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Moms who shame Chrissy Teigen are seriously missing the point

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Chrissy Teigen may have made her Twitter account private, but she still has a hell of a lot of followers who have plenty to say about her parenting decisions.

More: Chrissy Teigen makes her Twitter private and moms everywhere cry a little

The mom of one was attacked by a follower for — wait for it — her baby-carrying technique. A recent picture of 30-year-old Teigen with 6-month-old baby daughter Luna in her arms and husband John Legend in NYC was attached to the tweet, which read, "This is not how a baby is held."

“Really because that’s how I’m fucking holding her,” hit back Teigen.

It didn't end there. The follower commented, "I don’t give a crap where that baby popped out from! Do not hold a baby like a handbag!"

And Teigen replied, "Well you hold your handbag like a fucking idiot then."

The critic responded, "Nothing grinds my tits like a person holding a baby inappropriately! I almost grew up deformed coz I dislocated my arm for 2 days as a baby!"

But she was finally shut down by the Teigen, who shed some light on what life was like as a celebrity mom: "Let me know how you hold your baby when she’s about [to get] into a stroller and there are 20 camera flashes at night. Photos are literally split-second moments in time that evolve."

More: Kim Zolciak may finally have gone too far with latest picture of her kid

"I despise mommy shamers," Teigen concluded. "I am a proud shamer of mommy shamers."

Her final words on the subject? "Please, do shut up."

We're absolutely with Teigen on this one. Especially considering her attitude since she gave birth to Luna in April. She's spoken openly about breastfeeding struggles. The pain of peeing after birth. Stretch marks and sleepless nights and the pressures new moms feel about absolutely every aspect of motherhood. Which includes figuring out how to do everything and making loads of mistakes along the way until things kind of fall into place.

Obviously there are "right" and "wrong" ways to hold babies. But it's not our job to admonish moms for how they carry their kids. Little Luna wasn't in any danger. Teigen has made so many mothers feel better about their parenting drama; can't we do the same for her?

More: DJ Khaled Snapchatted his kid's birth, and mothers everywhere went, 'no'


Serial may be Adnan Syed's ticket to freedom pretty soon

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For fans of Serial, some very good news hit headlines today.

More: The woman who brought ‘Serial’ to life talks new book, and we're hooked

The hit podcast investigated the 1999 case that put Adnan Syed behind bars for the murder of his ex-girlfriend, Hae Min Lee. Host Sarah Koenig poured over the evidence used to convict Syed of Lee's murder, and found discrepancies in witness' reports and the evidence presented by prosecutors during the case. It was enough for a judge to order in June that Syed be given a new trial.

And now, while he waits for that trial, Syed is looking for ways to get out of prison for the first time in 17 years. According to The New York Times, Syed's lawyer has filed a motion requesting that he be released on bail.

"Syed has now served more than 17 years in prison based on an unconstitutional conviction for a crime he did not commit," Syed's lawyer wrote in the motion. "He has no history of violence other than the state’s allegations in this case, and if released, he would pose no danger to the community."

More: There’s been a major development in the case of Serial’s Adnan Syed

There's a lot of evidence uncovered by Serial that makes things look pretty good for Syed. Information from cellphone towers that supposedly showed he was in the location where Lee's body was found on the day of her murder was found to be unreliable. Syed's friend who testified against him had a story that changed with every retelling. And there was a witness who claimed to be with Syed at the time the murder allegedly took place — and police never even questioned her.

According to the judge who ordered the retrial, failures by both prosecutors and Syed's own defense attorney, who died before Serial was recorded, create "a substantial possibility that the result of the trial was fundamentally unreliable."

More: 7 books for Serial fans now that the podcast is over

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

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Girl Scout Cookies cereal is dessert-for-breakfast goals, 100 percent

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This January, we shall finally witness the union of two great forces in the universe: Girl Scout Cookies and breakfast cereal. Yes, this is happening. Pick out your dessert-for-breakfast cereal bowls now because they'll be available for a limited time only.

More: Girl Scout Cookies and wine are a match made in heaven

General Mills is taking three of the most popular Girl Scout Cookies, Thin Mints, Caramel DeLites/Samoas, and turning them into two great two cereal flavors: Thin Mints and Caramel Crunch. The cereal launches in January. And that's all we know so far. Apparently, this intel was leaked ahead of time, so General Mills isn't divulging more details than that.

More: 13 Girl Scout cookie knockoff recipes

Maybe they'll send us samples to taste test ahead of their release, and then we can tell you how the cereals taste. Just putting that out there.

In the meantime, you have this to look forward to. After the holidays are over, once you've cleaned up all the tinsel and holly, after your kids have broken all your toys and you're staring down two more cold, dark months of winter, at least there will be Girl Scout Cookies cereal.

More: Girl Scout Cookies hall of fame

No, Amy Schumer's 'Formation' parody isn't racist, it's insensitive

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Amy Schumer has done the unthinkable: She released a parody video of Beyoncé's "Formation" on her YouTube account (and Tidal!) featuring Goldie Hawn and a host of other famous faces. The video, which showcases Amy's lack of twerking skills, is a convoluted mess full of stuffed animals, goats and dirt. And it definitely wasn't well-received.

Amy Schumer Formation Parady

Amy Schumer Formation Parady

The hashtag #AmySchumerGottaGoParty was started by Feminista Jones, who, like a lot of other black feminists, isn't a fan of Schumer's antics. To start, "Formation" is a pro-black anthem with lyrics like: "My daddy Alabama, momma Louisiana, you mix the negro with that creole make a Texas bama." It's where Beyoncé asserts and celebrates her blackness. And with this parody, Schumer is essentially mocking a song that has become a pro-black anthem. I mean, "I like my baby hair with baby hair and afros, I like my nose with Jackson Five nostrils," says it all.

But let me backtrack a bit. Schumer has long been critiqued for being a white feminist, a term used to describe feminism that doesn't consider race as a factor in the struggle for equality. It's basically a feminist that isn't intersectional. As Amy attempts to twerk and dance in her parody, it seems as if she's making fun of black women. The original "Formation" video was a celebration of black sisterhood. Black women could be seen everywhere slaying effortlessly while Beyoncé got them (and us) in formation. So, it's annoying to see a white woman with a prominent following and social influence make a mockery of blackness. And a quick scroll through #AmySchumerGottaGoParty shows many were not afraid to make it clear Schumer was in the wrong.

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funny Amy Schmer Critique 3

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Black Twitter didn't hold back any punches. It's hard to imagine what Amy Schumer was thinking messing with anything Queen Bey-related. But until Amy actually makes the attempt to understand why people are upset by her parody (and her other comments), the beef between her and Black Twitter will never end.

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

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Fall comfort food recipes for the ‘Hungry Girl’ in all of us

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Hello, fall. Hello, changing leaves. Hello, crisp air and shorter days — and hello, roaring appetite. If it's late October, I guess it's time for me to get extra hungry, and I know I'm not the only one. We're finding ourselves at the magical intersection of holidays and OMG winter is coming, where suddenly we find the need to insulate our bodies against the cold with pot roast and mashed potatoes.

