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Kendra Wilkinson Breaks Down About Her Marriage in Emotional Videos

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There have long been rumors about the state of Kendra Wilkinson's marriage to Hank Baskett — the two have been fairly open about their struggles to stay together for years. But after a quiet few years out of the reality TV spotlight, it looks like Wilkinson and Baskett are finally calling it quits — for good. In an emotional Instagram story video, Wilkinson revealed to fans that her marriage is effectively over.

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In a series of short, tear-filled videos, Wilkinson alluded to the end of her marriage, saying, "Ten years. I did everything I could. It wasn’t good enough. I will always love him. My heart will always remain open for him. I believed him forever. I really did. Guess it’s just not meant to be. I’m so scared. I have to get strong for my kids."

Kendra Wilkinson instagram story in tears revealing her divorce

Wilkinson also gave a shoutout to her friends and family "for supporting me at the moment," and added, "Every little ounce of love helps."

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A day later, Wilkinson seemed to further hint at the divorce on Twitter, writing, "Today will be the saddest, scariest day of my life. Today i will have to be the strongest I’ve ever been. Today, my rebirth begins."

Kendra Wilkinson reveals divorce in insta story 1

Kendra Wilkinson reveals divorce in insta story 1

This isn't the first time in recent days that Wilkinson has turned to social media to bare her soul. In the last week, she's used her Instagram stories to tell fans that she's been feeling exhausted, depressed and upset. Those video revelations came months after she revealed in interviews that she and Baskett were having marital troubles once again.

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While Wilkinson has been turning to social media for support, Baskett has not. His Instagram has been silent since November of 2017, and while his Twitter has remained active, he's only posted about work — nothing about his personal life.


Paraphimosis in Dogs: The Strange Penis Condition You Need to Know About

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I first realized my dog's medical issue had reached critical mass when I'd taken to getting him his own stash of K-Y Jelly.

The second sign was when my then 3-year-old pointed to the sign outside our veterinarian's office and — when asked if he knew what a vet was — said, "Yes, that's where they fix the dog penises."

Taz, my then 14-year-old min-pin, had a condition called paraphimosis — that is, when his penis was exposed from its sheath, it was unable to retract back into its foreskin. As a quick anatomy primer, the sheath, or the foreskin, covers the actual penis, or what some call the "lipstick."

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If you're thinking, "ouch," you're right.

Dr. Patrick Mahaney, founder of LA-based California Pet Acupuncture and Wellness, said that the condition, while uncommon, is more likely to occur in dogs prone to humping behavior.

But, ah, you may be thinking, my dog's neutered! Unfortunately, it doesn't matter.

"Even though he was neutered, he would still be producing testosterone," says Mahaney. In short, put your neutered dog in the same room as a female in heat and "he was going to try to get with her anyway."

Great.

So that's how I ended up with a drawer in our hall closet that was essentially Taz's healthy penis kit — latex gloves, the aforementioned lubricant, hydrocortisone cream and sugar. Yup, you heard me right, sugar. Hang on to that a sec.

Besides the obvious aesthetic issues, paraphimosis is usually considered a true medical emergency. The sheath, just like any other animal's foreskin, protects the sensitive penis. Left uncovered for too long, it can get dry, irritated and even swollen. In my dog's case, since we knew it was a known condition of his and I had my vet's OK, I would dab on a bit of lube and hydrocortisone and carefully push his penis back into its sheath. If it was too swollen to easily go back in, I would pack it in a bit of sugar, which actually keeps the swelling down. But if you notice your own dog's penis has been out for a while, it won't go in on its own or your dog is incessantly licking at it, take him to the vet right away. "The more he licks or claws down there, the more likely he is to induce trauma. I wouldn't wait until it's hanging like a lychee fruit," Mahaney says.

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That last line sums up what happened with Taz. We'd left for a two-week vacation, and when we picked him up from the dogsitter, it was terribly swollen. He had to go through a major surgery that took weeks of recovery time. Again, ouch. If the swelling had been treated right away, he would have been spared lots of pain — and ourselves hundreds of dollars.

Obviously, prevention is easier than treatment, says Mahaney, and one of the easiest ways to prevent paraphimosis is by keeping your pooch manscaped just a bit. My horrifying story aside, Mahaney stressed that the condition really is uncommon. But if you are at all concerned, give your vet a call. "Don't just try to manage it on your own. There could be precious time you're wasting," he said.

As for me, as much as I trust Dr. Mahaney (who wouldn't trust a guy with a dog as cute as his!), my five-year-experience with paraphimosis has taught me one thing: Next time I get a dog, it will be a girl.

A version of this article was originally published in November 2014.

4 Spring Crafts for Kids That Will Keep Them Entertained for Hours

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Easter and Passover have come and gone, but that doesn't mean kids spring-themed arts-and-crafts time needs to come to an end. Why not take some of the items you planned to toss post-spring-cleaning and repurpose them into imaginative crafts with your kids?

Do you have any old, used light bulbs lying around? Turn them into cute bumblebees. What about yarn that's been balled up in your closet for a year? Before you donate it, show your kids how to transform it into adorable butterflies.

There's no doubt these spring crafts will keep kids occupied for the better part of a just-starting-to-get-warm afternoon. And the best part is you can keep the resulting projects on display for the whole season — and for years to come.

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Light bulb bumblebee craft

Light bulb bumblebee craft

Supplies:

  • Light bulbs
  • Yellow paint
  • Paint brush
  • Black permanent marker
  • White pipe cleaners
  • Black construction paper
  • Googly eyes
  • Glue
  • Scissors

Directions:

  1. Paint the light bulb with the yellow paint. Let the paint dry completely, then apply a second coat of paint.
  2. Draw stripes on the light bulb with the black permanent marker, then color the metal part of the light bulb with the black permanent marker.
  3. Glue the googly eyes on the metal part of the light bulb.
  4. Cut a white pipe cleaner in half. Bring the ends of the pipe cleaner together to form the wings. Use a dab of glue to secure the wings in place.
  5. Cut two narrow strips of black construction paper approximately 2 inches long. Curl the ends of the strips to make the antennae, then glue the strips just above the eyes.
  6. Cut a piece of white pipe cleaner 3 inches long. Coil the pipe cleaner around a pencil or your finger, then glue it to the back of the light bulb to form the stinger.

Next: Yarn butterfly craft

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Yarn butterfly craft

Yarn butterfly craft

Supplies:

  • Popsicle sticks
  • Yarn
  • Glue
  • Scissors
  • Pipe cleaners
  • Beads
  • Googly eyes

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Directions:

  1. Glue two popsicle sticks together to form an "X" and let the glue dry completely.
  2. Beginning in the center, start wrapping the yarn around the popsicle sticks on both halves of the "X."
  3. Cut a pipe cleaner in half. Fold the half into a "V" and then curl the ends to form the antennae. Slide beads on to the end of the pipe cleaner.
  4. Take a second full-length pipe cleaner and wrap it around the center of the butterfly. Wrap the pipe cleaner around the antennae to hold it in place.
  5. Glue the end of the pipe cleaner to the back of the butterfly to secure it.
  6. Glue two googly eyes to the front of the butterfly.

Next: Mod Podge bird house craft

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Mod Podge bird house craft

Birdhouse craft

Supplies:

  • Wooden bird house
  • Colorful paper
  • Scissors
  • Mod Podge
  • Foam brush

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Directions:

  1. Cut the paper into 1-inch squares.
  2. Coat one side of the birdhouse with a thin layer of Mod Podge.
  3. Start applying the squares to the Mod Podge. You can overlap the squares, but be sure to paint a second coat of Mod Podge to give the top squares something to stick to.
  4. Keep applying squares to all sides of the bird house.
  5. Once you have applied all of the squares and the bird house is completely covered, apply a final coat of Mod Podge over the entire surface to seal it.

