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Pippa Middleton Is Pregnant — & Already a Fit Mom

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It's official: World-famous bridesmaid Pippa Middleton — sister of Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, née Kate Middleton — is pregnant.

You may have heard the rumors that Pippa was with child a few days before Kate was admitted to St. Mary’s Hospital in London in the early stages of labor with dear wee Prince Louis on April 23. But Pippa is now officially confirming that she and husband James Matthews do indeed have a royal-ish crumpet in the oven. She chatted about her first trimester in a recent column for U.K. magazine Waitrose Kitchen. (Where all the Kardashians reveal their pregnancies, of course. No. Totally kidding.)

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In the Waitrose article, Pippa revealed she lucked out and avoided the dreaded hyperemesis gravidarum (severe morning sickness) that hospitalized her sister. “I was lucky to pass the 12-week scan without suffering from morning sickness. That meant I was able to carry on as normal,” Pippa said, as reported by Hello! magazine.

More: Pippa Middleton Is Reportedly Pregnant

Pippa has been able to soldier on as usual — with only a few tiny changes. “When I learned the happy news that I was pregnant, I realized I needed to adjust my four to five-day-a-week [fitness] routine,” she wrote. Pippa also said that she didn't tell her gym instructor about her pregnancy until the “riskier months” had passed.

Fitness is (obviously) a massive part of Pippa's life, and she's trying to take the body changes that come with pregnancy in stride. “I’ve noticed my body change, but through exercise I feel it’s being strengthened,” she said. “I’m fanatical about sport and have looked at loads of books and websites on exercise during pregnancy, but have been disappointed by the limited technical information what you can and can’t do.”

She continued, “This being my first pregnancy, I had so many questions I felt were still unanswered. I wanted to know things like, would I strain if I served in tennis, are strokes of swimming safe, can I still do a normal yoga class if I avoided certain positions? Could I still work my abs?” Honey. Slow down. You're doing amazing, sweetie. You can lose an ab or two, trust us.

She added, “I’ve noticed my body change and weight increase, but through effective exercise and sports I feel that it’s been strengthened to support a healthy pregnancy, birth and recovery... And ensure that post-baby, my old favorite jeans will still fit eventually!”

Oh, Pippa. We've seen your genes, and we've seen your jeans. You're gonna be fine (and even if you got way bigger, that would be great too). Pippa and husband Matthews have been out and about recently in London looking radiant. They were also guests at that little May 19 wedding of — wait, who was it again? oh, yes — Duchess Meghan of Sussex (who you might know better as just Meghan Markle) and Prince Harry. And Matthews and Pippa celebrated their first wedding anniversary just a day later on May 20.

Congrats to the happy and absurdly fit couple. Pippa, don't miss out on the ice cream. This is your time.


Starbucks Is Hiking Coffee Prices Even Higher

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If you don't already feel silly enough for spending — well, whatever it is that you're spending — on Starbucks coffee each week, don't worry. You will now. And you might even find yourself reuniting with that dusty old automatic coffeemaker hiding in your pantry.

Yes, friends, that delicious Starbucks cup of joe is poised to cost you another 10 to 20 cents more at most locations across our great country. If you are clawing at your face in despair, there is a bit of good news: the price increase is not expected to affect the fancy-schmancy drinks like lattes, mochas, Frappuccinos, teas and iced or cold-brew coffees.

More: Wonderfully Weird Starbucks Drinks You Can Get Around the Globe

A Starbucks spokesperson told Bustle that this increase is "not related to last week's store closures and trainings." That would be the May 29 company-wide closing of all Starbucks stores for employee antibias, anti-racism training — following in the wake of the notorious April incident in which two black men at a Philadelphia Starbucks were actually arrested for the heinous crime of waiting for a friend before they purchased their first round of coffee. It is worth noting, though, that Wall Street Journal analysts are calculating that Starbucks lost $12 million in sales on May 29. Hmmmm.

Fortune did point out that this is the third increase within three years. Hey. What gives, Starbucks? That Starbucks spokesperson was quick to tell Bustle that the hike is due to "overall economic factors." According to Fortuneprevious Starbucks price increases included a 2016 increase that hit cold beverages and baked goods, raising prices between 10 and 30 cents and a 2017 increase in which some sizes of hot coffee were jacked up 10 to 20 cents. Talk about nickel-and-diming a market to death.

"Starbucks continually evaluates pricing on a product-by-product and market-by-market basis. Evaluating prices periodically allows us to balance the need to run our business profitably while continuing to provide value to our loyal customers and to attract new customers," the spokesperson explained to Bustle in an email. Okey-dokes. And you can expect to see differing prices in different Starbucks across the land because "[b]everage and food prices vary by location," according to the same spokesperson.

The brand seems to be having a midlife crisis. To Unicorn Frappuccino or not to Unicorn Frappuccino, that is the question. Starbucks is slashing those fun limited-time drink offerings by 30 percent, reports the Toronto Star. The novelty doesn't seem to hold up sales-wise, so novelties they will stay, says CNBC. But Starbucks' focus is shifting to "wellness teas" and food items being added to almost 2,000 locations.

More: At Least Starbucks Has Prosecco Lollipops — for Now

Well, crap. It's not that we need a Unicorn Frappuccino every day, but we want to be able to get one when we need it. So there we have it: Magic is officially dwindling from menus in 2018. We need all the cheap hot coffee and Unicorn froufy-ness we can get, but the future looks bleak at best. You'd better put catnip in those "wellness teas" to soften the blow, Starbucks.