Inevitable? Yeah, probably. But there's a healthy way to go about all this comfort-food feasting. We've got three totally satisfying fall recipes from our friends at Hungry Girl (check out Lisa Lillien's BlogHer keynote how to become a celeb chef) — and yes, one of them includes pot roast. I think you know where we're going with this. This is comfort food that loves you back.

More: How to make dinner magically appear when you come home at night

Hungry Girl’s slow cooker pot roast

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Image: Hungry Girl

Serves 12

Nutrition information per serving (about 2-1/2 ounces cooked meat with 2/3 cup broth and veggies): 206 calories, 7 g total fat (3 g saturated fat), 447 mg sodium, 11 g carbs, 2 g fiber, 4.5 g sugars, 25.5 g protein

Prep time: 15 minutes | Cook time: 10 minutes | Inactive time: 3 – 4 hours or 7 – 8 hours | Total time: 3 hours, 25 minutes – 8 hours, 25 minutes

Ingredients:

  • 1 (3 pound) raw boneless chuck beef roast, trimmed of excess fat
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 1 teaspoon black pepper
  • 1 (14 ounce) can fat-free beef broth
  • 4 cups carrots, cut into 1/2-inch coins
  • 3 cups roughly chopped onion
  • 2 cups sliced mushrooms
  • 1 cup celery, cut into 1/2-inch pieces
  • 2 tablespoons tomato paste
  • 1 tablespoons Worcestershire sauce
  • 2 sprigs fresh thyme
  • 1 teaspoon chopped garlic
  • 2 tablespoons cornstarch

Directions:

  1. Bring a large skillet sprayed with nonstick spray to high heat. Season the roast with 1/4 teaspoon each salt and pepper. Cook and rotate until all sides are browned, about 5 minutes. Place in a slow cooker.
  2. Add all remaining ingredients except cornstarch to the slow cooker, including the remaining 3/4 teaspoon each salt and black pepper. Gently stir.
  3. Cook on high for 3 to 4 hours or on low for 7 to 8 hours, until the roast is cooked through.
  4. Turn off the slow cooker. In a small bowl, dissolve cornstarch in 2 tablespoons cold water. Stir into the liquid in the slow cooker. Let it sit, uncovered, until slightly thickened, about 5 minutes.
  5. Remove and discard thyme sprigs. Slice the meat and serve topped with veggies and sauce.

Hungry Girl’s cherry cranberry sauce

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Serves 12

Nutrition information per serving (about 1/3 cup): 33 calories, 0 g total fat (0 g saturated fat), 25 mg sodium, 11.5 g carbs, 2 g fiber, 4.5 g sugars, 1.5 g protein

Prep time: 5 minutes | Cook time: 20 minutes | Inactive time: 3 hours | Total time: 3 hours, 25 minutes

Ingredients:

  • 2 cups frozen dark sweet cherries (no sugar added)
  • 1 (12 ounce) bag whole cranberries (fresh or frozen; no sugar added)
  • 1/4 cup Truvia spoonable no-calorie sweetener (or another no-calorie granulated sweetener; see note below) or more to taste
  • 2 (1/4 ounce) envelopes dry unflavored gelatin

  • 1 teaspoon orange zest
  • 1/8 teaspoon salt

Directions:

  1. In a medium pot, combine cherries, cranberries, sweetener and 1 cup water. Set the heat to high, and bring to a boil.
  2. Reduce to a simmer. Cover and cook for 10 minutes, occasionally uncovering to stir.
  3. Meanwhile, in a small bowl, sprinkle gelatin over 1/2 cup of cold water.
  4. Remove the pot from the heat, add the contents of the small bowl, and thoroughly mix. Stir in orange zest and salt.
  5. Transfer the mixture to a large bowl and refrigerate until chilled and set, at least 3 hours.
  6. If you like, add additional sweetener to taste.

Hungry Girl FYI: Truvia spoonable calorie-free sweetener is about twice as sweet as sugar. If using a no-calorie granulated sweetener that measures cup-for-cup like sugar instead of Truvia, double the amount called for in this recipe.

More: Paleo versions of our favorite Thanksgiving dishes: It's about darn time

Hungry Girl's toasty marshmallow sweet potato skins

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Serves 10

Nutrition information per serving (1 skin): 74 calories, 0.5 g total fat (0 g saturated fat), 94 mg sodium, 17.5 g carbs, 1.5 g fiber, 7.5 g sugars, 1 g protein

Prep time: 15 minutes | Cook time: 30 minutes | Total time: 45 minutes

Ingredients:

  • 5 (8 ounce) orange sweet potatoes, uniform in shape
  • 1 teaspoon cinnamon
  • 1/2 teaspoon nutmeg
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt
  • 2 tablespoon brown sugar (not packed)
  • 1-1/4 cups mini marshmallows

Directions:

  1. Preheat the oven to 425 degrees F. Spray a baking sheet with nonstick spray.
  2. Pierce the potatoes several times with a fork. On a microwave-safe plate, microwave for 15 minutes, until potatoes are soft.
  3. Once cool enough to handle, slice each potato in half lengthwise. Carefully scoop out the insides, leaving about 1/4-inch inside the skin. Discard the potato pulp (or reserve it for another use).
  4. Place the hollow shells on the baking sheet. Sprinkle with cinnamon, nutmeg and salt.
  5. Bake until the edges begin to crisp, about 10 minutes.
  6. Top with brown sugar and marshmallows. Bake until marshmallows puff up and lightly brown, 3 to 4 minutes.

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

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A timeline of Justin Bieber's tantrums, because being famous is hard

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You guys, the struggle is real when you're rich and famous — just ask Justin Bieber. Once again, the beleaguered pop star is making headlines for having a public hissy fit, making some of us ask ourselves, "What's really bothering you, Biebs?"

More: Justin Bieber couldn't even buy his own five-dolla, five-dolla, five-dolla foot-long

At this point, there is clearly a pattern of behavior, so surely something is going on beneath the surface to make Bieber behave so badly. I mean, we'd like to give the guy the benefit of the doubt... but it's not like he's making it easy for us.

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Perhaps a sit-down with Dr. Phil is in order? Maybe a round on some celebrity reality show for stars who need image rehab? Before you Beliebers flock to his defense, take a look at the timeline of this hotheaded pop star's temper tantrums.

1. A hot mess in Manchester

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Bad Biebs 1

What's that old adage about biting the hand that feeds? Bieber might do well to remember it since his fans are his lifeblood — and he just stormed out on them. It happened on Sunday at a concert in Manchester, England, after fans refused to stop screaming during Bieber's set. "I just thought I could have a moment to say something. I can cut [it] if you want. I'm trying to engage, but if you guys don't want to, I'll play the music," he told the crowd earlier in the night. But when he started playing and told the crowd to be quiet, they responded by booing. Biebs' reaction? To throw down the mic and walk off the stage.

2. The Today show tantrum

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Bad Biebs 2

During his "comeback tour" after a string of seriously questionable (and allegedly illegal) antics, the Biebs made an appearance on the Today show to promote his then-new music. However, he wasn't happy with the way Today handled their cameras. While he probably figured his bratty behavior wouldn't be seen by the world since it happened right after the performance, the cameras were still rolling when he complained, "Next time I won't dance because the camera's right there the whole time... might as well not even dance." Tough break, buddy.

