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Soap fans hate product placements, but General Hospital doesn’t care

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When you think of General Hospital, you don’t normally think of Marvel’s upcoming movie, Doctor Strange. However, Disney, who owns both Marvel and ABC, wants soap opera fans to add the superhero movie to their fall must-watch list.

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On the Oct. 12 episode of GH, Ned (Wally Kurth) and Olivia (Lisa LoCicero) share a romantic moment that takes an awkward turn when the movie is mentioned.

Doctor Strange plug on GH

Doctor Strange plug on GH

"Well, you know, Doctor Strange is about to hit theaters pretty soon," suggests Olivia.

"Well, you may be surprised to hear this, but if I can't see that movie with you, I won't see it," Wally replies in a husky voice, "It won't be the same. I don't want to pressure you, it's just, how I feel."

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That giggle-worthy moment erupts into a hot, passionate kiss. Who knew Doctor Strange could elicit such sexy times?

But let’s take a step back and see what's really going on here — cross-promotion. While it’s fantastic that Disney has the ability to pitch their latest projects in their theme parks, TV shows and merchandise, can it at least feel organic?

It is unfair to have two terrific actors force a scene like that and it’s not the first time we’ve seen it on soaps. Back in 2010, when things were looking dire for all soaps, Days of Our Lives had some pretty awkward product placements, from Wanchai Ferry Chinese food to Cheerios and Midol. They caught a lot of flak for it from the fans.

More: Soap operas constantly tackle social issues — and often before other TV shows

It's no different this time around either. Viewers are smarter than this and deserve a storyline that is natural. The actors deserve dialogue that is worthy of their characters and the hard work they put in on the set.

There is no doubt that Doctor Strange is going to be a monster hit for Marvel. Do they really need to make GH plug it even more?

Check out these other awkward product placements on soaps:

Wanchai Ferry Chinese Food on DOOL

Wanchai Ferry Chinese Food on DOOL

KY Warm Jelly on Passions

KY Warm Jelly on Passions

More Cheerios on DOOL

More Cheerios on DOOL

Midol on DOOL

Midol on DOOL

Cheerios on DOOL

Cheerios on DOOL

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

General Hospital slideshow
Image: ABC/Rick Rowell

7 outfit pitfalls to avoid at your next job interview

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Back in my days of interviewing for writing internships, I often pushed the limits on proper interview attire. From short skirts to sky-high heels, I didn’t quite understand what was going wrong in my interviews until I got a bit of harsh feedback through the grapevine. Although I’m not one to condone judgment of others for what they wear, the cold hard truth is that a job interviewer’s first impression of you is often heavily influenced by what you choose to wear to the initial interview.

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With millennials being the largest generation in the workforce, workplaces are beginning to get more and more casual in terms of dress, so it can be easy to get more lax in your interviewing attire as well. However, at risk of sounding old fashioned, it’s always better to dress too professionally for an interview than to dress too casual. After all, you do want to let the interviewer know that you put in a solid effort to get this job, right?

Here are five ways you can avoid five of the most common interview attire flubs as you take the job market by storm this fall.

1. Over accessorizing

We all love our statement jewelry pieces, belts, bags, and shoes. The problem is, when you wear too many accessories, they can detract from what you have to say. A good rule of thumb when it comes to dressing for an interview is to keep accessories simple. Opt for flats or a small heel when choosing the shoes you’ll pair with your ensemble. About.com offers up some great tips for selecting the right shoes for an interview if you’re not sure whether the shoes you have in mind might work.

For jewelry, try to avoid large statement pieces and instead wear one or two small pieces that fit with the outfit you choose. A couple of simple jewelry pieces will be more than enough to personalize your outfit. No need for decorative belts or statement bags.

2. Neglecting workplace culture

One of the biggest mistakes I’ve made while choosing the right attire for an interview was neglecting the workplace culture. Scope out the company’s Facebook and Instagram profiles to see if you can identify trends in the way employees are dressing for a typical workday. If they’re a casual company, you might want to opt for a dressy casual look. If you notice that the company is pretty conservative and employees are typically wearing business casual at the office, go for a professional business look for your interview.

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3. Over doing it on perfume

When it comes to perfume, you’re usually better off without it in an interview. This isn’t because employers look down on a nice scent, but because it can be really easy to overdo it on your favorite scent – especially when you forget that you will be sitting in a small room with your potential employers.

Try skipping your perfume if you can. If you find that you don’t feel as confident without it, try looking into a few upscale scents and limit yourself to one simple spritz!

4. Letting prints and patterns speak for you

Like statement piece jewelry and over-the-top heels, crazy prints and patterns often steal some of the interviewer’s attention away from what you have to say.

Stacy Lindenberg, owner of Talent Seed Consulting said in an article Monster.com, “Better to choose subtle patterns over brighter ones, and dark or neutral clothing versus neon colors or anything distracting. You should be the focus of the interview, not your clothing.”

Glamour UK has an awesome gallery of potential interview outfits if you’d like a little guidance in regards to where you should draw the line on adding prints, colors, and patterns to your interview look.

5. Tech accessories and smartphones

As a millennial myself, I’ll admit that I’m tempted to pull out my phone or plug in my headphones at times when my nerves are high. If you’re like me and tend to reach for your phone or headphones when you’re under pressure, don’t do it before an interview!

You won’t give interviewers the vibe that you are able to stay on task when you’re glued to your phone or pulling out your headphones when they come out to the lobby to greet you.

The only exception on headphones is in the event of a Skype interview. Experts actually say that a headset is highly recommended in this case to increase sound quality on both ends of the call. Aside from that, leave your phone in your pocket or bag, and keep your headphones at home.

Although selecting the clothing you wear is an important part of expressing your personality, job interviews require that you follow a several simple guidelines in order to make the best first impression possible. That doesn’t mean you should wear clothing that makes you uncomfortable, but it does mean that you should choose items from your wardrobe that will complement your overall presentation rather than detract from your skills and qualifications.

Hopefully these tips will help you avoid some of the most common job interview attire fails as you search for your next internship or job!

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My kid was too stupid to do baby-led weaning

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This morning, I read Amy Klein’s Washington Post story “Putting my daughter (and myself) on a baby-led pizza-weaning diet” about her concerns about passing her family’s eating habits and values onto her small child. What stood out to me was the way she portrayed baby-led weaning.

Baby-led weaning is the practice of introducing whole foods to the baby to foster his independence, rather than feeding typical baby food like vegetable purées or rice cereal.

