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Bad Job Interview? Here Are 6 Signs You're not Getting the Job

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By Michele Mavi

Ever left an interview somewhat confused about how it went? Whether you recognize it in the moment or it slowly dawns on you after you’ve replayed it in your head, at some point in your career, you’ll have experienced a bad interview. The reasons may vary but the signs are pretty obvious. Here are the top ways to know you’ve had a bad interview.

1. It got cut short

A shorter interview is not always a reason for concern. But if you were supposed to meet the team and end up leaving after the first person, it’s usually an indication that the first person made an executive decision that you’re just not the right fit.

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2. You’re not being sold on the job or the company

Yes, you’re the one selling yourself to be selected for the role. But that doesn’t mean the interviewer doesn’t have a responsibility to sell you on the job or the company. After all, you may have choices and they have to ensure they’re doing their best to have you accept an offer should you receive one.

3. You feel no real connection to the interviewer

Even if you’re not the best at building rapport, you need to make a connection with the interviewer to get to the next level. But the burden of connection doesn’t lie solely on your shoulders. Interviewers should try to make candidates comfortable so they really get to know them. If the interviewer didn’t try to make a connection or you felt you just kept getting your wires crossed, it’s certainly not a good sign.

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4. Questions are asked & answered — & that's it

A good interview feels like a conversation. It’s not an interrogation or a fact-collecting session. An interview should be a give-and-take that flows naturally and where follow-up questions arise from what is actually being said. If your interviewer is just firing away questions and moving to the next after each answer, they are probably just going through the motions until they can find a reasonable moment to end the interview.

5. Salary & availability don’t come up

While salary is often discussed in detail as you get closer to the offer stage, an initial interview should touch on your salary expectations. The same goes for your availability. Once these are established, there’s no reason to worry if no one brings it up again in your subsequent interviews. Also, just remember, if you’re in a state that has passed a salary history ban, you don’t have to divulge your current salary, only what you’re looking for.

More: 6 Secrets to Getting a Job That Pays Six Figures

6. You just know

OK, the truth is many people have had what they thought were bad interviews only to be called in for the next round. But if you’ve had a seriously bad meeting, you just know. Trust yourself and listen to your gut. If you can salvage it in anyway through your follow up, it’s always worth a shot. At this point, you’ve got nothing to lose by putting yourself out there, acknowledging that it didn’t go as well as you had hoped and asking for a do-over or sending materials that support your request.

Originally published on Fairygodboss.


Leonardo DiCaprio Indirectly Caused a Beloved Beach to Get Shut Down

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It may have been almost two decades since Leonardo DiCaprio's role in The Beach was in theaters. But the film is still a cult favorite — so much so that thousands of people flock to the small, secluded beach in Thailand where it was filmed every day. The overrun has gotten so bad, the Thai government is now having to shut the beach down for a third of every year just to clean up and let the ecosystem recover. Seriously, guys?

According to Thailand’s national parks and wildlife department, the remote beach in Maya Bay on Phi Phi Leh Island is seeing its coral reefs and sea life killed by the constant flood of tourists. One official told the Associated Press 4,000 visitors go to the beach, which is only accessible by boat, each day. The beach will now close for four months beginning in June each year to give the island time to recover from all the traffic.

"If we don’t do something today, it will be too late,” Thanya Netithammakum, head of the Thai parks department, told the Associated Press.

Thailand normally closes marine national parks for four months out of the year, but since The Beach was released, the demand to visit Maya Bay has been so high, officials have kept it open year round. This is a little bit ridiculous because Thailand is absolutely full of beaches that are just as remote and beautiful as Maya Bay, but with far less traffic. For the sake of Maya Bay's wildlife, tourists can visit Patong Beach (one of Thailand's top resort areas), Hat Chao Ley (known for its miles of pristine white sand) or Krabi (with a little walk, tourists can find remote, untouched beaches known for breathtaking limestone cliffs).

But let's take a look at other landmarks Leonardo DiCaprio's films have turned into visitor attractions — they could eventually face the same fate.

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Kananaskis Country — Alberta, Canada

Kananaskis Country, Alberta, Canada

DiCaprio filmed The Revenant in Kananaskis Country — a park system situated to the west of Calgary, Alberta, Canada, in the foothills and front ranges of the Canadian Rockies. Tourists can not only attempt to follow in DiCaprio's footsteps through the wintery wonderland, but ski, bike, backpack, hunt and fish.

V&A Waterfront — Cape Town, South Africa

Leo DiCaprio in 'Blood Diamond'

This is where DiCaprio made that heart-wrenching call to Jennifer Connelly in Blood Diamond back in 2006. Situated on the Atlantic shore, V&A (shortened from Victoria & Albert) Waterfront is one of Africa's most visited cultural and historical hubs, attracting millions of visitors every year. It's an upscale area with lots of fine dining, shopping, boat trips and more.

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Waverley Cemetery — Sydney, New South Wales, Australia

Great Gatsby funeral scenes

That beautiful funeral scene in The Great Gatsby was filmed at one of Sydney's oldest and most iconic cemeteries. Known for its Victorian and Edwardian monuments, Waverley Cemetery is the burial place of many influential Australian politicians and businesspeople.

The Pros & Cons of School Uniforms: Moms Weigh In

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On the surface, it seems like school uniforms shouldn't be that controversial a subject. We're only talking about clothes, after all, right? But uniforms are actually an extremely polarizing topic and have led to many a heated argument among parents and school-age children alike.

It all comes down for what's best for the kids. But should kids really be required to wear the same thing to school every day? Should they never be allowed to don an outfit — any outfit — of their choosing during the week? We've broken down this decades-old debate so you can hear both sides and weigh in yourself.

Here are the pros and cons of school uniforms — and how four moms really feel about the issue.

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Pros of school uniforms

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Former President Bill Clinton is perhaps the most famous and influential advocate of school uniforms. "If it means that the schoolrooms will be more orderly and more disciplined and that our young people will learn to evaluate themselves by what they are on the inside instead of what they're wearing on the outside, then our public schools should be able to require their students to wear uniforms," he said in a March 1996 speech.

Next: Cons of school uniforms

A version of this article was originally published in July 2009.

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Cons of school uniforms

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According to the most recent data from the National Center for Education Statistics:
  • Twenty percent of public schools across the United States require a uniform.
  • Fewer secondary schools require uniforms compared to elementary schools, at 12 percent vs. 25 percent.
  • Forty-eight percent of high-poverty public schools require uniforms as a security measure.
  • Only 8 percent of low-poverty public schools require uniforms.

What parents say

Now that we've heard points on both sides, what do moms really think about this debate? SheKnows interviewed four parents with differing opinions.

Toinette Campbell, a mom of two boys in Burbank, California, is decidedly pro. "Uniforms? I love them. The key word being uniform. It gives kids a level playing field and gets them away from one-upmanship on designer labels. It also gets kids used to taking care of their clothes. Getting rid of status symbols prevents children from being teased because they aren't wearing $150 jeans."

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Carol O'Neil, a mother of two boys in East Kilbride, Scotland, agrees: "I am totally for school uniforms, as they keep children dressed the same and stop all of the nonsense with kids wearing designer gear. If kids are dressed the same, then they are less likely to be bullied." (In the U.K., uniforms are compulsory in both state and private schools.)

But Eduarda Schroeder, a mom of two daughters in Chandler, Arizona, doesn't see it that way. "Uniforms can be a financial burden for poor families," she explains, "because they are an additional expense for parents who pay taxes for a free public education. I am more in favor of a dress code."

Amelia Edelman, a mom of one in Nashville, Tennessee, makes another point in the anti camp: "In addition to being a sometimes prohibitive cost for lower-income parents, uniforms take away one of the healthiest and most creative modes of self-expression that kids — that all of us — have: what we put on our bodies every day. I was lucky to go to a public school where I could wear all the ripped, paint-splattered jeans and pseudo-punk patches I liked, and my clothes were my armor against whatever the day (or the mean girls) threw at me. I felt safe in my own self-expression, and I want the same for my son."

