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Things may be heating up again for Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick

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It was a sad day when Kourtney Kardashian finally kicked Scott Disick to the curb, mostly because they have three kids together, but also because we could tell she was devastated about it — and despite Disick’s (major) flaws, it’s never fun to witness a breakup happening before your very eyes. (On TV, but still.) But the rather reliable Kardashian news source E! News reports today that you can dry your tears. A year and a half after parting, Kardashian and Disick have decided to give it another shot.

More: Scott Disick reveals if he would bang, marry or kill Kourtney Kardashian

According to a source, the two just haven’t been able to get over each other. "Their love for each other never went away,” the source told E! “He's been trying to win Kourtney over for a while now, but his constant partying was a huge issue. He's been spending a lot more time with Kourtney and the kids and proving himself to show that his family is the priority."

They say a tiger can’t change his stripes, but supposedly Disick has left his hard-partying ways in the dust. “Scott has just been over the partying. He got sick of it and decided to clean up his act," the insider said. "He was having people over at his house to party until 6 a.m. all the time, and he hasn't been doing that either."

More: 6 things Scott Disick & Justin Bieber actually have in common

Scott Disick and Kourtney Kardashian out and about town
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They’re still living separately, but they’ve been back together for — wait for it — a few months, the news outlet reports. As for the future, Disick is “doing his best to keep himself in check," another source dished. "Kourtney is definitely the reason for that. He still has his own place, but he loves her. He's always loved her and wanted his family back together. They're best friends — that's never changed, even when things were rough between them."

For some reason, E! asked the “source” if there are any baby plans in the future, which seems to us to be jumping the gun a bit since Kardashian and Disick haven’t even confirmed the romance yet. In any event, “they’re taking it day by day,” one of the sources said.

Kardashian also recently sent fans into a frenzy when she posted a photo of herself along with lyrics from Beyoncé's song, "Formation." She captioned the image with, "If he hit it right, I might take him on a flight on my chopper" — which seems to suggest that she's sending Disick a cryptic message.

Kourtney Kardashian Instagram

Kourtney Kardashian Instagram

Comments on the post include one from thevibe_x who wrote, "He must be cuz y'all back together." And tiffvii also made mention to Disick, writing, "You and Scott would most likely go on a private jet tho."

Other fans have just tagged Disick in the comment section of the post.

So, there you have it! Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick, unable to quit each other since 2006 when they met in Girls Gone Wild founder Joe Francis’ master bedroom while partying in Mexico. Wait, maybe that’s why their relationship has been so rocky.

More: Kourtney Kardashian, Scott Disick confuse fans with flirty Snapchat videos


Double elimination hints at epic upcoming Survivor finale

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After weeks of seemingly skating by, Will Wahl and Sunday Burquest were sent packing when Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X unleashed yet another back-to-back elimination.

Let's be honest for a moment. I'm sure Will and Sunday are both very friendly, kind people outside of the game. But as Survivor castaways, neither one did anything worthy of winning the game. Period. Hell, Will and Sunday were so invisible that neither was given any real air time throughout the entire season. I find it poetic that both of their eliminations were also the most uneventful, lackluster ousters so far.

Will Wahl on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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It was about time both of them were eliminated because neither deserve a spot at the final Tribal Council when there are much stronger players in the competition. Either one of them falling into victory because of a bitter jury would tarnish this strategically fun season.

Sunday Burquest on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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Plus, it was exhausting having to listen to Jeff Probst gush about Will being an 18-year-old high school student. We get it. He's the youngest player ever. Move on. I'm happy for the kid, but if his only storyline is that of being a teen, then I'm no longer interested.

Survivor viewer happy Will Wahl voted off

Survivor viewer happy Will Wahl voted off

Survivor viewer happy Will Wahl is ousted

Survivor viewer happy Will Wahl is ousted

Survivor viewer happy Sunday Burquest eliminated

Survivor viewer happy Sunday Burquest eliminated

This all leads us into what I anticipate will be an intense, competitive finale as the last six castaways square off in their push to claim the $1 million prize. My hope is that David, Jay and Adam are the final three left standing because each of them have solid arguments as to why they are deserving to win the game. Honestly, I would be fine with any of them being crowned Survivor champ, but I'm still rooting for Adam to take it all. His game has been strange, risky, entertaining and emotional. Although he has made some questionable moves, like telling Taylor about his Reward-stealing advantage, I do think Adam has played the best game overall. He would be a worthy winner in my book, but I won't be sad if Jay or David take the cake instead.

More: Adam Klein pulls off big Survivor move with surprise from his pants

Adam Klein on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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Survivor viewer torn on who should win

Survivor viewer torn on who should win

Survivor viewer says Adam Klein playing good game

Survivor viewer says Adam Klein playing good game

Survivor viewer loves Adam Klein

Survivor viewer loves Adam Klein

Ken could win, too, because he appears to be so damn likable. Bret and Hannah, on the other hand, haven't struck me one bit as strong strategists. Sorry guys, but I will be sorely disappointed if either of you win.

More: Survivor's Chris Hammons says a lot of castaways don't deserve to win

Survivor viewer calls Hannah Shapiro worthless

Survivor viewer calls Hannah Shapiro worthless

Survivor viewer questions Hannah Shapiro's strategy

Survivor viewer questions Hannah Shapiro's strategy

More: Survivor's Zeke Smith explains that no one knew Adam's mother was dying

The finale airs Wednesday, Dec. 14 with the live reunion show immediately after. On a personal note, this marks the 21st consecutive season finale I have been lucky enough to attend. I will be there yet again with behind-the-scenes coverage and red carpet interviews with the top six.

Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X cast photo
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Who do you hope wins the entire game and the $1 million prize? Join the conversation by leaving a comment in the section below!

6 things you never knew menopause could do to your vagina

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If you are a woman who is approaching menopause, you likely have some questions about what's in store — not because menopause isn't talked about (I think we've all seen one too many rom-coms with a female lead going through "the change"), but because it is often discussed in one of two modes: abstract or hyperbolic.

More: 9 things every menopausal woman will definitely want to have on hand

The reality is menopause can be different for every woman. Sure, there are some generally universal side effects such as hot flashes that most women experience during this time — they're a cliché for a reason. But there are also many changes women heading into menopause simply aren't aware of, and many of these changes happen to your vagina.

Curiosity piqued? Here are a few you probably didn't realize menopause could do to your nether regions.

1. Change its color

Vaginas are like snowflakes (that's a lovely metaphor, eh?) — no two are alike. So, naturally, color variation from woman to woman is normal. There isn't a standard color the vagina is supposed to be, and the color you start with might not even be the one you end up with. According to Dr. Michael Krychman, M.D., gynecologist and executive director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health, decreased estrogen during menopause can cause a woman's vagina to become lighter or duller in shade than it was prior to menopause.

2. Cause it to get smaller

Well, sort of. Dr. Hope Ricciotti, M.D., a gynecologist and Harvard Medical School professor, shuns the stereotype that a woman's vagina basically shrivels up during menopause. However, she does explain that the vaginal canal (and its entrance) may narrow during menopause due to decreased estrogen and blood flow — especially for women who aren't having sex on a regular basis. "The vagina is a 'use it or lose it' place," she told Woman's Day. "The act of having intercourse stimulates blood flow to the vagina and keeps it healthy."

