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Azealia Banks crosses a major line with her rant against Sarah Palin

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You know those friends on Facebook who are always posting articles from The Onion, freaking out because they think it's real news? Azealia Banks has turned into that person — and it has gotten her into a huge political catfight.

The trouble started when Banks read a satirical article in which Palin was fake-quoted as saying, "… slavery wasn't forced onto African-Americans, they accepted it willingly."

And her response was nothing less than shockingly violent and ugly.

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In a series of tweets that have since been deleted, Banks wrote, "Sarah Palin needs to have her hair shaved off to a buzz cut, get headf***ed by a big veiny, ashy, black dick then be locked in a cupboard.

"Honestly… let's find the biggest burliest blackest n*****s and let them run a train on her. Film it and put it on worldstar (sic)."

"Hideous. At least suk a n**** d*** or summ' before you start talking shit about 'black people willingly accepting slavery.' Least she can do (sic)."

In the first, and probably last, time I have ever and will ever agree with Palin, she responded to Banks' awful words in a really great way: Sit down and use your voice for something good.

Sarah Palin responds to Azealia Banks

Sarah Palin responds to Azealia Banks

"In this life, you're blessed to have been given an influential platform. So have I," Palin wrote in the most powerful portion of her response. "Why don't we strengthen both our platforms and work together on something worthwhile — like condemning racism, along with empowering young women to defend themselves against a most misogynist, degrading, devastating assault perpetrated by evil men — rape."

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Taking full advantage of the publicity, Banks wrote a long pseudo-apology on Tumblr, including an explanation of the difference between "rape" and "run a train," then proceeded to call Palin a racist.

"As the fabric of the American Nation is EMBEDDED with racism, I merely made a raCIALly driven joke to counter what i believed to be real, raCIST rhetoric (sic)," Banks wrote. "Also, i never said you should be raped. I used the term "run a train," which is slang for group sex, NOT for 'rape.' There are many distinctions between the two. As a woman, I would never trivialize something as lewd and criminal to provide myself any sort of comic relief because it simply… just isn't funny (sic).

"'Hey Female Rapper,' was your way to euphemize what you REALLY wanted to say. What you wanted to say was, 'Hey little Stereotypical Black, Thing (sic)!'" she continued.

"Twitter is not real, neither is your opinion of me! If Bristol Palin listened to my music she probably wouldn't have all those cotdamn kids!!!! ;-P #sis #iud #stayinschool #causeitsthebest (sic)."

Oh, honey, no. You're just making it worse.


Kat Graham leaving The Vampire Diaries is terrible news for the show

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Well, The Vampire Diaries is losing another fan-favorite character. While chatting with Us Weekly, Kat Graham revealed she is leaving TVD. Though, if you want to look at the bright side of things, she won't be leaving after the current Season 7, but will say goodbye to Bonnie Bennett after Season 8.

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I guess there is somewhat of a silver lining? As she said, "Season 8 will be my last season. I just hope that whatever I do after, the crew can come with me. If the crew can come with me, then we'll be good. The crew is going to be the hardest thing to let go, because we are a family." She added, "But you know what, another season is a whole other year, and we’re going to blow it out."

I'm sure my fellow TVD fans will echo my sentiment of how much this really does suck. Granted, it seems like it's Graham's decision to exit, so I can't find fault with her. After being with the show for eight years, I can only imagine she is ready to move on, find a new project to focus her creative energy on and probably even work on her music.

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That said, as a die-hard TVD fan, it's hard to see original characters continue to say goodbye to the series. Plus, with Graham's departure, the number of female characters versus male characters is extremely slim. Seriously, who's left? As of right now (not counting who may or may not die by the end of Season 7), Caroline, Rayna and Valerie remain in prominent roles.

Here's hoping more women are introduced. Don't get me wrong; as much as I love Damon, Stefan, Matt, Enzo, Alaric and pretty much every other male character who's ever appeared, I need some female empowerment in a series. Who's with me?

The actress who has been bringing Bonnie alive since Season 1 also teased what's to come from her badass character. "There’s some really intense stuff with my character this season. I think the biggest episodes I’ve ever had are 20 [airing April 29] and 21 [airing May 6]. It's pretty major for the character — huge turns, a lot of stunts and cool shit!"

Well, I guess fans can look forward to that, right?

The Vampire Diaries airs Fridays at 8/7c on The CW.

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13 things you should make a priority in your 30s

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I'm much more self-aware than I was in my 20s, so I'm far better equipped to take stock of my strengths and weaknesses, make judgments calls about what needs to be done, and actually follow through — which is precisely why the 30s are the perfect time to make the following things priorities.

1. Retirement savings

Yes, we're delving right in with some serious adulting. I wish that I had cared as much about my retirement savings when I was in my 20s as I do now, 'cause then they might not be so paltry. By getting my financial house in order now — paying down my debt, keeping my emergency fund stocked, contributing to a 401k — I'm setting myself up for less stress and more fun in the long run.

2. Health

As a busy working mom, squeezing in an hour on the treadmill can seem like Mission: Impossible. And I'd be embarrassed to tally up the total times per week my lunch consisted of PB&J scraps or Goldfish crackers leftover from my kids' plates. Still, I know I need to make more of an effort to eat better and exercise more. Not only can I not get away with the same things I could in my 20s (goodbye, midnight Pop-Tarts and Top Ramen), but getting healthy now makes it more likely I'll stay healthy.

3. Saying no

This, I struggle with. In the past, I've been guilty of stretching myself in a million different directions to try to please everyone. In my 30s, I'm realizing that setting boundaries is in my best interest. I don't have to agree to every favor asked of me. I don't have to waste time on people who don't treat me well. Being more self-aware than I was in my 20s, I realize this isn't selfish; it's smart.

4. Saying yes

I know, I know. I just said we should be saying no more! And while that's still true, it goes hand-in-hand with saying yes to one thing in particular: meaningful relationships. Show up for those friends in your life who value your presence. Don't take those connections for granted.

5. Passions

From an early age, we're indoctrinated with a narrative of expectations: go to college, sow your wild oats, get a respectable job, work hard, etc., etc., etc. Unfortunately, that often pushes us down a path we didn't necessarily choose for ourselves. The 30s are your time to reclaim those things you're passionate about and build your life around them — even if it means taking a big risk, like making a major career change. As they say, life is too short... and it's definitely too short to spend eight or more hours a day doing something you don't absolutely love.

6. The present

This may seem contradictory, considering so many of the things we're prioritizing are being prioritized with an eye toward the future. What that means, though, is that it's easy to get swallowed up in worry about what might happen down the road. So restructuring our thinking to focus on being more in the present simply reminds us to enjoy each and every moment for what it is.

7. Family

I can't tell you how many times my mom has told me she wished she'd spent more time with her own mother when she was still with us. There's something truly special about the relationship you form with your family as an adult, because you are consciously choosing to be active in that relationship. As you grow older, so do your parents — soak up the time while you still have it.

8. Forgiveness

Depending on your relationship with your family, this might apply to No. 7. The bottom line is that anger is toxic, and it will bore a hole straight through your life if you let it. Give up those ghosts this decade so you can walk into the next chapter of your life without any lingering malice staining your future the way it has your past.