Although 85 percent of teachers believe that school uniforms promote a positive learning environment and improved behavior in students, it's clear that among parents as well as the kids themselves, the debate rages on. What's your take?

These Unconventional Scary Movies Should Be in Your Queue

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As a horror movie buff, I am so, so ready for A Quiet Place. Starring John Krasinski and Emily Blunt, two incredible actors who also happen to be married in real life, this film follows a family who must live a life devoid of sound in order to survive the terrifying creatures that have wiped out most of humanity. What makes this horror film quite different from the other creature-based horror films we've seen over the years is the fact that the film is mostly a silent film. The characters cannot speak — there is little to no extraneous sound (even footsteps are padded by man-made sandy walkways) — and the overwhelming sense of dread only seems to be amplified in the process.

Take a look at the trailer for A Quiet Place, and see for yourself:

a quiet place trailer

a quiet place trailer

Thinking about the ways in which A Quiet Place subverts expectations of what a horror film can be got me thinking: What other unconventional horror films are available to stream right now just in case I want to have an unconventional horror movie marathon? I've rounded them up below so you can choose your next movie-night pick.

From creepy found-footage flicks to monster movies that have atypical monsters, the following films find ways to deviate from the typical slasher, body horror, supernatural, zombie and creature-centric horror movies you know and love.

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It Follows

it follows trailer

it follows trailer

It Follows is an art house movie with roots in classic horror movies like Nightmare on Elm Street and Invasion of the Body Snatchers but with a look and feel all its own. With music and stillness its main weapons of shock value, this movie takes the traditional formula of a group of teens forced to fight off an invisible monster and turns it on its head with lots of fun twists.

Creep 2

creep 2 trailer

creep 2 trailer

The found-footage style may feel familiar, but the story that makes up the sequel to the mostly predictable Creep will leave you thoroughly intrigued. Telling the story of an indie filmmaker who answers an ad that leads her out to the woods where a rather strange man lives, Creep 2's constantly shifting power dynamics and creepy (yeah, I said it), truly unpredictable ending will have you thinking about it long after the credits roll.

The Blair Witch Project

blair witch project trailer

blair witch project trailer

It's a classic and, yes, it's still unconventional. Nearly 20 years on, the found-footage format of The Blair Witch Project still manages to create a sense of dread that leaves you feeling horrified from beginning to end.

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The Witch

the witch trailer

the witch trailer

With heavily accented Old English dialogue and a grim New World setting, The Witch's folkloric elements and pervasively ominous vibes only amplify as you watch the story of a family plagued by ill fortune try to survive even as they feel something threateningly supernatural is haunting them.

Gerald's Game

gerald's game trailer

gerald's game trailer

When a kinky afternoon involving a woman handcuffed to the bed and her husband trying to reignite their marriage goes horribly awry, the woman must confront her own past demons in order to free herself in every way possible. Adapted from a Stephen King novella of the same name, Gerald's Game is as much about psychological horror as it is the various horrors of literally being chained to your bed.

Raw

raw trailer

raw trailer

The coming-of-age narrative gets a supremely gory twist in Raw, a French-language film about a college-age woman who attends veterinary school and comes to terms with a very dark secret about herself and the rest of her family after learning that life on a vegetarian diet isn't all it's cracked up to be.

I Am the Pretty Thing That Lives in the House

pretty thing/house trailer

pretty thing/house trailer

The slow pace and the characters' mannered way of speaking may leave you feeling alienated, but the blend of art house and horror leads to a very unsettling conclusion to a story about a young female nurse who arrives at the potentially haunted home of a famed author.

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The Invitation

invitation trailer

invitation trailer

Cults, betrayals among friends and maybe the worst possible ending to a dinner party await you in The Invitation. As you begin to watch, you'll likely find yourself thinking, "This is a horror movie?" But just you wait, because the action shifts very quickly from unsettling to full-on horrific.

The Babadook

babadook trailer

babadook trailer

On one level, The Babadook tells a very human story of loss and not letting your sadness turn you into a shadow of your former self. On another very scary level, The Babadook tells the atmospheric, unnerving tale of a mother and her son who seem to be haunted by the deeply unsettling children's storybook monster The Babadook, whose motives are unknown but super-creepy.

I Became a Sex Worker So I Could Afford IVF

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The first time I had sex with someone for money was because I needed sperm. I had just turned 30 and I desperately wanted a baby. But since I was queer and single, I was finding it tough to source some sperm for free — so I decided to turn some tricks so I could afford to access a sperm bank.

No, the irony was not lost on me. I was surrounded by sperm, throwing it in the bin by the condom-full while at the same time saving my pennies so I could buy some. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t consider pinching a tiny drop here or there, but as baby-crazy as I was, I was still sane enough to know that was a dreadful idea.

The same week that I made my first appointment to shag a stranger, I also made an appointment to see an exorbitantly priced but highly successful fertility guru. I was desperate to try every avenue possible to become pregnant. For the next half a year, I saw clients on Thursday mornings, and then on Thursday afternoons, I handed over that hard-earned cash to an acupuncturist magician who would stick pins in me and feed me magic potions that were supposed to make me more fertile.

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Fast-forward six more months, and by then I had a friend willing to be the donor — plus a series of failed home inseminations and hospital-monitored inseminations under my belt. I’d tried out brothel work, touring and private escorting, and by the time I made it to IVF, the final frontier, I’d just secured a client who wanted to see me exclusively for a well-paid weekly retainer.

Most people hide the fact that they’re trying to conceive from their bosses, and I was no exception. The first weeks of our working relationship involved me doing blood tests and ultrasounds in the morning and meeting my client in rented rooms at midday. On our way to the countryside for a midweek break one time, I had a last-minute call from the clinic that I had to go pick up a new lot of IVF drugs. I had to allude to some kind of mysterious and embarrassing gut problem to explain why we needed to drop by the hospital and why I had a brown paper bag of medication I needed to keep in the fridge.

I was due for an injection at 6.20 a.m., and my client had specified that he particularly enjoyed morning sex — and that he was an early riser (excuse the pun). Thankfully, we slept in separate rooms, so I set my alarm, and at 6 a.m., leapt out of bed and snuck into the kitchen to retrieve the drugs, avoiding the creaky floorboard on my way. Back in my room, I loaded up the syringe and realized with a sinking stomach that there wasn’t enough left in the barrel; I was going to need to load a new cartridge and inject twice.

This is fiddly stuff at the best of times, let alone when you’re so nervous your hands are shaking. I was sitting there with needles and vials of drugs scattered all over the quilt when I heard the floorboard creak. In a panic, I called out, “Too early darling, I need a little more beauty sleep!” and then stabbed myself in the stomach with the needle.

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The day I found out my pregnancy test results, I was on my way to another overnight booking — this one in a hotel in the city. I was standing in the middle of my lounge room in stockings and suspender belt, face fully made up and blow-drying my hair, when I finally got through to the clinic and heard the good news. I ended up two hours late to my client appointment. I was bubbling over with joy, but my client was stony-faced for having being kept waiting, so I had to finally tell him the truth. He wasn’t sure what to make of it, but by the next morning had decided I was a goddess incarnate, which was lucky, because then came the morning sickness.

"Morning" my ass. I was nauseous all day and all night for the first 22 weeks. In the middle of the night on a “romantic” weekend away, I was so dehydrated I sent my poor client out in search of lemonade ice blocks. He had said he wanted the girlfriend experience, but this was perhaps taking it a step — or 10 — too far. On several occasions, I convinced him to hire my friend for a threesome, and we blindfolded him on the bed so that my friend could do the hard work while I slumped against a wall eating water crackers and making "sexy" gasping noises in between heavy breathing to stop myself from vomiting.