More: 14 emotional phases of menopause

3. Thin vaginal tissue

Remember how we were talking about declining estrogen levels during menopause? According to Dr. Nancy Phillips, M.D. and Gloria Bachmann, M.D., this estrogen reduction can cause the tissues of the vagina, clitoris and labia to become more delicate and thin. This can lead to pain during sex for some women.

4. Result in vaginal atrophy

The aforementioned thinning can then lead to dryness, which in turn leads to inflammation. So, admittedly, this part's not the greatest. But not all women experience the symptoms of vaginal atrophy during menopause, meaning it's possible this won't be an issue for you at all. However, if it is, you could experience vaginal burning, discharge, dryness and itching, as well as urinary urgency and other inconveniences. There are treatments available to address certain symptoms, though.

5. Give it a distinctive smell

Not only does the tissue in your vagina thin during menopause, but that tissue also becomes less acidic. The University of California at Berkeley links these changes to a possible uptick in vaginal odor during menopause. Typically, they cite, women report a smelly, watery discharge. And although discharge is a totally normal byproduct of the vagina, particularly pungent discharge should always be addressed by a doctor to rule out infection. Fortunately, topical estrogen may nip this problem in the bud for menopausal women.

More: 5 things I wish men understood about having a vagina

6. Make it harder to hit the big "O"

Oish, I know — nobody wants to hear this one. However, the physiological changes we've been talking about (especially reduced blood flow to the region) mean the menopausal vagina may not be as conducive to climaxing. "You may be used to 30 orgasms a night, but the reality is that during and after menopause, you may have to work a little harder to have one or two," says psychologist and sex educator Dorree Lynn, Ph.D.

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Are parents of tweens and teens massive hypocrites about screen time?

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If there's one thing that unites parents of tweens and teens (and often even younger kids) in modern society, it's the amount of time their kids spend to glued to a screen of some kind. But are we to blame?

More: Jimmy Kimmel: stop pranking our kids, you sick bastard

It's no big secret that children learn by example, so if we're digital junkies ourselves, can we really expect our kids to be any different? According to a new report from Common Sense Media, The Common Sense Census: Plugged-In Parents of Tweens and Teens, parents of tweens and teens spend around nine hours on any given day with screen media. And we can't play the "work" card, because 82 percent of that time (almost eight hours) is spent on social activity such as watching TV, gaming and social networking. Basically, we're spending a massive chunk of our day doing exactly what we're telling our kids not to do.

But it's not all bad news. The report also shows that parents are trying to be good digital role models — perhaps not in how much time they spend on screens themselves, but certainly in respect of being aware of what our kids are doing when they're online, and taking active steps to protect them from online risks.

More: Dad texts daughter reasons he loves her mom, we all swoon

Monitoring our kids' media use takes priority over respecting their privacy, say two-thirds of parents, and more than two in five of them check their children's devices and social media accounts "always" or "most of the time."

There are some inconsistencies in the survey results. Although 78 percent of all parents believe they are good media and digital role models for their kids (moms more than dads, apparently), they still have concerns about their kids' online activity. One third of parents worry that technology use is hurting their children's sleep, while 43 percent of parents are concerned about how much time their kids spend online.

It seems parents are on the right track when it comes to keeping their kids safe online, but clearly we need to spend less time on screens ourselves and more time ensuring our children are following our example. We're role models to them, and if we switch off more often they might just do the same.

More: 4 things not to say if you want to raise healthy tweens

Even The Bachelor Season 21 ladies' job titles are dramatic

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Job titles on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette have become the best joke at the start of any season, mostly because some of them seem so far-fetched it's, well, laughable.

More: Nick Viall's new Bachelor promo is such a tease

Season 21, starring Nick Viall as the man handing out the roses, will definitely not be any different.

On the roster, we have Alexis, an "aspiring dolphin trainer" (aka. a dolphin fan), Josephine, an "unemployed nurse) (aka. unemployed) and Lauren, a "law school graduate" (aka. unemployed).

But, as always, to balance out the laughable job titles, Viall will have some seriously smart ladies to contend with. Except this year, the serious jobs that balance out the not-so-serious ones are kind of noteworthy for what they suggest about the season.

We've got Rachel, an attorney, Liz, a doula, Danielle M., a neonatal nurse, Brittany, a travel nurse, and Briana, a surgical unit nurse.

More: Bachelorette's Chad Johnson & Robby Hayes trash-talked Nick Viall so hard

I don't think it's a coincidence that you've got two wanna-be's paired up against a whole slew of success. No doubt the show is trying to breed insecurity from the get go, and it will be interesting to see if the have-its clash with the want-its in the first few weeks.

Of course, there is room for coincidence here. That's a lot of nurses.

What would make this list even more entertaining is if there was an actual dolphin trainer to go up against Alexis.

Drama aside, maybe fourth time will finally be the charm for Viall, who's track record on the franchise thus far has only led to heartbreak.

I, personally, can't wait to see his journey as The Bachelor begin.

More: The fourth — not the third — time may have been a charm for Nick Viall

The Bachelor Season 21 airs Monday, Jan. 2 at 8 p.m. on ABC.

Do you think The Bachelor purposefully chooses ladies with job titles that will clash or is it just a coincidence?

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

Jason Mesnick crying on The Bachelor
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How Hairspray Live became an unexpected lesson in diversity & tolerance

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Hairspray's message was super impactful in 1988 (when it introduced us to Ricki Lake) and again in 2007 with Nikki Blonsky, but this year, the musical was needed more than ever. It's one thing to nod along to the show's message of acceptance, however, and another to apply that message in everyday life.

More: Derek Hough has a new gig and we pray we get to see him shirtless

It's no secret that racial division has dominated 2016, with news of discrimination, riots, and police shootings running rampant all year long and escalating after the election. In light of all this, it's fitting that NBC decided to air a live musical all about accepting people for who they are, regardless of the color of their skin or the size of their body.

Hairspray Live
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If, somehow, you're still unfamiliar with Hairspray, the premise is as follows: A vibrant teenager aims for a spot on a popular television show in the 1960s, but struggles due to her weight. However, through her efforts, she is able to not only change the show's emphasis on body type, but also break up its stubborn segregation. She delivers a much-needed message of acceptance to a very judgmental and divided community. In short, we could use more Tracy Turnblads today.

More: Hairspray has been around for nearly three decades! Look at the old vs. new cast

Jennifer Hudson (who, as Motormouth Maybelle, was clearly the standout star of Hairspray Live) spoke of the musical's relevance in a notable featurette, aired a few days prior to tonight's production. She didn't go into details, but she did explain, "The subject of Hairspray is very current to today." Maddie Baillio (the new Tracy Turnblad) added, "There are a lot of themes that are just as relevant today as they would have been in the 1960s." You can say that again!

More: Derek Hough denies feud with Ricki Lake

America has made a lot of progress since the 1960s, and Hairspray Live is a reflection of this. This holiday season, we have an African American president (for a little while longer, at least), Santas of varying ethnicities, and increasing diversity on television, in the film industry, and on Broadway. Yes, we've come a long way, but we also have a long way to go. Hopefully, Hairspray Live has reminded viewers of the progress we've made — and why we don't want to slide back into racism, judgment, and division.