Next: Easy wind chime craft

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Easy wind chime craft

Wind chime craft

Supplies:

  • Paper or plastic cup
  • Hole punch
  • String
  • Cord or twine
  • Beads
  • Washers
  • Markers
  • Jewels, sequins or stickers

Directions:

  1. Use the hole punch to punch holes in the bottom of the cup.
  2. Cut one 6-inch piece of string for every hole. Thread a string through each hole, and tie the string to the cup.
  3. Thread some beads on to the string, then tie a metal washer to the end of the string.
  4. Decorate the sides of the cup with markers, jewels, sequins or stickers.
  5. Turn the cup upside down. Use scissors to cut an "X" in the bottom of the cup.
  6. Feed the cord through the "X" and tie a knot on the inside of the cup. Use the cord to hang the wind chime.
Spring crafts for kids

A version of this article was originally published in February 2013.

The Best Places to Buy Houseplants Online

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Although it may be technically spring, the weather doesn't always make it feel that way. Snowstorms, rainstorms, tree branches that are too nervous to put out new leaves, a heavy feeling that winter may never end. It can be hard to believe summer is just a couple of months away.

If you're sick of the gloom, we've got an answer for you: Get more houseplants. Houseplants have several benefits, from making a room look brighter and more inviting to boosting moods and cleaning the air. And you don't even have to leave the comfort of your home to do it. Buying plants online is easy, especially if you know where to do it.

We found the best places to order plants online, no matter what you're looking for.

Pothos plant

For when you’re new to plants

There’s no shame in being new to the houseplant game, but to save yourself the grief of a wilted new friend, we recommend starting with beginner plants. The Sill, which is one of the best-designed websites for plants, has a whole section dedicated to plants that are easy for beginners to keep alive, and they have gorgeous pots to keep them in to boot. We speak from experience: Get yourself at least one pothos plant.

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Mammillaria gracilis plant

For succulents & cacti

Succulents and cacti are often hardier plants, which means you could pretty reliably order even from places like Amazon. But we recommend looking at Etsy, which has several smaller sellers with gorgeous succulents. For example, we love Panicle and Frond, which sells everything from Graptosedum to Mammillaria gracilis, most for under $10.

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For air-cleaning plants

If one of your main goals for adding more houseplants is to clean the air, Garden Goods Direct has a section of plants entirely dedicated to that. Spider plants, Dracaena, ficus and Boston ferns are all popular plants known for their air-purifying abilities, and if you spend more than $99, you’ll get free shipping.

Lavender flowering plant

For flowering plants

Want a flower garden but lack the outdoor space? White Flower Farm sells several types of indoor flowering plants, from lavender to Cape primrose to jasmine. They’ll also help you figure out what zone you’re in so your plants have a better chance of surviving when they arrive.

Ficus Lyrata plant

For large statement plants

Want a gorgeous treelike houseplant? Plantz is the place to go. Whether you want a palm or a ficus or a white bird of paradise, Plantz has several size options so you can choose the best one for your space.

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For moss

If you’re building a terrarium or adding a statement to your kitchen window box, Moss Acres has all kinds of moss for you to choose from for the perfect look. Until May, they have a moss sampler available so you can try out several different types.

Staghorn fern

For hard-to-find plants

Are you well beyond beginner stages and looking for hard-to-find houseplants? Pistils Nursery, based in Portland, has a whole section of specimen plants that could be just what you’re looking for. Jewel orchids, staghorn ferns and the funky Swiss cheese plant are all among their offerings.

Cat approaching several plants

For when you just can’t get enough of new plants

If you don’t care so much about the type of plant you’re getting and just want new plants all the time, consider a plant subscription box. My Garden Box offers plants and gardening tools, The Desert Box focuses on succulents and cacti, and Horti has options that are totally pet-friendly.

Don't Like Jesse Williams' Politics? He Doesn't Care

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Jesse Williams knows that politics doesn't need to be a popularity contest so long as you're able to get the message out and get the good work done. His brand of can-do has helped him raise his visibility as an activist for various philanthropic and social causes, primarily those that benefit black Americans, in the last handful of years. He's worked alongside other game activists for causes like #JusticeForFlint, sitting on the board of the Advancement Project and wholeheartedly reaffirming that yes, black lives do matter at the 2016 BET Awards.

It's also what led him to his current role as one of the co-producers, alongside longtime friend John Legend, of a documentary about Olympian Tommie Smith. Even if you may not remember Smith's name, you'll likely remember the evergreen image of him on the awards podium at the 1968 Olympics, on hand raised in a fist with his head bowed. Smith as documentary subject seems to be a perfect fit for the interests of Williams and this doc was among the many things he spoke about in a recent, lengthy interview done with Legend for The Atlantic.

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One of the most interesting nuggets from Williams' portion of the joint Atlantic interview relates back to his political views and the ways they relate to and potentially affect how he is viewed as an actor. Williams doesn't seem too scared about the level of his star power or the amount of fame and fortune he gains from his acting career as it relates back to his political career.

"Life is hard enough [without] complicating it by trying to contort yourself into other shapes for other people," Williams replied when asked if he was ever worried people would reject his art because of his politics. "If I was to be fearful, what would I be fearful of? Losing followers on a social-media platform?" In short, Williams doesn't care if you like his politics or the way in which he fights for social change. All he cares about is that he is actually fighting for it.

The Atlantic Jesse Williams Art Activism Video

The Atlantic Jesse Williams Art Activism Video

In fact, in would seem that his fighting spirit has been instilled in him from the get-go. In the above video clip from his Atlantic interview, Williams cites fellow powerful black artists and activists — Bob Marley, Fela Kuti, James Brown, Nina Simon — as role models that have served, to him, as folks who have made moves worth replicating. "They really helped me appreciate the value of [and] the dependence that we have on artists and storytellers as our broadcasters," Williams explains, "as those who dictate what is reality [and] what has value and our place in the world."

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And when it comes to the art that he wants to make that is so politically-minded, as is the case with the Smith documentary, Williams was able to explain how he'd like to merge the two when going forth with a project.

"When I think about trying to act and move and create responsibly, not in a reckless manner, I don’t ever view it as a burden," Williams tells The Atlantic. "I’m here because I saw value in being able to possibly move narratives in and around black life. It’s how [John and I] choose the projects that we choose. It’s how we’ve actually come to know each other because we’re both looking to make work that is meaningful."

He continued, "Artists in many ways are a barometer for where people’s consciousness is. You can’t divorce the role of artists from the role of actual activists and organizers. We are inspired by the people that are doing the real work in the streets. We’re just reflections of them on our best day."

Jesse Williams Female Prisoners Instagram Vid

Jesse Williams Female Prisoners Instagram Vid

Williams' tenacity is palpable, don't you think? That gusto and clarity of vision which seems to come through the screen as you read his words feels infectious in a good way; it's almost as if he was born to be both an actor and an activist. Then again, it's hardly surprising that he would be so good at getting you to stop and listen, as he did in a video posted to his Instagram from early February wherein he spoke to his followers about the sexual harassment and assault female prisoners face while incarcerated. Williams implored those same followers to find some sympathy within them and contribute to the Dignity Campaign.

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Williams exhibits a quality in this video what many actors who turn to political activism frequently exhibit: the ability to positively weaponize pathos, to encourage their followers and anyone who will listen to see the humanity at the core of the issue they are speaking on. It is no accident that Williams and those like him do this so well because he is used to using pathos to bring to life the powerful scripts he's handed for each episode of Grey's Anatomy he's in, for every movie he's a part of, for every TV show he appears on. He's used to reaching out to humanity through his art, which means he knows that he can do it successfully in his activism and that, at the end of the day, makes him the kind of voice we need right now, fighting for those who cannot speak for themselves.

So yeah, who cares if he loses some followers or endures the cruel troll-like tweets of various naysayers. To Williams, a man with pure intentions who is fighting for what he believes in, they are the flimsiest of sticks and stones.