3. The language barrier breakdown

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Bad Biebs 4

You might say Bieber's press appearance on a Spanish TV show was no bueno. Thanks to a language barrier on both sides, the interview went from bad to awful in no time flat. After a series of seemingly innocuous albeit awkward questions, Bieber just puts his headphones in and tunes the talkative hosts out. And after several more painfully uncomfortable minutes, the hosts proposed a question that apparently crossed the line for the Biebs when they suggested he make a crazy video to break the internet. The pop star scoffed at the idea... and then just walked off.

More: A story about Selena Gomez sent Justin Bieber over the freaking edge

4. Throwing shade (and chairs)

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Bad Biebs 7

Apparently irritated with fans who flocked to him while he was dining al fresco in France, the Biebs couldn't take it sitting down for one more minute. No, literally — he lost his temper and tossed his chair on the ground before bailing on the dining experience altogether. The next day he tweeted a GIF of a chair being thrown with the caption "I love you," which was presumably some coded mea culpa.

5. No-go in Norway

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Bad Biebs 6

Manchester didn't mark the only time the Biebs stormed off stage in a fit of rage. In October of 2015 while he was doing a show in Norway, an overexcited fan poured water on the stage near where Bieber was walking. "What are you doing?" Bieber yelled at the offender. "Stop it! Come on. I said stop it." Then after unsuccessfully trying to wipe up the water, he huffed offstage, saying, "Guys, never mind. I'm done. I'm not doing the show."

6. That disastrous deposition

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Bad Biebs 3

You'd think since he was being interviewed in connection with a lawsuit about having his bodyguard allegedly beat up a photographer that the Biebs would be on his best behavior, but that was certainly not the case during his 2014 deposition. In addition to coming off as smug and arrogant most of the time, Bieber bit off one soft-spoken reporter's head when she was just trying to do her job — and politely, at that.

More: In defense of Justin Bieber, the poor kid just needs a break

7. Paparazzi debacle

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Bad Biebs 5

Outside his London hotel room in 2012, Bieber almost got caught up in a paparazzi smackdown. In his defense, though, the paps were being a bunch of wankers — they were obviously baiting him by shouting expletives and insults in an attempt to get a rise out of him. Which, uh, they did. Bieber came back out of the car to challenge the pap and even had to be restrained by his bodyguard.

20 things moms should stop worrying about immediately

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As parents, we worry about everything, but so many of the things that keep us lying awake at night are troubles of our own invention. We want to give our kids the best possible childhoods we can, and what's more, we want them to have great memories of their childhood.

But in trying to do that, it's easy to lose focus of the things that really matter. So much of what parents worry about are things our kids either pay zero attention to now or absolutely will not remember when they're our age. Here are 20 things all moms should stop worrying about right this instant:

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1. What the size is on the tag in the back of your shorts as you chase them at the beach.

2. If you buy their birthday cake from the store or make it from scratch.

3. If you whipped up a dinner of Pinterest-inspired quinoa, kale and bean casserole, or chicken nuggets — again.

4. Whether you remember to vacuum under the couch cushions as often as you should. Or under the couch, for that matter.

5. The exact number of gray hairs you have on your head when you relent and let them play hairdresser with you.

6. If the slip and slide you got them was this year's newest model with all the bells and whistles, or last year's swiped from the clearance section.

7. Whether your arms flap as you play ball with them in the backyard.

8. How often you send them to school with non-matching socks.

9. Whether you wear jeans or yoga pants to pick them up.

10. How fancy or expensive their backpack is. Can you remember your fourth-grade backpack? Exactly.

11. How many toys are under the Christmas tree. Even if they count them for fun, unless your last name is Dursley, they aren't keeping a running tally in a notebook somewhere under the bed.

12.The exact number of times you slip and say "fuck" in front of them. It happens.

13. If their toys in their playroom are perfectly organized and labeled.

14. If you're a little (or a lot) off-key as you sing along with them to the radio.

15. The times you lost your temper and felt bad about it. They forgive you, really.

16. If you don't use words like "slay" and "bae" the right way in text messages.

17. Whether you can afford to take them on the same number of vacations or trips as their friends.

18. How clean and crumb free you keep the inside of the car. (Besides, if the car ever breaks down, having all those extra snacks on the floor might come in handy!)

19. If you let them get a treat or toy every time you go to the store.

20. If the boxed macaroni and cheese you make for them is organic. They only notice that you steal too many bites.

It's worth being brave and talking to your family about politics

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A month or so ago, I received a Facetime invitation from my Dad while he was visiting my grandmother at her home in Florida. My kids were both resting, so I accepted the call and smiled wide when the image of these two people, whom I love dearly, appeared on my phone screen.\

My Dad and grandmother both have beautifully thick, wavy, snow-white hair and sitting side by side, their familial resemblance was particularly strong. I quickly realized this wasn’t a call to chat, however. They were trying to register my grandmother to receive my blog and needed my help.

I’m sorry, what?! I broke into a cold sweat.

I write a blog chronicling my attempts to address and combat systems of oppression, such as racism, within the context of family. My ultimate goal is to raise socially conscious children. My grandmother is a 92-year-old white woman who was born and raised in the south. She is politically conservative. I grew up listening to my dad and his siblings have heated arguments with my grandparents over their different political beliefs.

I was worried what I write about might upset or offend my grandmother and I didn’t want to create any friction in our relationship. In the past five years, we’ve become particularly close and we haven’t discussed politics much at all.

I sent my dad a panicked text after we hung up to question whether signing my grandmother up for the blog was a good idea. He quickly wrote back assuring me it would be fine. My grandmother is level-headed and likes hearing multiple sides to an issue, he reminded me. But I still felt anxious.

Life quickly distracted me and I forgot my grandmother was now receiving every piece of writing I published. Shortly after I posted “On hashtags and fleeting white outrage,” I received an email alert that someone had commented on the blog and saw it was my grandmother. I again panicked.

Was she offended? Had she written a dissenting opinion? My mind raced with the possibilities.

Here’s what she wrote:

Dear Shannon, I’m so proud of you. Your latest column was so well written and certainly made a deep impression on me. It made me realize that there is much that I could do to advance better race relations in a limited way. Keep up the good work. Loads of love to you and all the family, Gran.

Well, I’ll be.

Because my grandmother identifies as a republican, because I was reared listening to my family have emotionally rough conversations around politics, because my grandmother is the epitome of a southern lady, because I write about race from my perspective as a white person, I made a whole lot of assumptions. And they were all wrong.

I’ve looked up to my grandmother my whole life, but in this interaction she inspired me more than ever before. She reminded me that I shouldn’t censor myself out of fear of offense or disagreement, especially with family, where there is a foundation of love to lean on. She reminded me that I should push back against my assumptions around how a conversation about race and politics might go and come to the table with an open mind and an open heart.

Not everyone is going to agree with what I believe or what I’m trying to accomplish within my family. This is a hard truth, but a truth nonetheless. 100 percent agreement should not be the goal. I should strive to create conversation, to foster better understanding, but not to proselytize.