9. Sleep

Why, oh why, didn't I sleep more in my 20s? What was I thinking with all those all-nighters? Research has proved that sleep is necessary for the human body to function at an optimal level, and the adverse effects of not getting enough sleep are numerous. Aim for at least eight hours per night.

10. Personal growth

The bravado of youth is glorious — you feel unconquerable and all-knowing. The reality, of course, is that even in your most omniscient moments, there's still oh-so-much to learn. In your 30s, it's easier to accept when you're wrong and to be open to other perspectives. Capitalize on this by auditing a class, learning a new language, taking up meditation or any other number of ways to expand your horizons.

11. Your teeth

When you were in college, how often did you go straight from the bar to bed without brushing those pearly whites? Now that you're a little bit older (and so much wiser), you realize they're only going to stay pearly if you actually take care of them. You only get one chance with your teeth, and you still have a lot of living (and eating) left to do, so take care of the ones you have — starting now.

12. Your skin

My 12th-grade calculus teacher was in her mid-30s, yet her skin looked better than mine most days. Her secret? She said she'd started using face serums and moisturizers religiously as soon as she turned 30. Taking care of your skin now can undo some of the damage accrued during the carefree days of youth, plus keep it healthier as you age.

13. Self-love

You've made mistakes. You've been bruised and battered, but you've gotten back up, brushed yourself off and made it to this point. Your 30s are a time to look back on and let go of the things rooting you in your past. Loving yourself is the key to loving others and to leading a contented life. You are strong. You are brave. You are enough.

This post was sponsored by Arm & Hammer™ Truly Radiant™ Toothpaste & Spinbrush™.

Khloé Kardashian says this sex position gives a 'hardcore' core workout

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And that's especially true when it comes to sex. The 31-year-old fitness fanatic revealed on her website that her workout extends to the bedroom — and she even tracks how many calories it burns.

More: Laying down sex positions that make your bodies touch from head to toe

"I'm all about having fun with fitness and it's the best way to stay motivated to work out. I had my team put together a list of sex positions that burn the most calories, because what's more fun than getting down??? LOL," she shared on her subscription-only site, according to US Weekly. "I even found this 'sex calculator' that tells you exactly how many calories are burned between the sheets based on your gender, weight, position, style ('slow,' 'frisky' or 'fast and furious,' haha) and time frame."

Kardashian also said doesn't favor missionary because it only burns 40 calories for 15 minutes, which makes sense because as a woman you're really just laying there. Her favorite? Reverse cowgirl, because "it'll give your core a hardcore workout!"

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We're not sure if this is the same one Kardashian uses, but this sex calculator gives you plenty of options when it comes to figuring out how many calories you burn while getting busy. According to our intense calculations, standing positions give both men and women the most bang for your bangin' buck at about 80 calories each for about 15 minutes.

Sex, while amazing, won't ever be a true replacement for regular cardio and resistence training — that is, unless you somehow incorporate weights into the routine. If that sounds unsafe, then take one of these classes with your partner and then make some sexy time your cool down after a difficult workout.

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Eat in season: All the fruits and vegetables to cook with this spring

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Spring is the prime time to enjoy what Mother Nature gave us, starting with some of the freshest and most flavorful fruits and vegetables available for the season. If you have plans to spend a sunny springtime morning at a local farmers market (or are making a trip to the grocery store), you're going to be glad you have this list in your back pocket. These in-season fruits and vegetables for spring are ripe for the picking, making for a delicious snack or an ultra-healthy meal.

Sounds easy enough, but with today's supermarkets boasting just about all produce items year-round, it can be challenging to know the seasonal patterns of fruits and vegetables. That's why we recommend frequenting your farmers market or using Sustainable Table's Seasonal Food Guide to search for produce in season in your state before you take a trip to the grocery store.

Here are some of our freshest springtime picks to get you started:

Spring vegetables

Fresh broccoli
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Fava beans
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Fresh rhubarb
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Spring fruits

Fresh strawberries
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Fresh blueberries
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Fresh grapefruit
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These spring produce lists are general recommendations. Where you live will determine the fruits and vegetables in season for you.

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Tom Hanks' latest health update is really starting to worry us

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A good portion of celebrity gossip reported nowadays turns out not to be true, and we sure hope that's the case with the latest information to hit the web regarding Tom Hanks' health.

According to an InTouch magazine inside source, Hanks has been battling Type 2 diabetes over the past several years — along with a host of other issues.

"Tom isn’t just battling diabetes — he’s suffering from prostate flare-ups and other blood sugar problems," the source said.

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According to InTouch, Hanks is managing most of his medical problems with prescription medications, but the side effects are keeping him in discomfort, and he also requires periodic steroid shots to bring down inflammation in his feet.

"Right now, he’s in a ton of pain and it’s not allowing him to walk and function the way he wants," the source said, adding that Hanks is often confined to his home and away from the public.

The InTouch source may claim that Hanks is slowing down, but his Instagram account tells a different story. Hanks still seems to have his usual sense of humor, and though his face isn't always present on social media, he still takes time to post pictures with witty quips while he is out and about.

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Another thing that's been plaguing Hanks besides his health? Legal problems involving his son, Chet Hanks. Hanks and his wife, Rita Wilson, are being sued for damages by a man who was rear-ended by Chet while he was allegedly under the influence and driving Hanks and Wilson's car.

"Despite knowing that Chester Hanks was a careless and reckless driver and a habitual user of drugs and alcohol, they negligently permitted Chester Hanks to operate their vehicle," the plaintiff alleged in court documents.

While there isn't a quick fix for the Hanks' legal issues, for now, doctors are supposedly advising him to make some changes in his diet.

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"Tom was ordered by his doctor to stop all red meat, alcohol, caffeine and sugar," says the source, adding that Hanks is abstaining from alcohol, but red meat, caffeine and chocolate still remain part of his life.

Whether Mr. Hanks is indeed ill or not, the man is a national treasure, and we beg him to take care of himself.

Women confess their single-biggest regrets in life

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Regrets, we've all had a few, right? While many of us try to live a truly regret-free life, there always seems to be a few things we wish we could have as a do-over. We asked our favorite Raging Feminists what the one big regret was in their lives.

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What's the one thing you regret?