Hairspray Live

Hairspray Live

What did you think of tonight's live production of Hairspray? Were you struck by the relevance of the musical's message? Comment and share your opinion below.

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

Hairspray cast slideshow
Image: New Line Cinema, NBC

Did Jaden Smith split from Sarah Snyder to date Kylie Jenner's BFF?

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Jaden Smith might be a social climber when it comes to the ladies, and he might be getting back in cozy with his ex Kyle Jenner if this news is any indication.

According to Hollywood Life, Smith took Jordyn Woods — Jenner's BFF — to the 2016 Fashion Awards. MediaTakeOut confirmed the two definitely went as a couple.

But this story got an even weirder twist when Tweeters pointed out that they thought Smith and Woods were actually cousins.

Jaden smith tweet 1

Jaden smith tweet 1

Jaden smith tweet 2

Jaden smith tweet 2

To clarify, they aren't actually related, but Woods is so close to the family that, according to Bustle, she calls Jaden's dad, Will Smith, "uncle."

Jordyn Woods instagram pic 1

Jordyn Woods instagram pic 1

Meanwhile, Smith was most recently known to be in a relationship with Sarah Snyder, and the Internet is buzzing with theories that Smith ditched Snyder in order to get close to Woods.

But it could also be that Smith himself was the victim in the relationship with Snyder. Hollywood Life reported that Snyder was cheating on Smith back in August.

Who knows what went down between Smith and Snyder, but it's safe to say after seeing him at the Fashion Awards last night, that the two are no longer together.

So does Smith really like Woods or is he just cozying up to her to get back with Jenner?

Jordyn Woods instagram pic 2

Jordyn Woods instagram pic 2

I'm going to go ahead here and think positive thoughts and say that Smith is genuine. I mean, they are just teenagers, after all. Remember when you were in high school and you dated everyone just to date because it was new and exciting? Ya, they're there in life. It's just, they're also on a huge platform where everyone is watching.

Smith should be allowed to explore and date, find out what he likes and doesn't like, without all the judgement and people prying into his business.

He'll probably have a new girlfriend in a couple of months and that's just how it should be when you're young. Keep it casual, keep it fun.

Do you think Smith is crossing the line by dating Jenner's BFF or is he just young and having fun?

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

Deep thoughts with Jaden Smith: 45 of his best quotes
Image: Graphics by Terese Condella & Becci Burkhart/SheKnows; photo provided by WENN

Keira Knightley's daughter had the best reaction to Donald Trump's win

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Many of us had pretty extreme reactions when it was announced that Donald Trump has won the U.S. presidential election — including Keira Knightley's young daughter.

More: One way we can resist Trump's agenda? Raise conscious kids

Knightley, 31, revealed that on this particular occasion, she was more than happy to hear a swear word come out of 19-month-old Edie's mouth.

Appearing on the Christmas special episode of U.K. chat show The Jonathan Ross Show, the actress said she and her husband James Righton were lying in bed with their daughter the morning after Trump's shock win, watching the televised victory speech from the new president-elect.

"She’s like this watching the television, completely silently and totally still for about four minutes and she rolls over onto her back and she closes her eyes and she goes, 'Fuck!'" she said.

More: Are your child's headphones damaging their hearing?

"I’m very proud," Knightley said.

Edie's definitely at an age where kids copy their parents all the time — what they do andwhat they say. "She’s literally repeating everything we say so we’re having to be really careful," Knightley admitted.

Can we assume, then, that the Atonement star and her musician husband had a few choice words to say when Trump won his bid for presidency? They certainly wouldn't be the only ones.

Edie was born in May 2015, two years after her parents wed in a low key ceremony in the South of France.

More: Kelsey Nixon is a mom again, and her baby's name has a very personal meaning


Kristin Cavallari claps back at mommy shamers

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Tempted to criticize Kristin Cavallari's parenting decisions? Don't bother — this mom won't change for anyone.

More: We need to quit using Kristin Cavallari as a parenting resource

The former reality TV star, who is mom to sons Camden Jack, 4 and Jaxon Wyatt, 2, and daughter Saylor James, 1, is certainly no stranger to a healthy dose of mommy shaming. Cavallari, 29, has had to defend everything from her sons' weight to her choice of baby formula since she first became a mom.

But while the Laguna Beach alum might get defensive when faced with critics who don't hold back, it won't make any difference to how she brings up her kids. "I’ve been dealing with criticism since I was 17," she said at a Young Living essential oils pop-up. "When it’s me, I can handle it, I can take it. I have thick skin. When it’s about my kids or my husband, I get really defensive. And then I become a little fighter, and I’ve been known to get a little trigger-happy sometimes."

More: Moms who shame Chrissy Teigen are seriously missing the point

Kristin Cavallari and Saylor

Kristin Cavallari and Saylor

Thick skin aside, how does Cavallari deal with the onslaught of criticism from social media users? "It’s hard," she admitted. "At the end of the day, I have to remind myself, especially when it comes to my kids, I’m so confident in what I’m doing as a parent, what Jay and I are doing, and my kids are happy and healthy, and that’s ultimately what matters."

And her final words on the subject are ones all parents should remind themselves of whenever they're doubting themselves: "So someone’s going to judge me who doesn’t know me? It is what it is. I can’t get hung up on that. I know what I’m doing is okay. It’s working for us, and that’s all that matters."

Cavallari is absolutely right. All we can do as parents is our best (and acknowledge that sometimes that simply won't be good enough). Any time people spend judging other parents is time better spent focusing on their own children.

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Fuller House pics suggest Kimmy could become a Tanner (in-law) in Season 2

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Raise your hand if your uncontrollably excited for Fuller House Season 2!

Image: Giphy

Yeah, we thought so.

We're a mere hours away from the Netflix release, and our minds are racing with the possibilities. Will Matt and Steve continue to vie for D.J.'s affection, despite the fact she rejected them both? Will Kimmy and her on-again-off-again-on-again sexy Latin lover husband reunite again for good? Will the New Kids sing as sweetly to D.J. as Tommy Page serenaded Steph on her 10th birthday? We need answers, people.

As if we didn't have enough to think about, we got our hands on some exclusive stills from Fuller House Season 2 that lend to even more speculation — and excitement, obviously.

More: Uncle Joey has a Fuller House family and it's not the one you've met — yet

1. Steph's new beau

Image: Michael Yarish/Netflix

We learned from previously leaked info months back that Stephanie has a new hook-up in Season 2, and then we were pleasantly surprised to learn from a more recent trailer that said hook-up is Kimmy's brother and total Ashton Kutcher doppelgänger, Jimmy Gibbler. But this picture suggests that Jimmy and Stephanie might be more of a serious deal than just strangers kissing in the Tanner family backyard. Actually, the Fuller House creator gave us the full scoop.

Which brings us to...

2. Kimmy is pleasantly shocked and surprised over news from Steph and D.J.

Image: Michael Yarish/Netflix

This picture most definitely looks like D.J. and Steph just shared some good news, and Kimmy is all for it. We can't help but shake the feeling that Stephanie is finally leaving her single life behind for good by marrying Kimmy's brother Jimmy. It would fulfill Kimmy's life long dream of becoming a Tanner (in-law). Hence the amazing look on her face.