When I shy away from political conversations with family members, I'm giving into the fear and assumption that no progress will ever be made. If I prioritize human connection over being right, I can carry a dialogue much further and have an actual fighting chance to bridge the gaps between differing world views.

As a white person with many societal privileges, this is a huge part of my work. I must be willing to engage with my people who I know think differently from me. I am brave enough to write the words, so I should be brave enough to speak them to family and friends.

My Gran reminded me that when I approach political discussions with love rather than fear or self-righteousness, traditionally “tough” conversations don’t necessarily have to be contentious. And I certainly shouldn’t let my worry over the outcome stop me from having the discussion in the first place.

Thank you, Gran. I love you.

Shannon Gaggero is the author of the blog A Striving Parent, which explores the intersection between parenting and racial justice and how to raise socially conscious children.https://strivingparent.com/

This post was originally posted on A Striving Parent. https://strivingparent.com/2016/10/19/the-lesson-my-92-year-old-gran-taught-me-about-race-and-politics/ 


6 low-shedding cat breeds that your black clothing will thank you for

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Cats have a way of doing exactly what we don’t want them to do when we least want them to do it, and we love them for it. We take pictures of them walking on our computers or sleeping on top of our homework, and we tolerate their inexplicable desire to place themselves beneath our feet as we descend staircases. When it comes to black clothing, we resign ourselves to scraping cat hair off with a lint roller, a piece of tape or if you’re like me, accepting your fate and ignoring it.

Cat lovers, I am here to tell you that there is another way. If you’re sick of finding cat hair literally everywhere — or if your partner is against the idea that cat hair is both accessory and condiment — then you need to know about these six low-shedding cat breeds.

1. Cornish rex

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This athletic feline is sometimes called the greyhound of cats, but Cornish rex owners tend to refer to them as “shoulder cats.” Friendly, outgoing and with a soft coat that hardly ever sheds, the Cornish rex is a perfect solution to your wardrobe’s complaints.

More: 12 surprising (and sometimes creepy) signs that your cat actually doesn't hate you

Next up: Sphynx


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2. Sphynx

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No list of low-shedding cats would be complete without the sphynx. Sphynx cats don’t shed. They can’t — they have no hair. If you can get past the idea of a hairless cat, then the sphynx might be for you.

Next up: LaPerm

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3. LaPerm

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Cat hair is part of the feline appeal, which is why the LaPerm cat is probably my new favorite cat breed. This curly-haired kitty sheds very minimally, and their fur has a distinctive, “permed” look that is sure to win over even the most coldhearted cat naysayer.

More: 4 explanations for why cats love boxes

Next up: Devon Rex

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4. Devon rex

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A practically nonshedding coat is only part of the appeal of the Devon rex. For me, the kicker is the ears and the wide, kittenish eyes. I mean, really — how could you say "no" to that face?

Next up: Peterbald

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5. Peterbald

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You know that fabulous feeling when you run your fingers over the soft fuzz of a peach? That's basically what petting a Peterbald feels like. Peterbalds come in a range of coats, from totally hairless to a wiry brush, with a texture in the middle called "velour." Just imagine saying, “yes, I will take the velour kitten.” 

More: 18 photos of hairless cat breeds that will capture your cat-lady heart

Next up: Don Sphynx

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6. Don sphynx

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What if your cat were hairless, friendly and had kitty hands? Yes, I said it: hands. The Don sphynx, also called the Donskoy, is a separate breed from the sphinx, although they share the same hairless qualities (plus they also come in velour). The definitive characteristic is their paws. These are long-toed, webbed and very agile, allowing them to grab onto things as if they had fingers.

Before you go out and find your new nonshedding kitty friend, a word of caution — hairless cat breeds come with their own maintenance tasks. You haven’t so much tossed the brush and lint roller as replaced them with baths, gentle cleansing cloths and delicate skin care. If you are not ready for that, stick with a low-maintenance, low-shedding breed like the Devon or Cornish rex, or get a black cat to match your black clothes.

Game of Thrones is really failing at keeping Seaon 7 spoilers underwraps

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Caution: Major Game of Thrones Season 7 spoilers ahead!

This is not a drill. The highly anticipated face-to-face meeting of Game of Thrones' Jon Snow and Daenarys Targaryen is officially going down, and it's going down soon.

Images of filming action was recently leaked from the GoT set, and some of the pictures serve as proof that the two characters will definitely meet. The photos are taken from afar and super blurry, but not so blurry that you can't tell who is in the scene, and fan site watchersonthewall.com has pointed out that Kit Harington and Emilia Clarke — the actors who play Jon Snow and Daenarys, respectively — have been simultaneously shooting on the Spanish Island of Gaztelugatxe in Basque Country.

More: If Game of Thrones really kills off Sansa & Arya Stark, we'll freak

And now we know they were together.

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GoT 1

There's even a video clip of the first meeting.

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GoT 2

The spoiler has fans' minds running wild with speculation, with many hoping the meeting means Jon Snow and Daenarys will team up to overthrow Cersei before taking on the White Walkers. But at least one fan is hoping for something more.

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GoT 3

Yes, they both share Targaryen blood, but this is Game of Thrones, people. Anything could happen.

More: Maisie Williams may have just spoiled Arya's fate in Game of Thrones Season 7

On another note, the Dothraki were also caught in some action shots with Jon Snow and Tyrion Lannister, sparking hope of their return as well, along with Jason Mamoa as Khal Drogo.

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GoT 4

Back to Jon Snow and Daenarys.

More: Can't get enough of Game of Thrones? Good news, there's a concert

GoT loyals are obviously freaking out over the leak.

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GoT 5

But judging by an Instagram post by Clarke, she is taking all the hubbub in stride.

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Emilia Clarke

And Harington's just over there on social media, being as cryptic as can be.

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Kit Harington

What do you think of the new big reveal?

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28 best Mean Tweets read by celebrities on Jimmy Kimmel — ranked

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The internet can be a cold, ugly, mean place.

Keyboard warriors are on attack at all times, lurking around social media, and nobody is safe. Celebrities are especially susceptible to those trolling Twitter, and the venom the trolls spew can be downright vicious.

From actors to pop stars to the athletic elite, Jimmy Kimmel is giving every celeb who's been targeted the chance to face their attackers, so to speak, and the results have been nothing less than hilarious. The segment Mean Tweets on Jimmy Kimmel Live is making lemonade out of lemons and seriously cracking us up at the same time.

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The awesomeness in this segment comes not so much from the tweets themselves, but the amazing way that these celebs react to what is being said about them. Check out all of the most sidesplitting Mean Tweets so far.

Celebrities Read Mean Tweets No. 1

Mean Tweets #8

Mean Tweets #8

1. Lisa Kudrow: "I hope you all have a great weekend! Except you, Lisa Kudrow. F*** you."

This installment is a treasure trove of hilarity, but the top tweet definitely goes to Phoebe, er, Lisa Kudrow. Come on, tweeter! How can you tell Lisa Kudrow to f*** off? We'd hang out with her any day. At least she took it in stride; her explosive laughter actually made us laugh even harder.

