with respect."

And cultural, historical and scientific lessons are just the beginning; Wagoner adds that her kids have also been learning about philanthropy, business and, perhaps most important, problem-solving and adaptability. "We stayed at an eco-lodge where the owner started a foundation for abused women," Wagoner explains. "She would hire these women and teach them tourism skills so that they could become financially independent. We had the opportunity to teach some of these women a little English during our stay, and this is an imprint on our kids' lives. One of the biggest lessons, however, was to adapt to change and problem-solve. Don’t get me wrong: Everything doesn’t always come out roses, but there is a lesson in that as well.” 

When Gizelle and her son began their adventure, he was just 7. “We did a bit of math homework every day and read lots of books but nothing specific or structured," she explains.
"We were too busy exploring to worry about 'proper' schooling. We stayed with locals and learned about how real people lived in each country; we also volunteered on several projects around the world to learn about elephant sanctuaries, reforestation and sustainable farming, seahorse rescue, etc. When we decided to stay in Manila, Philippines, for a while, my son enrolled at a local international school and had to take an entrance exam to assess his level. I was a bit worried about him being way behind his peers, but he was actually in the top groups for everything. He is also incredibly mature and empathetic for his age; he has adapted to his new environment and is happy, integrated and popular. I couldn’t be prouder of him.”

And when it comes to social relationships, most families agree that it’s easy enough to keep in touch with friends and family digitally with a steady stream of videos and phone calls. 

But digital nomadism is far from a prescribed lifestyle. Touttavong explains: “We will not force this nomad life on our son — and eventually, he will get to choose because, fortunately, we don’t have to move anywhere if we don’t want to. But speaking from experience, showing your children the world can be a more valuable lesson than what is taught within four walls.”

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Of course, parenting can be hard no matter where you are in the world. “There were parenting moments that were not particularly proud for us," shares Wagoner. "Now, we laugh — but there were times when we were terrified."

At the end of the day, if you're asking whether traveling around the world provides kids with an immeasurable amount of education and perspective or deprives them of a “normal” life, the answer is: Yes. But as long as you do it mindfully, listen to kids' needs, include them in decisions and remain flexible, you're probably doing great. And when you think about it, aren't those qualities that make a great parent in any setting?

New Photos From The Walking Dead Arrive Before the Season 9 Premiere

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Big changes are coming on The Walking Dead in season nine, and we finally have photographs to help us speculate about what's to come. The first photos released from the AMC drama's new season seem to focus primarily on Michonne (Danai Gurira) and Rick (Andrew Lincoln) moving forward as a happy family unit along with Rick's daughter, little Judith (twins Chloe and Sophia Garcia-Frizzi).

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Entertainment Weekly shared several new photos of The Walking Dead season nine, which jumps forward in time by two years according to showrunner Angela Kang. She said at a Kick-Ass Women of AMC panel in June that characters like Michonne, Maggie (Lauren Cohan) and Carol (Melissa McBride) will have particularly compelling arcs this year. We've also learned that Lincoln and Cohan will be leaving the show this season, which will surely make it extra emotional.

The photos revealed on EW (and which you can check out below) do focus significantly on the women of The Walking Dead while also revealing things specific to the time jump, like an older Judith Grimes being taken care of by Michonne and Rick. It looks like all three characters are moving on following the tragic demise of Rick's oldest, Carl, back in season eight — but we can't assume that the days of beloved character deaths are over just yet.

Insider reporter Kirsten Acuna shared several of the photos on Twitter, including episode photos from the season nine premiere, "A New Beginning," as well as behind-the-scenes shots.

In behind-the-scenes photos, Michonne slays a zombie and there are some sweet "family" shots of Gurira, Lincoln, and the young actress playing grown-up Judith.

Acuna also shared shots from the fourth episode. It would seem that Daryl (Norman Reedus) on a motorcycle is a repeated image this season, which we're definitely here for.

Although these photos don't necessarily reveal plot points for season nine (do they ever?), they do make us even more eager to see how the show moves into the future in the new season. How will Michonne and Judith move on after Rick's departure? Are Maggie and Ezekiel (Khary Payton) as in love as they look? Is Daryl OK?

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To find out, we'll have to tune into The Walking Dead season nine premiere on Sunday, Oct. 7 at 9/8c.