3. Girl Talk!!!!!!!

Image: Michael Yarish/Netflix

Not only is Fuller House bringing back OG mean girl, Gia, but this picture is proof that Netflix is also getting the band back together — and the drum kit serves as hard evidence that they're actually going to play another show. If that's the case, this is totally us

More: The creator of Fuller House gave us Season 2 spoilers – every. single. one.

Image: Giphy

Fingers crossed it's another Ace of Base cover. Though, it will be hard to top Girl Talk's rendition of "I Saw the Sign" that they perfected for Wake Up, San Francisco's young talent search at the Smash Club.

Girl Talk

Girl Talk

What are you excited to see in Fuller House Season 2?

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

Fuller House S2 holiday photo
Image: Netflix

The Walking Dead's Chandler Riggs has totally hinted at a possible exit

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The rumors about Chandler Riggs' exit from The Walking Dead are heating up, and fans are getting worried that this season may be the last we see of Carl Grimes — and Riggs' latest interview has done nothing to ease our minds.

More: Carl's days may be numbered on The Walking Dead

Rumors about Riggs leaving the hit show have been circulating over the last few weeks after the actor revealed that he'd been accepted into college at Auburn University. He recently spoke about his future on the show during an interview with The Hollywood Reporter — and he was definitely teasing an exit.

When asked how college would impact his future on the show, Riggs said, "You never know how it will go. I really do hope it works out because that would be really cool. I like to be in The Walking Dead and I like to play video games and just hang out with my friends and try to be as normal as possible so going to college would be another really cool, normal experience in my life. I want for it to work out."

Although it's important to mention that he did admit to it being a possibility of him being both an actor on the show, and a full-time student.

His dad, William Riggs, also added fuel to the fire when he reportedly wrote a Facebook post stating that Riggs' seven-year contract with the show had been fulfilled. "7 year contract completed! Grateful to AMC, Cast & Crew, TWD fan base and especially Chandler for always being 100% dedicated," he reportedly wrote, adding, "Whether it was getting up at 4AM, working in the freezing cold past 2AM, leaving his friends and carefree kiddom behind, scrambling to make up missed schoolwork, he has done it without complaint and always made me proud & amazed to be his dad!"

And Chandler himself told The Hollywood Reporter that he couldn't confirm if his contract had been renewed for Season 8.

But if that wasn't enough, the storyline of The Walking Dead seems to be lining up nicely for his exit— unless Andrew Lincoln's character Rick Grimes' finally makes good on his promise to kill Negan (played by Jeffrey Dean Morgan) soon — despite the direction of the comic books.

More: Without Daryl, The Walking Dead is starting to flatline

Right now, we really don't know what to think.

Do you think Carl's future on the show is coming to an end? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.

Before you go, check out our slideshow below!

Walking Dead deaths slideshowImage: AMC

Is Cruz Beckham the U.K.'s answer to Justin Bieber?

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Big brothers Brooklyn and Romeo have made their mark in the showbiz world already (photographer/brand ambassador and model, respectively), and now it's 11-year-old Cruz Beckham's turn in the limelight.

More: The Obamas aren't quite ready to see their daughters grow up

Victoria and David Beckham's youngest son looks set to expand the reach of Brand Beckham even further, with the release of his debut single, "If Every Day Was Christmas."

Cruz Beckham Christmas single

Cruz Beckham Christmas single

Since the first play of Cruz Beckham's single on Capital FM Wednesday, the odds of it being the U.K.'s No. 1 Christmas single have been shortening and are currently 10/1 with a couple of bookmakers.

Cruz Beckham single debut

Cruz Beckham single debut

More: Did Jaden Smith split from Sarah Snyder to date Kylie Jenner's BFF?

Naturally, comparisons to Canadian star Justin Bieber have been drawn. Cruz has the hair — and he also has the manager: Scooter Braun, the man behind Bieber’s meteoric success. Braun has publicly defended his decision to mastermind Cruz's fledgling pop career, tweeting, "He is an 11-year-old who wanted to make a song to help other kids."

"I can’t stand bullies," he later posted.

It hasn't exactly been an easy ride for 22-year-old Bieber, who was discovered on YouTube at the age of 12. He can count reckless driving accusations, vandalism charges, a drunk-driving arrest, fights with paparazzi, fans and, um, Orlando Bloom, and racist abuse scandals among his less positive achievements.

The potential for celebrity kids to go off the rails has been used to argue against Cruz's music career, and one of the most vocal critics was ITV’s Good Morning Britain host Piers Morgan. "It’s not his fault — he’s 11," said Morgan. "But how did he manage to release this? It’s sickening. He should be at school, poor kid. Pimping their 11-year-old son out to the pop world is a new low."

But for mum Victoria, Cruz's foray into pop is perfectly natural. "He was sitting in the back of the car one day singing and I was like, 'Wow, you can really sing!'," she said. "We’re like a travelling circus, our family. We sing, we dance, we play football, we do fashion."

We're sure David and Victoria will put their son's safety and wellbeing before Brand Beckham. And whether you agree with Morgan or not, it's worth remembering that all proceeds from the sale of Cruz's single will go to the Make Some Noise charity, which supports disadvantaged children and young people across the U.K.

More: The royals get into the Christmas spirit with festive sweaters — kinda

This picture of Lea Michele & Jon Stamos kissing may be our undoing

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I never knew I needed to 'ship Lea Michele and John Stamos, but I totally need to 'ship Lea Michele and John Stamos.

More: Naya Rivera's tell-all is more like a burn book — and Lea Michele's in it

The two Scream Queens stars were in Malibu this week to film scenes for the show, which included a little make-out sesh on the beach. Michele is wearing a super-cute blue one-piece swimsuit, while Stamos is just wearing a bathrobe, and have mercy.

John Stamos and Lea Michele make out on Scream Queens

John Stamos and Lea Michele make out on Scream Queens

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Michele and Stamos play Hester and Brock, respectively, on the show, and they're widely suspected to be the killers. Michele has been starring on Scream Queens since it began, but Stamos joined the cast at the beginning of the second season, which is currently airing. A third season hasn't been announced, and amid declining ratings, some are speculating that the show will be canceled before it gets a third season. Here's an idea: Replace Scream Queens with some show that just features Michele and Stamos making out all the time. Or make that the plot of Scream Queens and bump those ratings.

This isn't even the first time Michele and Stamos have gotten their mac on, as Us Weekly points out. Stamos was a guest at Michele's 30th birthday party in August, where he shared a photo on Instagram of the "awkward" birthday kiss they shared.

John Stamos gives Lea Michele an awkward bday kiss

John Stamos gives Lea Michele an awkward bday kiss

Clearly they've gotten better at this since August, because there's nothing awkward about that scene on the beach.

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How to create a DIY cocktail bar for your holiday party

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Letting your guests practice their hand at mixology is a fun way to keep the drinks flowing at your holiday party. It also saves you from getting chained to the bar, unable to perform your other hosting duties or, you know, actually have a cocktail for yourself. And if there's one rule I always keep at my parties, it's that the busiest person (aka me) should always have a drink in hand.

These tips make setting up a DIY holiday-themed cocktail bar easier than you might think and help you host a party where you and your guests get to have fun. Sounds like a win-win, right?

1. Decorate it

A little decoration goes a long way. Try decorating your bar with a string of LED fairy lights, a sprig of holly or a smattering of small holiday ornaments that don't clutter up your space too much. The key is to add a few pops of holiday cheer among your bottles. These DIY wine bottle knit hats and scarves are a fun way to decorate your bar without making your space unworkable, and these festive bottle stoppers zhoosh your bar too.