Reasons You’re Not Regular (& How to Fix It)

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If you're a regular pooper, then you probably never think about how vital the process is to your state of health. But once the well seems to dry up and your bathroom habits aren't quite what they should be, you realize how truly miserable you can be and the importance of being regular. Here's why you may not be going on the regular and what you can do about it if you're constipated.

What is constipation, anyway?

Constipation is defined, generally, as pooping less often than you normally do, and the poop you do expel is firmer than it normally is. There are clear diagnostic criteria a doctor will use to diagnose constipation, however, as we learned from Dr. Samantha Nazareth, NYC board-certified gastroenterologist.

These criteria include:

  • Straining at least 25 percent of the time while you're pooping
  • Lumpy or hard stools at least 25 percent of the time
  • Sensation of incomplete evacuation at least 25 percent of the time
  • Sensation of some sort of blockage at least 25 percent of the time
  • Need to help yourself poop at least 25 percent of the time (this means using your fingers to extract poop or needing to push on your abdomen or pelvic floor)
  • Fewer than three defecations per week

For a diagnosis of chronic constipation, at least two of these criteria should be met (and should last for three months). However, if you only experience these symptoms on occasion, it's still possible to be temporarily constipated — and still quite miserable.

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What causes constipation?

Like many human ailments, constipation has more than one possible cause. In the U.S., our diets may be a strong culprit if we're not exactly regular. "Fiber is a big one," says Nazareth. "The American Heart Association recommends 25 grams a day for a 2,000-calorie diet. Americans are only getting around 15 grams."

Another big reason is the use of certain medications, including narcotic pain relief. If you've had surgery and came home with a prescription for narcotics, you know that a few days later, you probably have a hard time pooping, and it's no fun. Medical conditions can also lead to constipation. "Conditions such as hypothyroidism or pelvic floor dysfunction can cause constipation, as well as obstruction in the colon, such as colon cancer," Nazareth explains.

According to Dr. Arielle Levitan, cofounder of Vous Vitamin LLC, supplementation is another area where people unintentionally constipate themselves. She notes that some supplements can contribute to constipation, particularly calcium and iron supplements.

How can you prevent (& fix) constipation?

Eat more fiber. Good sources of high-fiber foods are beans, veggies, fruits, whole-grain cereals and bran. Start slow, Nazareth warns, as pumping too much fiber in can result in bloating or excess gas.

Eat fewer processed foods. If you fill up on low-fiber foods, you won't be as interested in eating the high-fiber picks listed above because you'll be full.

Drink more water. While there is no rock-solid recommendation for every human on the planet (there are tons of variables including climate and activity levels), shoot for around eight or more 8-ounces glasses of water a day, although experts recommend drinking to thirst may be adequate for your actual needs.

Don't hold it in. If you have to poop, head to the bathroom.

Stay active. Regular exercise can keep everything moving.

Look into supplements. While Levitan says some supplements can negatively impact constipation, others can actually help. "Fiber supplements, omega-3s, magnesium and probiotics are all useful," she explains. And when choosing a calcium supplement, try to find one that includes magnesium to help balance it out. Also, iron in most forms can cause constipation, but iron as carbonyl is least likely to do so.

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Consider laxatives. Many laxatives are available over the counter and use different mechanisms to get you going again. It's important not to rely on them, however, instead using them for a short period of time to get yourself going again while changing your lifestyle and diet to improve your bowel function at the same time.

When to seek help

If you have constipation that isn't relieved no matter what steps you take at home, it's not only a good idea to visit a doctor, but imperative you do so. Untreated ongoing constipation can result in hemorrhoids, fissures, impaction or even rectal prolapse. There are also certain symptoms that cannot be ignored, such as abdominal pain, blood in the stool or unexplained weight loss.

However, simple occasional constipation can often be fixed at home, so look into the above tips to keep your bowels regular and your tummy happy.

Netflix Is Releasing 12 Films in April, but These Are the Ones to Watch

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Firing up Netflix each month is like opening a bag of goodies: There are always lots of new movies to treat yourself to and it feels like each one is even better and more enjoyable than the last one. That feeling looks like it's set to continue in April, when Netflix is bringing to its platform a bunch of familiar titles you've either seen in theaters or on television along with our favorite part, the Netflix originals.

Netflix is really kicking butt with its seemingly never-ending list of original movies, documentaries and TV shows. Some are purely fictional, like the gritty family drama 6 Balloons, and some are documentaries, like Mercury 13 about the NASA program to train female astronauts that was ended when the women outperformed the men. When we say there's a lot of great original material coming to Netflix in April, we really mean it, you guys.

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That said, here are our top picks for streaming on Netflix this April.

April 6

6 Balloons

With all the action taking place over one night, Katie (Abbi Jacobson) drives her heroin-addict brother Seth (Dave Franco) and his 2-year-old daughter around the city looking for a rehab center for him to get off drugs.

6 Balloons

6 Balloons

Amateur

When a rising basketball star, Terron (Michael Rainey Jr.), is plucked out of eighth grade by a recruiter (Josh Charles) to play basketball for an elite college, he faces the pressures of trying to make it into the pros.

Amateur

Amateur

Orbiter 9

Helena (Clara Lago) has spent nearly her entire life alone on spaceship. Sparks fly, however, when she meets a handsome engineer (Álex González), who turns her universe upside down.

Orbiter 9

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Ram Dass, Going Home

For decades, this beloved spiritual teacher has helped others contemplate death and dying in unconventional and uplifting ways. Now, Dass is in his last years after suffering a life-changing stroke and coming to terms with his own death. This film takes a look at how Dass has deepened his spiritual practice at his home in Maui while staying positive and finding the beauty that exists in each and every moment.

Ram Das, Going Home

Ram Das, Going Home

April 20

Kodachrome

Matt (Jason Sudeikis) reunites with his estranged dad (Ed Harris) to develop his final rolls of Kodachrome film at the very last Kodachrome lab before it shutters. Elizabeth Olsen also stars.

Kodachrome

Kodachrome

Mercury 13

This documentary tells the true story of the 13 women who trained in 1961 to be astronauts. When it turned out the women were performing better than the men on their tests, NASA ended the women's program and deemed only men could go into space.

Mercury 13

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April 25

Psychokinesis

Psychokinesis is the term for the ability to move objects with your mind. This film from South Korea is about a man who discovers he has these crazy powers and must use them to save his vulnerable daughter when he learns her life is at stake.

Psychokinesis

Psychokinesis

April 27

Candy Jar

Candy Jar

Christina Hendricks and Helen Hunt star in this film about a high school debate team that turns into a showdown for two students. One is a shy girl from the wrong side of the tracks and the other from an upper-class background. As the state championship looms, the two must learn to put their differences aside and work together.

The Week Of

Starring Adam Sandler, Rachel Dratch and Chris Rock, this comedy is about a working-class dad (Sandler) who struggles to give his daughter the wedding of her dreams while constantly getting undermined by the rich father of the groom (Rock). Anything that can go wrong does in the week before the actual nuptials.

The Week Of

The Week Of

The Rachel Divide

Rachel Dolezal sparked a fierce debate about race and identity politics when she said she identified as African-American despite being Caucasian. This documentary goes deep into the debate, trying to answer the question of what it really means to be black (or white) in America in 2018.

The Rachel Divide

The Rachel Divide

Bobby Kennedy for President

Using archival footage that's been digitized for the very first time, this four-part documentary series tells the inspiring and heartbreaking story of Robert F. Kennedy as he worked to be the next president of the United States before being assassinated. This series also includes new interviews with those close to Kennedy, including William Vanden Heuvel, Dolores Huerta, Rep. John Lewis, Harry Belafonte and Paul Schrade.

Bobby Kennedy for President

Make sure to keep some room clean in your queue for these exciting titles.

Channing Tatum & Jenna Dewan Announce Split With the Sweetest Statement Ever

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Where were you when you heard Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan broke up? This was one celebrity split that absolutely rocked the world, and nobody saw it coming. I was walking the dog when the news hit the group chat I share with my three besties. I read the text, and then I stopped walking and said out loud, "No way." It didn't seem like it could be real. This is one couple we were sure would last forever. Is love even alive anymore?