Ryan Murphy Confirms Jessica Lange Is Back for American Horror Story: Apocalypse

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There's some very exciting casting news today for fans of Ryan Murphy's American Horror Story: Apocalypse. For the first time in four seasons of the anthology show, Jessica Lange will return to reprise her role as Constance Langdon, the character she played in the show's first season, Murder House.

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E! News reports that Lange, who's won two Emmys and a Golden Globe for her previous work on American Horror Story, will appear in episode six of the upcoming eighth season. Series regular Sarah Paulson is directing the episode, which also features returning Murder House alums Connie Britton and Dylan McDermott.

AHS creator Ryan Murphy shared an exclusive photo of Lange's return to the show on Instagram on Wednesday. He wrote, "To celebrate 300k followers, here's a first look at the return of Queen Constance...the one and only Lady Lange...being directed by that dynamo of wit and talent Sarah Paulson. Love them both!"

In the photo, Lange stands in front of a well-groomed hedge wearing a floral shift and gardening gloves. She and Paulson are laughing, though that doesn't necessarily indicate that what they're filming is happy.

Fans reacted to the photo with incredible excitement. One person commented, "THE LEGENDS" with a crown and heart-eyes emoji. Another simply wrote, "My heart stopped." One commenter even posited their own theory about how Constance returns to Apocalypse, which E! reports is a crossover that combines characters and stories from previous AHS seasons Murder House and Coven.

"OK, I am probably not the first one to figure this out, but check the article in @Cosmopolitan: Bow Down," they wrote. "Michael Langdon the baby in Murder House is the Michael Langdon grown up in Apocalypse and @jessicalangeph (Constance) will be coming back as his grandmother."

In the referenced Cosmopolitan article, the outlet notes that last time we saw Constance, she was looking at her grandson, Michael, looking prouder than ever after he murdered his babysitter when he was just 3 years old. As noted by Vulture, he may actually be the Antichrist, and he's already been shaking things up in Apocalypse. So, what will his grandmother and primary caretaker's appearance mean for the rest of the season?

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American Horror Story: Apocalypse airs Wednesdays at 10/9c on FX. Lange's episode airs Oct. 17.

Unpopular Opinion: I Still Don't Like The Big Bang Theory

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After 12 seasons, 68 awards, and 224 nominations, CBS' The Big Bang Theory is finally coming to an end in 2019. I say "finally" because, since the show first premiered in 2007, I've never managed to figure out its appeal. Slated as a nerdy comedy that follows the lives of roommates, friends and neighbors who are all in the sciences — save for Penny (Kaley Cuoco), the resident "hot girl" — The Big Bang Theory has consistently relied on lazy writing, entrenched misogyny and racism and an overinflated sense of accomplishment.

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Here's an example: although Penny has been a main character since the pilot, she has never been given a last name. She allegedly has one, according to a 2014 comment from executive producer Steve Molaro, but it hasn't been made canon. Molaro told Vulture, "We're kind of a superstitious lot here. We've made it this far without knowing Penny's last name. I think we're good not finding out."

Are we, though? Two other major female characters on the show, Bernadette Rostenkowski (Melissa Rauch) and Amy Farrah Fowler (Mayim Balik), both have last names. Notably, they are also characterized as being smarter and more capable than Penny. Perhaps Penny's lack of a last name doesn't seem like a big deal to the writers, but as a viewer, it's pretty jarring. It suggests a lack of autonomy and personhood, which is a major problem for any character, but especially one who's been consistently at the forefront of the series all these years.

As noted by ScreenRant, it's not just the misogyny in the writing that's a problem. The show is built on negative stereotypes of nerd culture, going so far as to insert pop culture references and actual science while playing a laugh track. Casual racism, including frequent remarks about Rak Koothrappali's (Kunal Nayyar) culture, is peppered throughout the series. Sheldon's (Jim Parsons) social anxiety is often the butt of jokes. 

The comedy of The Big Bang Theory is, in a word, mean. Despite this, the show attracts millions of viewers each week and is one of the top-rated comedies in U.S. television history, according to ScreenRant. That should be surprising, but in many ways, it isn't. Geekdom as portrayed on The Big Bang Theory is the stuff that nerds have been mocked for their entire lives. This series heavily relies on tropes that categorize nerds as wildly intelligent, socially anxious weirdos who can't interact with an attractive woman without losing their cool. 