Granted, I may be sensitive to this because I attempted BLW on my first child. I thought it sounded great — I didn’t want to make baby food, and if it taught him how to eat more like a human being, great. However, he simply didn’t want to do it. I steamed the hell out of some baby carrots (so they’d be mushy) and put them on his plate for him to pick up and enjoy like a regular little person, and not like some dumb baby with some dumb mommy who didn’t know better than to BLW.

He looked at the carrot. I don’t think he even touched it. In the end, I mashed up the carrots and fed them to him and he was happy.

More: Fabulous first foods for baby-led weaning

I’m not sure where I went wrong. It probably didn’t help that I chose to formula-feed my baby instead of breastfeed (which is part of the BLW common core.) But I suspect that where I went wrong was in creating a human with his own tastes and preferences. Super-inconvenient.

Other babies, unlike mine, do give BLW the old college try, but they simply choke too much for their parents to handle (if you haven’t gotten to the point yet where you feed your baby solids, you’re in for a world of fun — constantly trying to remember how to handle a choking baby while you wait an agonizing few seconds as you discern whether your baby is really choking or just choking a little.)

While Klein is not exactly a BLW evangelist in her piece, she does hit upon some of the bullet points that make me, as a non-BLW parent, defensive. Sometimes BLW parents, like parents who espouse any type of baby-related “movement,” offer up declarations that seem to put down parents and babies that don’t BLW.

Here are a few in the piece, and how I, as a defensive mom, interpret each statement:

“Instead of suffering through months of mashed vegetables all over the walls and playing annoying airplane games with a spoonful of green goop (does anyone really like those peas?) I was starting her off with scrambled eggs, avocado, melon and strawberries.”

Translation: Spoon-feeding parents are slaves to baby food and their hopeless children who have to be fed like babies. BLW babies are more sophisticated than babies who don’t eat whole foods — like, not only do they not eat purées, they go to the bathroom and read The New Yorker in there while they’re at it.

Studies show that spoon-fed babies are more likely to be obese than BLW babies.”

Translation: BLW babies = slim and healthy and attractive. Spoon-fed babies = fat and hopeless.

“BLW babies in the study were also more likely to prefer carbohydrates to sweet foods.”

Translation: BLW are not slaves to sugar like spoon-fed babies. BLW babies go trick-or-treating for fine cheese and organic vegetables compared to the dim-witted spoon-fed ones.

For me, in the end, BLW was some first-child nonsense, the kind of thing I had time to study up on and agonize over back in the days when I only had one kid and it seemed like every single choice I made would impact him for the rest of his life. By the time my second kid came around, I didn’t think too much about how I was going to feed him at all. To my delight he did eat “human” food more than his brother did, but from the moment he was born he was a hungrier lad than his brother was. I enjoyed how much easier this made him to take to restaurants — give him a crust of bread and he could entertain himself for an entire meal, but I never thought this made him a smarter baby or me a better parent. I also have friends whose kids are all bad eaters. You get the kid you get and your practices or beliefs do not form them.

More: The 4-1-1 on baby-led weaning

There is no shortage of calls to end the mommy wars, but it’s an ongoing battle so it bears repeating. We all attempt to make choices that work in tandem with our values, whether it’s at-home birth, baby wearing, baby-led weaning or home schooling. What we often forget is that our children also have their own ideas, tastes and preferences. Whether they go along with our original plans is not an indicator that our children are smarter or more sophisticated than those of parents who make different choices than we do. It just means we got lucky.

This isn't the first time Beyoncé's fans have 'joked' about cutting themselves

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Beyhive, you've gotten a little a lot out of control lately.

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During Beyoncé's Tidal X: 1015 concert performance in Brooklyn on Saturday, she pulled one of her most badass onstage moves to date. Her earring got caught in her braid at one point and yanked out of her ear, and like the boss she is, Bey kept right on performing with her bleeding earlobe. Reports say she didn't even notice the blood until several songs later. Kween.

Beyonce cut ear on stage

Beyonce cut ear on stage

But what her fans may have done in response is so, so wrong. The Huffington Post reports that fans on Twitter and Instagram have been cutting their own ears and posting photos and videos of themselves bleeding with the hashtags "#CutForBeyonce" and "#BleedForBeyonce."

People are cutting themselves to support Beyonce 1

People are cutting themselves to support Beyonce 1

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The photos and videos are pretty graphic and disturbing, so I'm not going to post any here. I am going to say, however, that whether or not this is a hoax, it's pretty messed up to make light of self-harm like this. Cutting and other forms of self-harm are actual, dangerous issues that a lot of people struggle with, and these videos and pics are like a slap in the face to all of those people.

And if it turns out that people are actually cutting themselves to show support for Beyoncé, come on. That's dangerous and stupid and you all should know better. You know that even the smallest cut can get infected and kill you, right? What are you all even thinking right now?

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People are cutting themselves to support Beyonce 3

People are cutting themselves to support Beyonce 2

People are cutting themselves to support Beyonce 2

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What do you think about #CutForBeyonce?

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

bey and jay family slideshow
Image: WENN.com

NBC may have actually destroyed Donald Trump's campaign on purpose

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Did NBC actually plan to cause Donald Trump's presidential campaign to crash and burn?

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Sources are telling Page Six that some top-level execs at NBC planned to leak the infamous Access Hollywood "grab 'em by the pussy" tape to the Washington Post in a deliberate attempt to influence the election.

"Trump was leading in the polls, so the tape was leaked to derail his bid," an NBC insider reportedly told Page Six. "NBC handed over the scoop of the year to WaPo, just to help Hillary."

It's been rumored that Access Hollywood was actually planning to air the tape ahead of the Oct. 9 presidential debate, but then people there started to reconsider that idea. Before they could make up their minds, the tape ended up anonymously in the hands of The Washington Post.

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While the tape was certainly newsworthy — it showed concrete proof that Trump brags about and makes light of actual sexual assault — news organizations typically don't release information with the goal of hurting a candidate in mind. Plus, there's the ethical gray area the tape was in — in some states, it would be illegal to release a tape if Trump didn't know he was being recorded at the time. Leaking the tape to the Washington Post takes care of that legality.

Page Six also reports that there's no investigation happening at NBC to look into how the tape got leaked, which really does seem like more proof that people at the top knew about the leak — and condoned it.

More: Michelle Obama on Donald Trump mess: 'It has shaken me to my core'

Do you think NBC released the Trump tape just to hurt his presidential campaign?

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

donald trump quotes slideshow
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What to eat for Diwali, the Indian festival of lights

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The holiday Diwali, commonly known as the festival of lights, is celebrated by Hindus, Jains and Sikhs around the world. Fireworks, golden-lit electric lamps or ghee-laden wicked candles light up streets, doors and sidewalks to symbolize the triumph of light over darkness and goodness over evil. Diwali is also celebrated by some Hindus especially to pray to Lakshmi, the goddess of wealth and prosperity (the day after Diwali marks a new fiscal year for many Indians).