"I regret all the times I've felt ashamed of myself for rocking the boat when really what I've been doing is standing up for myself or for justice. All the shaming, the how dare yous, the memories of angry loved ones that still come up unbidden like so much vomit in the back of my throat — all of them were not my fault, but were the fault of a system that didn't like a little bird shrieking for justice." — Margaret Corvid

"I regret that I spent a lot of time attracted to creative men and promoting their work instead of mine. I began turning that around when I hit about age 40, but I still default to such choices, and to feeling selfish if I do the very things I need to do to be an artist. You know how so many people on their deathbeds supposedly wish they had spent more time with their families and less time working? I bet most of those people aren't women." — A. Ruminator

"I regret how long I've bottled up my anger about things that happened to me and people I love. I was taught that anger is a bad thing, so I just tamped it down for so long it became toxic. Now that I know better, the anger detox process is really unpleasant. I'm trying to teach my children, especially my daughter, that all emotions are valid, but they cannot be directed at others OR at ourselves, they just need to be acknowledged, felt, and released." — Amanda Adams

"Spending years of my life worrying about being fat. Fat acceptance for both myself and others have freed up so much energy to do things that actually matter." — Lily Tsui

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"A month before she passed away, my mother offered to pay for a weekend flight to Florida to visit her. An airline was doing an incredibly cheap deal at the last minute. I was in the process of relocating for my first post-graduate job the following week nearly 1,800 miles away from my hometown, but I could've made it work. My job decided to put off my start date for another week, and it was too late at that point to take advantage of the airline's deal. I try not to let guilt get to me, but I'd say this is my biggest regret in life." — Danielle Corcione

"Like most native New Yorkers, my only regret involves housing. Having grown up working class in a rent controlled apartment in Brooklyn, no one ever taught me any kind of financial literacy — especially related to housing. I thought home ownership was something only rich people could attain. When I moved back to Brooklyn in 1999 post-college, Rudy Giuliani had done extreme damage to the housing market, destabilized rent control, and average one-bedrooms in Brooklyn were already renting for $1,000 to $1,200... way too rich for my non-profit writer/activist blood. The real estate agent who was trying to find me and a roommate an affordable apartment tried to convince me to buy a large one bedroom co-op apartment in Windsor Terrace (my favorite neighborhood in Brooklyn) for $100,000. I refused to even consider it: A hundred grand sounded like a million to me; I made $25K/year and I had no concept of mortgages, incentives for first-time buyers, etc. I look back now and realize that I could have gotten a loan and paid FAR less for my monthly mortgage than I paid in rent year after year, while living in my favorite neighborhood. Instead, housing was the biggest stress of my life for a decade and a half. A native NYer on the screwed end of the gentrification shuffle, I was constantly pushed out of every neighborhood I could initially afford. I had five apartments between 1999 and 2009. Every time [my] landlord jacked my rent to astronomical rates — the worst was 50%, overnight — I had to move to a smaller, more expensive apartment in a more remote area. I nearly always spent more than half my annual income on rent. I think about how different, how much less anxiety I'd have had, and how much higher my quality of life would have been, had I just bought that apartment in 1999. Oh, and the kicker? Similar apartments in that area now sell for somewhere between $500K and $750K. F***ing Giuliani and housing, man." — Jennifer Pozner

"Paying any heed to naysayers, negative people, toxics, haters and not cutting them out sooner than I did." — Hani Yousuf

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"Regret is a paradox. We cannot regret what we have not tried and failed at, even when what we've tried and failed at is trying at all in the first place. So, I regret everything. And I regret nothing. I recognize that without my regrets, I'd never have become who I am, today. My life was one unending chain of failure and sadness until I found myself, found the woman I'd always been becoming. And to the extent that I've found success since then, it's been largely fueled by perspectives I've gained through all of that failure, all of that hurt. Do I wish there was another way? Of course. But this is what life is. It's trying, and failing, and feeling hurt and sorry and miserable, howling with the shame and the deeply rooted sense of inadequacy, sobbing with the guilt, and then taking all of that trash, and keeping it for compost. There's no better way to grow the most beautiful flowers." — Seranine Elliot

"I regret all the time I wasted on people who weren't deserving of it. The friends, the colleagues, the boyfriends... Everyone who I twisted myself into knots trying to gain approval from. Now that I know what true friendship and true love are — the mutual respect that's required to make them work — I understand how much time I wasted trying to make relationships and connections where I shouldn't have bothered. I wish I could go back through high school and university with the sense of confidence and self-worth that I have now." — Ruth Dawkins

"I regret the 20+ years I spent erasing myself in every possible photo. I regret literally disappearing from the record between the ages of 12 and 35. In those years there are perhaps five pictures of me, all taken by ambush, by people who loved me. I look at those five pictures and I see a girl and then a woman who was not as fat/ugly/unloved as she thought she was. In every line of those pictures I can see that they were composed by someone who had to sneak up on me, to startle me, to record me and the look on my face when I saw them coming around the corner, that half-excited look when you see someone you care about. Five pictures. Twenty years. More than half my life, and I just don't exist because I was hiding behind the camera, from the camera, behind a tree. I regret not learning to take pictures of myself sooner, so that I could see my own face, learn how it photographs and be able to arrange it the way I want instead of in an awkward self-conscious grin. I regret trying not to exist." — Rowan Beckett Grigsby

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We all want to know how long sex lasts for other people — and now we do

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Whether we admit it or not, we’re all a little curious about other people’s sex lives. How often do the neighbors get down to business? Does the couple who barely exchange a word in public have fireworks between the sheets?

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We don’t just want to know what they do — we want the truth. Do people who boast about having sexual marathons every weekend actually spend Saturdays Netflixing without the chill?

What we know for sure is that sex in real life isn’t like a movie. Couples don’t tend to start doing the deed right after evening cocktails and still be writhing around on the bed when the sun comes up. But does that mean a two-minute quickie is the norm? How long does sex last for real people?

The question we've all asked ourselves at some point has been answered by psychologist Dr. Brendan Zietsch from the University of Queensland. He examined all recent research and found that the average time for penetrative sex (not including foreplay), across all different couples, was 5.4 minutes.

Naturally, findings like this often raise more questions than they answer. How do people know how long they spend having sex? If the act itself is any good, isn’t watching the clock the last thing they should be doing? Well, one study cited by Dr Zietsch asked them to do exactly that — 500 couples from around the world timed themselves having sex over a four-week period, using a stopwatch for optimum accuracy.

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What do professionals say about the ideal length of a sex session? In 2008, a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists found that "satisfactory" sex lasted from 3 to 13 minutes. The 34 members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (including psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses) defined 1-2 minutes as "too short," 3-7 minutes as "adequate," 7-13 minutes as "desirable" and 10-30 minutes as "too long."

This survey hoped to dispel "fantasies" — largely peddled by popular culture — that anything less than all-night long sex was a disappointment.

A 2011 sex survey of 2,500 Cosmopolitan readers revealed that 77 percent of women would like the penetrative part of sex to last for at least ten minutes, with around one in five of them wanting it to go on for 25 minutes or more. The most common answer was 15-25 minutes.

What should we take away from this? For starters, perhaps the expectations of "experts" (and Cosmo readers) are too high. If sex lasts 5.4 minutes or longer, you're definitely keeping up with most people.

And there's plenty of anecdotal evidence that a few minutes of penetration is more than adequate. Sexual health therapist Matty Silver, writing in The Sydney Morning Herald, says in her experience, "very few women care much about the length of the sex session." She points out that penetration can become painful when it lasts too long, and that most women prioritise "foreplay, connection, pleasure, intimacy and emotional closeness" over all that thrusting action in any case.

So sometimes sex is over in a flash, and sometimes it goes on all night. When it comes to sex, there really is no "normal" — and that's why we want to know what everyone else is up to, right?

More: Laying down sex positions that make your bodies touch from head to toe


Anna Kendrick discovers a woman from the 1930s who looked exactly like her

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Don't freak out, you guys, but Anna Kendrick might just hold the key to time travel.