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Its popularity doesn't end in the United States, either. According to Metro, in 2016, the series was syndicated in 77 different countries. It has a spin-off, Young Sheldon, which enters its second season this fall. The Big Bang Theory even sports an 81 percent "fresh" rating on the film critique site Rotten Tomatoes

Clearly, there must be some appeal, though in the three seasons I watched — in an effort to understand why my partner at the time was so in love with it — The Big Bang Theory never worked for me, for all the reasons listed above. Plus, after a while, the apparent humor of the show becomes stale and sort of exhausting. As someone whose interests dovetail with those of the characters on this show, it should be significantly more fun to watch than it is. But it's not.

I've even tried jumping into episodes from later seasons, in the hopes that early-season kinks were worked out. Spoiler alert: They weren't. The addition of more women besides just Penny somehow increased the misogyny, rather than leveling out the show's early reliance on showing geeks in heat over the hot new neighbor. 

To be frank, the show should have gone off the air long before now, but when CBS announced that it would not be renewed after the upcoming season 12, I breathed a massive sigh of relief. I wasn't alone. The Big Bang Theory has long drawn ire from critics for harming the very groups it claims to represent, although some — like a reporter for The Verge who wrote a passionate defense of the series' portrayal of geekdom — did not rejoice in the news of its cancelation.

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I fully support more inclusive television that celebrates subcultures like geekdom, but they have to be done right. Unfortunately, The Big Bang Theory does not fit that description. It will be a relief to see it end next year, even if it remains in syndication until the end of time. Seeing this show praised every awards season is almost physically painful because of how deeply flawed it is.

Meghan Markle Gave Her First Official Royal Speech, & She Totally Nailed It

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Meghan (née Markle), Duchess of Sussex, has really come into her own as a member of the royal family since she married Prince Harry, the now-Duke of Sussex, in May. The duchess gave her first public speech as a royal on Thursday, just four months after she took on her new title and began her royal duties — and she did the whole thing without notes.

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People reports that Meghan gave a three-minute speech at an event celebrating the launch of a cookbook she helped create with the women of London's Hubb Community Kitchen. The cookbook, called Together, features recipes from women whose community was directly impacted by the Grenfell Tower fire in 2017. Meghan wrote the foreword for the book, proceeds from which will go toward helping The Hubb Community Kitchen stay open and to help widen its reach and impact.

During her speech, Meghan said, “Working on this project for the past nine months has been a tremendous labor of love. I just recently moved to London, and I felt so immediately embraced by this kitchen — your warmth and kindness, and also to be able to be in this city and to see in this one small room how multicultural it was.”

She added, “On a personal level, I feel so proud to live in this city that can have so much diversity. There’s 12 countries represented in this one group of women. It’s pretty outstanding.” 

ITV News royal editor Chris Ship captured video of Meghan's speech, which he shared on Twitter.

Meghan noted that the Together cookbook is her first royal project, which makes it even more special. “I said in the foreword that this is more than a cookbook, and what I mean by that is the power of food is more than just the meal itself," she said. "It’s the story behind it. When we get to know the story of the recipe, you get to know the person behind it,” she said. “That’s what we’re talking about in terms of coming together to really engage and talk and to be able to celebrate what connects us rather than what divides us. That, I believe, is the ethos of Together.

To conclude, Meghan encouraged attendees at the event to dig into their meals: coconut chicken curry, aubergine masala and chapatis, all from recipes in the Together cookbook and all made by members of The Hubb Community Kitchen.

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Both Prince Harry and Meghan's mother, Doria Ragland, watched from the sidelines as she spoke about this impactful project and what it means to her. For her first royal speech, she absolutely nailed it — we can't wait to see what Meghan does next.

Demi Lovato's Mom Opens Up About Singer's Overdose

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Demi Lovato may be best known for her music, including hits like "Give Your Heart a Break" and "Confident," but in July 2018, the singer and songwriter was in the news for something else: Lovato suffered a near-fatal overdose in her Hollywood Hills home. And while Lovato is currently in rehab — and has been for two months — her mother, Dianna De La Garza, is speaking out about that fateful day.

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In an exclusive interview with NewsMax TV, De La Garza reflected on what it was like to learn of her daughter's condition.

“It’s still a really difficult thing to talk about,” De La Garza said. “I literally start to shake a little bit when I remember what happened that day."

De La Garza wasn't the first to find out something was wrong with her daughter. News of Lovato's overdose first broke on TMZ, after which De La Garza began receiving a slew of texts. "All these texts started coming in... and you know how you can read the first line of a text when it comes through. Well, the first line of all these text was 'I just heard the news. I'm so sorry. I'm praying for your family. I'm praying for Demi.'" 