More: 25 holiday cocktails you'll need to survive the season

2. Choose the right ingredients

You should stock your holiday bar with all the usual suspects — vodka, gin, whiskey, rum — but it's the add-on ingredients that will make things extra special. Consider eggnog and apple cider as mixers along with your standard tonic water, club soda, cranberry juice, etc. Add a bottle of peppermint schnapps, butterscotch schnapps, cinnamon whiskey and chocolate liqueur to complete your holiday bar.

3. Include recipes

Print out or write on index cards some holiday-themed cocktail recipes your guests can use as a guide in case they feel overwhelmed at the prospect of mixing up their own festive drinks. The last thing you want is for someone to create a cranberry-gin-cinnamon whiskey-butterscotch schnapps surprise and need to be carried to the bathroom later.

More: 5 classic cocktail recipes & how to style them

4. Serve one pre-mixed big-batch cocktail

Some people just won't be into making their own cocktail, and that's OK. But let them in on the holiday fun by making one big-batch cocktail ahead of time. This will also help alleviate any crowding at the bar — if too many people are in the middle of making a new cocktail, guests can just opt for a glass of your big-batch drink instead. Wouldn't you know it? We happen to have a bunch of big-batch cocktail recipes.

5. Garnish with holiday flair

Garnish can make all the difference. Use peppermint sticks and rock candy as drink stirrers, add a bowl of sugared cranberries with clove-studded orange rounds, cinnamon sticks, Luxardo cherries and sprigs of rosemary. Fill a shallow dish with crushed candy canes or cocoa powder and sugar to rim glasses.

Paying attention to these little details results in a cheery payoff, so dress up your bar for the holidays and get ready to throw the holiday party of the year.

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7 dark secrets about the real Peter Pan include suicide and pedophilia

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Um, yeah, so we're going to go ahead and file Peter Pan author and playwright, J.M. Barrie, under "total creeper."

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Barrie may have been portrayed by Johnny Depp as a kind and caring soul who befriended a family in need in 2004's Finding Neverland, but his life story in reality is much, much darker. According to some accounts, Barrie left a trail of death and destruction in his wake — and might have actually preyed on young children, as opposed to caring for them.

Here are seven reasons we question his decency.

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1. J.M. Barrie stole his own "lost boys"

According to Piers Dudgeon, the author of Captivated: J.M. Barrie, the Du Mauriers & the Dark Side of Neverland, Barrie manipulated his way into the lives of Sylvia and Arthur Llewelyn Davies, the parents of three boys, George, Jack and baby Peter. Barrie apparently lavished gifts on the family and spent hours with the boys having adventures in the park and making up stories.

When Arthur and Sylvia both died of cancer within three years of each other, Barrie assumed guardianship of the boys. In case any blood relatives protested, he had Sylvia's will forged, giving him custody. Strangely, the family never objected to a non-relative raising the children.

Years later, Peter said this about Barrie taking custody of him and his brothers, "The whole business, as I look back on it, was almost unbelievably queer and pathetic and ludicrous and even macabre in a kind of way."

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2. Barrie's unusually close relationship with Michael and George

Barrie enjoyed taking photographs of the boys, sometimes in homemade costumes and often wearing no clothes at all. Today, that would seem highly suspicious, but Barrie presented an innocent front to the adults around him, despite writing about the joy of undressing and sleeping next to a young boy. Barrie's book, The Little White Bird, published in 1902, was a thinly veiled account of his relationship with George. While the book was incredibly popular when it was published, the following passage just feels obsessive.

"I lay thinking of this little boy, who, in the midst of his play while I undressed him, had suddenly buried his head on my knees... Of David's dripping little form in the bath, and how I essayed to catch him as he slipped from my arms like a trout. Of how I had stood at the open door listening to his sweet breathing, had stood so long I forgot his name."

3. Letter with creepy candle reference

In June 1908, Barrie wrote this note to Michael for his eighth birthday, "I wish I could be with you and your candles. You can look on me as one of your candles, the one that burns badly — the greasy one that is bent in the middle. But still, hurray, I am Michael's candle. Dear Michael, I am very fond of you, but don't tell anybody."

The lines "the greasy one that is bent in the middle" and "don't tell anybody" give us chills.

4. Barrie not good with the ladies

Barrie biographer Piers Dudgeon suggests the author and playwright was impotent and most likely never consummated his marriage to actress Mary Ansell, who wrote this about her husband, "Love in its fullest sense could never be felt by him or experienced." She eventually had an affair with one of Barrie's friends, which led to their divorce.

More: Do we really need another Peter Pan story? We already live it

5. George dies on the battlefield

Both George and Peter volunteered to serve in World War I. Some historians think this was a way for the young men to get away from Barrie. Sadly, George died in Belgium from a gunshot to the head. He was only 21.

6. Michael's possible suicide pact with gay lover

When he was also just 21 years old, Michael drowned along with another young man, known to be his lover, in what many biographers think was a suicide pact. The drowning occurred in a section of the Thames River called Sandford Lock that was notorious for its dangerous currents.

7. Peter's suicide

In 1960, at the age of 63, Peter Llewelyn Davies threw himself under a train. This was after he destroyed almost all the letters from Barrie to the Davies boys, saying they were simply "too much."

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Take a sneak peek at Starbucks' first new latte of 2017

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There’s a new kid in Starbucks town. The java conglomerate just announced their latest drink for 2017, known as the Cascara Latte, which rhymes with mascara and sounds a lot fancier than Pumpkin Spice. Cascara, apparently, is a Spanish word that refers to the pulp of a coffee cherry, which is the fruit that surrounds the coffee bean itself. Learn something new every day. This dried cascara, or husk, imparts a subtle sweet, fruity flavor to the new frothy drink.

Starting next month, you can traipse over to the nearest Starbucks (if you live on Earth, shouldn’t be too far from home) and order a Cascara. Originally, the new latte was offered at the Starbucks Reserve Roastery in Seattle only, which is an extra-fancy Starbucks incubator, but the drink was so popular that it shall soon roll out all over the place. By the way, the Nitro Cold Brew and the Flat White were both brainchildren of Starbucks Reserve, so expect the Cascara Latte to be a bit elevated like its predecessors. It’ll still taste like Starbucks, though.

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As to how it’ll taste exactly, according to Starbucks, “Cascara lends subtle notes of dark brown sugar and maple to classic Starbucks espresso.” Whether that flavor will actually be straight from the fruit of the coffee cherry or, you know, from sugar and other added flavoring is up for debate, but at least it’s something new.

The cool part about all of this is that cascaras were usually just discarded in the past, but lately the husks have been utilized for things like cascara tea to cut down on food waste — and to create coffee tea, which is actually pretty cool. As NPR reports, a fifth-generation coffee grower named Aida Batlle discovered that cascara is actually delicious as a tea about 10 years ago after smelling its delicious, hibiscus-like aroma at a coffee tasting.

“Immediately I got curious with it," Batlle told NPR. "And I just picked through it, cleaned it and then put it in hot water to see what it was like. Then I called my customers at the time, and I was like, 'Oh, my God, you have to try this. I'm going to send you a sample.'"