Tatum and Dewan announced their split in a joint statement given to People magazine and posted to their social media accounts on the evening of Monday, April 2.

"We have lovingly chosen to separate as a couple," they wrote. "There are no secrets nor salacious events at the root of our decision — just two best-friends realizing it’s time to take some space and help each other live the most joyous, fulfilled lives as possible."

Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan split

Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan split

Now we're left wondering if there were any clues that could have helped us see this bombshell coming. In the weeks leading up to the announcement, Dewan posted a couple of cryptic quotes by the poet Rumi, which seemed to indicate she was savoring her marriage before it ended.

Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan split 2

Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan split 2

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Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan split 3

But as much as we want to find something, anything that helps this make sense, the clues just may not be there. Dewan posted those two messages to her Instagram long after things with Tatum were over according to a source who told People Tatum secretly moved out of their family home months ago.

"This has been a long time coming," the insider said. "Like any marriage, they’ve had their ups and downs over the years but they really started to grow apart within the last year."

And up until just hours before they made their announcement, Dewan was seen out and wearing her wedding ring. She attended a Monday morning yoga class in Studio City, where paparazzi snapped her with her silver band on full display. She and Tatum would jointly announce their separation later that night.

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Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan split 4

And just last week, when he took the stage at the Kids Choice Awards with Dewan and their daughter Everly in the audience, Tatum was wearing his ring even though sources say they split long before that night.

So basically, what it looks like is these two kept this information on lockdown until they were ready to announce it. That's great for them and the privacy of their family, but fans are feeling understandably blindsided by the news that one of the most seemingly solid couples in Hollywood is calling it quits.

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Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan split 5

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Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan split 6

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Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan split 7

At least we do still have Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds. And Emily Blunt and John Krasinski. And Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard. For now, there's still hope for love.


Dunkin’ Donuts Is Giving Away Free Coffee — Here's When & How to Get It

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There are two kinds of people in the world: Those who drink iced coffees year-round and those who, well, don't. And for those of us who fall in the former category, Dunkin' Donuts is about to make your week.

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Dunkin' Donuts is hosting a nationwide tasting event taking place on Friday, April 6 from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Show up, and you'll receive a complimentary sample (a 3.5-ounce cup) of Dunkin' Donuts' very own cold brew, which is prepared by steeping a special blend of coffee for 12 hours.

According to Dunkin' Donuts' press release, "this longer process extracts a uniquely distinctive, inherently sweeter flavor from the beans reminiscent of dark chocolate."

Sounds like any other cold brew, but, hey, we aren't complaining. #TeamColdBrew4Lyfe.

In true Dunkin' Donuts fashion, you'll need a doughnut to pair with your coffee. The coffee-and-breakfast chain is also debuting its Caramel Chocoholic Donut — because clearly, you need more chocolate to pair with your dark chocolate-noted cold brew.

Dunkin' Donuts Caramel Chocoholic Donuts

As you can see, the doughnut is frosted with caramel icing, sprinkled with semisweet chocolate curls and topped off with a drizzle of caramel icing. You don't have to wait to pick up this decadent dessert (or breakfast for the bold); the doughnut is available now at participating Dunkin' Donuts.

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This cold brew and Caramel Chocoholic Donut aren't the only new additions to the menu.

Earlier this year, Dunkin' Donuts also released three new Girl Scout Cookie-flavored drinks: Thin Mint, peanut butter cookie and coconut-caramel — which you can get hot or iced or as a latte, macchiato, frozen coffee or frozen chocolate. (Because they know we can't say no to Girl Scout Cookies.) The drinks are only available through May of this year, so you'd better take advantage while you can.

Also still available on the menu is its Brown Sugar Chipotle Bacon Breakfast Sandwich and the Spring Fling Donut complete with purple-colored icing and flower sprinkles.

See you at Dunkin’ Donuts this Friday.

Jennifer Garner Is Mourning the Loss of Her Favorite Pet Chicken on Instagram

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This week is just a bad week on social media. First, Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan announced their breakup. And now, Jennifer Garner is mourning the death of her favorite chicken. Excuse me while I just stay offline for the rest of forever because I cannot handle any more bad news.

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Garner also took to Instagram to share a video tribute to Regina George, her favorite hen, who she says died from "natural causes."

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Jennifer Garner mourning her fav chicken's death 1

"#shewasourfavorite #RIP #shelivedagoodlife," Garner wrote, along with emojis of a chicken and a broken heart.

The video featured several shots and clips of Regina George in her bright blue harness and leash, which is how she became a social media celebrity in the first place. Months ago, Garner introduced the world to Regina George with a photo of her out on a walk in the neighborhood. Regina George was perfectly happy to be taken for a walk on her leash, which is kind of weird for a chicken. The bond between these two was so strong.

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Jennifer Garner mourning her fav chicken's death 2

"If there isn't a Chicken Lady Day, there really should be. Man, my life gets more exciting all the time," Garner wrote at the time. "Meet one of our ladies, Regina George. Regina loves long walks, dehydrated bugs, and kale. Regina hates....carbs."

Luckily for all of us who obsessively follow celebrity pets on Instagram, Garner's puppy, Birdie, appears to be alive and well.

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Jennifer Garner reads a book to her puppy birdie insta

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The real tragedy now is that we'll never see a video of Birdie and Regina George walking side-by-side on their leashes. The world needed that. OK, BRB, going to hug every pet I've ever met now.

Pasta as a Weight-Loss Food? Don't Get Too Excited

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Pasta is known for being a lot of things: comforting, delicious, starchy, perfect — but a food that promotes weight loss? Not so much. Ever since going low-carb has been a thing, poor pasta has been characterized as one of the most problematic carbohydrates out there, but a new study found that the beloved starch might have been unfairly maligned.

The research — published in the journal BMJ Open and conducted by scientists at St. Michael's Hospital in Toronto — indicates that pasta has a low glycemic index unlike most refined carbohydrates. This means eating it causes smaller increases in blood sugar than other foods with a higher GI — like white bread, for example.

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To conduct the study, researchers did a meta-analysis of all the results from randomized control trials (i.e., the best, most scientifically sound ones) and identified nearly 2,500 people who ate pasta instead of other carbs as part of their otherwise healthy, low-GI diet.

"The study found that pasta didn't contribute to weight gain or increase in body fat," said lead author Dr. John Sievenpiper, a clinician scientist with the hospital's Clinical Nutrition and Risk Modification Centre said in a press release. "In fact analysis actually showed a small weight loss. So contrary to concerns, perhaps pasta can be part of a healthy diet such as a low GI diet."

But before taking up permanent residence at Olive Garden, these findings, of course, come with a few caveats.

First of all, it should go without saying that this isn't carte blanche to eat mountains of pasta in the name of good health or weight loss. (Sadly, we are not living in my wildest dreams.) Like all things, pasta should be eaten in moderation.

In this study, that meant 3.3 servings of pasta a week instead of other high-GI carbs. One serving is one-half cup of cooked pasta — so we're talking a total of less than two cups of (cooked) pasta for the entire week. That's not a lot. But do you know what's worse than not a lot of pasta? No pasta at all, so I'll take it.

And alongside the less than two cups of cooked pasta per week, the rest of the time, the people in the study were on an otherwise healthy diet. So, yes, they did lose weight, but they were already eating well and subbed pasta in for a higher-GI food they were going to eat otherwise.

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Lastly, when looking at new research, it's always important to pay attention to where the funding for the study came from. In this case, in addition to existing grants, the pasta used in the randomized control trials as well as travel support for researchers came from Barilla. Yes, the Italian pasta-making company.

In other words, it's best to take these study results the same way you prepare water for cooking pasta: with a giant pinch of salt.