Mashable recently published an article about how John Wayne became John Wayne, along with a photo from the set of his first film, The Big Trail. The 1930 film also starred Marguerite Churchill, which is apparently the stage name Kendrick uses when she hops in her DeLorean and guns it back to before the turn of the century.

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John Wayne/Anna Kendrick tweet 1

(Side note: How hot was John Wayne?)

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All right, so Kendrick probably doesn't really have a DeLorean, but she does share some of the same gorgeously delicate facial characteristics with Churchill.

Kendrick herself was blown away by the resemblance.

"OK but, first glance, that girl DOES look like me…have I been alive forever????(That would explain why I'm so jaded)," she tweeted.

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Anna Kendrick tweet 1

Kendrick isn't the only celebrity that's been accused of time traveling or being a vampire. Keanu Reeves, John Travolta, Nicholas Cage and Jack Black all have days-of-yore doppelgängers.

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Keanu Reeves time travel

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John Travolta time travel

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Nicholas Cage time travel

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jack black time travel

And there's even evidence that Leonardo DiCaprio once lived as a woman named Judy Zipper in the 1960s.

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Leonardo DiCaprio time travel

When she's not time traveling in her free time, Kendrick has been keeping herself busy by trying her hand at becoming an author, speaking up about the sexism that exists in Hollywood and just being her usual awesome self.

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Anna Kendrick Instagram

What do you think? Is Kendrick a dead ringer for Churchill?

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What you need to know before you buy new cookware

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Like most people, you probably haven't given a second thought to what you're cooking with — until you reach that exciting life stage where you're ready to splurge on a brand-new cookware set all for yourself. But before you buy, there are a few big decisions to make, like what kind of material you should be cooking with and why.

Aluminum cookware

Aluminum pots
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Pros

Anodized aluminum pots and pans are lightweight, resist denting and scratching, don't rust and are excellent thermal conductors of heat (they'll distribute heat evenly to cook food without hot spots). Approximately half of all cookware manufactured is made from aluminum, and it is often used to improve stainless steel.

Cons

Raw aluminum (as opposed to anodized) is reactive to alkaline and acidic ingredients (tomatoes, leafy vegetables and citrus) and prone to warping and scratching. It can also discolor certain foods (such as white sauces). Fortunately most aluminum pots and pans are treated with a coating of aluminum oxide, which vastly improves the cooking properties.

Cast-iron cookware

Cast-iron pan
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Pros

A properly seasoned cast-iron skillet is the not-so-secret weapon of many cooks. Great for simmering and browning, cast iron imbues years of flavor into every meal. It's inexpensive, won't warp, conducts heat very well and, if seasoned well, has a relatively nonstick surface. You can also easily go from stovetop to oven.

Cons

Even though no kitchen is complete without a cast-iron skillet, it does have its drawbacks. It's heavy, reactive, high-maintenance and not suited for all food. It also isn't recommended for ceramic-glass cooktops. It's worth noting that cast iron leaches — surprise — iron into your food. Many people consider this a benefit, but unexpected metal in the diet can be dangerous for certain people.

Ceramic cookware

Ceramic cookware
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Pros

Pots and pans made from ceramic are perhaps the most versatile cookware available in stores today. They can survive heat that would melt stainless steel (so oven-safe, unless you have one heck of an oven) but still can be used to store food in the refrigerator and freezer. And unlike metal cookware, they can be used in a microwave. They are generally very easy to maintain with a naturally nonstick surface, but can take mild abrasives and scrubbing without marring their attractive gloss finish, which is important, since they also make attractive serving dishes. They're widely considered to be the least reactive cookware available.

Cons

Despite many superior cooking and aesthetic qualities, ceramic cookware also has some drawbacks. It can be heavy and cumbersome and will crack if dropped. It may also crack your tile floor. Older cookware made from ceramic and stone may contain lead. Additionally, cheaper ceramic cookware may discolor ceramic-glass cooktops at higher heat.

Next up: Copper cookware

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Copper cookware

Copper pots
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Pros

Copper pots are revered for their ability to conduct heat and cook food very evenly. Chefs prize them for their ability to quickly achieve precise temperatures and maintain them, making them perfect for sauces, browning and braising. Also, they're gorgeous and will complement any kitchen.

Cons

Almost as renown as copper cookware's precision is their daunting price and their reactiveness to acid. Most are now lined with stainless steel or tin, but pure copper pots impart a metallic taste to food and can leave gray streaks. Frequent polishing is the price of beauty, and they can dent fairly easily. You absolutely should not use them on a ceramic-glass-top stove.

Glass cookware

Glass bakeware
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Pros

Glass is inexpensive, nonporous and nonreactive. Being nonreactive is an especially useful benefit for high-acid food like tomatoes and volatile ones like yeast. Their nonporous nature may be important to safety-conscious people, as there is growing concern over trace amounts of heavy metal leaching into food from metal cookware. Glass also bakes faster and retains heat longer than metal does. Snap on a heat-safe lid, and you can easily serve up hot food at a party or picnic.

Cons

Glass is heavy and especially prone to breaking when dropped. Glass can also be difficult to clean when food bakes onto it. It's not recommended for ceramic-glass cooktops.

Nonstick cookware

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Pros

Cookware with nonstick coatings like Teflon, Tefal, Silverstone, Anolon, Circulon, Calphalon and others are remarkably easy to cook with and clean. They're healthier, as they require less butter or oil to start a dish, and some are engineered to be oven-safe. Nonstick ceramic is quickly growing in popularity and offsets some of the negative and dangerous aspects of nonstick coatings.

Cons

Cookware with nonstick coatings can only be used with safe utensils like plastic and wood, or you risk scratching through the coating, which accelerates its inevitable erosion. Under heavy use, nonstick coatings eventually flake and scratch and introduce harmful chemicals into your food. At high heat (over 500 degrees F), some of these coatings, notably Teflon, emit off-gas, which is toxic to humans, inducing flu-like symptoms. Bird lovers, beware: Off-gas is fatal to birds.

Porcelain enamel cookware

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Pros

Seen frequently as Dutch ovens and large skillets, these dishes are usually made from cast iron or carbon steel coated in porcelain enamel. They combine some of the best qualities of ceramic and cast iron. They are nonreactive and easy to clean like ceramic but don't need to be seasoned like cast iron.

Cons

They also combine some of the drawbacks of both. They're heavy and will break when dropped. There are also reports of their coating discoloring ceramic-glass cooktops at high heat, so be careful when using them.

Next up: Silicone cookware

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Silicone cookware

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Pros

Made from sand and oxygen, silicone is nonstick, nonreactive and safe to use in the oven, microwave, refrigerator, freezer and dishwasher. They're also very lightweight and won't stain.

Cons

They are a bit on the expensive side and can be awkward and unstable.

Stainless steel cookware

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Pros

The workhorse of kitchens throughout the world, you can find this cookware in just about every home in America. Stainless steel cookware is made from an alloy of metals, which usually include some combination of steel, carbon, nickel and chromium. They're engineered to be nonporous, durable, corrosion-resistant and easy to clean.

Cons

Stainless steel is one of the more expensive types of cookware you can buy, especially when combined with other metals like copper (which is sometimes used to improve its naturally poor heat conductivity). It has a tendency to discolor under high heat and to pit when exposed to salt water. Additionally, if scratched, chromium and nickel could leach into your food.