More: Starbucks is finally giving us what we've been asking for

The cascara tea was made of coffee cherry pulp, but Batlle recognized that the word “pulp” is not a buzzword. "Pulp was such a yucky word," Batlle told NPR. "I was like, nah, nah, nah, this is cascara."

And there you have it. Ten years later, it’s a drink at Starbucks — for better or worse.

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Will Wahl bites back at his Survivor critics who claimed he was a weak player

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Although his deep voice could shake the shores in Fiji, Will Wahl left some Survivor fans thinking he was quiet and a weak strategist. But not so fast. This 18-year-old, who just so happens to be the youngest castaway ever, explained in our one-on-one interview that he was playing more strategically than anybody realized. He claimed his plan was strong enough that he believed he had a real shot at winning it all. Plus, find out where his classmates thought Will went when he left high school to secretly compete on Survivor. Now studying at Ohio State University, Will also discussed how he barricaded himself in a room during last month's knife attack on campus.

SheKnows: Walk us through your elimination. Was it a true surprise or did you sense it was coming?

Will Wahl: It definitely was somewhat of a surprise. I had this bad feeling in the pit of my stomach that something was a little off, but my arrogance got in the way of that. I really thought, "I've got this. I'm good." On the way to Tribal Council, things started feeling weird. Kind of this weird feeling that something was about to happen, like a flight-or-fight response.

More: Double elimination hints at epic upcoming Survivor finale

Will Wahl voted off Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: When you were sitting at that Tribal Council, did you think you were going to win the whole show?

WW: I thought I definitely had a good shot. I think voting off Zeke helped build up my résumé and made it so I had something to go off of if I got to the final three. I thought this pendulum strategy I worked up where I would go back and forth between alliances, that it would end up working and I could get to the end and win. Arrogance had blinded me to the fact that people were working to try to get me out.

Will Wahl, Jay Starrett, Bret Labelle and Adam Klein at Tribal Council on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: What was your end-game strategy? Who did you want to go to the final three with?

WW: I wanted to go to the final three with Bret and Sunday. I definitely think I could've beaten them. Another backup option would've been Hannah or Adam. I think I could've beaten them as well. That would've been my ideal final five, and then I could pick and choose whoever I wanted to be in the final three. I figured I would have it on lock if I made it to the final five with them.

Will Wahl at camp with Jay Starrett on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: You had some tough critics who said you weren't really a strategic player. What's your response?

WW: I was playing the entire time. I was playing a very subtle, middle-of-the-road kind of game. I wasn't making these big, tri-force alliances or I wasn't hooking up in a showmance. I wasn't doing things that would maybe get on TV, but I was definitely working behind the scenes to set myself up for the merge. I was creating bonds with people like Jay that I could use down the road.

Not everything is seen. Not everything is shown. To be honest, my game was a very subtle game. A lot of it goes unseen. A lot of my game was social and the dynamic of how I conducted myself around people. That's not something you can see tangibly on TV. Unless you see every second of the game, you're not gonna be able to get a sense of the connections that I was able to build out there. You can't really see that unless you're experiencing it. For the people who doubt I was playing the game, I was playing the game. I just wasn't playing the crazy game I played the last two episodes. I was playing a very subtle, under-the-radar kind of game for most of it.

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SK: If you had made it to the final Tribal Council, what was your winning argument going to be for the jury?

WW: I would point to the subtleties of the game, like the fact I did blow up Jay's Idol. I would've used the fact that I've won Immunity challenges. I was a player who ended up voting out Zeke, making big moves and turning on people. I would have also buttered the jury up a bit. I would say things like, "It's been great playing with you guys." Little subtle things like that can go a long way. Another thing a lot of players don't really do in the game is make eye contact. When I first got on the jury, everybody was talking about eye contact. It was a huge thing. A lot of players, especially myself, don't really give eye contact to the jury. That's something that's huge. If you give eye contact when you're speaking with somebody, they feel like you're giving them respect. That can go a long way in the game.

Will Wahl sits at camp on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: You proudly owned the title of youngest Survivor contestant ever, but did that recognition start getting old?

WW: I think in the beginning it was definitely an advantage. People were not gonna vote out the 18-year-old kid, especially on the Millennials tribe. They didn't view me as a threat, but my age quickly turned into a disadvantage later on in the game because I felt like the jury didn't respect me. A lot of other people in the game didn't see my game as something that is worthy of $1 million. It became this thing where, "He's just an 18-year-old kid. He can't play Survivor." It had this whole stigma that young kids are ignorant and they don't understand life. That young kids need somebody older than them to lead and teach them.

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SK: Being a high school student at the time you were selected, how did that process work?

WW: I left school between March and May. They were fine with it. I was able to graduate on time and everything ended up working out. It definitely was difficult making up that [class] work when I got back.

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SK: Since you have to keep it a secret you're leaving to be on Survivor, what did your classmates think happened to you?

WW: I heard all kinds of different rumors. I heard stuff that I moved and going with a family to another country. I heard all kinds of crazy rumors and stories. None of them were true, obviously. But there were a few people who knew how big of a fan I was of Survivor. They were like, "I think this kid is probably just on Survivor." Yeah. They were right.

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SK: What was the reaction like when other students found out you were on the show?

WW: It spread like wildfire. People found the spoiler sites that listed my name, and everybody was freaking out. It was a very positive reaction. A lot of people were very excited for me. I started talking to people I didn't even know were Survivor fans that I had been friends with for years. It really is a crazy thing just to grow closer together with people over a reality TV show.

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SK: How did you get on the show?

WW: I applied on video using the CBS site. I ended up just being very overly confident, very borderline arrogant. I carried myself in a way that other teenagers don't carry themselves. CBS saw something in that. The producers were like, "Wait. This kid is a little different." They took my confidence as something they could use on the show and I ended up getting on.

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SK: Throughout the game, you were very tight with Jay. What was it about him that made you two connect so strongly?

WW: Jay and I had kind of like this brotherly bond. Early on, we would be the ones staying up late to tend the fire and talk about life. I really misjudged him. I really looked at him as somebody who was this popular kid and full of himself. He's really very down-to-earth, very humble, very kind and compassionate. He has a lot of good qualities you would want in somebody in a game like Survivor. He's somebody you could trust. I saw that early on, and Jay saw something in me that he liked, so the two of us paired up and worked together throughout the game.

Will Wahl and Jay Starrett work at camp on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: Looking at the final six castaways, do you feel there are still people in the competition who don't deserve to win?

WW: I think everyone can be worthy of the $1 million. Your jury speech, in the end, can win over a few votes. I don't feel like anyone is out of the running. I feel like a lot of people when they're first voted out get this bitter feeling that nobody deserves to win. I personally believe that anyone in this game can win. To think somebody can't is to underestimate them, and that is a very dangerous thing to do.

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Will Wahl carries his torch on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: Strange question for you. I apologize in advance for this one. I just have to ask it. Why did you constantly wear your knee-high socks while walking around the beach instead of going barefoot like everybody else?

WW: [Laughs.] Yeah, I mean, I don't know. I had a lot of bug bites on my legs, so I feel like the socks kind of prevented me from scratching at the bug bites and causing scars. I feel like a lot of times, too, that I didn't want to step on rocks. I don't really know what was running through my head. I've watched some clips of me wearing the knee-high socks wondering what I was thinking. Those are some possible explanations for what was going through my head.