The perks of this job were completely wasted on me. The flowers he bought stank like dog shit, the expensive perfume made me gag, and the exclusive restaurants were full of dangerous things like raw fish and cocktails. All I wanted to do was lie on my bed and watch TV — but guess what: There’s no sick leave for sex workers.

By the third trimester, the only sex position I could manage was doggy style because my stomach was so huge. I was curious about pregnancy fetishists, so I did dabble in a little extra work toward the end — and met with an amusing number of clients who said they wanted to worship at my fertile feet. "Can you just massage my feet for an hour and then leave?" I felt like saying.

Somehow, my regular client stuck by me for the entire nine months and was keen to continue afterward too. But the leaking boobs, the complete lack of sex drive, and the difficulty of finding a babysitter put me off for a good while — so I had to let him go. But I’m thankful for having been able to work all through my pregnancy and for the financial safety net I was able to accumulate during that year.

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Now that my child is older, I am able to take the odd booking here and there. The quick, relatively easy money and flexible hours are an absolute godsend to a solo stay-at-home parent like myself. In many ways, being a sex worker not only helped me to become a parent, but continues to enable me to be the best mom I can be.

Of course, some days, trying to make that transformation from domestic servant to sexual goddess feels like a long, long stretch. Particularly when I have peanut butter in my hair, a Wiggles song stuck in my head and my child has just drawn all over my white lingerie with the red lipstick I left carelessly unattended. But I manage it — juggling work and parenthood just like so many other working mothers everywhere do every day.

Taco Bell Adds Even More $1 Items to Its Dollar Menu

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Taco Bell knows exactly what you want: even more $1 items. And that's exactly what they're giving you.

Starting tomorrow, April 5, the fast-food chain will add the $1 Triple Melt Burrito, the $1 Triple Melt Nachos, the $1 Crispy Chicken Taco and the $1 Beefy Crunch Burrito.

Of course, there's a catch.

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Following their test in Cincinnati, Ohio, last September, the Triple Melt Burrito and Triple Melt Nachos will be available nationwide. However, the Crispy Chicken Taco will only test in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, and the fan-favorite Beefy Crunch Burrito will only test in 30 Taco Bell restaurants in Chattanooga, Tennessee, starting today through mid-July. But don't worry! If the Beefy Crunch Burrito tests well, it could hit restaurants nationwide in 2019.

"Back in 2017, we boldly shared our commitment to roll out 20 new $1 items in 2018 and are thrilled to share we're halfway there thanks to our latest menu additions launching this week," said Marisa Thalberg, chief brand officer at Taco Bell Corp., in a statement. "From innovative fan-favorites like the Beefy Crunch Burrito and dominating each day part by reimagining breakfast classics at the dollar price point, we continue to set the bar for what great food at a great value should be."

The addition of the Triple Melt Nachos is no surprise. After the $1 Nacho Fries were added to the menu in January, it quickly became the most successful launch in Taco Bell history: They were ordered over 53 million times in the first five weeks of their release.

"We're seeing fries in one out of every three orders, compared to one out of every four for DLT," Taco Bell spokesman Matt Prince told Nation's Restaurant News.

Taco Bell Triple Melt Nachos and Burrito

OK, they're not quite the same, but we bet the nachos are equally delicious. And you know what else sounds droolworthy? The Triple Melt Burrito, complete with its "seasoned beef, shredded three-cheese blend, nacho cheese wrapped up in a warm, flour tortilla." You can even make it a combo if you have four extra dollars in your pocket and extra room in your stomach — because who wouldn't want a Doritos Locos Taco, cinnamon twists and a medium drink on the side?

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These new $1 items follow the return of the Naked Egg Taco last month. Or you can opt for any of the 12 other items on Taco Bell's dollar menu.

We know what our lunch plans are tomorrow...

Going on a 'Facebook Vacation' Can Lower Stress, but It's Complicated

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When Facebook first became widely available more than a decade ago, it seemed like a really positive development — an easy way to keep in touch with friends and family from around the world. Sure, it still accomplishes that, but we're also realizing Facebook can be a source of stress for a lot of people, between concerns of privacy and prompting some serious FOMO when your friends are out on the town and you're draped in your weighted anxiety blanket on the couch.

The good news is, according to new research out of the University of Queensland, quitting Facebook for less than a week can help you feel less stressed.

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“Taking a Facebook break for just five days reduced a person’s level of the stress hormone cortisol,” research team leader Dr. Eric Vanman of the university's school of psychology said in a press release. “Abstaining from Facebook was shown to reduce a person’s level of the stress hormone cortisol, but people’s own ratings of their stress did not change — perhaps because they weren't aware their stress had gone down."

But before you delete your account, the study also found that though the participants' stress levels improved, they reported a decrease in their overall well-being.

“People experienced less well-being after those five days without Facebook — they felt less content with their lives — from the resulting social disconnection of being cut-off from their Facebook friends," Vanman explained.

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He added that he doesn't think this phenomenon is unique to Facebook and is likely true for other social media platforms.

The study — published in the Journal of Social Psychology — had 138 participants that were split into two groups: one that gave up Facebook for five days and another that carried on posting and checking as usual. They all provided saliva samples, which were used to measure levels of cortisol.

Vanman got the idea for the study because of his own tendency to step away from Facebook for periods of time.

“When I told colleagues about my ‘Facebook vacations’, I found I wasn’t alone,” he said. “Others admitted that they took similar breaks from Facebook when they found it too stressful or overwhelming — quitting Facebook for several days or weeks but then reconnecting."

This was the case for one of Vanman's students, who had her friend change her Facebook password so she would stay off the site, but after two months, decided she wanted to return to the platform.

Overall, Vanman said that quitting Facebook to lower stress only to go back on again because you miss people is all part of the cycle of social media use.

“Facebook has become an essential social tool for millions of users and it obviously provides many benefits. Yet, because it conveys so much social information about a large network of people, it can also be taxing," he explained. “It seems that people take a break because they’re too stressed, but return to Facebook whenever they feel unhappy because they have been cut off from their friends. It then becomes stressful again after a while, so they take another break. And so on.”

So, what does this mean for you and your Facebook account? Really, that's up to you. If logging on makes you feel stressed, that's totally valid and know that you don't owe anyone updates about your dog. But if keeping up with friends and family on Facebook makes you feel happier and more connected, that's completely legitimate too. Either way, remember to take care of your mental health and recognize when you need a break from anything — including social media.

32 Things Moms of Boys Say Just About Every Day

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Moms of boys, and especially moms of just boys, know there’s something kind of strange that happens when you're surrounded by little dudes. Of course, boys come in all shapes and sizes and have countless different styles, attitudes and preferences — not all of them are made of “snips and snails and puppy dog tails," and plenty of them play with dolls. That said, many moms agree it can be comically unique to watch a weird and wacky boyhood unfold before their eyes.

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If you’re a mom of boys, perhaps you've said one of these little-boy catchphrases more than once? (Moms of girls, we know you've said these quite a bit too.)

1. "Is anything broken or bleeding? No? Then you’re fine."

2. "I know you know how to pee outside, but you still can’t do it in the front yard."

3. "Yes, you do have to wear pants to school. Everyone has to wear pants to school and to work. All. The. Time."

4. "Yes, you do have to shower. Why? Because you don't smell good."

5. "You don’t have to tell everyone when you fart."

6. "Don’t play with your poop. In fact, leave everything in the toilet where you found it."

7. "Remember to point at the toilet so your pee doesn't hit the wall."

8. "No, you both cannot use the same toilet at the same time. I don't care if one of you is sitting down."

9. "Who left the toilet seat up and didn't flush?"

10. "Are those rocks in your pocket?"

11. "Do not bring that inside! OK, fine. Just make sure not to kill it."

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12. "You want thirds?"