2. Chloë Moretz: "Chloe Moretz or whatever her stupid name is looks like my a**hole seriously she is not decent looking whatsoever."

First of all, Chloë Moretz is too decent looking! She's adorable. But more importantly, she thought of the most epic comeback ever, looking straight at the camera and crying, "You must have a really bleached a**hole." Genius.

3. John Stamos: "Guys John Stamos has a gross belly button :/"

We will agree with this one just because we want to see John Stamos lift up his shirt again. Ladies, he's 51 years old... just think about that. Hot!

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Celebrities Read Mean Tweets No. 2

Mean Tweets #2

Mean Tweets #2

1. Katy Perry: "I would rather chop my arm off and f*** myself with my detached limb than watch 'Katie perry the movie' What the f*** is wrong with the world."

Umm, you're right, what is wrong with the world? First, this is gross and dirty. Second, you're going to cut your arm off to avoid watching Katy Perry's movie? Maybe you should save that strategy for a more dire situation, like if Katy Perry fans take you hostage and lock you up until you memorize every single one of her lyrics and profess your love for her. Or Beliebers force you to watch Justin Bieber's movies. Then, cutting off your arm might be an understandable strategy. But, come on, exaggerating much? At least Katy Perry has a good response. Call that tweeter out, Katy!

2. Matt Leblanc: "Matt leblanc looks so old. #whathappened."

Matt Leblanc will always be Joey in our eyes. And he probably hates that.

3. Danny McBride: "If Mike Piazza's hair caught fire and someone put it out with a cast iron skillet, you'd have Danny McBride."

We don't get it, but it's hilarious. This is one joke you don't have to explain for everyone to laugh.

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Mean Tweets No. 3: Music Edition

Mean Tweets music

Mean Tweets music

1. Brad Paisley: "@BradPaisley I don't know your music cuz I don't drive a pickup and I don't sleep with my sister."

Ha! We love country music and Brad Paisley is at the top of our playlist (we don't do either of those things, though), but this tweet really made us laugh.

2. Lil Wayne: "Lil Wayne looks like a crabapple."

His response: "I don't know what a crab apple is. [chuckle, chuckle] F*** all ya'll." Hey, Lil Wayne, you weren't alone in that, so you don't need to tell us all to f*** off! We actually tried to do the dude a favor and look up the meaning of crab apple. We regret that now. Don't do it; it's nothing anyone ever needs to know.

3. John Mayer: "John Mayer looks like a booze soaked turd wrapped in a Dumb and Dumber tux."

Well... at least you're in a tux, right?

Celebrities Read Mean Tweets No. 4

Mean Tweets #5

Mean Tweets #5

1. Julia Louis-Dreyfus: "LOOK AT ME IM JULIA LOUIS-DREYFUS I WAS ON SEINFELD THE SHOW ABOUT WHITE PEOPLE IN NEW YORK EATING PICKLES AND S*** F*** YOU B***!"

Her laugh is so darn cute. Plus, she's probably laughing so hard because that's how she explains Seinfeld to people too.

2. Jason Biggs: "If I had to choose between f***king a pie and @JasonBiggs I'd choose the pie. That dude has a dirty dick."

Jason Biggs looks like he's really enjoying himself while reading that tweet. Like he was really, really excited.

3. Sharon Stone: "I remember when the words '@sharonstone is on television' brought me joy, instead of, 'i hate that bitch.'"

Ah, Sharon Stone, don't take it to heart. After a super successful 35-year career, jealous people are bound to hate. Just shake it off, shake it off (sorry, we always speak in Taylor Swift).

Celebrities Read Mean Tweets No. 5

Mean Tweets #4

Mean Tweets #4

1. Kid Rock: "Kid rock looks like he would smell like stale farts & cigarettes."

Kid Rock vehemently disagrees with his mean tweet and wants the world to know he smells like "fresh farts and cigars," so he takes the No. 1 spot in this installment.

2. Elizabeth Moss: "I can't figure out if Elizabeth Moss is hot or not."

Her response is perfect. This is why we love Elizabeth Moss, people, this is why we love her!

3. Jessica Alba: "I just saw @jessicaalba. If this was 2007 I'd be really excited"

Yeah right, if my boyfriend saw Jessica Alba 30 years from now, pretty sure he'd still be excited. Talk about one woman who doesn't age!

Honorable mention goes to Julie Bowen for really getting into character as she read a tweet about her being "fat and anorexic all at once." Have you seen her biceps? Those are the only "fat" things about her and she could use them to beat you up.

Celebrities Read Mean Tweets: Music Edition No. 3

Mean tweets music edition #3

Mean tweets music edition #3

1. Kelly Clarkson: "Well Kelly Clarkson is on, time to go poop"

The beauty in this tweet is in its simplicity.

2. Common: "@common is that the motto for your penis?"

Common's deadpan delivery of this tweet gives him the No. 2 spot for this edition. It's almost like he wants us to believe that the Twitter user touched a nerve.

3. Josh Groban: "Hey Josh Groban! Suck my d***, ya big tool!"

The juxtaposition of Josh Groban's sweet, nerdy face with the gross vulgarity and aggressiveness of the tweet is pure comedy.

Celebrities Read Mean Tweets: Movie Edition

Mean Tweets: Movie Edition

Mean Tweets: Movie Edition

1. George Clooney: "If that gross ratty old man George Clooney can find a girl... you regular fellas out there in the twitterverse must be drowning in p****."

Well that's one way of putting it, I guess.

2. Eddie Redmayne: "Eddie Redmayne looks like someone tried to erase his nose, but couldn't completely. I also think he looks perpetually dehydrated."

He couldn't deny it. He was dehydrated, people. The boy's parched; get him a water!

3. Susan Sarandon: "Tired of susan sarandon having her big fat saggy boobs in my face."

That was the perfect comeback, Susan. Absolutely perfect.

4. Emily Blunt: "Emily Blunt's got a purdy mouth... that I'd like to poop in."

She nailed that delivery.

5. Taraji P. Henson: "Taraji P. Henson seems like she's extremely ghetto in real life lol."

Her response? "Well I can be, bitch. Meet me outside!" We're not worthy.

Celebrities Read Mean Tweets No. 10

Mean Tweets 10

Mean Tweets 10

1. Ryan Gosling: "Why does Ryan Gosling always look like he's trying to squeeze a fart out without it making any noise?"

"Because I'm a gentleman." — Gosling

2. Olivia Wilde: "Olivia Wilde's forehead is the same size as my left ass cheek...And I weigh 250LBS, so I'll let you imagine of just how big that must be."

Ouch.

3. Paul Rudd: "Paul Rudd is the most boring vanilla dude. You know he just sits at home with his wife having a bland spaghetti dinner talking about his day."

Hey, if Rudd thinks you're funny, that's a win, I guess.

Now that that's done, I move that when we don't have anything nice to say, we just don't say anything at all. And we stop using so many darn swear words on social media. Capisce?

Mean Tweets: President Obama Edition No. 2

Mean Tweets-President Obama Edition #2

Mean Tweets-President Obama Edition #2

1. "My mom bought new conditioner and it sucks it isn't even conditioning my hair I blame Obama."