Best Movies About the Kennedys

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No family in recent times has captured the heart of the American public like the Kennedys. Even if you weren’t alive during their political reign, you know the stories of success and tragedy: the rise of John F. Kennedy to become America’s youngest (and arguably most beloved) president, the Cuban missile crisis, the moon landing, the assassinations of JFK and Robert Kennedy, the plane crash that killed JFK Jr. and his wife, Carolyn Bessette. And those are just highlights. This picture-perfect family has long been haunted by what is colloquially called the Kennedy curse.

And now, a new movie arrives in theaters on Friday that's focused on one of the most mysterious incidents in the family’s history: Chappaquiddick. The tragedy involved a young woman, Mary Jo Kopechne, who was killed when the car she was riding in, driven by Ted Kennedy, crashed through a bridge railing and landed in a river. Ted survived. Even though the incident happened almost 50 years ago, some people still want to know why Kopechne, who was single, was in the car in the first place with Ted, a married senator. Speculation has floated around that the accident was staged to cover up an affair.

Chappaquiddick trailer

Chappaquiddick trailer

Chappaquiddick, starring Jason Clarke and Kate Mara, provides one viewpoint on that night. The film then presses on, portraying the political scrambling to preserve Ted's reputation and avoid what would have been considered scandalous accusations at the time. The lives and work of this close-knit family were inextricably linked, so before you see Chappaquiddick, you may want to sharpen up your Kennedy knowledge. It’s easy — as far as Hollywood is concerned, they’re one of the best subjects. Here are a few films and TV shows that will give you a glimpse behind the curtains of Camelot.

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JFK

An investigation convened after the death of JFK — the Warren Commission — found that the assassin acted alone and there was no conspiracy. Many people believe those results themselves are a cover-up and that the public still hasn’t been told the whole story. Director Oliver Stone is one of those people, and this movie is his take on the events. The story centers on New Orleans District Attorney Jim Garrison (who wrote one of the books that inspired Stone) and a case he filed alleging that there was a partner in the murder. JFK was picked apart by the media even when it was just a script, but the completed project is masterfully done and a joy to watch.

JFK trailer

JFK trailer

Jackie

This film turns the spotlight to the beloved first lady and takes viewers through the days following the assassination, as Jackie balanced her public responsibilities with protecting and helping her children alongside dealing with her own grief. Though it was slow at the box office, the movie received rave reviews, particularly for Natalie Portman’s restrained portrayal of the widow.

Jackie trailer

Jackie trailer

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Grey Gardens

Edith Ewing Bouvier and Edith Bouvier Beale were mother and daughter and the aunt and cousin of Jackie Kennedy. For most of their lives, they lived in high society among the wealthy and politically influential. In Bouvier’s later years, however, she withdrew to her Hamptons estate, Grey Gardens, and persuaded her daughter to come live with her. The two grew increasingly eccentric and allowed the house to fall into disrepair, essentially living in squalor. Drew Barrymore and Jessica Lange portray the pair beautifully, showing their love, pain and joie de vivre despite their circumstances.

Grey Gardens trailer

Grey Gardens trailer

The Kennedys

This eight-episode miniseries is one of the most comprehensive looks at the large family, beginning with Joseph Kennedy’s post as a U.S. ambassador through grooming his sons for political leadership and on to the years marked by tragedy. Controversial and accused of historical inaccuracies, the series includes allegations of mafia ties, affairs and drug use.

The Kennedys trailer

The Kennedys trailer

Thirteen Days

One of the best movies focused on the Kennedy presidency showcases the tension and danger of the 1962 Cuban missile crisis, the first real nuclear threat to America. Kevin Coster stars as a political consultant with Bruce Greenwood as JFK and Steven Culp as Robert Kennedy, who was then attorney general. It’s a thrilling look inside a national crisis as well the intimately supportive relationship between two brothers.

Thirteen Days trailer

Thirteen Days trailer

Bobby Kennedy for President

This Netflix docuseries doesn’t release until April 27, but it promises to be a fascinating look at the promise that was never fulfilled. After the assassination of JFK, the country rallied to the idea of another Kennedy in the White House. Bobby’s campaign, which ended with his assassination, took place 50 years ago, and this series chronicles his work as a senator, attorney general and civil rights leader.

Bobby Kennedy for President trailer

Bobby Kennedy for President trailer

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Parkland

This historical drama takes the events of JFK’s assassination and puts the focus on the people surrounding him. Parkland Hospital was where the action moved as soon as the shooting occurred. It became the staging ground for police, doctors and staff, who were suddenly under the most intense scrutiny of their lives.

Parkland trailer

Parkland trailer

Chip Gaines Reveals How He Won Joanna's Heart All Those Years Ago

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Anyone who's a fan of Chip and Joanna Gaines knows that just about everything in their lives shares a common theme. Their Magnolia brand extends to almost all of their ventures: their construction company, Magnolia Homes; their magazine, The Magnolia Journal; their store and garden, Magnolia Market; their restaurant, Magnolia Table; and more. There's definitely a common theme in the enterprises these two have founded.

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Chip and Joanna Gaines Magnolia stuff 1

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We've never known exactly where the Magnolia brand came from. But in the final episodes of Fixer Upper, we're going to find out.

The final episode is set to air tonight, and as a special treat to fans, the Gaineses have been doing sort of an extended final season, peppering the show with behind-the-scenes filming and interviews with their family. In a sneak peek of the series finale, Chip is shown telling the couple's four kids — 12-year-old Drake, 11-year-old Ella, 9-year-old Duke, and 7-year-old Emme — the story behind the family company's name.

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Chip Gaines explains magnolia meaning to kids 1

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"You know what’s interesting about a magnolia tree?" he says. "One of mama and I’s first dates, I climbed up a magnolia tree and I pulled her off a magnolia bloom and I gave it to her."

OK, how sweet is that? We knew this family loved magnolia trees, but we didn't know they were that significant.

"We love magnolia trees. It really embodies our company. It’s basically become our mascot," Chip continues in the clip. "So every project we do, we love to plant a magnolia gem."

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Fans of Fixer Upper are a little heartbroken now that the beloved series is coming to an end, but this is clearly far from the last we'll see of the Gaineses. They're stepping back from just that one part of their empire because they want to spend more low-key time as a family.

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Chip and Joanna Gaines Magnolia stuff 2

"We've kind of all grown together. With the audience, they've come alongside with us. On the other side, there's so much encouragement," Joanna said during an appearance on Today soon after the announcement was made that this season of Fixer Upper would be the last. "Even though it was sad, they get it. We have this young growing family, and I just think that was one of the biggest reasons why we wanted to end the show."

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Chip and Joanna Gaines Magnolia stuff 3

But their Magnolia companies are still thriving. Anyone who needs their Gaines fix just needs to check out their magazine or website or Instagram.

How Much Is Too Much When It Comes to Sharing Your Kids' Lives on Social Media?

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According to the Child Rescue Coalition, the average parent will post more than 1,500 photos of their child before the child turns 5. And we completely understand why. After all, kids are irresistibly cute, especially (ahem) when they happen to be yours, right? The digital age allows us to keep far-flung family and friends apprised of our little ones' milestones — putting up with bath time, potty successes, first day at the beach — and eliminates having to print and mail photos to whiny grandparents. So, what's the harm in posting a few Instagram or Facebook photos of your toddler from time to time?

Well, as it turns out, there might just be more risk to our kids than we realize. As part of National Child Abuse Prevention Month, the Child Rescue Coalition — a nonprofit organization that enables law enforcement to hunt, arrest and prosecute child predators — has just launched a powerful campaign to educate parents about the very real risks of "sharenting," aka overexposing our kids on social media.

CRC Kids For Privacy

CRC is urging parents to reconsider their children's privacy online with the @KidsForPrivacy movement. The campaign will take more than 100 frequently used hashtags that overexpose children on Instagram (hashtags like #NakedKids, #KidsBathing and #PottyTraining) and replace them with photos of kids holding "Privacy Please" signs (over their faces, don't worry!). The CRC wants parents to know that hashtags like these can lead predators straight to naked or semi-naked photos of their kids.