13. "You just ate; how can you possibly be hungry?"

14. "Please don't use your shirt as a napkin."

15. "Please don't talk about poop at the dinner table."

16. "Please don't grab your penis in public."

17. "Please stop hoarding the baby food jars, collecting spiders and having spider fight club in the jars."

18. "Peeing on somebody else isn't funny (and it never will be)."

19. "Hats do not go on your penis. They go on your head."

20. "No, you can't use an egg as a baseball."

21. "Get your fingers out of your nose."

22. "Get your hands out of your pants."

23. "Get your hands out of your brother's pants."

24. "Do not blow your nose on the dog."

25. "Do not put that in your butt."

26. "Tie your shoe!"

27. "Pick up your smelly socks!"

28. "How come I keep finding your socks stuffed under things?"

29. "No, you can't keep extra food under your bed for later."

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30. "Can you please stop jumping on your sister?"

31. "No, I don't want you to play the punch-me-in-the-face game."

32. "You have to stop wrestling when someone starts crying."


Channing Tatum & Jenna Dewan Tatum’s Split Seems a Lot Like Conscious Uncoupling

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If you’re still reeling over the end of Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan Tatum’s marriage, it might be time to pause and see how they're dealing with it. Maybe we shouldn’t be so reactive since it looks like they're doing exactly what they said they would in their public statement — they've “lovingly chosen to separate.”

The duo seemed to be the ideal Hollywood couple, but fans didn't know what was happening behind closed doors. Even with the challenges in their relationship, they're doing their best to stick together as a family. According to Us Weekly, they're not only raising their 4-year-old daughter, Everly, in a peaceful environment, but the two stars are also still living together.

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“They haven’t been ‘together’ for a while,” said a source to Us Weekly. “They are best friends and still support each other and go to each other’s events and live in the same house.” Some of the ways they are creating a new normal includes keeping things as even-keeled as possible for their daughter. That's why cohabitation and family outings appear to be a priority for them.

The Tatums made a very public family outing at the Kids Choice Awards just a week before announcing their split. Dewan Tatum took their daughter to support Tatum, who was there promoting his upcoming animated movie Smallfoot. And they'll still be partaking in family fun at home.

Channing Tatum face paint

Channing Tatum face paint

Doesn’t this all sound familiar? If you remember Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s divorce statement in 2014, the couple shared that they would be “consciously uncoupling” in a way that was beneficial to their family.

Those two words sent the gossip world into a frenzy, with every talk show trying to define what that meant. In reality, it's probably pretty simple — conscious uncoupling seems to involve both parties consciously rising above the drama of the breakup and focusing on what works well for the children and themselves, working together as a team in a new way.

And even though both Paltrow and Martin have moved on to new romantic partners — Paltrow is engaged to Brad Falchuk and Martin is currently dating Dakota Johnson — they have spent vacations and holidays together, continued to live together for months after their split; and have always spoken kindly about each other in public. They're so progressive, there's even a rumor that Martin will be the best man at Falchuk and Paltrow's upcoming wedding.

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This rational blueprint that Paltrow and Martin helped popularize in Hollywood seems to be the exact formula the Tatums are following. They're being kind to one another, navigating the heartbreak and their family's new routine together and showing a united front for their daughter.

When you look at other Hollywood divorces, it's can be hard to watch. A bad public breakup can often feed the tabloids for months (see Bethenny Frankel and Bryn HoppyBrad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe) and presumably make the pain linger for longer. In the long run, maybe the rest of us should stop looking for what went wrong between Hollywood couples and respect their choice as they go through a difficult time in their personal lives.

Hollywood couples need to do what's best for them personally and professionally, and Paltrow and Martin, and now the Dewan Tatums, are showing that that process doesn't have to be ugly or unkind.

What It Was Like to Be a Student at Penn State During the Paterno Years

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I remember where I was on November 5, 2011, when I first heard about the criminal sexual abuse charges brought against Jerry Sandusky, the former assistant coach of the Penn State football team. It was my senior year at Penn State, and my friends and I were returning to school after a weekend in the wilderness of State College, the sleepy central PA town that's home to the school's main campus and its revered football team. As we made our way back to civilization, and cell phone reception, we began to see the news via texts. We didn't think much of it at the time, although we knew it was serious business. But we could not have anticipated that in the weeks and months that followed, our lives as Penn Staters would be forever changed and colored by the Sandusky scandal.

This weekend marks the premiere of Paterno, HBO's original movie based on the now-infamous scandal. The movie stars Al Pacino as head coach Joe Paterno, whose role in covering up Sandusky's systematic, long-term abuse of young boys dominated worldwide headlines, and shook my alma mater to its core. Like hundreds of other students, faculty, school officials and local residents, I watched the events unfold as a captive onlooker — in disbelief and horror, yet unable to look away.

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Seeing the HBO trailer, I am instantly transported back to the key moments: Watching a televised press conference given by Joe Paterno outside his own home, which everyone had walked passed a million times, just a few streets away from campus; recalling the night that the students rioted on Main Street, overturning news vans, their rage swelling into the cold night air; reading internet comments about how Penn Staters were lemmings, blindly worshipping and protecting the legend of Paterno and Penn State football over Sandusky's victims. It's all there in the trailer, and it's all there in my memory.

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It's odd, in a sense, that a movie trailer would have such an effect on me. I am not a victim of Sandusky, nor was I directly connected to any of his victims. I was never involved in the Penn State football organization (I'd never even been to a game, which was almost unheard of among my peers), and I didn't know anyone even remotely involved with the scandal directly.

And yet.

HBO Paterno Football Practice Still

And yet, there is something both intriguing and disconcerting about the contrast between the real-life events around the Sandusky scandal, and the way it's now being told in Paterno — primarily by (as far as I can tell) a cast and crew comprised of folks who cannot relate to the material in the same way as the students who were there as it was unfolding.

It's intriguing in that it gives a fresh perspective on these events nearly seven years later. It's disconcerting, at least for me, because it's tough to watch a dramatized version of the events that defined my senior year of college and changed my perspective on the school I loved so profoundly, now being retold for entertainment purposes. But for better or worse, it's difficult to deny that the story is compelling.

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Here's what we know: Paterno, in real life, was an actual Penn State icon. I'm a third-generation Penn Stater, so I'd grown up thinking of him as a monolithic figure; a man who prided himself on creating a strong football team full of men he instilled with good values. Paterno, affectionately known as JoePa, brought his Brooklyn toughness mixed with seemingly wholesome morals shaped by midcentury optimism to Penn State in 1950, when he joined the Penn State football coaching staff as an assistant coach.

But it was his time as head coach, from 1965 until his dismissal in 2011 (which occurred shortly after the charges were brought against Sandusky), that made him a legend at Penn State, and in the world of college football. The pervasive sense within the school community that Paterno could do no wrong and always knew what was best for his team is something that the film appears to get right. That respect for Paterno is part of the reason why, at the time, so many people reacted violently to his dismissal; there was a widespread refusal to believe that he could have had any knowledge of what Sandusky had done.

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What else does Paterno get right? Well, for one thing, the overwhelming public anger and disgust that many of us felt. Students, locals and the nation all seemed to be truly upset that an institution like Penn State, which they'd loved, was linked to Sandusky. There was a great deal of confusion, which Paterno telegraphs clearly in the trailer. Did anyone in any authoritative position know what Sandusky had done and simply allowed it to happen? Was Paterno actually culpable, a man willfully ignorant and thus complicit, or was he just caught in the downfall of a man he'd known for decades?

But Paterno also seems to nail that, for those of us on the outside looking in, it was hard to figure out where to actually stand during the uproar that swept through campus and afterward. Most of us were in our late teens and early 20s, still full of hormones and finding that our worldviews were fundamentally shifting to begin with (which tends to happen when you enter a university setting designed to grow you as a person). We wanted to protect Sandusky's victims and we wanted to protect Paterno, a man many of us had been raised to believe was infallible. We wanted to tell the world, "Hey, we're not lemmings. We just love our school."