There are regional differences in how the holiday is celebrated, food-wise and otherwise, and the breadth and style of cuisines shows the vastness of how the food culture celebrates this national holiday.

More: Go to an Indian restaurant, and order pani puri as soon as possible

Here is just one sample menu for an elaborate day of Diwali feasting:

Snacks are often made with ghee (clarified butter), sugar, a few spices and whole-wheat flour or puffed rice. Chickpea flour is often the main ingredient, making some of these naturally gluten-free.

  • Shakarparra — deep-fried crisps with coconut powder served with chutney
  • Chevdo — roasted rice flakes with spices and dried fruit
  • Pakoras — batter-fried vegetables, kind of like Indian tempura
  • Mutthiya — fried dumplings made from bottle gourd or calabash
  • Ghatiya — fried strips of graham flour dough

Main dishes often include the following, which may look familiar to those of you who are already fans of Indian cuisine:

Desserts/sweets, also known as mithai, are often milk-based in some way or form and sometimes cooked with grains. Many of the sweets are deep-fried, often in ghee. Spices like saffron, cardamom and cinnamon are common in sweets, as are ingredients like coconut and fig and even vegetables cooked with sugar and ghee made into halvah. Expensive ingredients like pistachios and almonds are saved for Diwali.

  • Coconut burfi — fudge-like confection made with cream or sweetened condensed milk and coconut
  • Gulab jamun — spongy, fried milk dumplings in a rosewater and saffron syrup
  • Ras malai — Paneer cheese dumplings served soaked in a sweet, creamy sauce
  • Ghughara — fried pastries stuffed with nuts, sugar and spices
  • Halvah — a dense, sweet confection popular not just in India but throughout the Middle East; there are endless varieties made from everything from carrots to sesame seeds
  • Jalebi — similar to funnel cakes, soaked in saffron sauce and then dried to a crispy texture
  • Kheer — rice pudding

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Every Diwali, my mom here in the U.S. asks me several weeks before what Diwali snacks and sweets I would like her to make for me. (My favorites are mutthiya, ghatiya, and her specialty: chevdo.)

Sweets are eaten several times during the day. That may not sound out of place since in the West, we celebrate the Christmas holiday season for six weeks straight with cookies, pies and cakes. But in India, sweets are generally not regularly created or consumed and bakeries are hard to come by unless it’s wedding season or Diwali. During those seasons, the mithaiwalas (sweets producers) are busy.

Probably the easiest way to try these Diwali specialties is to try them at a restaurant. Look up a higher-end Indian restaurant rather than your usual cheap takeout. It's worth the extra expense to try something new. If you don't live near any Indian groceries, which are sure to sell traditional snacks and sweets, you can order them from online stores like Sukhadia's and Rajbhog (the latter takes a moment to load — be patient, it's worth it).

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

20 recipes that show why turmeric is everyone's favorite food trend
Image: My second breakfast

Black cat nails are a fun twist on a french mani — and purrrfect for Halloween

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Are you always running around last minute in search of that perfect Halloween costume? Look no further than our adorable twist on a french manicure. Inspired by Charlotte Olympia's wildly popular feline flats, these black cat Halloween-appropriate nails appeal to fashion and cat-lovers. Just throw on some ears and a tail, and your Oct. 31 party ensemble is complete.

Black cat nails
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Supplies

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  • China Glaze's Liquid Leather
  • Spa Ritual's Joy
  • Orly's White Tips (not pictured)
  • small paint brush
  • nail tip stickers

Directions

Step 1: Base

Start with a nude base coat. We used one that has a subtle sparkle.

Onyx feline- Step 1: Base
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Step 2: Second coat

Take one of the rounded nail tip stickers and place across the top part of your thumbnail. Paint the bottom part of your nail black and peel off the sticker.

Onxy Feline Step 2: Second coat
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Onxy Feline Step 2: Second coat 2
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Onxy Feline Step 2: Second coat 3
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Step 3: Get catty

Using the small paintbrush, paint two triangular ears.

Onyx Feline Step 3: Get catty
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Step 4: Face on

Once the black polish is dry, add the face details with white polish and the small paint brush.

Onyx Feline Step 4: Face on
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Step 5: Tips

Place a nail tip sticker near the tip of the rest of your nails and paint black. Remove the sticker, and wait for everything to dry.

Step 5: Tips 1
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Onyx Feline Step 5: Tips 2
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Step 6: Top coat

Finish with clear top coat.

Onyx Feline Step 6: Top coat
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Give it a go and let us know how it turns out in the comments below!

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

Enough Halloween coloring pages to keep your kids busy all fall
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Originally published Oct. 2015. Updated Oct. 2016.

Snooki was insecure about her boobs, so she did something about them

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I remember watching Jersey Shore with my friends in my freshman-year dorm, setting time aside for "GTL" (gym, tan, laundry, for those not familiar with the show), and rolling out to the bars with our fake IDs on the weekends to fist-pump to whatever Jason Derulo song was hot at the time.

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Now, those hot messes that we all aspired to be, Snooki and JWoww, are actually moms. And to make matters even worse, they have a web series about the things they do to be good, responsible wives and mothers. They've come an awfully long way from throwing drinks at each other on the boardwalk and smashing with strangers, and while it's great that they're happy being grown-ups, it's also like a part of my college self just died.

Luckily, while they're definitely being grown-ups with their husbands and kids and all those things I'm not even close to ready for, JWoww and Snooki still get into some of their old antics now and then. For Snooki, that was a recent boob job.

Snooki gets a boob job

Snooki gets a boob job

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"Being a mom, your breasts are destroyed after having kids, especially breastfeeding," Snooki explained, adding that she breastfed her daughter, Giovanna, for a year. "I want to look hot for my husband, but I also want to look great for myself, and that was just an insecurity that I had... I feel so confidant with myself as a woman, as a wife, as a mom, so I kind of feel complete now."

On an episode of her web series, Moms With Attitude, Snooki revealed her new tatas to JWoww, who didn't even know she was having them done. And hilariously, JWoww didn't even notice at first.

"This fuckin' bitch," Snooki said to the camera before revealing her big surprise. At least that's still the Snooki I remember and love from college.