We feel like this probably isn't the most outlandish thing President Obama has been blamed for.

2. "President Obama will go down as perhaps the worst president in the history of the United States!" — @RealDonaldTrump

"Well, @RealDonaldTrump, at least I will go down as a president." — President Obama

MIC. DROP. No explanation necessary.

Details behind Rihanna backup dancer Shirlene Quigley’s disappearance

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Rihanna and Missy Elliott are asking for fans' help to find a dancer who has been missing since late last week.

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Huffington Post reports that Shirlene Quigley, who has worked as a backup dancer for Rihanna, Elliott and other stars, including Beyoncé, was last seen at the Port Authority bus terminal in New York around 1 a.m. EST Sunday, and police are looking for information about where she might be.

"This beautiful soul, and former dancer of mine is MISSING!!!" Rihanna wrote on Instagram Monday. "My heart aches thinking of how heavy this is on all who love her! If anyone has seen or has any information on @shirlenequigley’s whereabouts ..... PLEASE CONTACT the North Bergen Police Department 201 392 2100 !!!!"

Shirlene Quigley missing backup dancer 2

Shirlene Quigley missing backup dancer 2

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Elliott also made a few posts to social media asking for help to find Quigley. In one post that has since been deleted, she described what Quigley was reportedly wearing the last time she was seen.

"She was wearing a pink jacket and 3-4 inch heels," Elliott wrote. "The police have her phone. At this time a police report has been filed. If you have any information please come forward. Please share and help us find her!! #shirlenequigley amazing SWEET CARING SPIRIT who is LOVED by MANY! I NEED YALL TO REPOST get this info out there!"

Since deleting that post, Elliott has retweeted others that include pictures of Quigley and contact information for the North Bergen Police Department.

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Shirlene Quigley missing backup dancer 1

Quigley was reported missing by her father, who said they normally talk on the phone daily at 6 p.m., and he started to worry when she didn't call. Police found Quigley's phone at a New York City bridal shop.

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'Don’t get married and don’t have kids' — was Mom’s advice correct?

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My mom and I weren’t super-close when I was a teenager. So it was unusual that one day I found myself out to lunch with her, just the two of us. As we sat there silently, sipping water and waiting for our food, she suddenly leaned over and said: “Don’t ever get married and don’t ever have kids.” At the time, I was offended by the insinuation that she regretted marrying my dad and having me, that she wished she had chosen a life of independence and freedom instead of being stuck with us.

But now that I’m in a committed relationship and have a kid, I know how she feels.

All of this unexpectedly fell into my lap when I met my boyfriend in 2013 and got pregnant five months later. At the time, having the baby seemed like the right thing to do. I felt my boyfriend would make a good partner and father. I had the support of family and friends. I was 35 and needed to make a game-time decision.

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I knew things were going to change drastically, but I hadn’t really considered the reality of the situation until I was already in it. A good day for me three years ago was eating Thai food in bed and watching Netflix. A good day for me now is when my kid hasn’t thrown a tantrum in the last hour, ate most of his lunch and took a long nap and woke up in a good mood. His entire being is the determining factor for how things are going for me, and I have absolutely no control over it most of the time.

My attached, over-30, childless friends — the ones deciding if they should start a family and the ones who have chosen not to — press me about my feelings. They want to know what it’s like on the other side, especially from someone who had no intention of ever being there. They all want to know how I really feel about this decision. They want to know if I regret it. They want me to say it out loud.

What they don’t understand is that it’s an impossible thing to say. Many of us may think about it, some of us half-jokingly wonder if we’ve made a mistake. But all of us know there’s no turning back now.

The best I can muster is reminding them that the smiling photos of my kid on Instagram are only 20 percent of the story. No matter how much I stress that he’s actually kind of difficult and demanding, wild and whiny, I still see the disbelief in their eyes. Even when I break down my life in commute time, work hours and weekends spent parenting, the concept seems too hard to grasp.

This is what I want to tell them:

If you really like the way your life is right now, it won’t get better by having a kid. Right now, you don’t have to time a brunch date around someone else’s naps, feeding schedule and mood. You can wait 30 minutes for a table or be seated next to the door if it’s cold out or tolerate yelling across the table if the music is too loud. Not after you have a kid. Are there highchairs? Does the bathroom have a changing table? Is there a kid’s menu? Do they provide plastic cups with straws? Crayons and paper? And always be prepared to leave immediately if there’s a blown-out diaper or a meltdown.

Want to leave the house sans kid? The few times you’ll be able to get away will be glorious solo excursions to Target or negotiating with your significant other for a girls’ night out once a month. For single moms, this extends even further to asking for help or paying for it.

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Perhaps things like brunch and a glass of wine with friends seem trivial compared to the preciousness of being a mom. But a part of me still wants to spend an entire Sunday in bed or at a bar drinking and watching football. On top of it all, it feels wrong to miss those days because I have a kid who is supposedly bringing all of this joy and meaning into my life.

Are you are willing to say goodbye to the life you have now to nurture someone else’s life? Think about it. It’s OK if the answer to that question is “no”.

If the answer is still a “maybe”, then I’m siding with my mom: Don’t get married and don’t have kids.

The 'village' we've been looking for is in volunteer parents

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This week, I arrived early to pick up my seven year old from soccer practice. I watched the coach cheer the girls on as he taught a new skill. The girls smiled as they ran. My daughter’s coach is the father of one of the players and he filled an unexpected coaching vacancy at the very beginning of the season. After working all day, he hits the field with energy and enthusiasm. He willingly took on the responsibility of coaching so that our girls could enjoy a full season. I thank him for not only for allowing my daughter to continue playing soccer, but also for modeling through his example how enjoyable it is.

My son was fortunate enough to have been coached for several years by the same two men. Both of these fathers were not only great technical coaches, but also men of upstanding character. They were kind, patient, & courteous, both on and off the field. His new coach this year is of the same ilk— teaching my son not only how to play soccer well, but how to play it with dignity and excellent sportsmanship.

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One of my daughters has been in the same Girl Scout troop since kindergarten, led by two extraordinary women. Both of these women are extremely busy with their own jobs, homes, and families, yet have spent countless hours planning wonderful outings and activities for the troop. For years, they have coordinated every aspect of the troop’s activities, and have selflessly served as excellent role models for each and every girl. They have encouraged and inspired my daughter in ways that I cannot describe. I cannot even fathom just how much time leading the troop has required through the years, but I know that I can never thank them enough for the gift that their efforts have been for my daughter.

And how about those PTA parents? I will sheepishly admit that despite being a card-carrying member of our school’s PTA, I don’t typically participate in their activities. But I am in awe of what the parents (and no, not just mothers, but fathers, too) plan for our kids. From the book fairs, science nights, holiday parties, clothing drives, to the impeccably coordinated sixth grade dances… these parents are in the trenches for my children (and yours!), dedicating hours of their time to planning, decorating, and executing wonderful events that add so much excitement to our children’s school experience.