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Memory is a funny thing. It works differently for all of us, and two people rarely share the same vision of the past. When I think about that time, from the fall of 2011 to the winter of 2012, my first thought isn't where I was when I found out the news. It isn't watching students gather on Paterno's lawn to show him support in the bleak autumnal chill of November in State College, and it isn't even watching in disbelief the broadcast of the riot that was happening blocks away from my senior year apartment.

The first thing I remember is walking to the lawn outside Old Main (an administrative building on Penn State's main campus that was also an iconic landmark) with my college roommates for the candlelight vigil shortly after Paterno passed away. I remember crying for Paterno, a man who died in the shadow of disgrace but who I felt didn't deserve it. I remember feeling like this was the beginning of a shift in perspective I have carried with me, one in which I question institutions and authority. I remember praying that history would remember these events truthfully and honestly and that it wouldn't turn us Penn Staters into punchlines.

But memory, much like truth, is tough to nail down. It will be curious to see how HBO's TV movie has attempted to nail down both of these things in its version of events. Let's hope Paterno gets it right on Saturday.

The Importance of Cleaning Your Sex Toys & Exactly How to Do It

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Just like anything inserted into your body over and over again, you want to make sure it’s safe and healthy.

Yes, we're talking about cleaning your sex toys.

On most sex toys, cleaning directions are located directly on the packaging. So, as much as you want to throw the cardboard or plastic exterior away in a rabid scurry toward the prized possession, save it for some extra knowledge on how to nurture the longevity of your invested toy. Most cleaning directions are pretty basic: soap and water. But not every sex toy is cleaned the same way because they aren’t made the same way. For instance, the material a toy is made from, as well as whether or not it is motorized, plays a role in how to clean it.

Before you start going at it, let’s look at why cleaning your collection is more important than you think. STIs and general hygiene are the two main concerns, but keeping them in tip-top shape is another reason to wipe that sucker down after insertion or playtime.

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Ah, STIs. They aren’t just limited to intercourse or oral; they do, in fact, thrive on toys, especially when used with a partner. Not cleaning the material thoroughly afterward can result in bacterial or yeast infections — even HPV was shown to have been passed almost immediately.

Seventy-nine million Americans are infected with HPV, which can lead to cancer of the cervix, vulva, vagina and anus. Moreover, gonorrhea, chlamydia and various bacterial infections (think serious itching) can be transferred through shared toys. Remember to get tested often, between partners and during, since symptoms may not be visible or obvious.

Cleaning your toy is also just a good idea for general hygiene. Just like peeing after sex is a good idea, so is cleaning your toy. Make it a habit and don’t fall asleep right after the deed is done. You need to treat your body with the respect and love it deserves, treat your toy the same way. Also, don’t cross-contaminate. Your anal plug shouldn’t be going anywhere near your vagina. Keep things separate for a happy ending.

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How do you clean your sex toy exactly? As I said above, look at the directions before handling it. But, here are a few quick tips if you aren’t 100 percent sure.

  • Motorized and silicone, glass, stainless steel or wood: soap and a damp cloth.
  • Not motorized and silicone, Pyrex, stainless steel or stone: Place it in boiling water for 10 minutes or place it in the dishwasher without soap.
  • Hard plastic, elastomer, jelly rubber: These materials store bacteria, so using a condom is highly recommended. Just a tip: Make sure it’s non-lubricated because silicone lube and silicone toys are a no-no. The result is sticky and messy as silicone bonds to silicone. Read more about what condoms to use with what material here.

Aftercare includes drying off your toy and placing it in a silk bag or special box to keep it away from outside bacteria. If you choose to store your toys in a box all together, remember to keep them separated by material. Latex, silicone and rubber can cause toys to become misshapen.

Moreover, sex toy cleaners exist, and at a shop, representatives typically advise customers to purchase a cleaner as an addition. Remember to remove the batteries, spray the cleaner directly onto the toy, and rinse with warm water.

Another option is UVee, founded by mother-daughter team Carrie Martz and Brooke Martz O’Connor. UVee has a germicidal UV-C light system that claims to kill 99.9 percent of germs that may cause infections. It's easy to use too: Wipe off your toy, place it in the chamber, close the lid, and UVee will clean your toy. According to its website, UVee has been scientifically proven to be two to five times more effective than using foams and gels.

How often should you be cleaning your toys? After every single use. You can’t skirt around this and make it a once a week thing. And there isn’t really a "how-to" section that answers this question like we have above. It’s just necessary. Make it a habit. Get it done.

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To take care of your body and also the longevity of your toys, it only takes a few moments to ensure your toy will last through your next playtime. I know it isn’t incredibly sexy to jump out of bed and clean, but hey, in the long run, it matters. It doesn’t have to be 30 seconds after a climax, but before your next use, you'd better be cleaning that thing. It’s a deed that must be done, and you’re the only one who can do it.

By S. Nicole Lane

A version of this article was originally published on HelloFlo in March 2017.

The Connection Between Endometriosis & Autoimmune Disease

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Although an estimated 1 in 10 Americans lives with endometriosis — a condition where cells similar to endometrial cells grow outside a person's uterus — researchers still have lots to learn about this painful obstetric issue. And despite how common endometriosis is, doctors remain stumped on what causes it and how to prevent it.

Perhaps the most puzzling thing about this condition is its connection with autoimmune diseases. Although it isn't recognized as one itself, studies show that people with endometriosis are more likely to have an autoimmune disease or develop one in the future.

“Patients with endometriosis are statistically more likely to have allergies and autoimmune diseases compared to women without endometriosis,” says Dr. Andrew Cook, an endometriosis specialist and women's health expert at Vital Health Institute. Research tells us that patients with endometriosis have a higher risk of developing lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, irritable bowel syndrome and other autoimmune diseases.

So why is this? It's unclear exactly, says Cook. But doctors are now starting to look at endometriosis as an immune system disease in and of itself. “Patients with endometriosis certainly seem to have some type of immune dysfunction,” says Cook. “It has many similarities with other autoimmune diseases, such as elevated levels of cytokines and other cellular abnormalities.” Endometriosis also shares similar genes, proteins and regulators with other immune diseases.

However, other medical experts think the link between endometriosis and autoimmune disease is nothing more than chance. A small percent of the population, for instance, is affected by both eczema and type 2 diabetes — with no proven correlation between the two. Others think selection bias could be to blame. In other words, people who seek medical help for endometriosis or enroll in clinical trials could be more likely to find other underlying diseases during the course of their treatment.

Regardless, endometriosis and autoimmune disease are, for some reason, linked. To be on the safe side — since endometriosis is not only linked to autoimmune disease but other chronic conditions like cancer — anyone with endometriosis should undergo regular cancer screenings and follow up with their doctor about additional health issues.

Joe Manganiello Knows the Secret to a Lasting Marriage

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Everyone is still reeling from Jenna Dewan Tatum and Channing Tatum's split announcement. Why does love and marriage seem so darn hard to make last in Hollywood?

Luckily, love isn't dead. There are still some Hollywood power couples going strong, and one of them is Joe Manganiello and Sofía Vergara — it seems they've got this marriage thing all figured out. Manganiello shared what really works for the two of them to stick together.

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“[It’s] coming to grips with the idea that someone who is not related to you could possibly love you that much. She was it for me,” Manganiello explained to Cigar Aficionado. “People say things like, ‘Marriage and relationships are work.’ But it’s not. Life is hard. Having somebody to help you deal with it is the greatest thing that ever happened. Looking back on the relationships I had before this, I think the universe was giving me some tough practice so I’d get this right.”

It’s refreshing to hear Manganiello talk so openly about his marriage to Vergara since she’s usually the one giving fans a peek behind the curtain at their private life. He’s realized the support system that marriage has provided him was exactly what he was looking for but didn’t realize it until he met his wife.