More: Snooki fans are concerned she's altering her appearance too much (PHOTO)

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

Celebs plastic surgery slideshow
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I thought my cerebral palsy was a disability, but it was actually a super power

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I was diagnosed with spastic diplegia cerebral palsy at the age of two after my parents became concerned that I wasn't walking. Cerebral palsy is a brain injury or impairment that affects the muscles or a person's ability to control them. For me, it means I have partial paralysis. Doctors told my parents I wouldn't have a normal life, that I would never walk and I needed to be placed in special needs classes and speech therapy.

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The muscles on my left side were very weak. I had trouble walking and sometimes even standing. My leg and arm would give out on me and I would fall or drop whatever I was holding. I spent months of my childhood in the hospital where doctors and therapists helped my family and I work through treatment plans for my diagnosis.

I let cerebral palsy get the best of me. I felt like it stopped me from having a normal life. I used to feel so ashamed and hurt that I couldn't roller skate or participate in gym class like the rest of my friends.

For 15 years, I wore an ankle foot orthosis (AFO) which was a brace that helped me to walk better on my own. I would color coordinate the Velcro straps so they matched my Reebok Classics that I had in many colors. Eventually I was strong enough to walk without it, although even now as an adult my body can be weak. I've had setbacks after suffering from a few strokes. I still fall and get injured.

Still, I've gotten used to the many things that someone without cerebral palsy would never have to think about. Getting out the bed in the morning is a challenge because my body has been still and my muscles have tightened up more than they already are, which makes it hard to move. Walking up stairs is hard because it can be difficult to lift my leg, causing me to fall both up and down the staircase. Sometimes there is no railing or the steps are so steep that I have to crawl or scoot. Even things I enjoy, like traveling, are a struggle because sitting in a car for long periods of time is painful. I'm stiff and can't move.

More: People accused me of being lazy – until I was diagnosed with narcolepsy

But I'm living life. I work with an amazing group of youth. I'm heavily involved in church, I travel a lot, I'm a social media manager and I have my own food blog. One thing that definitely changed was my confidence level. I used to be really insecure and shy because I thought my cerebral palsy was embarrassing. As I got older and started learning more about it and talking to people about some of my hardships, I realized I can still enjoy life. I can get married, have children, travel (which I do a lot) and shop for shoes. Sure, I need a strap over my ankle and I can't do stilettos, but I still love my shoes. Now I'm even meeting with parents of children that have cerebral palsy to share my story with them and let them know what their children are capable of.

The truth is, cerebral palsy has given me a reason to live, to be different and be unique. It took years, but it happened. I realized we are all made differently, we all have a purpose in life and mine is to show others that just because you are different doesn't mean you can't be great. As I always say, "Cerebral palsy is my superpower."

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Jim Carrey is so much more than the lawsuits he's currently fighting

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If you're a '90s kid — or, heck, even just lived through the '90s — then Jim Carrey was probably your comedic hero at some point. He made us laugh 'til we cried in old classics like Ace Ventura: Pet Detective, Dumb and Dumber, The Cable Guy, Liar Liar and The Mask.

All these movies made us love Carrey until it hurt, which has made it really hard to stomach all the negative press he's been getting lately after the death of his ex-girlfriend, Cathriona White. So,for now, let's take a minute to focus on a happier times and share some little known facts about Carrey that you might not know.

1. He could have been Captain Jack Sparrow

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It's nearly impossible to visualize anyone other than Johnny Depp in the Pirates of the Caribbean franchise as Captain Jack Sparrow, but he wasn't director Gore Verbinski's first choice for the off-kilter role. Verbinski actually offered it first to Carrey, who had to turn it down due to scheduling conflicts with Bruce Almighty.

2. He moonlights as a rock star from time to time

He may be best known for acting, but Carrey has another passion that has led to some milestone moments as well — rock music. During a private music show in Vermont in 1999, Phish invited Carrey to sing "Hey You" and "Come Together" with them. He has also performed "Rocket Man" onstage with Elton John in concert and contributed a cover of "I Am the Walrus" for music producer George Martin's Beatles tribute entitled "In My Life."

More: Does Jim Carrey really deserve blame for his ex-girlfriend's death?

3. He was supposed to steal Austin Powers' mojo

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Mwuhaha... mwuhahahaha! We feel kind of devious springing this on you while you’re still digesting the whole Captain Jack Sparrow bit above, but Carrey was actually cast as Dr. Evil in Austin Powers: International Man of Mystery. Could he have pulled it off? And, more importantly — had he not backed out due to scheduling conflicts — who would they have gotten to play his Mini-Me?

4. He and Tupac Shakur were tight

Well, sort of. While Tupac served time in jail, Carrey wrote him letters of encouragement to amuse the rapper and keep his spirits up. And the gesture didn't go unappreciated. Before his death, Tupac always insisted that Carrey was his favorite actor.

5. He wore tap shoes to bed growing up

Strange, yes, but Carrey cops to wearing tap shoes when he went to sleep at night growing up because his parents often asked him to perform for them in the middle of the night. "I had a sick mom, man. I wanted to make her feel better," he says on 60 Minutes, when asked about his unique brand of physical comedy. "Basically, I think she laid in bed and took a lot of pain pills. And I wanted to make her feel better. And I used to go in there and do impressions of praying mantises, and weird things, and whatever. I'd bounce off the walls and throw myself down the stairs to make her feel better."

More: Jim Carrey received a heartbreaking suicide note from his ex Cathriona White

6. Like Jewel, he called a van home for a while

When he was growing up, Carrey's Canadian family was so poor after his father lost his job that they all had to go to work as janitors at Titan Wheels Factory in Toronto — where Carrey would pull eight-hour shifts after school. When they finally decided to leave the factory, they were forced to live in a Volkswagen van on a relative's property until they could get back on their feet.

7. We have him to thank for the Fockers

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When asked by Larry King if he regrets turning down any roles, Carrey doesn't say Captain Jack Sparrow or even Dr. Evil. Rather, he talks about his role in the development of Meet the Parents. "I actually created the Fockers in a creative meeting," he admits. "Yes. But, it was perfect that Ben Stiller did it. When I saw it, I went, 'That's the way it's supposed to be done.'"

8. He hit a party rockin' nothin' but a tube sock

Carrey has a reputation for being a bit of an exhibitionist, but still — call us old-fashioned — we find it shocking anytime someone shows up nearly naked in public. For the 20th anniversary special of The Comedy Store, the funny guy made his grand entrance as naked as the day he was born… save a tube sock over, um, Mr. Popper's penguin.

9. Kate Winslet scares the hell out of him

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When working on Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Carrey had nothing but praise for his co-star, Kate Winslet — but he also confessed that she intimidates him. "I get excited when people I work with scare me," he explains in an interview with IGN. "I mean, she's just scary talented. An amazing actress." He goes on to say, "You sometimes don't know what she's doing when you're in the scene with her and then you look at it later and she just knows what's gonna come off."