Check out the CRC's sobering video about the dangers of too much kid-sharing online. The initiative is narrated poignantly by a child and tackles the issue of privacy from their point of view.

CRC Privacy Please

CRC Privacy Please

Though many parents see the occasional cute potty pic as harmless (and a definite like-getter), the sad fact is the internet has become a showcase for a ton of previously private family moments. Social media means users are garnering bigger audiences than they necessarily intended — making our kids' most personal moments extremely vulnerable to potential offenders.

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Obviously, the decision to share or not to share family moments (and which moments to share) is highly personal choices for parents and not to be made lightly. The CRC is encouraging parents to consider more carefully what they're posting online, and then join the @KidsForPrivacy movement by making "Privacy Please" signs and posting them as part of a hashtag takeover on Instagram. The @KidsForPrivacy campaign will run through April 27.

This initiative isn't meant to shame anyone — only to teach and empower families. Carly Yoost, founder and CEO of Child Rescue Coalition, is well aware that the vast majority of parents mean absolutely zero harm in posting pics of their kids — which is why she hopes to educate the public about a disturbing, dangerous use of the internet that most families would far prefer not to think about.

"We know that this can be a sensitive issue for parents," Yoost told SheKnows. "Our campaign is not meant to shame or guilt parents into not sharing precious moments of their family. We are only trying to educate all parents to be mindful of what they post about their child."

Yoost said the sheer number of sexual predators online is staggering. "Unfortunately, many people do not know how prevalent sexual predators are in our community. At Child Rescue Coalition, we have tracked over 50 million computers in possession of illegal child abuse material," she says. "Our technology has led to the arrest of people we thought were safe: teachers, coaches, Boy Scout leaders and doctors just to name a few. Even if a parent has privacy settings turned on, it is still very possible someone they have trusted or are virtual friends could be interested in children sexually. When you share a picture of your child that may seem innocent to a normal person, unfortunately it might be viewed by a predator in a very different light."

“The potential harm in oversharing private moments far outweighs the benefits, as social media is now a digital playground for dangerous pedophiles to steal and turn innocent photos of children into exploitative content with irreversible and lasting damage,” said Yoost in an earlier statement. “The goal of this campaign is to raise awareness about the importance of protecting children and their privacy in the age of social media as we are finding that online predators are getting more aggressive in their pursuit of these images.”

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@KidsForPrivacy is the CRC's educational hub on Instagram where parents can find out more about the risks that are inherent in sharing our kids' lives on social media and how to better protect our children's privacy online. And there's no disputing the CRC's expertise on this delicate topic. Over the last decade, the CRC has built the world’s most sophisticated technology to hunt predators online. And it's working too. In a statement released by CRC, the organization revealed that through its partnerships with law enforcement, its system has tracked 54 million offenders globally. The technology developed by CRC has also "aided in the arrest of more than 10,000 online predators and rescued over 2,300 abused children in the past four years," according to the organization.

CRC's Yoost also told SheKnows that she personally prefers Tinybeans, Qeepsake and Grom Social (for kids) for social media. "What I like about these apps is that nobody can view your profile or pictures unless they have been individually invited to view the pictures. Everything you share is private and not open to the public. These sites were specifically designed around the idea of sharing photos of your children."

Yoost continued, "However, our campaign is not trying to persuade parents to use one social media platform over another. We really just want all parents to 'think before you post' when it comes to images of their children. No matter what site you use, it is important to not overexpose nudity or personal details that could give away the location or identity of that child. It is also important to always check your privacy settings on any platform you share on."

So what do you think? Are you a locked-down privacy hound or an uncensored "sharent"? Regardless of where on the spectrum your social media habits fall, there are few things we can all agree to do: Check those social media privacy settings, change our passwords frequently (yes, we know, no fun), review our previous content and delete anything that might make our kids vulnerable. We know it's scary stuff, but it's our job as parents to make this world less scary — and safer — for our kids.

Sarah Jessica Parker Can Now Add Shoe Salesman to Her Résumé

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Imagine buying a pair of shoes from the shoe queen herself, one Carrie Bradshaw. Can't decide between the practical work-ready pumps and the bedazzled platform heels? Just ask yourself, "WWCD?" Or you can ask her yourself.

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That's right. Some lucky New Yorkers got the chance to chat with Sarah Jessica Parker as they were literally buying shoes from her. SPJ opened a pop-up shop for her shoe designs in the Big Apple on Monday, and then she stuck around and personally assisted the salespeople, which included getting down on her hands and knees to fit shoes on some lucky, lucky customers.

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Sarah Jessica Parker on the floor of her shoe pop up 1

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Parker is generally so glam, so seeing her in a sweater and jeans and minimal makeup with her hair in a basic topknot is somehow such a treat. I'm simultaneously squealing at how much I love this and suppressing my jealousy at the women who got to have their shoes fitted by Sarah-freaking-Jessica Parker, who also designed them. BRB. I'm moving to New York immediately because I can't miss out if another opportunity like this comes along.

Not to mention the fact that SJP wasn't even the only celebrity present. She was spotted throughout the day stopping her sales duties to give hugs to her famous friends who stopped by, including Andy Cohen. Heaven is a pop-up shoe store, folks.

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Parker has been designing shoes for her SJP line since 2014 when she designed the initial collection for Nordstrom. It's a natural career choice for Parker, whose breakout role was playing a shoe-obsessed columnist on Sex and the City.


This Is Why You Need to Have a Safe Word

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You may have heard about using a safe word during sex for the first time while reading Fifty Shades of Grey, or you may have already had one with your partner for your entire relationship. While some make jokes about having a safe word or may think it's not necessary, it's a fast and easy way to let someone know you need to stop what's happening immediately.

It can be a tough conversation to have, but the pros for having it outweigh the few minutes of awkwardness.

Caleb Backe, a health and wellness expert for Maple Holistics, tells SheKnows there are several reasons having a safe word can not only improve our sex lives but save us from difficult conversations and situations down the road.

It's easy to get caught up in the moment

First, we all know it's very easy to get overly excited and caught up in the moment when it comes to having sex. You may be misreading the signs your partner is giving you, and one little word can stop this from happening. Backe says a safe word is especially important if you are into things such as role-playing or BDSM. This is supposed to be enjoyable, and taking things too far can end up harming your partner.

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Sometimes you just need a break

A safe word can be a great way to say you're too tired and need a break or the position hurts.

It builds trust

When a special word is designated, you both know you can fall back on it yet still let go. Then in the future, you know your partner's limits and they know yours. You can feel safe dabbling in some of your favorite fantasies because you don't have to worry about how hard it can be to communicate your pain threshold or what feels great during times you're not actively engaging in sex. "There is nothing more erotic than knowing you can live out your sexual fantasies with someone and have the guarantee of being safe in the process," Backe notes.

Many of us keep quiet

While this is the case mostly for women who agree to things like penetration before they are actually ready, "one of the biggest secrets of sex that nobody talks about it in our society is the phenomenon of painful intercourse," Helena Nista, a sex coach and sex therapist, tells SheKnows. Many times we think, "Oh, I'll be fine." Meanwhile, our partner has no idea we are feeling uncomfortable, in pain or disturbed by something they're doing.

You can hurt someone unintentionally

And because we are not speaking up about it, we can get hurt during sex or even hurt someone unintentionally. Nista says she hears a lot of women commenting on this but adds men struggle too and have "reported having experienced pain when the woman is on top and is moving too quickly up and down." It's also possible for the erect penis to bend a certain way and cause a lot of pain.

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When in doubt, use traffic lights

Nista recommends using the colors of a traffic light as a guide. You can say, "Green," for "Yes, that feels fantastic. I want more." And you can say, "Amber," to let your partner know to proceed with caution and "Red," to let them know to stop immediately. These are easy to decipher, and the plus side is you can communicate to each other about what feels great if you aren't into sexy talk.