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As a mother of six children, maintaining my weekly schedule can be daunting at times. In addition to the usual meals, homework, and household routine, a good part of my time is also spent shepherding my kids to and from their various activities. Despite being busy with their own households, jobs, and families, these adults selflessly take on additional responsibilities for children’s enjoyment and enrichment. These are just a few examples of adults in my children’s lives that have selflessly devoted themselves to tasks that many of us feel too tired, too busy, or too overwhelmed to think of doing ourselves. I thank those that willingly offer up their limited “free” time in the interests of not only their own children, but other children as well.

Thank you for encouraging my children, for instructing them, and for believing in them. Thank you for being adults that ALL of our children can look up to and want to emulate. Your compassion and self-sacrifice are invaluable.

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The secret to making perfect fried rice just like at a Chinese restaurant

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The last time I tried to make fried rice, I made a sad mess of rice pudding instead. I made a classic rookie mistake, scooping wet, just-cooked rice directly from the pot into a hot pan. It didn't fry, it steamed... and it stuck. Victory was not ours that night, my friends.

But I've just found the secret to fried rice in the new cookbook, The Adventures of Fat Rice: Recipes from the Chicago Restaurant Inspired by Macau. (If you're not already familiar, Macau is a peninsula on the southern coast of China. It's where that casino scene from the movie Skyfall takes place. Americans know it as the Las Vegas of Asia, but I just made all of Asia cringe writing that.)

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Fat Rice is a popular restaurant in Chicago, and it's also the name of an insanely complicated Macanese recipe from the cookbook. I'm not gonna lie — a lot of the recipes look way too involved for weeknight family dinner. But what I love about it are the comic book-style instructions (more of this, please, cookbook publishers!) and the drool-inducing flavors evoked on every page.

But back to fried rice done right: To start, you need the basic building blocks. So we begin with one of the simplest recipes in the cookbook, coconut rice.

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Image: Sarah Becan/Fat Rice

Coconut rice recipe

The marriage of rice and coconut makes magic: They both grow in the same climates/areas (India, Southeast Asia and Sri Lanka, to name a few), many of which are influences in Macanese cuisine. That said, coconut rice isn’t widespread in Macau, but it is found in sweet baji (rice pudding made with sticky rice and coconut milk), the Macanese answer to rice pudding. Don’t be deceived by rice’s simplicity. Steamed rice is an integral ingredient to so many cultures, and it seems so effortless to cook. But to cook it right — resulting in light, fluffy, separate grains — can be extremely difficult. Be gentle handling the rice so it doesn’t break, releasing more starch than you want and resulting in a gummy end product. And measure carefully — the proper liquid-to-rice ratio is key.

Ingredients:

  • 24 ounces (about 3 cups) jasmine rice
  • 1 (13.5 ounce) can full-fat coconut milk, shaken well
  • 13.5 ounces water (use coconut milk can to measure)
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt

Directions:

  1. Rinse the rice: Put the rice in a fine mesh strainer and put that into a large bowl. Place under cold running water. Gently stir clockwise with a slightly cupped hand, taking care not to break the rice. Discard the water as it becomes cloudy, then repeat the process a few times until the water runs clear. Drain in the fine mesh strainer for at least 10 minutes prior to cooking.

rinse rice

Image: Sarah Becan/Fat Rice
  1. To cook the rice using a rice cooker, put the rice, coconut milk, water and salt in a rice cooker and stir gently to combine. Proceed to cook following your rice cooker’s instructions. When done cooking, leave the rice alone for at least 10 minutes before serving to allow it to absorb any residual moisture in the cooker. To cook the rice on the stovetop, put the rice, coconut milk, water and salt in a heavy, 3-quart pot and stir gently to combine. Bring to a simmer over high heat, then cover and decrease the heat to low to maintain a low simmer. Cook for 9 minutes without uncovering. Don’t open the pot! Don’t stir it! Turn off the heat and leave the rice alone for at least 10 minutes before serving to allow it to absorb any residual moisture in the pot.

So that's Fat Rice's recipe for coconut rice, which is the first step to fried rice glory. But you're not done yet. Next, you'll need to dry out that rice. We've paraphrased their instructions here.

How to prepare your rice for frying

  1. Spread the rice out on a cookie sheet and let it cool off.
  2. Put it in the refrigerator and leave it uncovered for 12 to 24 hours.
  3. Remove it from refrigerator and separate the rice grains gently, being careful not to smash or break the grains.
  4. Use immediately with your favorite fried rice recipe or cover it and store it in the refrigerator for up to 3 days.

Fat Rice has a killer fried rice recipe, but these instructions will set you up for just about any recipe you want to use. So now you know. Go make the best fried rice of your life.

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My boss has a Donald Trump personality, and I don't know how to defend him

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Today we're talking about a sticking up for and being damaged by a boss with a bad reputation.

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Question:

I work for a Donald Trump clone but I don't have a Mike Pence or a Kellyanne Conway personality to deal with him. They don’t seem to have problems explaining why their candidate does what he does. When customers or my coworkers ask whether it bothers me when my boss leers at women or makes stupid comments about those who can’t get off welfare and get a job, I tell the truth – it does bother me.

But then I say that’s not the boss I work for. My boss is a good guy. He treats me well. He lets me have ideas contrary to his, as long as I listen to him first and make a good case for mine. I’ve learned he blows up and then rails about someone or a situation and then simmers down. He’s actually great to work for.

He doesn’t leer at me, and though I’ve occasionally worried whether it means I’m not attractive enough, I’ve decided it’s because he knows me as a person.

However I’m afraid people will think I share his views because I’ve worked for him for more than a year. Someday I’ll want to move on from this job, and I’m worried, because he’s well known in this city, that I’ll lose out on opportunities because a prospective employer will make assumptions about me.

Also, I sort of want to protect him from how everyone sees him because he’s so much more than they think.

Help?

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Answer:

If you present yourself in the right way, most people will see you as you, though some may assume you agree with your boss. Set them straight without slamming your boss. “Yes, he said that, though that’s not what I believe. If you want to pursue that, you’ll need to take that up with him.”

You can’t protect your boss. You can, as you do now, tell them there’s more to your boss than meets the eye. Let them know he treats you with respect, that there is more to him than meets the eye and that he’s been great to work for. If you want, explain what that is and what you’ve learned from him.

When you leave, along with your boss’s recommendation letter and resume, supply future employers with a cover letter outlining what you know how to do and noting that you’ve learned to work with and for individuals who think differently than you do. Prospective employers read cover letters while they scan resumes and that line may intrigue the right kind of employer.

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© 2016, Lynne Curry. If you have a career questions you’d like Lynne to answer, write her @ lynne@thegrowthcompany.com. Lynne is an executive coach and author of Solutions and Beating the Workplace Bully, AMACOM. You can follow Lynne through her other posts on sheknows.com, via www.workplacecoachblog.com, www.bullywhisperer.com™ or @lynnecurry10 on Twitter.

The most controversial housewife may return to RHONJ to shake things up

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A familiar face could be making a return to The Real Housewives of New Jersey.

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A source close to the show has been saying there's a chance that Danielle Staub, the villain of Seasons 1 and 2, has mended fences with co-star Teresa Giudice after their screaming fights caused Staub to exit the show before the third season.