10. He's saddened by the accusations against him

We'd be remiss not to at least mention the current legal proceedings against Carrey. Cathriona White's mother and estranged husband, Mark Burton, have both filed separate wrongful death lawsuits, blaming Carrey for White's death. But for his part, Carrey maintains his innocence.

"I will not tolerate this heartless attempt to exploit me or the woman I loved," read Carrey's statement about the lawsuit filed against him by Burton. "Cat’s troubles were born long before I met her and sadly her tragic end was beyond anyone’s control. I really hope that some day soon people will stop trying to profit from this and let her rest in peace."

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

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Originally published August 2013. Updated October 2016.

I want Terra Jolé's performance on DWTS to be judged on her skill, not her size

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October is Dwarfism Awareness month. What does this mean for those who are not dwarfs and have no understanding of dwarfism? Well, in an attempt to demystify the condition, those of us in the community write articles, teach in schools, and host fundraisers to finance education and medical funds for individuals with dwarfism in our community. It’s a month where we can try to finally stop the discrimination, stop the dehumanizing harassment, and push towards a more equal and enlightened society for ourselves and for our kids.

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As if the timing couldn’t be more perfect, Dancing With The Stars has their first ever little person competitor this year: Terra Jolé, star of Little Women: LA and Terra’s Little Family. I die a little on the inside every time I have to write the word little (shudder). While I understand DWTS is not at the forefront of education and enlightenment, it is a fun competition show with professional dancers and amateur performers in dazzling costumes. I’m not particularly a fan of the overly sappy backstories, and sentimental performances dedicated to family tragedy, but that’s only because I’m the least sentimental woman on this earth. However the equal treatment of all of the competitors gives us in the dwarfism community a reason to feel well represented with Terra.

And as it turns out, I’ve known Terra since we were kids. As a girl she wanted to be a singer and I wanted to be a dancer. Some 25 years later I have since changed career paths and now work in the pharmaceutical industry while she has continued with her performing and singing with much success. Though our career and life paths have taken us into different directions, I have seen her occasionally over the years at various events, and this year her opportunity to star on Dancing with the Stars has me excited. And envious.

I’ll be frank, yes, I am a bit jealous. Not seething with envy jealous, more like critiquing her technique jealous (woman, point your toes). Since I was four years old my dream was to be a professional dancer (the back-up to Janet Jackson kind, not a stripper by the airport kind). Being able to compete professionally as a dancer was something I strived for every day I pulled on my tights and laced up my jazz boots to practice. It’s funny, every now and then I will run into a parent of a teammate from my high school dance team, and they will inevitably ask me with excitement, “So – how’s the dancing career going?”

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And I have to reply, “Oh, nothing ever came of it, unfortunately.”

Undoubtedly they will reply, somewhat shocked, “But why, you were so good!”

“Thank you”, I offer, “Unfortunately discrimination is a difficult thing to overcome.”

In actuality, I even auditioned, twice, for Disney, and was told both times, that “Though you’re one of the best dancers here, I can’t use you because you’re too short.” That hurts to hear.

You see, as a dancer, the key to getting a job is to look the same. You never see a Radio City Rockette under five feet. They must be the same height, same weight, same everything in order to not stand out from the group. No singer/performer needs to be upstaged by a backup dancer who sticks out from the rest of the troupe. It’s why Misty Copeland’s promotion to principle dancer was such a big deal in the ballet world. Her body is not the “typical” body type. And it’s why the selection of Terra to be a competitor with her average size partner is a pretty big deal. Could these atypical body types be the signal of a change we have been waiting for in the dancing community?

So now instead of parents stopping me in the store to ask me about my dancing career, the people ask me what I think about Terra. Since you know, I’m a dwarf, she’s a dwarf, so we must all watch other dwarfs on TV. And these super mega-fans go on and on and on about how “FABULOUS” she is.

And I smile, nod my head and reply, “Yeah, she’s pretty good.”

“Pretty good?? She’s AMAZING! She is INSPIRATIONAL! She’s Vivacious!! She’s Sexy!”

I continue to smile and nod my head. I mean, what am I supposed to do? Drop my basket of vegetables in the aisle and say, “You think she’s good, check this out” and then launch into a two minute routine, complete with triple pirouette, grand jeté into a double axel, and finish with a series of ‘a la seconde’ turns?

I’m not that pathetic, well at least not in public. Plus I’m rarely ever wearing the proper footwear to accomplish such a feat. Luckily, I’m only bitter enough to reply with, “Well, she should have pointed her toes on the last piece, and when she was supposed to flair her hands, she balled them into fists and that was a mistake too.”

Some have even asked me what score I would give her, and I have to honestly say, “I’ve never given her higher than a seven.” Honestly.

The problem is that many are giving her too much credit for a good performance. This happens constantly when you live in society that doesn’t understand dwarfism or give the proper merit for our work. Our random effort is made into extraordinary effort. A good job turns into something teetering on inspirational. And if we truly accomplish a difficult feat, people sit back slack jawed incapable of a response. And I’m seeing this with Terra’s performance.

I know Marlee Matlin encountered a similar situation on season six of DWTS. Viewers not in the deaf community would ask, how can she hear the music? How will she dance if she can’t hear her partner? Seriously? Marlee probably received her fair share of the sympathy vote.

Do I think Terra is encountering a similar situation? Yes. Is she getting some sympathy vote from the viewing audience? Yes, and that bugs me – because in this competition she needs to be treated as an equal to her fellow competitors. If she messes up, she needs to be given a lower score. Sad back stories and tears should not elevate your score. It’s condescending and it takes away from her hours and hours of practice and work.

I want her to win because she won. I want her to be rewarded because she did a legitimately good job. I want the praise for her to be valid, not just because someone called her inspirational. I want this for Terra and the rest of the dwarfism community.

I want Terra to win DWTS because she is a great performer, not because she is an inspiring woman with dwarfism. Because she legitimately earned it.

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Has anyone asked Orlando Bloom how he feels about Katy Perry's baby fever?

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Katy Perry is reportedly eyeing her future pretty hard lately.

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And first on Perry's list? Kids, apparently.

"Children to me are becoming a big focus," Perry told E! News in a recent interview.

Perry, who has been dating Orlando Bloom for almost a year now, seems to be pretty serious about her relationship. And who knows? Maybe it's serious enough for kids. Bloom already has one son from his previous marriage to Miranda Kerr, and by all accounts, seems to love being a dad.

Perry reportedly helped her sister deliver her second baby recently, and since then, has had babies on the brain big time.