Titanium cookware

Titanium cookware
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Pros

Titanium is extraordinarily light and strong (the highest strength-to-weight ratio known to man, actually). It also heats very evenly and quickly. It's nonporous, nonreactive, nonallergenic and can have an antibacterial coating. Titanium cookware resists scratching, denting and warping and is safe to use in the oven. If that's not enough, it's nonstick, so you can start a dish without butter, oil or water. It can often be wiped clean with a washcloth.

Cons

As you might expect, titanium is very expensive — the only significant drawback. Many people decide the extra expense is justified and treat the cookware as an investment, since titanium will often still look like new after years of use.

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Updated by Bethany Ramos on 3/21/16

Whoa, Scheana Marie really isn't ready to move past Tom Sandoval's actions

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We've come to expect that there will never be a time when everyone gets along on Vanderpump Rules, and Scheana Marie and Tom Sandoval have had some particularly dramatic moments, but will they ever get past that texting scandal?

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During an interview with Bravo, Scheana Marie was asked if she ever regretted texting Ariana Madix's mother about Sandoval (she most certainly did not have very nice things to say), and her comments were pretty surprising.

"I don't ever like to have regrets. Live and learn. At the time I sent them, I felt that way about Tom and I will never apologize for my feelings and why he made me feel that way," she explained. "I don't know how many times I have to emphasize that she reached out first and was just as much a part of that conversation as I was. I also don't like living in the past. This happened. It's over with. I've moved on."

But has she really moved on? Scheana Marie's comments seem to say otherwise.

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When asked whether she still feels that way about Sandoval, Scheana Marie made it clear that she has not forgiven and forgotten, even if they have moved past the whole incident.

"To some extent, yes. There were things he did in 2014 that are unforgivable and for the rest, we've moved on and past it. I'm happy with where things are now," she explained, although she chose not to elaborate on what exactly those "unforgivable" things were.

However, Scheana Marie is more willing to let bygones be bygones when it comes to Stassi Schroeder, and according to her, they're in a great place.

More: Lala Kent lashes out at Kristen Doute at the Vanderpump Rules reunion

"We are closer than ever! I love having her back in my life and we talk almost every day," she confessed. "There are so many things we have in common and we just have a blast together!"

Hmmm... do you think that will last?

Are you glad to learn that Stassi and Scheana Marie are friends again? Do you think that Scheana Marie's comments about Tom are unfair? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.

If Drew Barrymore's free-spirited ways drove her ex away, then good riddance

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It's been pretty common knowledge since the '80s that Drew Barrymore is a total free spirit, but apparently, that was news to her third husband Will Kopelman — and he was in for a rude awakening when he figured it out.

A source close to the couple told Us Weekly that Kopelman, by all accounts a conservative homebody, could no longer deal with Barrymore's tendency toward… well, not being a conservative homebody.

"She's so hippie-dippy and all over the place and it started to become unbearable for him," the insider told Us Weekly in their print edition, adding that Barrymore "tried to be what Will wanted" but that due to her carefree nature, "she just isn't a normal housewife."

"Things began crumbling shortly after they were married, and the relationship unraveled over time," another source said.

"Will is this great guy from a stable family and everything she didn't have growing up, but it just wasn't making her happy."

More: 13 moments from Drew Barrymore's life that everyone could learn from

Part of the reason Barrymore couldn't be the perfect housewife Kopelman reportedly craved is that in addition to her duties raising the couple's two daughters, she also has several successful business ventures of her own. She has been spending more time developing her Flower Beauty cosmetics line and Barrymore Wines. So if her career — which she had long before she met Kopelman — is what drove a wedge between the two, then that's pretty crappy of him.

But Barrymore may have dropped a major hint about the status of their relationship last October at a photo shoot. When she was encouraged by the photographer to pretend she was trying to seduce her husband, she reportedly replied, "Well, we haven't had sex in over a year, so that might be tough!"

The couple announced their separation in a joint statement on April 2. They wed in 2012.

More: Drew Barrymore reveals what she wants for her kids

Breastfeeding mom's photo shoot almost ruined by Internet jerks... almost

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The most breathtaking breastfeeding photo many of us have seen today, and perhaps in our lifetime, should be held up as an example of a mother's strength, beauty and the unconditional love she has for her children. But when a photograph of Kassondra Coxson, co-owner of Designed by Geeks and a blogger at Motherhood Community, went viral, showing her nursing both her baby and toddler while relaxing in a bath of milk, many of the comments it garnered were downright vicious.

Photographer Jen Pritchett shot Coxson and her son and daughter in the bath and then posted the photograph on Facebook with a caption that serves as a sad reminder that we know how cruel people can be, though we're still willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. "I have never been more nervous about posting one of my photos as I am in this moment and it's because this one means so so much to me," Pritchett wrote.

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In the photo, Coxson, a multiracial woman of color whom Pritchett describes as a "body-positive" person "driven to help normalize full-term breastfeeding while also letting the world know that Black Women Do Breastfeed," looks like a goddess.

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Her satisfied smile sends the message that there's only one thing on her mind in this intimate moment: not whether folks are comfortable with the sight of a plus-size woman tandem nursing, but that she is nourishing her little ones and has not a thing for which to feel shame. On that note, cue the critics.

The photo has been liked 8.6 million times and shared more than 1,500 times, so clearly more people love it than hate it, but those who bashed Coxson did so without reservation. Pritchett, who has since deleted most of the hateful comments, said they ranged from "racist" to "fat-shaming and horribly insensitive."

"The comments that affected me weren’t about my daughter being too old to breastfeed or the fat shaming. It was more about why I was breastfeeding a child with different colored skin,” Coxson says. "As a blacktavist, as a woman of color, I’ve developed a thick skin because I’ve been judged my entire life by people who judge without finding out anything about me. I had a thick skin before I became an activist and it has only gotten thicker as I talk to people about breastfeeding."

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Coxson's photo didn’t just spark silly debates over whether women larger than a size 10 have the right to bare their bodies and breasts for nursing photos (answer: They sure do.), it also brought up questions — and confusion — as to why it’s important to raise awareness in the African American community about the importance of breastfeeding. The issue is so on the forefront of blacktavists' minds that there's even a Facebook page called Black Women Do Breastfeed. When one commenter posited, "Perhaps it's their culture. African American culture tends to sexualize breasts...well their music and society does,” all hell broke loose, and it became apparent that there are a few misconceptions worth addressing.

“There was a backlash when slaves were forced to breastfeed other people’s babies. They began resenting it,” Coxson says. “None of us can really know exactly what caused something if we weren’t there, but what we can do is work toward raising awareness. My mom breastfed me until I was 3 and I realized when my daughter was born that I had never seen anyone breastfeed.” 

To combat that, Coxson stresses the importance of making sure kids learn to view breasts, not simply as sexual parts of our body but as body parts that serve an important function.

Coxson has zero regrets about posing for this photograph and three more that became part of a magical series showing her prior to her son's birth and then after.

“I absolutely loved all four photos and am thrilled with the results,” she says. “Jen and I are both in a photography group and someone else posted a photo they were working on with a milk bath. It was the first time I’d heard of it and it was her first photo with the milk bath."