Confused, De La Garza turned to the internet — specifically TMZ — for answers, but before she could get TMZ to load, Lovato's assistant, Kelsey, called.

"I answered the phone and Kelsey was rambling... I said 'Kelsey, just tell me what's going on,' and the next words that came out of her mouth were so difficult to hear as a parent... she said 'Demi overdosed.' I was in shock. I didn’t know what to say. It was something I never, ever expected to hear as a parent, about any of my kids."

After De La Garza processed the information, she asked Kelsey a difficult question: "Is she OK?" Kelsey told her she was, but she also said "'[S]he's not talking.' I knew at that point that we were in trouble."

De La Garza and Lovato's sisters, Dallas and Madison, immediately rushed to Cedars-Sinai Medical Center to be by Lovato's side. "She just didn't look good," De La Garza stated. "At all. She was in bad shape. But I said to her, 'Demi, I'm here. I love you.' And at that point she said back to me, 'I love you too.'"

De La Garza believes Lovato pulled through thanks in part to the outpouring of well wishes and support. "I just feel like the reason she's alive today is because of the millions of prayers that went up that day... I don't think she would be here if it hadn't been for those prayers and the good doctors at Cedars-Sinai."

When asked how Demi is currently doing, De La Garza responded, "[S]he's happy. She's healthy. She's working on her sobriety, and she's getting the help she needs. And that in itself encourages me about her future and about the future of our family," De La Garza said.

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And we are hopeful too — for Lovato, De La Garza and their entire family.

If you or someone you know has a problem with substance abuse, call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration's National Help Line at 1-800-662-4357.


Certified Hottie Idris Elba Is Opening a Posh Cocktail Bar, & We Want In

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Whether you know him from The Wire, Luther, the ongoing campaign to get him to be the next James Bond or any of a host of action movies, chances are that if you're aware of Idris Elba, you've got a big old crush on him. And what better way to stoke the flames of love for this talented leading man than by sipping a cocktail at his new bar, The Parrot, in London?

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Opening in early October, The Parrot is slated to be the latest hot spot at the Waldorf Hilton right in the center of London.

In conjunction with his partners Lee and Nicky Caulfield, Elba says the bar is going to be seriously swanky. According to Eater, guests at the bar can expect a "whole host of A-List surprises, from a hidden cocktail menu to regular, unannounced secret shows and an exclusive guest list."

The signature cocktail menu is tropically tinged and inspired by 15 types of parrots according to the bar's Instagram.

If you're really VIP, the bar also has its own chauffeured Aston Martin to bring guests to and fro. A nod to James Bond? Maybe!

Though the establishment is mostly all about the drinks, there will also be small plates created by Karl Richardson, executive chef for the Waldorf.

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While London seems a little far to travel to for a cocktail, if it also holds the promise of maybe seeing Elba, it sounds totally worth it to us. Add in a stop at Platform 9-3/4, and all our London dreams will come true.

Kristen Bell Announces Veronica Mars Is Coming Back for a New Season

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Marshmallows, rejoice! On Thursday, Kristen Bell made all our dreams come true when she took to Twitter to make a very important announcement. After rumors of a potential Veronica Mars reboot on the streaming service Hulu, Bell confirmed that our favorite private eye is in fact making a triumphant return. This is the best news ever.

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"BREAKING NEWS out of Mars Investigations! :)" Bell tweeted. "A new #VeronicaMars series is comin atcha via @hulu. Thank you to all the marshmallows for staying excited and to @Hulu for giving Veronica a chance to wear her big girl pants. I hope we’re still friends after I taser you."

In the video, which starts out super-zoomed in on Bell's mouth (perhaps to invoke the narration she was famous for as the titular character in Veronica Mars and as the narrator in Gossip Girl?), she says, "This is a very important Marshmallow announcement." Then she pulls the camera back and adds, "Did you guys know that as of summer 2019, all the old Veronica Mars episodes will be available on Hulu to stream and re-watch? Which is great, 'cause you'll need to brush up since we're making another one!"

Like we said. Best. News. Ever.

Per a press release from Hulu, the first three seasons of Veronica Mars will be available to stream starting in summer 2019 as well as the 2014 film, which raised nearly $6 million on the crowdfunding website Kickstarter. Then, in October 2019, eight brand-new episodes of Veronica Mars will be available.