"I see the amazing thing of birth and children and the vulnerability and we just have to take care of them and how big of an impression we have. We have such a responsibility," she said. "I see it in my sister's kids and just how much nurturing and love they need."

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It may very well be in the cards for Perry — sources say she and Bloom are definitely planning a future together.

"They are in love and happier than ever. [Orlando] would like to get engaged to [Katy] before the year is up," one source close to the couple told Daily Mail. "[Marriage and children] is something Katy has always wanted when she met the man she was ready to settle down with."

So is Bloom that man? I guess we'll just have to wait and see, but they're adorable together, so here's hoping.

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Do you think Katy Perry and Orlando Bloom will have kids?

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

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GBBO fans are all about Richard Ayoade as the next host

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For loyal fans of The Great British Bake Off, watching the current (seventh) series has been bittersweet. Only two weeks after it launched, it was announced that the much-loved show would be moving from BBC1 to Channel 4, and that hosts Mel Giedroyc and Sue Perkins wouldn't be going with it.

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As if that weren't devastating enough, judge Mary Berry then revealed that she wouldn't be joining GBBO in its new home either. Her fellow judge Paul Hollywood will remain on the show, but fans seem to think Hollywood without Berry will be the biggest soggy bottom you could imagine.

But today came news so good that Bake Off traditionalists might just be willing to give the Channel 4 show a shot. It hasn't been confirmed, but it appears that the frontrunner for the presenting job is Richard Ayoade, best known for his roles in The IT Crowd, The Mighty Boosh and Garth Marenghi's Darkplace.

According to The Sun, a source said, "Richard is a really popular choice at the minute, as many think he’s got a great character that would bring a great spark to the show. He’s got a wonderful off-beat sense of humour, which would really fit the change of channel — and would no doubt be a popular choice with viewers too. It’s still early days, but he is definitely up there and now the leading candidate."

Other names thrown into the mix are Jo Brand, Dawn French and Jennifer Saunders, but Ayoade is the one Bake Off devotees are really getting excited about.

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It may be some time before the new presenters are confirmed — plenty of time for fans of Ayoade to persuade Channel 4 he's the secret ingredient they need to prove the doubters wrong.

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Carla Hall on the weird, wonderful, woo-woo path to being a celebrity chef

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Carla Hall is just an all-around awesome person. She's awesome on TV as one of the hosts of "The Chew," and "Top Chef" fans remember her as the fan favorite who cooked with love. Earlier this month, she was utterly charming and warm at the #BlogHerFood16 conference as the moderator of a discussion about becoming a celebrity chef with Freddie Prinze, Jr., and Lisa Lillien. She also hung out at the conference all weekend, taking notes and posing for pictures.

Her "cook with love" philosophy led her to culinary school and several cookbooks, and she just launched her first restaurant, Carla Hall's Southern Kitchen in Brooklyn. I chatted with Carla recently about her surprising career path, her "woo-woo" philosophy, and how she found success by saying "yes."

You went from CPA to model to celebrity chef. What did you want to be when you grew up?

I wanted to be an actress! But I didn't get into Boston University, where I wanted to go to conservatory. I ended up at Howard University, because that's where my sister was going. I liked my accounting teacher, so I said, "Well, if I can't do theater in Boston, I guess I'll major in accounting."

I actually love numbers, and puzzles. I still love a good spreadsheet. But I got to the point where I was hating my job. I didn't want to be 40 and hate my job. So I quit, and moved to Paris, and was modeling. I had started modeling at Howard. I just kept saying "yes" to experiences. I encourage people to do that. Say yes, and figure it out.

I was the opposite of you! I was a theater major, and moved to New York and did that whole starving-actor thing. I went to a 40th birthday party for an "actor" who hadn't gone on an audition in ten years, and thought, "This can't be me at 40." So I moved home, and got a job doing accounting!

I can't believe it!

How long did you live in Europe?

About two and a half years. My mother got sick, so I came back home. Once she was okay, it was time for me to figure out what I wanted to do. I started a lunch delivery service in '91, which was a complete fluke. I had done the food for my sister's baby shower. I told a friend I'd bring her leftovers. I saw a picnic basket that I threw the food into. I went to her work and she said, "This is my friend Carla, and she has a business." And then every day, I made sandwiches and salads and went door to door. And I did that for five years.

Then you decided to go to culinary school. How did you like working at restaurants, versus running your own business?

I enjoyed the structure. I enjoyed getting a paycheck. Running a business, you're paying others but there's very little left for yourself.

What motivated you to become a contestant on "Top Chef?"

One night, my sous chef told me she had a dream I was on "Top Chef." And that same night, I got a voicemail saying, "Hey, I'm calling from Magical Elves." I thought it was a crank call, because what are the odds? So I wasn't going to call them back. But I had the same message on another number. It was crazy! I didn't seek it out.

And when they called me and said, "You've been selected," I was like, "Oh no, I can't do it." Because my biggest fear is being judged. America saw me face my fear and get over it. At the judges' table, during Restaurant Wars. I thought I was going home. And I realized, "I can get through this. No one has ever died at the judges' table." It was at that point that I started to do better in the competition, because when you're on the top you get feedback, and when you're on the bottom you get feedback, but when you're in the middle you get nothing. And I started getting hungry for this feedback. And that's when everything turned for me.

On the All-Stars season you did, you were a fan favorite. Your personality clicked for people. I love your philosophy of cooking with love, that how you feel when you're cooking translates into the food. It's kind of woo-woo, and I'm not always woo-woo, but I believe that. Did you always have that philosophy?

It does sound woo-woo, but when I look back at my life and about how I met my husband, I believe everything is a lesson. I was on Match for only a week and we met. And that was the man I ended up marrying.

You're not going to believe it, Carla, but I also met my husband on Match, and I also just did a one-week trial.

WHAT? YOU ARE MY SISTER!

So you opened a restaurant, and you used Kickstarter. People don't realize how much work it is to make those things work. What inspired you to go that way?

People think because you're on television and have cookbooks, it makes life and opportunities a lot easier. It doesn't. The decision to do Kickstarter was my business partner's, but I knew if people knew I was doing this, there was no way I'd back out. My Kickstarter backers were my community of believers and supporters. It was so much work, and I cried when we made our goal.

So now, you've been on "The Chew" for five years. Does it film in LA?

It films in New York. It's one of the most fun jobs. The first two seasons were incredibly difficult. On "Top Chef," there's a camera catching everything you're doing, but you're not talking to the camera—you're just doing what you're doing. But when you're hosting a talk show, you're talking to the camera, cooking, interviewing, connecting with the audience.