More: 20 Breathtaking photos to celebrate the beauty & benefits of breastfeeding

Lest I give the false impression that these glorious photographs aren't making a lot of people think, sigh, call up photographers to request your own breastfeeding milk bath session and feel a connection with Coxson and an appreciation for her bravery. I'll leave you with Shaka Jamée's beautiful Facebook comment: 

"I have 'white babies' too. No one believes they're mine! This is why I love this so much and also showing women with large breasts and large areolas which is almost never seen in breastfeeding photos, it's important to show that you can still breastfeed that way. I relate to these photos so much!! As a woman of color, as woman with white presenting children, as a large breasted woman, a plus size mama. It's just beautiful!"

Indeed, it is.

Before you go, check out our slideshow below:

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Image: Leilani Rogers/Photos by Lei

Infographic: How women relate to feminism

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Several weeks ago, we released the initial findings from our #TheFWord, study on feminism. We shared some "feminist personas" that represented how various members of our community related to "the F word."

Today, we're sharing an infographic that digs a little deeper into what we found as we analyzed the results, with specific data points that illustrate how we came to identify these various groups.

What I’m most interested in, though, is if you see yourself somewhere here.

I was born in 1964, the very last year of the Baby Boom, and I can’t say I’ve ever identified much as a Boomer. But I have to admit, I fit right into that persona. I'm strongly feminist and don’t remember ever not feeling that way. I'm probably super-influenced by my second-wave feminist mom, who was among those women who entered the workplace in the '60s and '70s. In that respect, I am squarely the Feminist Baby Boomer personality we saw so clearly in our community’s response.

What about you? Do any of these shoes fit?

Note: In case you're wondering, we had a healthy sample of 1,622 respondents; however, our sample sizes for age brackets below 24 and over 65, and for those who identified other than white, African American/Black or Hispanic, were below a sample size/percentage we felt comfortable drawing conclusions about.

Infographic: How women relate to feminism
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Why I take my son to feed the homeless twice a month

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Did you parents ever say this to you, “finish your food, there's starving people that would love to get what you do” or “There's starving people in Africa”?

When I had kids I vowed not to say those things to them if they refused to eat. However, as time passed and my oldest became a picky eater, and I felt those same words on the tip of my tongue. I'm pretty relaxed about dinner time at my house, but I'm not fond of wasting food, and watching my kids waste food bothers me. I wasn't sure how to address food waste with them without using the dreaded phrase “there are people starving”.

It turns out that having a bumper crop of lettuce was all I needed.

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One spring I found myself up to my ears in lettuce and kale, way more than my family could eat. I already bombarded my friends with vegetables. Through a website called Ample Harvest, I discovered that many food pantries and shelters will take donated garden vegetables. Perfect! I had my 8-year-old son assist me with loading the car with produce and accompany me to a local food pantry.

On our way, I explained to him where we were going. I could tell that “food pantry” didn't mean anything to him. When we pulled up, it looked like a normal warehouse building. We entered through the back entrance and ran into some volunteers. They were happy to see our fresh produce. The pantry director was helping to sort out the donations and offered to give us a tour.

He immediately brought our donations to the produce baskets out front where the recipients “shop” for their food. I stifled my shock; the produce in the baskets was terrible. They were blemished and borderline spoiled. The director also showed us the other donations that were dropped off that day; it was prepackaged food and some over-ripened produce. He told us that it's a luxury to get good looking produce from local gardeners to share. My son was quiet during the whole tour, however, I could tell he had dozens of questions forming in his head.

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When we go back into the car he asked, “Mommy, why do they give people rotten vegetables?” I explained to him that they are not rotten, just over-ripe. I continued to go into detail about how grocery stores donate things they can't sell to food pantries to give to people who cannot afford to buy food.

“Well, why would they want to eat food that looks like that?” he asked. I explained that sometimes they didn't have a choice. They are hungry and need something to eat.

He sat in silence the whole way home.

Most of the food donated to food pantries come from grocery stores. They donate damaged or close to expired products. Even food drives run by schools or churches often only get expired food or junk food. According to experts, the high rate of obesity in low-income population goes hand in hand due to low nutrition, high calorie food that’s inexpensive and readily available in food pantries. Fresh, great looking produce is almost never donated to food pantries.

My kids have seen homeless people before. They stared in interest, not really comprehending that these people have no place to live.

The people my son saw at the food pantry didn’t look homeless. Many look like any average person you saw on the street.

My son did ask if they are poor, why did some of the people have cars? I told him that some of the recipients do work, they just don't make enough money to buy enough food to feed their families. He asked why they didn't just garden like we did. I told him that they probably don’t have a home that belongs to them so that they can make a garden. I let him process that for a while.

More: Why do we get so mad when poor people have luxuries?

Prior to our initial food pantry visit, my son was mildly interested in gardening. He helps more now, knowing that someone in need counts on us.

After that initial visit, I noticed he would take less at dinner time. I didn't ask him why. He’s a very thoughtful child and things weigh heavily on his mind. I knew he was thinking about the over ripe vegetables he saw at the food pantry all week. The next visit to the pantry, he made it a point to let the director know that the vegetables we brought were picked that morning and fresh. The pantry director beamed at him and thanked him. My son walked out proudly. In the car he told me he was glad that the people at the food pantry will get some fresh vegetables instead of the over-ripe ones.

We visit the food pantry about twice a month now and sometimes more when we have a lot of vegetables coming out of the garden. We even expanded the garden with dedicated plots for donation.

More: Babies are eating junk food before they're even old enough to chew

Can I say that taking him to the food pantry has made him a new person? No. But it has made him aware of what he has and what others do not. I don't take him there to teach him a lesson, or show him how good he has it. I had extra salad greens I did not want to waste.

I'm glad the produce that we donate from our garden goes to good use. I am ecstatic that this experience has shown my son what it's like to give and it's rubbing off on my younger son. He's eager to garden to help others and that's a start.

Before you go, check out our slideshow below:

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Sexy book excerpt: First look at The Study of Seduction by Sabrina Jeffries

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When Edwin Barlow, the Earl of Blakeborough, agrees to help his best friend’s impetuous ward, Lady Clarissa Lindsey, in her time of need, he knows he’s in for trouble. He’s been hunting for someone to wed, and she’ll just get in the way. Although captivated by the witty, free-spirited beauty, he fears she’d be all wrong as a wife... if she would even take such a gruff cynic for her husband. Yet he wants nothing more than to have her for his own.

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Clarissa has no intention of marrying anyone — not Edwin, whom she’s sure would be an overbearing husband, and certainly not the powerful French diplomat stalking her. But when matters escalate with the diplomat, she chooses Edwin’s gallant offer of a marriage between friends in hopes that it will deter her stalker. She expects nothing more than an amiable union, but their increasingly tempestuous kisses prove more than she bargained for. When her stalker’s vow to expose the lovers’ deepest secrets threatens to destroy their blossoming attraction, will their tenuous bond withstand public ruin, or will Edwin lose all that’s important to him to protect his bride?

Read the full excerpt:

Mama said, “A fortune is always of consequence. Which is why my late husband made sure that our children were well provided for. Very well.” She nudged Clarissa none too subtly. “Eh, my dear?”