Manganiello waited until he was 38 years old to get married for the first time, while Vergara was married at a young age, a relationship that lasted only three years. They came from two different places when it came to marriage, but they’ve been able to find a common ground that developed into a strong bond.

“We realized very early on that we each had to put the other person’s happiness and well-being ahead of our own,” he told Hola! USA. “Once you realize that kind of trust has manifested, you hang on for dear life. Or in my case, you go and buy a ring.”

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Is Manganiello's approach to marriage right? Well, yes and no. According to Beverly Hills family and relationship psychotherapist Dr. Fran Walfish (who is also the author of The Self-Aware Parent and regular expert child psychologist on The Doctors on CBS and costar on Sex Box on WE tv), Manganiello's theory about marriage is spot on — but he's wrong about it not being hard.

"Relationships are the single most complicated things to make work," Walfish says. "You bring two people from two completely different families of origin, with different family dynamics, different personalities and egos together. There are bound to be disagreements and differences of opinion. The work involved is a combination of self-examination, self-awareness, accountability (owning up to your personal issues) and healthy, open, honest communication."

And the Hollywood marital problem doesn't always have to do with love — failed marriages are often consequences of ego and distance.

"Everyone has an ego, but Hollywood and its spotlight seem to attract people who have an extra tablespoon," Walfish explains. "Filming schedules and geographical demands can add physical and emotional distance in relationships. Close proximity to others, including attractive costars and coworkers, when you are lonely or needy on the road coupled with an entitled personality may facilitate infidelity."

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In the end, Walfish says the most important thing for any couple to make a relationship work for the long haul is "a solemn commitment from two willing partners that 'no matter what,' they will hang in together and work out each hurdle that life throws their way."

Luckily, it seems Manganiello and Vergara have figured that out.

Sex Machines Sound Futuristic, but Really Aren't New at All

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Maybe you've seen some of the latest sex toys and thought they were a fairly new invention. I know I didn't realize how long they've been around. In fact, they've been on this Earth longer than electricity has. It makes sense, doesn’t it? After all, our genitals can bring us great pleasure, and every person likes experiences that. It doesn’t matter what decade, generation or era we are in — we all like getting off.

That's why it makes sense the first pleasure machine was invented in 1734 and was powered by steam. But it wasn’t quite invented for pleasure. It was supposed to cure "hysteria,” a made-up medical condition used to describe a wide range of symptoms in women including anxiety, insomnia, fluid retention and generally being "difficult." Doctors believed if a female couldn’t release her semen (you read that right — they believed women had semen), it would build up and poison the bloodstream, causing this nonexistent ailment. Eventually, doctors got so tired of having to rub the genitals of women until they climaxed, they invented a device to do the work for them. And so, the first vibrator was born.

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These days the subject is not as taboo as it was in the Victoria era, and for good reason since the female orgasm, no matter how it's achieved, shouldn't be something we aren't allowed to talk about, and while hysteria really isn't a thing, everyone needs to climax.

One of many ways people can accomplish this is through a sex machine: a device that mimics the act of having sexual intercourse. While similar to a vibrator, it goes an extra step and typically includes an element of "riding" it (like you might a partner).

Although there have been plenty of attempts to make sex machines in the past (and present), here are three of the most popular types you can purchase today.

The Sybian

The Sybian ($1,245) is widely considered the elder states-person of modern sex machines. Its development began in the early 1980s, and the technology has improved ever since. It is easy to use and can stimulate you in a variety of ways. Customers swear it has enhanced their sex life and say it allows you to "customize your orgasm" to suit your needs or current mood and comes with different attachments. It's also known to hit all the important spots at once and "creates an intense bond" with you and your partner.

The beauty of this machine is two people can hop on and ride it at once while being close and feeling each other's skin and body heat while experiencing mind-blowing orgasms.

The MotorBunny

The MotorBunny is another popular option known for providing "personal pleasure” and designed to "create orgasms that are multi-layered."

It has 100 percent silicone attachments and an app so your partner can control it for you. The price is right ($899 compared to the $1,245 Sybian) and it's worth the investment. It also comes with special attachments, such as nipple clamps and restraints. My favorite feature is you get a Bluetooth controller, which allows you to control your MotorBunny from your device and stimulate your partner within 15 feet. Fantasies about cooking dinner while your lover is finishing up work from their home office all while getting you ready for a hot night of loving can become a reality — sign me up.

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The MotorBunny is not just for women, either. It comes with a "jiggle butt" for men, which offers a vibrational buzz and "full insertion capabilities."

The Cowgirl

The Cowgirl is the most recent addition to the sex machine family. This luxe model (it costs $1,995) was created by sex expert, Alicia Sinclair. It comes with vibrating patterns and 360-degree swivel rotation with low to high variable speeds. It’s made from vegan leather and has a slip-resistant base. It comes with two body-safe attachments and offers "the perfect amount of kink" and is sure to look hot with whatever decor you have going on in your bedroom if you care to leave it out on your dresser for easy access.

Should you buy a sex machine?

While they may be fun, it's important to note these machines aren't replacing anything; but what they can do is enhance your sexual experience with your partner or yourself.

And lastly, if you're going to use one, please make sure to read the instructions carefully — not only to ensure you're getting everything you can out of your sex machine, but also that you are using it safely. Enjoy the ride!

Jessica Biel & Justin Timberlake Open Up About Her Emergency C-section

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April is C-section Awareness Month, and Jessica Biel and Justin Timberlake are taking this opportunity to open up about how Biel's plans to have a completely natural birth took an unexpected turn. In Connie Simpson's new book The Nanny Connie Way: Secrets to Mastering the First Four Months of Parenthood, the couple shared they had their plans set down to the letter — until little Silas really shook things up.

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“Our birth plan was anything but normal," Biel and Timberlake told Simpson in an exclusive excerpt published by ET. "We had two midwives, one doula, one meditation birthing class, a ton of hippie baby books, and a lovely home in the Hollywood Hills that we had turned into a labor training facility that we called The Octagon.”

But Silas, who turns 3 this month, had other plans; Biel had to be rushed to the hospital for an emergency C-section. Long story short, the birth was not at all what Biel had envisioned, and she couldn't wait to return home.

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"[W]e arrived home exhausted, disillusioned, and totally in shock,” Biel told Simpson. “I was obsessed with everything organic, toxin-free, natural, and homeopathic for our kid, who came into this world in an operating room through an incision. I was a dictator, making myself and my husband insane!"

And the drama didn't end there: Silas' terrible twos also gave Biel a run for her money, although she's hoping for a slightly easier year when her son turns 3. Um, good luck with that.

During Biel's appearance on The Late Show with Stephen Colbert this past fall, Colbert — in true Colbert form — warned her that 3-year-olds can be even more of a challenge than 2-year-olds. (Thanks for the encouragement, Stephen.)

"I've heard so much about the ‘three-teens,'" Biel responded. "The 3-year-olds are called the ‘three-teens' because they're so insane that they're just like having tiny teenagers, which is way worse than having big teenagers, I think."

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We're wishing you luck, Jessica and Justin — because it's clear Silas loves to throw a good curveball.


Dwayne Johnson Has Chosen His Birth Doula: Jimmy Kimmel

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Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson and his girlfriend, Lauren Hashian, are expecting their second daughter on April 25 — and if she arrives early, the Jumanji: Welcome to the Jungle star might be out of the country promoting his new movie. But don't worry. Johnson has a backup plan, and frankly, it's the best one I've ever heard.

During an appearance on Jimmy Kimmel Live!, Johnson asked the late-night host for a minor favor. If he's abroad when Hashian goes into labor, he'd like Kimmel to be the doula.

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"I’m going to need a very good friend of mine. I’m going to need a doula that’s going to help me deliver and, well, it’s gotta be you," Johnson told Kimmel.