"[The idea of her coming back] all happened after they filmed the [Housewives] reunion a few weeks ago," the insider told Entertainment Tonight. During the reunion, Giudice actually apologized on air for the way she had treated Staub during their stint on the show together years ago.

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"Danielle has been very complimentary to Teresa on social media since her legal issues and jail time," the source continued. "So, after the reunion, Teresa thought to reach out to Danielle to say hi. Teresa has really turned over a new leaf and figured, 'Why not? Life is too short to hold grudges.' And she will definitely be a great ally for Teresa to have."

But if Staub returns to be Giudice's friend, will she still be as popular with fans and viewers as she used to be? After all, we watch the Real Housewives franchise for the drama, and Staub and Giudice's screaming matches were some of the juiciest moments on the New Jersey offshoot.

I think deep inside, we all just want to see more fighting from Staub, who was a major antagonist with the other women. What we don't want to see is her being all "namaste" and doing yoga with the women she used to have bitter catfights with.

Danielle Staub and Teresa Giudice do yoga together now

Danielle Staub and Teresa Giudice do yoga together now

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Do you want to see Danielle Staub return to The Real Housewives of New Jersey?

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Image: Gia Giudice/Instagram

That Walking Dead death scene was even too much for one cast member

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Those who watched Sunday's season premiere of The Walking Dead know just how freakin' brutal it was (and warning, spoilers ahead!)

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Jeffrey Dean Morgan, who plays Negan on the show, admitted to Interview magazine that even though he's just playing a character, the violence in that particular episode was a little much, even for him.

"I think maybe it was the Carl’s arm bit to be honest with you," he said. "Look, that whole episode was hard, and also because I did go through and smack everybody with Lucille at a certain point. Everybody took a hit. All of that was hard."

He continued, "It got to the point where I didn’t want to do it anymore.… Emotionally I was completely drained — all of us were, I would imagine. [Andrew Lincoln] and I just went through the ringer. It was a hard episode, and having to get there time and time again to do these horrible things… They’re all good people, and I love them — the whole cast — so to keep riding them as hard as I was riding them, in-between takes it was like, God, you’ve got to catch your breath a little bit."

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Morgan revealed that the cast spent 10 days shooting the episode, and the filming process mirrored the intensity that fans saw in the show that aired.

"It was just so fucking heavy at all times. In the show that aired, there’s no let up, and it was like that for 10 days for us," he said. "It wasn’t just 40 minutes of it; it was 10 days of that, every day, all day."

Regardless of how difficult it can be to stomach the violence, Morgan still enjoys the complexity of his character.

"Not that I’m going to make excuses for Negan, but we seem to forget as an audience, and as fans of the show, that Rick and Daryl and the rest of them killed probably 30, 40 of my men, and so far I’ve only killed two of them. Negan just did it with some panache," he said. "He’s a brutal son of a bitch, but there are also parts about him that I find kind of endearing. We’ll see if the audience responds to it,” Morgan added. “I think that the first episode is going to be rough, and people aren’t going to be real fond of me or Negan, and I think as time wears on and you get to know him a little bit more and understand his way of thinking, there could be a shift in that. Maybe they’ll love to hate him as opposed to just hating him."

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Image: AMC

Jorge and Anfisa's relationship on 90 Day Fiancé seems dependent on gifts

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On episode six of 90 Day Fiancé, "I Can See the Cracks," the audience watches the continuation of Jorge and Anfisa's relationship challenges. We see Jorge and Anfisa having a meal together while discussing some red flag topics in most relationships. The two of them are sharing a conversation that is particularly odd for two people who are in love and about to get married.

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Jorge says to Anfisa during their meal “So basically you are dating me so I can buy you things?” which she answers in the affirmative. He tells the camera that this is not right. She does not seem to grasp the idea that this might be hurtful to him, and continues to play some sort of game insinuating that she would leave him if he cannot provide these things.

I am assuming this is how she measures love by receiving gifts. He questions her about what would happen if he could not buy her things. She seems to think that since she is beautiful that she deserves them. He continues to tell the camera that he is confused to why he would do this with no love in return, and when he tells her his thoughts she tells him that she will go back to Russia. She tells the camera that it is hard for her adjust and she seems to think that he needs to make a statement and fight for her to stay. This is a really odd and awkward conversation to anyone watching at home, as it appears that she is just wanting gifts and not a relationship.

However, she might see the expensive things he buys her as Jorge showing her care and love. One of the love languages is gift giving as seen in the book, The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. However, in the case of Anfisa, her expectations appear to go beyond just giving and receiving gifts, as a less expensive present might not meet her expectations. She seems to have extravagant tastes in gifts which is not really the problem and is her prerogative. But I wonder if Jorge led her to believe that he would be able to provide these gifts, so it raised her expectations for what their union would look like in the future. If this is the case, then the two created the pattern and might need to communicate better to figure out where the expectation comes from and how each person can feel loved and cared for.

So, I guess we will continue to see if they can overcome this obstacle next week and beyond.

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Chocolate butter is the new Nutella and we know how to make it

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This morning, I awoke to the news that chocolate butter exists. That's right, two of the best foods in the entire universe have joined together in one glorious product. Lewis Road Creamery uses Whittaker's chocolate to make a 72-percent dark Ghana chocolate spread, and oh, yeah: It's only available in New Zealand for now. So, two thoughts.

  1. Someone came up with a new way to brand chocolate frosting. Well played, Lewis Road Creamery.
  2. This would be super-easy to DIY.

To the SheKnows Labs!

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According to Lewis Road's website, these are the ingredients in the chocolate butter: butter (40 percent), sunflower oil, Whittaker's dark chocolate (17 percent), icing sugar, cocoa powder, vanilla extract.

So it's almost half butter and a little less than a quarter chocolate, maybe more counting the cocoa powder. And it has a bit of icing sugar, which is the same thing as powdered or confectioner's sugar.

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Here's our recipe for chocolate butter.

Ingredients:

  • 1/4 cup chocolate chips
  • 2 tablespoons cocoa powder
  • 1 tablespoon powdered sugar
  • 1/2 cup unsalted butter, softened to room temperature

Directions: 

  1. Temper the chocolate by microwaving the chips with 1 tablespoon of the butter for 30 seconds, stirring, microwaving for another 20 seconds until it's almost melted, and then stirring again until the chips are completely melted (timing may vary depending on your microwave, but you want to avoid overcooking the chocolate). Let it cool a few minutes.
  2. Whisk cocoa powder and powdered sugar into butter. Fold in melted chocolate and then vigorously mix the entire batch. Ideally, you have a hand mixer and can whip a lot of air into this. We didn't have one at the labs today, so I used elbow grease and a plastic fork. It worked out.
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Without tasting the original, we can't be certain this is exactly the same, but it does come pretty darn close. It's actually more intensely chocolate and lighter than frosting, probably because we're not using as much powdered sugar. One taster said it was almost like chocolate pudding. I think it's pretty close to a ganache.

We recommend this spread on bread or toast, of course. Or you could dip strawberries and banana slices in it, or use it in place of frosting for delicate cookies like shortbread. I think it would also be good on pound cake or angel food cake.

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