According to Hulu, the new series features a plot that is very similar to one show creator Rob Thomas wrote in the 2014 spinoff book, Veronica Mars: The Thousand-Dollar Tan Line. "Spring breakers are getting murdered in Neptune, thereby decimating the seaside town’s lifeblood tourist industry," the synopsis says. "After Mars Investigations is hired by the parents of one of the victims to find their son’s killer, Veronica is drawn into an epic eight-episode mystery that pits the enclave’s wealthy elites, who would rather put an end to the month-long bacchanalia, against a working class that relies on the cash influx that comes with being the West Coast’s answer to Daytona Beach."

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We have so many questions. Will Weevil (Francis Capra) continue to be targeted by the wealthy white families in Neptune? Are Logan (Jason Dohring) and Veronica still together? Has Dick (Ryan Hansen) matured at all? Where in the world is Duncan Kane (Teddy Dunn)?

When Veronica Mars returns in its new format on Hulu next fall, we may get some answers or we may not. It is a mystery, after all. Whatever happens, we'll be on the edges of our seats, eagerly awaiting any and all updates from Bell, Thomas and the rest of the gang. 

Can Vitamin D Decrease Your Breast Cancer Risk?

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The benefits of vitamin D are well-known: It keeps our bones and teeth strong, it helps to regulate our insulin levels (and thus aids in diabetes management) and it supports brain, lung and cardiovascular functions. But there's one way in which vitamin D may be more important than we thought.

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According to a study conducted by The North American Menopause Society and published in Menopause, the journal of NAMS, women with low levels of vitamin D after menopause may have a higher risk of developing breast cancer. That means those lovely doses of seaside sunshine (with SPF, please!) may actually protect you from breast cancer. Talk a bout a win-win.

In fact, the study, which involved more than 600 Brazilian women — 209 with breast cancer and 418 without — found even more encouraging news: "Vitamin D may play a role in controlling breast cancer cells or stopping them from growing," Dr. JoAnn Pinkerton, the executive director of NAMS, tells Menopause.

Of course, the study's findings about vitamin D deficiencies are troubling since these deficiencies are currently at an all-time high according to a study published in the Archives of Internal Medicine.

Still, Pinkerton was quick to point out that additional research is necessary, largely because "published literature is inconsistent about the benefits of vitamin D levels [in] breast cancer," she wrote in Menopause. "This study and others suggest that higher levels of vitamin D in the body are associated with lowered breast cancer risk," Pinkerton says. 

More: These Foods May Help Decrease Side Effects of Breast Cancer Treatment

But regardless of their cancer-fighting properties, taking that long sunny walk outside (again, with SPF) and chowing down on vitamin-D-rich foods like salmon, tuna, mushrooms and eggs will only make you healthier, so go to town. 

Sex Therapists on Why a Sexless Marriage Isn't the End of Your Relationship

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Despite what you've seen in movies, most marriages aren't happily-ever-after fairy tales. Marriage is work, and for a lot of couples, sex just isn't something that happens regularly anymore... or ever. In fact, The New York Times reports that 15 percent of married couples aren't having sex at all. 

It isn't a mystery that this can leave both people in the relationship feeling sad, unwanted and unhappy. But what can we do if we aren't having sex for lack of our own desire or if our partner doesn't feel interested? Is there hope for married couples who aren't being intimate any longer? The good news is that the experts we spoke with say yes, but it will take some work.

Lack of sex is a message for your relationship

The lack of sex in your relationship is like an SOS and is sending the message that something has gone wrong, and unless it’s addressed, “this can become status quo," Dr. Mark B Borg, Jr., a clinical psychologist and author of Relationship Safety, tells SheKnows. 

Once you fall into the pattern of not being intimate, you and your partner might find yourselves defending yourself against intimacy, something Borg calls irrelationship, which is the "use of the relationship itself as a joint defense against intimacy," he says.

More: How Much Sex Are Married Couples Actually Having?

Borg goes on to explain this has almost become acceptable in our society and is easily overlooked, "especially when other things in the relationship are going very well."  

Similarly, Dr. Tina B. Tessina, a licensed psychotherapist in Southern California with 30 years' experience in counseling couples and individuals, tells SheKnows that she sees many couples who say their "marriage lost its romance long ago."

Tessina, who has also authored 13 books, including How to be Happy Partners: Working It Out Together, explains it's easy to feel sexy and romantic before you are living together, as every moment you spend with each other feels special. Then, when you decide to move in together, the romance can fade as things like bills and laundry come into the equation.