I love to teach, and I've taught hundreds of cooking classes. I knew I was having a disconnect doing the cooking demos, and that what I was projecting to the audience wasn't the person I usually am when I teach. Every day, I thought I was going to get fired.

But five years in, you're feeling pretty confident.

My moment was in season four. Gladys Knight had come on. She was cooking with Michael Symon, and he made a smothered chicken dish. As a Southern woman from the '60s, who had been listening to this woman for decades, I thought it was a slap in the face. I was so upset that I called a meeting with the executive producers. I told them that either they didn't trust me to do that interview, or they didn’t think that it would be important for me to do it. And either way, I needed to share my frustration with them. Because if I was going to be fired, I didn’t want to sit at home and say, "I wish I had said it." At the end of all of that, the executive producers clapped their hands and said, "Thank you. Now we can get to work." It was really about me, and coming into my own authentic self.

And from then on, you noticed a change.

Absolutely. And my performance changed, too. Now, every day I go to work, my prayer is authenticity. That's the only thing I can offer that no one can take from me.

This is an edited version of a conversation I had with Carla—to hear the full talk (and to hear conversations with other awesome women), listen to the Who SheKnows podcast.

Here’s why Planned Parenthood is important to moms

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Planned Parenthood reached a milestone yesterday, marking 100 years since Margaret Sanger opened America’s first birth-control clinic in Brooklyn.

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Undoubtedly, many people have already skipped to the comment section of this post to declare that Planned Parenthood is an abomination since it provides abortions. But Planned Parenthood provides much more than pregnancy termination services — its existence is something that moms everywhere should support. Here’s why:

  • Planned Parenthood provides essential women’s health exams. Critics of Planned Parenthood sometimes portray the organization like a drive-thru that provides abortions for careless women. However, Planned Parenthood provides more than 270,000 Pap tests and more than 360,000 breast exams a year, which are key to detecting cancer. Cancer does not discriminate, and being a mother certainly does not make one immune. Affordable breast exams and Paps means more children will have mothers that live longer.
  • Planned Parenthood provides reproductive health care and education to everyone — nearly 5 million women, men and adolescents worldwide a year. Not all children grow up in homes where parents are willing and able to provide accurate sexual health information to their children (let alone attend schools where it’s taught.) While you may not need this type of health care and education, your child — or your child’s future sexual partners — may. It is a matter of public health that our children grow up in a country where they know the facts about their bodies and have the means to take the best possible care of them.
  • Planned Parenthood helps ensure healthy pregnancies. Planned Parenthood is a friend to many nascent families, offering low-cost prenatal care and testing, services that are just as, if not more important to at-risk and low-income women. All pregnant women deserve access to adequate medical care, and not just because that access results in healthier children.
  • Planned Parenthood helps prevent unwanted pregnancies. According to its site, while 3 percent of Planned Parenthood’s health services are abortions, 80 percent of its services are preventive. Whether anti-abortion or pro-abortion rights, most would agree that a prevented pregnancy is preferable to an unplanned one. Birth control is as of high importance to mothers as it is to childless women. As the Guttmacher Institute states, “Women’s ability to obtain and effectively use contraceptives has a positive impact on their education and workforce participation, as well as on subsequent outcomes related to income, family stability, mental health and happiness, and children’s well-being.” Not all of us can pay out of pocket for IUDs, the pill or vasectomies, however, which is why Planned Parenthood’s work is so important.

I’m a supporter of Planned Parenthood, not just with my words but with my money as well. The funny thing is, I’ve never actually stepped foot inside one. But I sure am glad they’re around, and hope they live to see another 100 years.

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Bethenny Frankel's topless movie role from the '90s still haunts her

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This may be today's weirdest news.

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Apparently, back in her youthful days, The Real Housewives of New York's Bethenny Frankel starred in a deliciously cheesy flick called Beverly Hills 90028, in which she played a high school student/murderer... and went topless in a couple scenes.

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And now, Frankel is reportedly afraid that those topless moments, shot 22 years ago, are going to come back to haunt her and hurt her business.

"She's hoping if she laughs it off, it will go away," a source told In Touch Weekly. "She is humiliated. Behind closed doors she's panicking. She's worried that a porn company will edit the scenes to make it look like an X-rated film."

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The source continued, "She's worried that this will affect not only her Skinnygirl brand, but various other businesses she has in the works. She's trying to come up with a game plan because she doesn't want to lose any business."

OK, did you know that this movie existed? Because I didn't know this movie existed. Would anyone even be talking about it if Frankel hadn't brought it up?

Also, she needs to calm down because her business isn't in danger because she showed her boobs more than two decades ago. Actually, on that note, can we all calm down about women showing their boobs? In most of the world, women are seen topless regularly — in media, at the beach, etc. Men let their nips hang out in public in the U.S. all the time, and we don't make a big deal about it. Why is there this double standard that says women can't do the same? #FreeTheNipple, guys.

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Your cleaning routine is going to take a drastic turn when you have kids

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Can you remember your house before kids? It was an entirely different space, right?

Sure it was neat and tidy, but also too quiet and not nearly as much fun as your current kid-dominated dwelling. Everything changes once you have kids — from naps replacing fancy brunch as the ultimate indulgence to your TV-watching habits. But what most moms don't know before they have kids is that the way to clean and take care of your house changes too. Here are a few ways house cleaning changes when you have kids in the house.

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1. Your definition of "clean"

Sure, before kids you prided yourself on museum-quality clean. But now that there are little people actively working against you having a perfectly tidy house, it's time to get real. Neatly lined up rows of pillows have given way to bins full of toys and a clean floor is one that is relatively LEGO-free.

2. Natural matters

Since you're spending so much time and energy keeping those little buggers safe, it's not surprising that most moms make the switch to natural cleaning products like ARM & HAMMER Super Washing Soda. Kiss those days of bleaching your surfaces goodbye because as moms know, everything those little hands touch will eventually go in their mouths. So let's do our best to avoid harsh chemicals around the home, shall we?

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3. The messes are monstrous

Once upon a time, the biggest mess you ever faced was probably from a spilled wine glass. These days, that's nothing. You're battling constant wars against upturned spaghetti plates, crayoned walls and chewing gum on sofa cushions. Now that you're a mom, there's always something to clean — and the next mess is always bigger than the last.

4. Your goals change

You may not have realized it before you became a mom, but there's a big difference between clean and tidy. Keeping things clean is more important than tidy when you have kids in the house. Piles of toys are just part of your life now, and you're cool with that so long as the big stuff is done: clean bathrooms, kitchen and floors. A healthy home is more important to your kids' well-being than neat-freak perfection, and no one knows that better than moms on the frontlines of housekeeping who are inevitably forced to pick their battles.