Oh, Lord. Mama would probably give up her best fur to see Clarissa snag a duke’s son, youngest of the bunch or no. Particularly since Clarissa kept refusing the suits of older sons.

Thankfully, she was saved from more matchmaking by the sound of waltz music.

“Forgive me, Major,” Clarissa said hastily, “but I promised Lord Blakeborough the first waltz.”

“Lucky fellow,” the officer said with a frown.

“Lucky, indeed.” Edwin knew perfectly well she was lying, but fortunately he didn’t let on. He simply offered her his arm and led her off.

As soon as they took the floor, she set out to appease him. “I’m sorry for the subterfuge, but —”

“It’s fine.” He led her through the steps with typical precision. “I suppose I’ll have more luck finding a wife if I practice the usual ballroom sports.”

“You don’t require practice.”

His gaze sharpened on her. “No need to flatter me. I know my limits.”

Clearly he was still annoyed over their little exchange. “I mean it, Edwin. You’re not the most poetic of dancers, but you keep time well, don’t tread on my toes and never miss a step. That’s more than I can say for plenty of men.”

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“Take care,” he drawled. “You might lead me to think you actually like me.”

“I do like you. Sometimes.” She thrust out her chin. “But I also can’t resist provoking you. You get so deliciously annoyed. And you take my remarks far too seriously.”

A grudging smile crossed his lips. “Warren told me much the same thing.”

“Didn’t you believe him?”

“I never know what to believe when it comes to you.”

“Well, believe this at least: I think you’re a perfectly accomplished dancer. I certainly prefer you over the major.”

That brought his gruff manner back. “I don’t know how you can endure that fool.”

“Unfortunately, enduring fools is what a woman must do to have a little fun.”

His hand tensed on her waist. “You have a peculiar notion of what’s fun. Wouldn’t you prefer a quiet conversation at dinner or a stroll about a museum to dancing with idiots?”

“I happen to enjoy dancing. And sadly, I require a partner for it. Thank goodness even idiots can be good dancers.”

He glanced over to where Major Wilkins was still standing with her mother. “Are you sure that he knows you’re merely amusing yourself with him?”

“Well, if Mama hadn’t started blathering on about my dowry, he would have known it when I refused to dance with him again. She’s bound and determined to get me married, and any fool will do, apparently.”

“In this case, I hope you ignore her.”

“Don’t worry. I’m not about to marry a man who doesn’t know when to stop ogling my bosom.”

His mouth thinned into a hard line. “He was ogling your bosom?”

“Oh, don’t turn into a watchdog again. Men ogle women’s bosoms all the time. A female can wear the most innocuous gown ever, and some fellow will stare at her chest as if waiting for her clothes to rip open and reveal her nakedness. And when she’s wearing a ball gown... ”

She trailed off, remembering a night she’d rather forget.

His hand tightened on hers. “I don’t do that, do I?”

Forcing her attention back to him, she smiled. “Of course not. You’re a gentleman. Besides, you have no interest in my bosom.”

“I wouldn’t go that far. I’m not dead, you know.” As if to prove it, he let his gaze dip down for the merest of moments.

If she’d seen one ounce of leering in that quick look, anything to indicate that he thought of her disrespectfully, she would have been disappointed. But his look was more akin to hunger. No, not hunger — yearning. As if he saw what he wanted, yet knew he couldn’t have it.

About the author: Sabrina Jeffries is the New York Times and USA TODAY bestselling author of several Regency-set historical romance series, including the Royal Brotherhood, The School for Heiresses, The Hellions of Halstead Hall, The Duke’s Men and The Sinful Suitors. Whatever time is not spent writing in a coffee-fueled haze is spent traveling with her husband and adult autistic son or indulging in one of her passions — jigsaw puzzles, chocolate, music and costume parties. With more than 8 million books in print in 20 different languages, the North Carolina author never regrets tossing aside a budding career in academics for the sheer joy of writing fun fiction and hopes that one day a book of hers will end up saving the world. She always dreams big.

Struggling to bag a Tinder date? Try channeling Kanye West

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Ah, Kanye West. So much more than a Kardashian baby daddy and instigator of bizarre Twitter feuds. The one we know as Yeezus may now be able to add cupid to his long list of awe-inspiring attributes.

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One British writer decided to set herself a Kanye-themed Tinder challenge. The rules were simple: She would communicate using only quotes from Kanye West (quotes to include song lyrics, tweets and interview quotes); and she would use her regular Tinder profile picture — to make sure nobody swiped on her because they actually thought she was Kanye.

Would the experiment get her any Tinder dates?

It wasn’t all plain sailing. Starting a Tinder conversation with "I have so much love in my heart" resulted in, well… silence. As did "I believe in us" and "I care about our future."

It also appears that the more eccentric of West’s musings — "visiting my mind is like visit the Hermés factory" — aren’t the best Tinder icebreakers.

But, as anyone who has ever swiped right knows, what will help you achieve your Tinder goals is perseverance. (Presumably Kanye knows a little bit about that, too.) 

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And the efforts finally began to pay off, with a slight change of approach.

Take it down a notch, find a Kanye quote that an ordinary person would actually say, and it could be the start of a beautiful online relationship. Did you know Kanye was "super inspired" by his "visit to Ikea?" Unfortunately, that wasn’t a conversation that could go anywhere — on this planet, at least — because those kind of Kanye quotes are few and far between. "I am ultra light beaming right now" is much more likely to spill from his lips or his fingertips.

Of course, not all attention is good attention. This is Tinder, after all, so it’s no surprise that one guy took "my apartment is too nice to listen to rap in" as a personal invitation to said apartment, and you won't win any prizes for guessing what the general reaction to "good pussy is fleeting" was.

It turned out it was possible to get a date — several, in fact — on Tinder using only Kanye West quotes, but impossible to ever actually go on it, because to actually arrange the date using non-quotes would break the rules.

So there you have it. You thought there was no way Kanye West could bring anything to your life, but his back catalogue of quotes is there for the picking. Maybe he wasn't so wrong when he called himself "the people's champ" after all. Could one of his crazy-genius quotables bring you the kind of love only Kim Kardashian knows exists?

More: Kanye West's money troubles are apparently all Kim Kardashian's fault

This could make you rethink dollar store shopping entirely

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There's nothing quite as satisfying as securing a great bargain, and there are definitely bargains to be had at popular deep-discount, dollar store-like retailers.

Still, it's often hit-or-miss, which is why you need to be on your toes at places like the Dollar Store, Dollar General or the reigning sovereign of all ye olde dollar-themed shopping destinations: Five Below. You just can't go wrong snapping up some of these reliable dollar store finds.

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1. Dishes and tableware

Dishes at dollar stores are totally worth it. You might not want to buy your best set here, but you can easily pick up some diner-quality plates, glass and flatware for anywhere from 50 cents to a single dollar a piece, and build up a collection of stuff that, when they break, won't cause your heart to.

2. Storage and organizational items

You can't go wrong with the collection of utilitarian budget items that will help you get organized. No-frills baskets, drawer dividers and plastic bins will get the nightmare otherwise known as "beneath the kitchen sink" up to snuff.