While those are fun to do together at first, before long the newness wears off, and many couples find themselves worrying whether their partner cares as much and is as excited to be with them, says Tessina.

No sex is usually a sign of a bigger problem

Borg says that we should see lack of sex as a bigger problem, and if couples can work together to repair the damage, no matter how it was caused, "slowly, couples can repair their connection, one intimate moment at a time, leading to renewed connection." 

Moreover, there are many reasons a couple may stop having sex, including emotional or physical trauma or hormones, a clinical psychologist Dr. Lori Whatley tells SheKnows. When the sex slows down or stops completely, many couples don't know how to "bridge the gap and restore this part of the relationship," she says.

More: Why the Pleasure Gap Is a Gender-Equality Issue

How can you avoid or repair a sexless marriage?

First of all, it's important to note that though it's not a great sign, a sexless marriage isn't the end of the world — or your relationship. In fact, Whatley says that with the appropriate care and guidance from a professional, couples can restore their relationship. She goes on to explain that an appointment with a doctor "would be important to gain a better understanding of the issue and properly address it."

Along the same lines, Tessina says it's imperative couples learn to talk to each other openly and honestly and realize having sex and being intimate is an "extension of other communication" between two people. 

She explains that if your communication "shuts down, so will your sex life," as you need to feel a connection to each other if you want to be intimate. 

Don't get stuck in roles

Tessina says you must take turns making the first move and finding ways to express your interest in a nonverbal way, like lighting a candle or buying flowers. If one person feels they are always initiating sex, they will feel resentful.

Don't turn your partner down for silly reasons, but if you must, "find ways to satisfy them when you aren't as interested as they are," says Tessina.

Other ways to keep the romance alive are to laugh together, touch more often, make eye contact and take the time to do little things, such a making dinner together, as it's important to invest in those opportunities no matter how short they are, says Tessina.

Yes, a sexless marriage could very well mean the end for some couples, but it’s nice to know that it's possible for some couples to come back from this problem and go on to have long, healthy relationships. 

Jenny Slate Knows What She Wants When It Comes to Falling in Love Again

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If wanting to fall in love without swiping right on a touchscreen is old fashioned, then Jenny Slate might fit that description. The actor has built a career on being vulnerable, both as a comedian and in her more serious roles; this trait also shines through in her interviews, which are always refreshingly candid — especially when she talks about her love life.

More: Chris Evans & Jenny Slate's On-Again, Off-Again Relationship Is Off... Again

In a new interview with Elle magazine, Slate confessed that despite being on a romantic roller coaster recently (we're looking at you, Chris Evans), she wants to fall in love again, but she doesn't want to do it through an app or a website. “I feel like an old lady, but I don’t want to meet someone on a computer or phone,” she said, then described a conversation with a single male friend in which he said he hoped to meet his future wife at a friend's daytime birthday party.

“It was one of the most romantic things I’ve heard," Slate said. "And that’s kind of how I feel about it, too. I like the idea of meeting somebody at a dinner party filled with people you already like.” In a perfect world, she would meet the love of her life like this: “I get invited to some weird eco-tech summit to do stand-up, and I meet a really warmhearted scientist who loves the earth.”

She also opened up about how she's learned the value of being by herself, especially since her divorce from ex-husband, editor and director Dean Fleischer-Camp, in 2016. “At first, being alone, I felt scared and maybe ashamed or cast off or something," she told Elle. "Being divorced can make you feel that way because it’s such a major term, like, ‘Oh, I’m a divorced person.’” 

After comments about her divorce and her breakup with Chris Evans were taken wildly out of context in 2017, she opened up to Marie Claire about how hard it is to be herself and also be in the celebrity spotlight. However, in speaking to Elle for this new piece, Slate said her "dream role" might just be where she's at in her personal life at this moment: “It’s an unbelievable thing to say out loud, and it’s not like I’m sitting here in a mansion with a pool, but I live in a beautiful old house that’s just big enough for me and my dog and maybe one other person. It’s filled with plants, and I’m surrounded by flowers that I planted on purpose. I like myself and I’m peaceful, so this is it.”

More: Jenny Slate's Life Goals Are Worth Stealing for Yourself

It sounds like Slate isn't in any hurry to find a partner who's suited for her and whose life and personality will complement hers, which is kind of wonderful. Her candor is always so enjoyable to witness, especially when it manifests in such unexpected ways as perfectly describing her true-love fantasy meet-cute.

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