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SK: So you're attending Ohio State University?

WW: Yes.

SK: Are you getting recognized on campus?

WW: Yeah, I actually am. A lot of people have recognized me. Just recently, in fact, I was recognized. It's the craziest thing. There are so many fans no matter where you go across the country. I get recognized at football games a lot too. It's just crazy to think that there's so many fans wherever you go.

Will Wahl on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: Here's a question unrelated to the game. Your campus recently made global headlines for the attack that happened last month. Were you there when it happened?

WW: I actually was. My class was about a block away. I was right outside the area where it was happening. We saw a lot of cop cars. I was right in that area where all the things were going on. We ended up going into a safe room and barricading all the doors and everything. We were OK, but it was a scary situation.

Will Wahl on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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Do you think Will's subtle strategy would have been enough to win the game had he made it to the final three? Let us know in the comments.

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How to survive stepfamily struggles during the holidays

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Holidays are hard. The days are filled with people you don’t see often (sometimes by choice) and stretched schedules and wallets. As a step parent, I know that it also means that all the blended and step stigma (real or perceived) comes out to play reminding you, by the kids’ schedule and your memories of holidays past and your patchwork quilt of a family tree, that your current situation doesn’t match the Rockwell cards you’re receiving in the mail. Here's how I've learned to survive step family holidays.

1. Figure out the schedule early

“What?” you say. “We have a schedule. It’s already defined in our agreement.” Of course it is, and maintaining your high school weight is as simple as diet and exercise. In my experience, both are a little more nuanced. What’s defined in the agreement just starts the fun. My ex and I have a good relationship, and both support our custody agreement, and we almost always shift the schedule. There’s family visiting from the other coast, a must-see Nutcracker performance, a long-awaited ski trip in play. Life happens and the schedule shifts. To save your sanity, get this year’s schedule nailed down with your parenting team early.

2. Define absolute must do’s

I am a sucker for holiday happenings. I’m out with the crowds at Pancakes with Santa and craft fairs. I fill our family calendar with our own traditions – the Sibling Tree and extended family sing-alongs and Christmas movie marathons. It’s exciting in anticipation and exhausting in execution. But running from one magical activity to the next turns me into a Scrooge. Over the years, I’ve learned to put one big activity on the calendar a weekend during the holiday season and to block time to just be at home together.

More: Make a ‘sibling tree’ for the best Secret Santa exchange ever

3. Tell your family (and then duck)

Your family, extended or blended, may not love the boundaries you’ve set in step one and step two of this handy holiday guide. My mother-in-law wants nothing more than to have her step-grandchildren attend her extended family celebration. I understand that and appreciate her kindness. That just doesn’t work for us because it falls on the same weekend as the family Jingle Bell Jog. So we gracefully and politely decline and hold our ground.

More: How to have a happy holiday as a new adoptive parent

4. Be flexible

Set the schedule and rules and tell everyone and then be flexible. Seems contrary, but that’s how blended families roll. Once you’ve established the guidelines, you can take a deep breath and relax. Your people know what’s happening (or not) and what to anticipate. But things change. Last minute tickets to holiday shows and friends driving through and unexpected sledding opportunities sometimes provide the real magic of the holidays. The key is to read your people. Do they want to do this new thing? Will it overtire anyone (especially you)? Does it require prep, or can it be half-assed and still thoroughly enjoyed? If you think it can add to the fun without adding to the work or complexity, Carpe Blitzen!

Flexibility works the other way, too. Ditch the planned activities if the tribe isn’t up for it, and while you’re at it, ditch the guilt. So what if you paid for tickets to Elf Jr. at the community theater if, when the time, comes no one wants to go? At that point, your choices are go with a bunch of recalcitrant South Pole elves or stay home with wine. You’ve already spent that money. Do what feels right in the moment. Crack open that bottle and turn the carols up.

More: 10 holiday traditions from across the world your kids will love

5. Extend grace

Be kind to yourself. Be kind to your spouse. Dig deep if you have to and be kind to your ex and his new wife. Bite your tongue when the plans change and focus on what the kids see. The magic of your family, even if it is patched together and strictly scheduled and filled with ghosts of Christmas past, present and future, still sparkles.

An earlier version of this article was published on Kate's blog LifeInProgress.

Re-watching Survivor wasn't easy for Sunday Burquest

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Sunday Burquest said her time on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X was incredible, but there was a sour post-game note that really took a toll on her. In our one-on-one interview, Sunday explained why her portrayal on the show hurt her feelings and made it difficult for her to rewatch. She also revealed her thoughts on the final six castaways and why she doesn't have much respect for the way Hannah Shapiro is playing. Lastly, she admits she would do it differently if given the opportunity to compete again.

SheKnows: Was your elimination expected or were you truly blindsided?

Sunday Burquest: It was totally a surprise. I had been talking with Adam and Hannah during the day and thought we had a plan. When you walk into Tribal, you always have a tiny bit of thought that there's a shot it could be me. I really didn't have that feeling when I walked in. The second vote came up against me and I knew I was going home. I was thinking, "Why?!?! I'm sitting here with Jay, David and Adam. Why am I going home right now?" I felt like it was a wasted shot at taking out a bigger threat in the game. Of course I'm saying that because I'm the one that went home [laughs.]

More: Double elimination hints at epic upcoming Survivor finale

Sunday Burquest voted off Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: What was your end-game strategy?

SB: I would've probably stuck with Bret as we got closer to the end. I would have liked to be with possibly Hannah or Ken. My goal was to have an open window where I could make a big move for myself without announcing it to everybody. I was planning on using the relationships that I already had in place. Even though I had a good relationship with Ken and David, I really felt like it would be good for me to have a good relationship with every single person even if they weren't in my alliance. I was hoping those relationships would carry me through and I would get an open window where I could make a move before we got to the finals.

Sunday Burquest at camp on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: Speaking of your strategy to make a big move, there are many critics out there who say you weren't playing a good game at all. Since we didn't get to see a lot of your strategic moves, what is your response to those critics?

SB: Nobody can make a big move on their own. They need other people to [help] do it. I was in most conversations about votes going on. I don't know why all of it didn't make the show, but I was making decisions with Chris and Bret. I was making decisions with Jay. I was giving Jay information. I was making decisions with Adam and Hannah at different points in the game. I just think if you're a huge fan of the show, you're not gonna get out there and do nothing. I worked with my skill set, which is the social part of the game. I knew I could connected with Millennials. At the time before I knew what the theme of this season was, I would say, "I can connect with young people." I put in my time with relationships, and I felt like that time I put in would pay off for me later. I was always working. Everything I did was to try and advance myself in the game. What can I say? I did my game the way I would do it even though it wasn't 100 percent visible to everybody.

More: Will Wahl bites back at Survivor critics who say he was a weak player

Sunday Burquest competes in Immunity challenge on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: Being a self-described fan, does it hurt your feelings on how your game was portrayed?