Some may feel silly for doing this, but think about how we express pain in other areas of our life without the shame. Yet admitting it when it comes to being intimate can make us fear our lover will think we are “inadequate in the bedroom or [fear] we will hurt their feelings” says Nista.

While the conversation might be a little uncomfortable to have, it will save you both from discomfort later. No one wants to push the limits with their partner, and no one wants to hurt someone without knowing it. Having a safe word can build trust in your relationship and give you both confidence — and that's the foundation for a strong intimate connection.

Cheese Is Actually Good for Your Heart

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Sit down, because you're about to read the best news: Eating cheese can actually lower your risk of heart disease. Yes, of course this comes with caveats and consuming it in moderation, but let's just bask in the cheesy golden glow of some new research for a minute.

While cheese does contain a high content of saturated fatty acids — something you definitely want to avoid eating in large quantities — the calcium in cheese means less of the fat is absorbed by the body.

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Following an analysis of 15 existing studies on the health effects of eating cheese — which took into consideration the diet and health outcomes of more than 200,000 people — researchers found that, on average, people who ate one portion of cheese per day were 14 percent less likely to develop coronary heart disease and 10 percent less likely to have a stroke.

Sound too good to be true? Well, a portion size is around 40 grams — roughly the size of a matchbox. And the authors of the study, published in the European Journal of Nutrition, noted that the long-term outcomes of eating cheese daily are still unclear. Also important to note, the researchers didn't track any overall changes in the diets of the people included in the survey, so that may also have had an impact on their heart health.

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In addition, a study by the Academy of General Dentistry in 2013 found that cheese may also prevent cavities. Consuming hard cheese like cheddar generates saliva, which helps make your mouth less acidic and your teeth less prone to cavities.

That said, we can't really consider cheese to be a "health food," but given its bad rap in the nutrition world, this at least offers the delicious food a couple of redeeming health factors — and an excuse to grab a piece from the party tray at your next gathering.

A version of this article was originally published in December 2017.

Prince Philip Was Admitted to the Hospital — Again

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Updated April 3, 2018, noon PT: After missing a handful of official events because of hip problems, Prince Philip was just admitted to a London hospital for a scheduled hip surgery. Philip will undergo an operation Wednesday at King Edward VII's Hospital.

This news comes after Philip missed Easter services and the Royal Maundy service due to his hip problems. He had also missed Prince Andrew’s appointment as the new Colonel of the Grenadier on March 22, but the palace has declined to comment on whether he was scheduled to be there or whether he missed it because of his health problems. Queen Elizabeth has been attending events without her husband.

We're wishing Prince Philip a safe operation and a speedy recovery!

Original story, published March 29, 2018: It's no secret there are some members of the British royal family who are getting a bit grayer by the day. Queen Elizabeth is 91, and her husband, Prince Philip, is even older at age 96. For the most part, you'd hardly know these royals are nonagenarians, partially because they remain so active in their public and civic duties. But lately, health problems have started to slow Philip down, and he's having to miss some events to take care of himself.

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Today is the day of the traditional Royal Maundy service at St. George’s Chapel, and while the queen attended as was expected, Philip chose to take the day off.

"The order of service was printed some weeks ago, when it was hoped the Duke would be able to take part," read an official statement from Buckingham Palace. "HRH has since decided not to attend."

Entertainment Tonight reports that Philip is having trouble with his hip, and that's why he's been missing events lately. They claim he also missed a ceremony on the grounds of Windsor Castle last week, though the palace has not confirmed he was even scheduled to attend that in the first place.

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In May of 2017, the palace made the official announcement that Philip would be retiring from his rigorous schedule of public engagements and official patronages.

Prince Philip Announcement Tweet

Prince Philip Announcement Tweet

Since stepping down from his official role, though, Philip has remained active in attending events alongside the queen whenever possible. He is also gearing up to attend his grandson Prince Harry's wedding in May. Royal expert Katie Nicholl recently told Entertainment Tonight that Harry likely chose that wedding date specifically for Philip.

"One of the reasons that Prince Harry has wanted this wedding to happen quite quickly — this is really whirlwind by royal standards — is because his 96-year-old grandfather, the Duke of Edinburgh, is retired now and Prince Harry really wants him to be at his wedding," she said. "He's incredibly close to his grandfather and, being 96, Harry thought it was a great thing to [have] the wedding sooner rather than later, so his grandfather could be there, fit and healthy."

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In that vein, it could be that Philip is skipping out on some events now to make sure he's strong and ready for the royal wedding. Since Philip and Harry are so close, the big day likely takes precedence over a few appearances here and there for the duke.

Teaching Your Teenager Responsibility Doesn't Have to Be Torture

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Living with teenagers can sometimes make you feel like you're parenting a real-life Regina George regardless of who you are (yes, even you, "cool mom"). One moment, you might be laughing with your teens, and the next, you might find yourself in the middle of a screaming match. As your world starts to spin, you might even wonder, "What on earth happened to set this off?" While that answer varies, our money is on this: You asked a question or made a statement that indicated you wanted your children to do something they don't like. It might have gone something like this: 

Teen: Jared made the whole class laugh today when he did a funny impression during history.

You: Wow, I bet that was funny! Speaking of class, have you finished your project that's due on Friday?

Teen: You are literally the Antichrist. This is why I can't talk to you about anything.

Whoa, right? How are we supposed to teach kids how to be responsible and follow through on their work (let alone have any kind of positive relationship with them) if we can't even have a simple discussion about homework without them going full-on mean-girl mode?

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We spoke with five professionals — from therapists to parenting coaches — who reassured us that coexisting with teens while also passing along valuable life lessons doesn't have to be painful. Below, we've gathered their tips on how to make your home less of a battlefield and more of a communal space.

Put yourself in their position

"So much of what we do with our kids, whether it's intentional or not, comes off as a battle for control and power," parent-teen relationship coach Fern Weis says. Think back to when you were a teen. There were probably moments when you too felt the world was out to get you no matter how irrational those thoughts may seem in retrospect. To help teens feel more comfortable, Weis suggests we shift our approach when pushing for them to take on more responsibility with things like housework and homework.

"One of the things I suggest parents do is, rather than saying, 'You do this, and you do that,' is to create some buy-in to this process," she says. "Buy-in can come from having a brainstorming session with your kids where you sit them down and say, 'I can't do this alone. It works better when we all participate. So, let's make a list of all of the things that have to get done around here.' You encourage participation in creating this list, and you don't edit at all. It doesn't matter if it's ridiculous or wonderful or unreasonable or unrealistic, you write every single thing down because if you don't, your kids are going to come back and say, 'If you don't take my suggestions, then don't ask me next time.'"

By involving teens in this process, you're giving them agency, which in turn will make them feel more invested in day-to-day family activities.

Rhonda Moskowitz, a parenting coach who runs Practical Solutions Parent Coaching, believes that shifting the way you talk to your children can ultimately reshape your overall outlook. "When the parent shifts, the child shifts," she says. "When what you notice is what's wrong, you get more of it. But if you start noticing what you appreciate or what's going well, even if it's just a teeny little bit, you start seeing more of it. What you focus on grows."

Additionally, making your teen feel like a valuable, not burdensome, part of the family can help improve their overall mental health while also making you more aware of the struggles they may be facing. "Teen mental health is in decline, with anxiety disorders and depression both on the rise," Dr. Melissa Deuter, psychiatrist and author of Stuck in the Sick Role: How Illness Becomes an Identity, explains. "But surprisingly, some of the most affected kids want to help their families out. In truth, there's a complex relationship between having the drive to accomplish something and feeling good. On the one hand, when a teen feels love, she may not be motivated to cooperate. On the other hand, a teen who knows she's not taking the initiative feels ashamed, and her self-esteem suffers."

If your teen still seems distant or uninterested in being part of the family, it could be an indication that there's something more substantial going on — mentally or emotionally — that might be worth monitoring or bringing up with a professional.