That sounds like a lot of pressure, but Kimmel assured his pal that he's up to the task. In fact, he said he'd love to be the doula and he's "more than happy to fill in" if the need arises. He'll even dress up as Johnson for the occasion. (Go big or go home, right?)

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Kimmel, who has two sons and two daughters of his own, has one caveat: He draws the line at cutting the umbilical cord. "It’s patronizing. To me, it’s like being the mayor and you’re cutting a ribbon,” he told Johnson. “I don’t want to screw up my kid’s belly button, that’s why."

Being a mayor and cutting a ribbon is, um, a very unique analogy, but sure — not wanting to screw up a child's belly button is a totally valid concern. You do you, Jimmy.

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Thanks to Kimmel, Johnson can rest easy that his daughter will be in good and hilarious hands if he can't make it to her birth. After all, what are friends for?

All the Fruits & Vegetables to Pick Up at the Farmers Market This Spring

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Spring is prime time to enjoy what Mother Nature gave us, starting with some of the freshest and most flavorful fruits and vegetables available for the season. If you have plans to spend a sunny springtime morning at a local farmers market (or are making a trip to the grocery store), you'll be glad you have this list in your back pocket. These in-season fruits and vegetables for spring are ripe for the picking, making for a delicious snack or an ultra-healthy meal.

One tip before you head out, though: With today's supermarkets boasting just about all produce items year-round, it can be challenging to know the seasonal patterns of fruits and vegetables. That's why we recommend frequenting your farmers market or using Sustainable Table's Seasonal Food Guide to search for produce in season in your state before you take a trip to the grocery store.

Here are some of our freshest springtime picks to get you started.

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Spring vegetables

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Spring fruits

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These spring produce lists are general recommendations. Where you live will determine the fruits and vegetables in season for you.

A version of this article was originally published in March 2016.

Top 11 Dog Breeds for Kids

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Bringing a new dog into your home is a big deal. Sure, it's exciting, but there are so many factors to consider — especially when you're bringing a dog into a home with kids. Sadly, more than 50 percent of dog bite victims are children, and 61 percent of these bites take place at home or in another familiar place. As scary as this sounds, many of these accidents can be prevented if you take the time to research the breed you are bringing into your home.

So, which dogs fare best in a houseful of kids? The American Kennel Club lists the "calm and courageous" bulldog as one of its top picks for children, and we've added 10 more of our family-friendly favorites to the list.

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11. Bulldog

bulldog in leaves

The bulldog has a sturdy build that is perfect for kids who like to roughhouse. Only between 12 and 16 inches in height and weighing about 50 pounds, the bulldog is comfortable living in large houses as well as apartments. However, he won't win any awards for most energetic dog. A docile, friendly and loyal dog, he gets along well with dogs and other pets too.

But their temperament with kids is all but famous. As intimidating as they look, they're friendly and gentle with kids and known for their guarding capabilities and courage.

Next: Boxer

A version of this article was originally published in January 2009.

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10. Boxer

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If the bulldog doesn’t strike your fancy, the boxer is another sturdy dog that can maintain its composure around kids. While boxers were originally bred as medium-size guard dogs, you’ll find them as an extra member of the family in many homes today. Along with its stout size, the boxer is known for its high energy — this playful pup needs lots of exercise and may keep your kids occupied for hours.

True to form, the boxer is described by the American Kennel Club as fun-loving, bright and active, making it the 10th-most popular dog breed of the AKC. When introducing a boxer to the family for the first time, plenty of supervision is required, though the breed is ultimately considered an ideal family dog.

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9. Beagle

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Originally kept as hunting dogs, beagles fit well in homes with active kids, as they are sturdily built and never too tired to play a game. Friendly, clever and cheerful — if properly socialized with non-canine animals — the beagle usually gets along with other pets too (except for a bit of chasing here and there). They do shed and require frequent brushing and bathing, however.

About 15 inches tall and around 22 pounds, they are great little apartment dogs, but they do need lots of exercise, so plan to take them on a brisk daily walk to make sure they live out their full 12 to 15 years of life. Always keep them on a lead or in the confines of a well-fenced yard, though. They really do follow their noses and may wander off on adventures.

While your beagle most likely won't have a bird named Woodstock as his best friend, you can by all means name him (or her) Snoopy.

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8. Bull terrier

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The bull terrier can get quite rambunctious and requires plenty of playtime. Therefore, he is a perfect dog for a large family. The bull terrier will return your affection by being very protective of your children for his average decadelong life expectancy.

Often mistaken for the larger pit bull, the bull terrier was bred to be a companion dog — friendly and loving toward grown-ups and kids alike. This well-framed dog also has a high threshold for pain, making him perfect for rambunctious children who are learning how to properly treat dogs.

The bull terrier comes in two sizes, which are standard (about 22 inches and anywhere between 40 and 85 pounds) and miniature (roughly half the size of the standard), so choose your size based on the size of your home. But note that even the little ones need plenty of exercise.

Next: Collie

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7. Collie

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This is the dog breed Lassie made famous. Collies are a very gentle and predictable breed, rarely biting their human family and easily trainable, perfect for families unfamiliar with dogs.

While this breed is typically mild-mannered (like Clark Kent!), it was originally bred as a herding dog, so he or she may try to herd your children. This might be amusing at first, but it's probably best to discourage the child-herding (no matter how handy you may think it could be). The collie's long hair means it requires regular grooming to keep its coat in tip-top shape. Collies get along great with children and love to please their owners and protect their families.

At about 25 inches tall and 60 pounds, the collie is a breed you may think inappropriate for apartment living, but as long as they do get exercise, they're pretty docile indoors. For a larger dog, they live a very long life of about 14 to 16 years.

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6. Newfoundland

Newfoundland puppy in forest

Nicknamed "nature's babysitter," the Newfoundland dog loves children and is very protective of them. Gentle, kind and patient, this breed is almost like the Mother Teresa of dogs. The Newfoundland is about 27 inches tall and weighs as much as 150 pounds, so he best suits a family with large, open spaces at home.

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And although the breed is known to drool and shed excessively, it is not considered a proper dog for the yard. This breed wants to be inside with his family. Wouldn't you? The Newfoundland is also a great swimmer and has been known to save lives in emergency situations. Both young and old will quickly fall in love with this wonderfully sweet large dog.

Next: Vizsla

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5. Vizsla

Vizsla puppy on dog bed

This may be a breed you haven't heard of before, but it's actually one of the best dog breeds for kids. The vizsla has a gentle disposition and manner and is loyal, affectionate and quiet, perfect for your little ones to play with.

Additionally, viszlas are obedient, confident and smart, forming close bonds with their family and able to learn new tricks quickly. Best of all, the vizslas have very little "doggy" smell about them.

Only a little shorter than the Newfoundland (around 23 inches) and weighing around 50 pounds, this is a breed you might be tempted to subject to apartment life, but that's not a good idea. They might be too rambunctious indoors and need at least an average-size backyard to play in. Make sure they're happy and healthy, and they can live up to 15 years.

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Next: Irish setter

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4. Irish setter

Irish setter dog sitting in park

Known for its red coat, the Irish setter is playful and energetic, loves being around people and plays well with children. This doggy needs lots of exercise and is a good match for energetic kids.

A smart and trainable companion, the Irish setter is perfect for people with lots of space but isn't what one would call a good apartment dweller. At 26 inches high and about 65 pounds, the breed may seem small enough for a large apartment, but I'd avoid it unless you're an avid daily jogger.

Next: Poodle

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3. Poodle

Black standard poodle sticking out tongue while resting on grassy field

Often given rather curious haircuts by their owners, the poodle is a very smart and gentle dog. They're also great for kids with allergies, as they shed very little; they do, however, require regular grooming.