SB: Yeah, absolutely. It's funny, because my husband will say, "All your friends aren't looking at all those Survivor critics or listening to the podcasts and reading all this stuff, they're just happy you're on the show." That's fine, but as a fan of the show you want it to seem like you were really playing the game. It was really hard for me this entire season, actually, watching it. I knew I was playing. I knew what I was doing, but obviously in a 42-minute episode you can't fit everything in, especially if it doesn't fit into the narrative of the story. Yeah, it's hard. In your head, you're like, "Wow. I just had such an opposite idea of what I was doing than what's being shown." People around me are like, "You don't have to worry about all that." I realize that, but I'm a fan of the show. I want people to know I actually played the game because I'm a fan of it.

Sunday Burquest at Tribal Council on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: Did this tarnish your overall experience?

SB: No. The experience was amazing. When I came home, I was on cloud nine. I had so much fun. I met great people. I probably wasn't prepared for the critics as much as I could've been coming out of the game. The game itself and the people I met, far outweighed the critics and negative things that have been said about me. I think, for me, I would love a shot to play again because I could correct the mistakes I made. You get out there, and it's so different. You think you know the game, but actually putting it to practice is a different thing once you get out there. You can always learn once you see yourself do something. I see things I could've done different, so it would be great to get another shot.

Sunday Burquest on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: What would you do different?

SB: I would be more vocal in the decision-making process. I would take more risks. I would mend fences that I didn't mend knowing that every single relationship can end up being important some time in the game. I just would've been more up front. At home, I'm a leader in charge of a lot of things. I was determined to not put myself as a target being in any kind of leadership role. I wanted to go into the merge with a couple of alpha males thinking they would be shields for me. I over corrected. I didn't take enough initiative or control of things that were going on because I wanted to avoid getting a target on my back for being bossy or taking charge. That's a big one. I would fix that.

Sunday Burquest competes in challenge on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: You had a very tight bond with Bret. Why did you two connect so well?

SB: He reminded me of my husband. He's pretty low-key and easygoing. He's fun to be around, so that made me feel comfortable. Even the combination of him and Chris, I have three brothers and it reminded me of being with them. If you off the bat like a person, it makes easier when deciding if you're going to align with them. Right at the beginning of the game, he told me he would never write my name down. I told him the same thing. You can't trust everybody, and you can't trust anybody 100 percent, but you have to trust somebody, in my opinion, to move through the game. That ended up being Bret for me.

Sunday Burquest on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: Did he ever tell you during the game that he's gay?

SB: Not until after the game. I was surprised, and then I was so proud of him. I was like, "What?!?!" All of us were sitting there when he was telling us after the game. I just wouldn't have guessed it. Seconds later I was like, "Wow. I am so proud of you." That had to have been a big deal for him.

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SK: Looking at the final six castaways, do you think there is anybody who may have squeaked by? When I interviewed your pal, Chris, after he was voted off, he said there are several people, particularly Hannah, who aren't deserving of the $1 million.

SB: I don't know that I'm going to say some of them don't deserve it because they're there. I do think, though, you can get there in a way that you pick people off along the way or you can get there in a way that people are respecting your game play. I don't know she got there in a way people are respecting her game play. I have a hard time saying some may not deserve it because they're there. She did something to get there. The people that are in the final six did something to get to that point. The people that aren't there did something to not be there. I have a hard time saying they don't deserve it. Do I respect everybody's game play? No.

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Sunday Burquest and Adam Klein compete on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: Which player's game don't you respect?

SB: I didn't love how Hannah was playing. I have to preface it by saying I love Hannah. I think she's very smart and very bright. I didn't like how she kind of bounced back and forth. I didn't like some of the decisions she made and the reasons she was making them. But she lasted longer than I did. I don't like to have sour grapes about it, but I didn't like how she went back and forth. She had allegiance to some people and then flipped on them. I didn't like that.

Sunday Burquest, Adam Klein and Hannah Shapiro on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: What's your take on both David and Adam?

SB: They're both really really smart. They both approach things differently. David is an enduring person. David is good at gaining loyalty from the people that are around him. Adam had more of an up-and-down game. There were times everyone was annoyed with him, and there were times everyone loved him. He's really smart about the decisions he makes. You might not think he was making a good decision, but you would find out the next time that it was. Adam was upfront, too. He would be like, "I will vote with you next time, but I'm not gonna vote with you this time." He would do it, except for the vote I went home.

Sunday Burquest enjoys Reward on Survivor: Millennials Vs. Gen-X
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SK: How did you get picked to be on the show?

SB: This was actually my second time applying. I applied the first time with my friend for Blood Vs. Water. I just sent it in and told them what I could bring to a tribe. I think the fact that I'm a breast cancer survivor helped me, and the fact that I work with young people. Of course I didn't know it was going to be Gen-X Vs. Millennials. That ended up working in my favor, and I think that was a big reason why I got on the show. A huge dream. Unbelievable. When I got the call I just freaked out.

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I finally realized I don't need to be having sex to be happy

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I love sex and I want sex, but I don’t need sex anymore.

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So, what do I mean by need verses want, especially when it comes to sex? I used to think that I didn’t need sex and that it was always on a want basis. It wasn’t until I was in my first serious relationship, after my divorce, that I realized how needy I was.

I found myself needing to have sex to feel better about myself and to feel loved. And when we didn’t have sex, I started thinking, "Why doesn’t he want to have sex with me? He clearly doesn’t love me. Why doesn’t he want me?" and so on. It wasn’t until I started doing some serious 'self' work, that I started to become aware of this needy attitude.

Every time I noticed myself being triggered, I looked at the situation as an outside observer. Why do we have to have sex in order for me to feel loved? He simply wants to hang out with me and connect, and his attitude is if we have sex, great! But it’s not a requirement for connecting.

It made me wonder, do I not feel loved when I’m on my period and can’t have sex? Does he feel rejected when I can’t have sex or when I don’t feel like it? And the answer was no, he’s fine.

In my opinion, besides making babies, the point of sex is to connect. Sex should be an extension of an already strong emotional connection. It shouldn’t be a filler. If I’m feeling empty inside, it’s not because I’m not having sex. This is a deeper issue that needs to be addressed.

It’s like saying, "I need chocolate." Do you? Do you really? If you’re hungry, then you need to fulfill that need. Chocolate is a solution, but it’s temporary. You won’t be satisfied for very long and you’ll start looking for more chocolate or hopefully some real food.

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In fact, if you eat chocolate when you’re starving, you won’t enjoy it nearly as much as if you decided to enjoy a piece when you simply want some. Huge difference.

When I stopped being so damn needy about sex, and let our relationship flow without demands, requirements, and expectations that were only in my head, my happiness level has gone way up. Our relationship is stronger. If I want sex, I let it be known. I don’t expect it or require it, and if we end up fooling around, it’s a lot of fun and better than having it just to have it because that’s what you’re supposed to do. Yuck.

I don’t worry about how often we fool around. I’ve stopped thinking in terms of whether it's too much or not enough. I’ve stopped comparing our lives to others and assuming that they have better sex lives than I do. I’ve stopped assuming that my boyfriend is a mind reader. If I want something, I say it. He does the same.

So no, I no longer need sex. Yes, I love having sex with my partner. I love him. We have fun. And yes, I believe that connecting intimately is critical to the overall health of a couple. I just no longer believe it’s the only thing that connects you. And it certainly doesn’t create happiness.

Happiness begins from inside you. So, if you’re feeling needy or if any of what I’ve written resonates with you, look inward and start working on your self esteem. You don’t need sex to be happy.

Originally published on BlogHer

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