More: How to shop for food and plan menus on a budget

3. Party supplies

Wrapping paper, bows, balloons, greeting cards and even decorating items can all be found for way less than you could get them at a party or department store, so stock up on these items when you're wandering the aisles — you won't be sorry to have them on hand when the time comes.

4. Cleaning products

Unless you have serious brand loyalty issues, there's no reason not to grab your glass spray and toilet bowl cleaner at a dollar store. Also to be had for way cheaper: things like sponges and dishrags, which need to be replaced often anyway. Better to pick them up on discount.

5. Pregnancy tests

No, seriously. Believe it or not, dollar store pregnancy tests are accurate (if not as sensitive) as their drugstore counterparts. The only difference is that they cost anywhere from $13-20 less than they otherwise would.

6. Hair accessories

Can you believe how expensive items like simple hair ties, bobby pins and hairbrushes have gotten? Not at dollar stores. And since they usually carry brand-name items like Goody and Scünci, you can get a double discount by snatching up a coupon online.

7. Seasonal decorations

Big stores like Target and even Wal-Mart know that you'll pay extra moolah for seasonal décor if you don't already have a stash on hand. Everything from Halloween spiderwebs to Christmas lights run tons cheaper at your favorite dollar retailer — plus they are marked down to practically nothing when the season ends.

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8. Picture frames

Have a lot of little pictures to frame? Skip the bigger stores, which have frames that start at five dollars and rocket upward from there. Grab them at a dollar store instead, and then frame away.

9. Office supplies

Pens, pencils, loose-leaf paper and little desk detritus items like paper clips and pushpins will all be significantly cheaper at dollar stores. A good rule of thumb is that if you're going to replace it often — paper clips seem to vaporize after one use and paper is typically one-and-done — there's no need to splurge on more aesthetically pleasing versions. Just grab those generic thumbtacks and go.

10. Educational items

If it's been awhile since you were in a dollar store, you might be surprised to find that there are tons of deals on things like times tables posters, handwriting workbooks and circle time-type items like calendars and color posters. If you homeschool or just have a kid who loves to learn, this is the place to get those things.

11. Books

Sure, you won't find any bestsellers here, but if you need a quick beach read or airplane time-killer, or a couple of board books for the kid in your life, you might as well grab them at the lowest price possible.

12. Hangers

Forget Mommie Dearest. Grab as many wire hangers (or plastic ones, if you prefer) as you need at the dollar store. They typically come in packs of 10 or 20 for a dollar or two a piece.

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13. Disposable cookware

Have a potluck to go to or planning on entertaining soon? Skip your grocery store's baking aisle, where disposable aluminum baking pans can put you out five bucks, and get one or more for a dollar instead. If you're going to pitch it anyway, there's no need to be picky on brand-name versions.

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14. Clothing

Especially at Five Below, you can find socks, T-shirts and even comfy sweatpants for just a fiver or less. Their knock-off TOMS ain't bad either; they hold up great and when you save $35 on them you can send the difference straight to any charity you want, no middleman required.

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Charlie Sheen was supposedly looking for a hitman to take his ex out

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The LAPD has launched an intense investigation into claims Charlie Sheen covered up his HIV status, including allegations he was willing to pay to have his ex-fiancée murdered.

Brett Rossi (aka Scottie Ross) filed a "criminal threats" report against Sheen last week, and the claims she made were dark, to say the least. Now cops are forcing Radar Online and the National Enquirer to turn over tapes that could prove Rossi's allegations and incriminate Sheen.

"Ross stated that during the time she resided with Sheen she endured domestic violence, physical assaults and death threats," the emergency protective order Rossi was granted on April 1 reads. "Ross reported that on several occasions Sheen had brandished firearms at her and threatened her life. Ross stated that she did not report the violence and abuse at the time the incidents occurred, as she feared for her safety and was under Sheen's control.

"Ross stated she witnessed Sheen in fits of rage and violent outbursts on numerous occasions. Ross stated that she witnessed Sheen threaten to kill his former wife Denise Richards and their children's lives. Ross stated that Sheen made threats to ‘put a hit on her former boyfriend,' which Ross understood to mean Sheen wanted to hire someone to kill her former boyfriend.

"Ross stated that during the relationship, she discovered that Sheen was infected with and being treated for HIV. Ross stated that Sheen had not disclosed the fact that he was HIV positive to her.

"Ross further stated that Sheen had unprotected sex with her while infected with HIV and Sheen did not disclose that he was HIV positive to her prior to engaging in sexual intercourse."

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Then, on March 31, Rossi read the article in the National Enquirer claiming the tabloid has tapes of Sheen threatening to kill her.

"This piece of shit needs to be f***ing buried... family of gangsters. You get it," the mag claims Sheen says on the tape. "It's called treason. You know what treason is? It's punishable by death.

"I'd rather spend 20-grand to have her head kicked in. Then people will realize, oh, it's dangerous."

Sheen's lawyer Marty Singer denied the claim in a statement, saying, "This is a publicity stunt. The TRO was obtained without notice to Charlie Sheen or his attorney. I believe it is the first time someone obtained an order based on a story in a tabloid."

Sheen himself has not commented on the matter, but this Instagram photo probably sums up his feelings well.

Charlie Sheen flips the bird

Charlie Sheen flips the bird

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RHOD's Tiffany Hendra has a soft-porn past — but don't call her a porn star

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Every time a new cast or cast member for Bravo's Real Housewives franchise is announced, fans — myself included — begin to scour the Internet with a fine tooth comb to find out what they can learn about the next person to become our latest addiction. In the case of The Real Housewives of Dallas' Tiffany Hendra, some information bubbled to the surface about her acting credits on IMDb.

You see, once upon a time when Hendra was still fostering her acting and modeling career, she starred in a couple of projects with racy titles — like 12 Hot Women, Singapore Sling and Black Tie Nights.

In the mad dash to report as much titillating information about the new Housewife as possible, Hendra was made out to have a dark past by several outlets, including the New York Post, who referred to Hendra as a "former porn star."

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"It was a series for Cinemax... I was hired for my acting ability," Hendra explained to Us Weekly of Black Tie Nights, adding that her husband, Aaron Hendra, was even fine with everything that went down. "I do own the fact that I knew I was taking my clothes off... he [Aaron] came to my dressing room to check on me to make sure everything was cool."

Tiffany Hendra Instagram

Tiffany Hendra Instagram

Hendra has no regrets about her past performances, and was quick to point out her scenes were nothing compared to some of the stuff you might catch on mainstream TV now.

"My nudity rider said that they couldn’t show below my belly button or below the top of my butt," she said. "No one is calling Game of Thrones stars porn artists!"

Hendra also wants everyone to know that she is much more than her former acting career, whether it was mainstream or not. She now aims to help fellow females feel great about themselves through lifestyle mentoring and her website.

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"Her vision is for women all over the world to overcome their past circumstances, own their BS, give up victimhood and stand confident in their power," her website reads.

"I was sexually assaulted when I was 16, but kept it a secret until I was 31. I felt shame," she told Us. "All the pain that I did go through, I use that for a purpose now. Helping women love themselves — that is my intention."

What do you think? Is it fair to label Hendra a porn star because of her previous work?

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

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