This is a proud and elegant dog that is both caring and loyal. Seldom annoyed or bored, the poodle's friendly demeanor, good nature and patience make him an excellent playing partner for any child.

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Generally, the larger breeds are best for kids, but if you're vigilant about obedience training, smaller versions won't develop small-dog syndromes that often make them a danger to kids and adults alike. Sizes vary, but you can choose from among toy, miniature and standard.

Next: Labrador retriever

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2. Labrador retriever

Labrador retriever

This is one of the most popular dog breeds, and for good reason — it is protective, playful, loving, patient and reliable. The Lab's beauty is only matched by his sweet personality and intelligence. What does this mean for you? He's your perfect family pet.

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They live between 10 and 12 years, though they're prone to mass cell tumors, which can shorten life expectancy. They're also fairly large dogs — about 23 inches tall and 65 pounds, though some males can get as big as 100 pounds. They're not recommended for small apartments or houses with small yards, but with adequate exercise in a spacious apartment, they can adapt to apartment life.

Next: Golden retriever

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1. Golden retriever

Golden retriever

At an average of only 22 inches and a typical max weight of only 80 pounds, he's not quite as big as the Lab, but the golden retriever is a kind, smart, confident and loyal dog. Neither aggressive nor timid, the golden retriever is extremely patient, which is perfect for kids. While he does need a lot of exercise, his love of play makes this an easy thing to achieve.

They have the same life expectancy as the Lab, as well as similar health problems (mass cell tumors may limit their 10 to 12 years), and while they aren't considered large, smaller apartments probably aren't a great idea.

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So now that you know a thing or two about kid-friendly dogs, choosing one for your home and your family should be a little bit simpler. Remember, highly strung small dogs are usually not the best choice for children, though there are some to choose from if you have a small apartment. Also, keep in mind that mutts from the pound are a fantastic option, as they are often more docile and well-tempered.

Good luck finding the best dog for your family!

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What Not to Say to a Friend Who's Adopting

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Do you, like me, often end up with your foot in your mouth when a friend shares something important? Maybe the slow realization of how your words really sounded (by accident!) washes over you — and then the embarrassment rushes in. Regretting the insensitive things we said without thinking is a terrible feeling. And it’s one of the many reasons you should consider your words carefully when your friend announces something as deeply personal as the fact that they're planning to adopt a baby.

Adoption is a process that comes with a lot of myths, so it can be easy to find yourself asking questions or making unintentionally hurtful comments. To be supportive of those you care about (and to avoid that embarrassing foot-in-mouth feeling), here are some things you should never, ever say to a friend who is adopting.

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"How much will the baby cost?"

Believe it or not, this is a common question, and there are many things wrong with it — starting with the fact that what your friend may pay for her adoption is none of your business. But the deeper issue is that the question implies she is partaking in some form of illicit baby-buying. It’s true that adoption can be quite expensive, but the fees go to cover all the services (legal, social, medical and more) involved in the overall process. There is no "baby cost" in the equation.

"What if the mom takes her baby back?"

First, it is a good idea never to ask a question that implies a negative outcome to your friend's adoption process. Second, adoption is much more reliable and secure when you're using the proper adoption experts and channels — and there are numerous legal processes in place that prevent this particular outcome from occurring. And third, adoption involves both a biological mom and an adoptive mom, not just "the mom." Referring to the former as simply "the mom" discounts your friend’s role as a parent in her future baby’s life. Nevertheless, even though a post-placement adoption disruption is a highly unlikely event, your friend has probably lost a lot of sleep over the possibility. Don’t cause her more stress by playing into her fears. In the extremely unlikely event the placement does fall through, just be there to support her.

"Will you let your baby see his/her real parents?"

It's true that most adoptions are more open now than they've been the past. And there are numerous studies that show the many benefits of an open adoption — especially for the child. It’s fine to ask your friend, “Are you interested in having an open adoption?” The problem with the original question is its wording. By referring to the birth parents as the "real parents," where does that leave your friend? Will she be an imaginary parent? The best way to refer to the parties in an adoption are as the "biological" or "expectant" parents (prior to the adoption) and as the "biological/birth" parents and "adoptive" parents (after the adoption).

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"Now you will probably get pregnant!" or "Have you tried X to get pregnant?"

Questions about pregnancy are never OK to ask your friend who is adopting, especially if you know she struggled with infertility. It's a common old wives' tale that women will get pregnant after adopting — but there are no statistics that show this to be true. Likewise, your friend has probably heard the same advice 100 times. If getting pregnant was important to her, you can be sure she has already researched and tried every approach with which she was comfortable. However well meaning your advice, it puts your friend in a position to have to defend her decision to adopt. Additionally, these questions imply her ultimate goal should still be a biological child — which, by extension, means an adopted child is somehow “less than” what she should strive for. Regardless of what has brought her to this point, she is now focused on adopting and is excited about that journey. Simply support her without bringing up any infertility struggles.

"I know someone who tried to adopt, and this horrible thing happened to them."

Adoption is daunting enough when you first begin the process. Trust me: Your friend has a dozen horrifying “what if” thoughts running through her head with all the worst-case scenarios. There is no reason to add to her worries by dredging up all the horrible things you've ever heard about adoption. There are many factors that could have affected the outcome of any adoption story you’ve heard, and it’s highly unlikely you are privy to all of them. The process your friend is going through is likely more secure, especially if she is using reputable adoption professionals to guide her. If your concern is truly that she doesn’t have the same horrible thing happen to her that you once heard about, convey that message to her instead. She will likely be able to reassure you based on all the research she has done.

"I have always thought about adopting, but I want to have my own kids."

This question does two things that can hurt your friend. The first is trivializing the adoption process. It takes a lot of thought and soul-searching to begin the journey, not to mention time and money. Having a cavalier attitude about the process dismisses the gravity of her decision as well as the sacrifices she is likely making in order to be able to adopt. The second hurtful thing, of course, is the phrasing of “my own kids." Let's say it again: When you adopt, that child is your own. There is no difference in the depth of love that a parent has for a child from adoption and another from biology. Any language that shows a distinction there is insensitive at best.

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I’m certainly no example of always saying the right thing. In fact, my metaphorical foot spends a lot of time in my metaphorical mouth. But following the few simple guidelines above can help you avoid the same fate, so think before you speak. If your question or comment is rooted in concern for your friend, make sure that is clear to her. If you’re not sure of the right language to use, just say so. And if you think what you want to say may be insensitive, it probably is — so don’t say it. The most important thing is just to show your friend the same love and care you do when it comes to all other aspects of her life.

Your Hotel Minibar May Now Include CBD-Infused Gumdrops

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The legalization of pot on a state level is great for a lot of reasons, like preventing small-time drug arrests (and potentially reversing convictions in places like California), giving people who are sick access to medicine they need and having a good time and knowing with confidence that your stash isn’t laced. And now, there's another awesome development: Some hotels are starting to stock their minibars with CBD-infused products.

Standard Hotels, which has boutique hotels in California, New York and Florida, has created a partnership with LA-based cannabis company Lord Jones. As of April 10, the hotel will be carrying CBD-infused gumdrops and body lotion in each of their rooms.

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Admittedly, CBD is better known for its pain relief benefits than it is for getting high. Lord Jones says their pure CBD edibles are derived from hemp and promote a "calm sense of well-being" but have no psychoactive effects, which comes from products that include THC.

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Even still, CBD is still regulated in many states, and only states that have legalized marijuana carry products that include THC. We’re sorry to say you probably won’t soon see special brownies on your hotel pillow in the near future.

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It’s unclear how long the boon to marijuana business will last. U.S. Attorney General Jeff Sessions recently reversed an Obama-era directive that instructed federal prosecutors not to go after dispensaries in states where marijuana was legalized, leaving many businesses open to uncertainty.

In the meantime, book your rooms in a 420-friendly establishment, and enjoy the feel-good vibes while you can.

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