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5. Cleaning for company requires a full freak-out

As laid back as kids have made you about keeping the house clean, all that goes out the window as soon as the reality of guests coming to the house sets in. Many moms will overcorrect in this situation and spin into full "rage-clean" mode, which can quickly spiral out of control. Just remember, your guests aren't coming over to critique your house, they're coming over to visit with you — but the anxiety can be real.

You've got this, Mom, and your house is perfect just the way it is. So go easy on yourself.

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I let my coworker blame me for everything to avoid conflict

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Today we're talking about how conflict avoidance can get you in big trouble.

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Question:

I've worked alongside an arrogant, controlling coworker for two years. In two years Tom has never made a mistake – according to him. If Tom fails to give me critical information, he says it was because I wasn't clear enough on what I needed. If Tom doesn’t return a client’s phone call, it’s because he says he never got the message, insinuating that I took the call and didn’t give him the message. I could give you dozens of examples, but the bottom line is Tom blames me for every problem.

Although I find this annoying, I’ve let Tom get away with it. I could easily print out the emails that show I’ve sent him the information needed and the information on the calls, but when I initially did this, things got really tense and I’ve decided just to let Tom have his way.

I thought going along to get along was the best strategy and it seemed to work, until this morning, when I got my job review. My boss marked me down in multiple areas. I learned he unfairly considered me the problem in all the situations where I let my coworker point the finger at me. When I tried to set the record straight, my boss said, “You’re either lying to me now or you’ve been lying all year.”

I left my review feeling I have no option for getting fairly rated.

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Answer:

What we don't say can get us into more trouble than what we say. Your conflict aversion led you to swallow what you could have said, allowing Tom to cast blame on you.

You can get your supervisor to listen to you if you stop doing what you accuse Tom of doing – finger-pointing. You consider your supervisor unfair, yet you never stood up for yourself. You undoubtedly see Tom as the problem because he shirks responsibility – but you’ve done the same thing.

Change this. Tell your supervisor know you learned a major lesson when he gave you your performance review – that you need to deal with problems when they happen and in a way that fixes them so they don’t repeat. Admit your culpability in colluding with Tom in a "who’s to blame" work relationship – and he may listen to you with fresh ears.

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© 2016, Lynne Curry. If you'd like an answer to your career question, it's easy. Write lynne@thegrowthcompany.com. Lynne authored Beating the Workplace Bully (AMACOM, 2016) and Solutions. You can also follow Lynne@lynnecurry10 on Twitter or access her other posts on SheKnows, www.workplacecoachblog.com or www.bullywhisperer.com.

We need to quit using Kristin Cavallari as a parenting resource

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Mom of three Kristin Cavallari has once again defended her parenting choices, reigniting the debate about whether babies should be fed goats' milk-based formula. "If you go online there's a million recipes for it," she said, adding that hers was approved by her pediatrician.

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Cavallari caused a stir back in March when she revealed she only feeds her children "real, organic ingredients" — including a goats' milk-based formula she gives her youngest, 11-month-old daughter Saylor James, when she's stopped breastfeeding and is out of her own frozen milk.

"I would rather feed my baby real, organic ingredients than a heavily processed store-bought formula that contains 'glucose syrup solids,' which is another name for corn syrup solids, maltodextrin, carrageenan, and palm oil," writes the mom in her book Balancing in Heels.

The Laguna Beach alum uses goat milk powder — as well as organic maple syrup and cod liver oil — in her homemade formula because all three of her kids (Saylor's big brothers are Camden Jack, 4, and Jaxon Wyatt, 2) have "sensitivities to cow's milk."

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Cavallari has the right to choose what she feeds her children, and she also has the right to defend her choice in response to criticism.

Whether there are actually "a million" goats' milk baby formula recipes online, there certainly multiple warnings against using homemade goats' milk formula. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends feeding infants breast milk or iron-fortified infant formula, and advises against cows' milk, raw goats' milk and soy milk during the first 12 months of life. The British government advised mothers not to use it, saying in 2005: "Goats' milk is not suitable for babies, and infant formulas and follow-on formulas based on goats' milk protein have not been approved for use in Europe."

To be fair to Cavallari, she has never put herself out there as an expert on any aspect of parenting. "My only issue is do what’s best for you," she said. "What’s best for us isn’t necessarily best for you and that’s okay."

If you feed your baby homemade goats' milk formula because you believe it's the best thing for them, that's your call. But don't do it because Cavallari does. No celebrity mom is a parenting expert simply because the world knows what choices she makes.

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Lin-Manuel Miranda nails how we feel about Hillary Clinton — in rap, of course

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You would think that the one person who would show up to a Broadway for Hillary Clinton fundraiser would be Hillary Clinton.

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Unfortunately, Clinton couldn't make it to Monday night's even featuring TV, movie and Broadway stars performing and giving speeches to support her candidacy, but just about every other celeb name you can think of was on the night's program.

Billy Crystal hosted the event, opening with an original song that skewered Republican presidential nominee — and Clinton's competition — Donald Trump.

"No racist baiting, no Muslim hating, pantsuits for everyone, it's Hillary tonight," Crystal sang. "No border walls, no Russian pacts, everyone here has paid federal tax."

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Appearances at the event included Julia Roberts, Lin-Manuel Miranda, Hugh Jackman, Sarah Jessica Parker, Matthew Broderick, Emily Blunt, Neil Patrick Harris, Helen Mirren and more, and although Clinton herself didn't appear, her daughter Chelsea Clinton and husband Bill Clinton both made surprise speeches.

The Hollywood Reporter's Ashley Lee was there to capture some of the best performances for Twitter, including Neil Patrick Harris' rendition of "The Origin of Love" from Hedwig and the Angry Inch.

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Broadway for Hillary 1

Lee noted that Lin-Manuel Miranda's rewritten Hamilton duet with Renée Elise Goldsberry was definitely a showstopper for the night. The duo performed "The World Was Wide Enough" from the smash hit musical, but with the words changed to make the song about why citizens should vote and some of the things Clinton could accomplish as the first female president of the United States.

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Broadway for Hillary 3

Other notable performances were Cynthia Erivo's "Battle Hymn of the Republic," Bernadette Peters' "Children Will Listen" and Sarah Jessica Parker and Andrea McArdle's duet of "Tomorrow" from Annie.

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Broadway for Hillary 2

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Broadway for Hillary 5

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Broadway for Hillary 4

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Which Broadway for Hillary Clinton performance was your favorite?

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