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Learn to accept failure

Here's something none of us like to hear, but it's all too true: Change takes time. As much as we'd all love to say something once and see our children follow through without us having to ask, you have to understand — and be OK with — the reality that this can take years to happen.

Unfortunately, this mindset doesn't only apply to household tasks such as cleaning the dishes or doing laundry. You also have to consider that your children may blow off their homework, stop practicing their instruments or grow lazy during soccer practice. For many, the natural instinct is to automatically do whatever we can to make sure our kids succeed.

"Countless times, I have witnessed parents struggling to complete students' essays and major projects the night before the assignments are due," certified schoolteacher and private tutor Gaye Weintraub says. "They rush to school to bring forgotten gym clothes, homework and musical instruments, and they handle all aspects of the teen's life, so the teen never experiences the consequences of not being prepared. While some parents believe helping in this way prevents their teen from getting too stressed, the reality is the parent cannot accompany the child to college or their future job."

Weis concurs. When she was a schoolteacher, she says, concerned parents would tell her that if they'd known about a test or a project, they would have made sure their children had studied or worked harder. But instead of kicking yourself for not being on top of your kids' assignments, this is the "perfect opportunity for you to let your child feel the consequences" of their actions, explains Weis. They have to learn that all actions, including inactions, come with a price.

"You have to understand that your child is going to make mistakes, and you have to live with it and not try to 'save' them... It can take years for your children to figure out that they have to do something," Moskowitz says. "But we have to let them face the results of their own choices because if we don't, we rob them of an opportunity to learn... It's really hard to watch your child fail, to set themselves up to fall apart... but that's their best teacher."

More: 7 Things I Said I'd Never Do As a Parent — That I Do Now

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Illustrate the importance of social responsibility & activism

Part of teaching your teen how to become a responsible adult is instilling in them senses of compassion, empathy and social awareness that will help them foster better relationships and build stronger communities. They are our future, after all.

But with so many social issues in the spotlight, it can be hard to know where to start. Therapist Alisha Powell knows teaching young adults about social responsibility can be overwhelming, which is why she suggests starting in your own backyard.

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"Model social involvement," Powell encourages parents. "So, being aware of what's going on on the local political level, who's running for city council, who's running for mayor and also being aware of things on the ballot on the local level that's going to impact the community and families in the area." Powell also suggests encouraging teens to volunteer in areas that interest them, whether at an animal shelter or a soup kitchen.

There's arguably never been a better time to encourage teens to pay attention to national and global affairs too, though it can be hard sometimes to rationalize letting our children watch the news when the president himself embodies some of the characteristics we might feel uncomfortable passing along to our kids.

"I think that if there ever was a time to be more socially aware, it's now because of the climate that we're in and the policies that are being passed that have impacts on millions of people," Powell added. "Yes, the news is unfortunate, and yes, the news can be really depressing, but the news also is a source of discussion and dialogue and speaks to the need for more activism on the local level. It also speaks to the need for more information and more education on how politics works and who gets elected and what term [limits they have] and what impacts it has on the rights of marginalized people."

Though there are many debates about the value social media brings to young adults' lives, platforms like Twitter, Instagram and Facebook are helping connect teens from all over the world as they rally for social justice and support each other through difficult times. Recently, we saw teens reach out and bolster each other's voices following the shootings at Marjory Stoneman Douglas and Great Mills high schools earlier this year. Millions of young people comforted one another and rallied for change. They proved they weren't just young voices stuck behind screens when they demanded legislators pass sensible gun legislation at the March For Our Lives events across the country. Parents can take a cue from those remarkable teens and treat their own kids like the potential changemakers they truly are.

More: My Daughter Marched Before She Could Walk, but Activism Is More Than That

Looking inward & moving onward

When it comes to parenting, everyone wants to do what's best for their children. We want to provide them with the most exceptional educational opportunities while also pushing them to excel in extracurricular activities like sports and music. We want them to be studious, social, considerate, empathetic and cultured; but above all, we want them to be happy.

There will inevitably be rough patches as you guide your teen into adulthood. There may be times when you feel underappreciated or when your teen thinks you are being overbearing. You'll see many sides of both yourself and your children along the journey — strength, humility and, yes, even stubbornness. But the beauty of relationships is that they can be resilient during the ebbs and flows of life. The more flexible and forgiving you can be with yourself and your kids, the more likely it is your bond will carry on far into their adult lives. And who knows? Maybe one day they'll be the ones asking you for parenting tips.

Busy Philipps' Mom-Guilt Meltdown Was Not in Vain: A Bear Has Been Found!

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Updated April 3, 2018, 4:02 p.m. ET: Oh happy day! A still-sobbing (she's basically been sobbing for three days straight) Busy Philipps has revealed that one of the bears in question, the elderly and much-loved Radar, has been found in Hawaii. She shared the screenshot on Instagram along with a joyful video.

Busy Phillips Missing Bear

"I can't thank you guys enough for supporting me through the emotional bear journey..." she said in the video. "I truly feel wired... I have a new, renewed sense of hope in my life. Everything's gonna work out. For everyone."

Here's hoping the same goes for bear No. 2, the as-yet-still-missing Flat Bear.


Original story, published April 3, 2018, 3:39 p.m. ET: Dawson's Creek and Cougar Town alum Busy Philipps and husband Marc Silverstein took their daughters (Birdie, 9, and Cricket, 4) to Hawaii for Easter. Pretty fantastic getaway, right? But the vacation ended in a "parental fail" that all of us can totally — and painfully — relate to. A tearful Philipps posted a series of Instagram stories on April 1 about the tragedy: "Guys, I ended our wonderful family vacation with a total parental fail. Birdie's favorite bear, Radar, and her other bear Flat Bear were left."

Busy Philipps Crying

Nooooo! Not Radar and Flat Bear! Seriously, we nearly bawled just thinking of two stuffed bears left behind in a Hawaii hotel room (although it has the makings of a terrific children's book), so it's no wonder Busy is a total wreck.

When she realized Radar and Flat Bear were missing, Philipps rushed to phone the hotel's housekeeping department. “I called and housekeeping haven’t found them, so I think they were really tangled up in the sheets and they just went to the place where they wash the sheets and so hopefully tomorrow they’ll find them,” Philipps revealed according to Us Weekly.

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Possibly the worst part? Poor Radar is an elderly teddy bear that belonged to Baby Busy herself once upon a time. And daughter Birdie cherished Radar because of his connection to her mom. We're not crying; you're crying.

ET Canada reported that Philipps said in her Instagram story, "She [Birdie] was just so heartbroken, and I was, like, I knew it as soon as I opened up the suitcase to get Cricket’s stuff for bed. I was like, I didn’t see Radar and Flat Bear. I was like, fuck, fuck, fuck.”

Yes, we know and Philipps knows that these are just stuffed bears, and in the grand scheme of things, there are far worse tragedies in the world. After all, mistakes happen. But Philipps can't shake the mom guilt. “I know it’s just a mistake and these things happen but fuck… it’s the worst when you’re a parent and it’s your responsibility to keep everything straight," she said.

Fans were quick to offer virtual hugs and hopes that the bears would soon be recovered. At least there was no mom-shaming — lost teddy bears seem to bring out the best in humanity rather than the worst.

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Yesterday Philipps — who costars in Amy Schumer's new film, I Feel Pretty — posted a Hawaii montage to Instagram along with a caption updating fans on the bear situation. "All the shaved ice we could handle. And also some fro yo with sprinkles. Wish we could go back (also I would remember the bears this time) Still no word on Radar and Flat Bear, I'm very sad to say. Hopefully tomorrow?"

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Philipps also updated her Twitter followers.

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Philipps is trying to move forward, but she's struggling. “We’re all healthy, made it back in one piece,” Philipps said. “They’re just stuffed animals. She’ll recover. She’s resilient. I don’t know if I will.”

We don't know if we will either.

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