Amal Clooney Spoke About Life With George & It's as Sweet as You'd Think

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Amal Clooney has finally given us a glimpse inside her married life with George Clooney.

The notoriously private couple stepped out on Thursday in Los Angeles, where George was honored with the American Film Institute’s lifetime achievement award. During the ceremony, Amal took to the stage to speak about her husband. Her words will only make you fall more in love with the couple. And for those single ladies and gents out there, they will also inspire you to remember that love can happen at the most unexpected times.

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"I met George when I was 35 and starting to become quite resigned to the idea that I was going to be a spinster," Amal said of the beginnings of their relationship. "Then we met and started hiding out in my London flat and very soon it felt like, no matter what happened, I would never want to be with anyone else."

The Clooneys first met through a mutual friend in 2013 at George's home in Lake Como, Italy. George reportedly chased and courted Amal for months before they began dating.

More: George & Amal Clooney Might Be the Sweetest Theatergoers Ever

Amal continued, "I couldn’t sleep when we were apart, and I’m told that I would display a particular grin and head tilt when reading his text messages or the letters he would hide in my bag. Five years later, none of that has changed. He is the person who has my complete admiration and also the person whose smile makes me melt every time."

Amal and George were engaged after six months of dating. They married in September 2014 and welcomed their twins, Ella and Alexander, in June 2017.

"My love, what I have found with you is the great love I always hoped existed. And seeing you with our children, Ella and Alexander, is the greatest joy in my life," she said

More: Why You May Not See George Clooney in Any Movies for a While

"You fill our home with laughter and happiness, and that’s even before the children have worked out that 'Da-da' is Batman, a talking fox and friends with Mary Poppins," Amal said. "I’m so proud of you, my love. Congratulations on this great honor that you’re receiving tonight. I’m proud of you, but I also know that when our children find out not only what you have done but who you are, they will be so proud of you too."

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We're not crying, you're crying. Pass the tissues.

The 5 Best Details in Ocean’s 8

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Ocean's 8 has some big shoes to fill — size 10-1/2 to be specific (yes, I'm talking about George Clooney's shoes). Luckily, as Danny Ocean's sister Debbie Ocean, Sandra Bullock fills them out perfectly, but in her own distinct way. It's like she’s been part of the franchise all along.

The movie starts as Debbie Ocean is released from doing a five-year stint in prison. During her incarceration, she used her time to plan the perfect heist down to the smallest detail. She's after a famous Cartier necklace called the Toussaint that's been locked in a basement for 50 years. Its value? A cool $150 million. Her plan is to get the Toussaint on an actor for the Met Gala in New York and pull the old switcheroo.

Debbie reaches out to her old pal Lou (Cate Blanchett) and they assemble a rag-tag team of women that includes Helena Bonham Carter as fashion designer Rose Weil, Rihanna as a computer hacker called Nine Ball, Mindy Kaling as gemologist Amita, Awkwafina as a sleight-of-hand pickpocket named Constance and Sarah Paulson as Tammy, a thief who can fence anything. These are some of the finest actors in the world, and it’s a whole lot of fun to see them in a heist movie, sticking together and making magic happen.

So, let’s get to the five reasons you'll want to see this movie opening weekend.

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1. Debbie Ocean's genius plan that relies on sexism

Debbie's plan to steal the necklace in the middle of the Met Gala is brash, ambitious and seemingly impossible. But there's a fascinating reason why it will work. In the film, she says, "A 'him' gets noticed. A 'her' gets ignored. And for once, we want to be ignored." Meaning that people notice men first and foremost and overlook women all the time every day. Who would ever suspect a woman could pull of such a bold heist? It's the same reason women make the best spies, because they can fly under the radar, so to speak. It's sexist for sure, but that's what makes it such a clever concept. Debbie uses society's blind spot to her advantage. Brilliant.

More: Here Are the Women Who Will Dominate the Summer 2018 Box Office

2. The Met Gala vibrantly reimagined

Located on Fifth Avenue in Manhattan, the Metropolitan Museum of Art spans four city blocks and is the largest museum in the United States. The filmmakers were allowed to shoot in the actual museum at night after the doors closed at 5:30 p.m. But more than adding authenticity to the film, it made for an absolutely stunning location for a heist film. Sometimes in movies, locations become their own characters. Considering the theme of the Gala was European royalty, the Met became a fabulous 17th century French queen. The location also allowed the characters to wear fabulous designer gowns and jewels. On top of that, there were some great cameo appearances like Kim Kardashian West, Matt Damon and Katie Holmes. But the scene in which Sandra Bullock speaks German to Heidi Klum was simply delicious.

3. Cate Blanchett's emerald beaded jumpsuit

Emerald jumpsuits are going to be all the rage this summer. Just wait for it. Instead of a traditional ball gown, Givenchy created this David Bowie-esque jumpsuit for Blanchett, and it's incredible. Green is the color of money, of course, and it works so well thematically in this movie. We searched the interwebs for a pic, but alas, you're just going to have to see the film to get a glimpse of the jumpsuit in all its glory.

4. Helena Bonham Carter as Rose Weil

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Bonham Carter is famous for playing eccentric characters who are bit different than everyone else. Her Shakespearean training combined with her elfin facial features allows characters like Bellatrix Lestrange to vividly come to life. Here, she plays Rose Weil, a kind of washed-up Irish fashion designer. Her fashion sense seems to have channeled Betsey Johnson in that quirky, lacy, rosy way. Assisted by Amita (Kaling), Rose must convince Cartier to let her borrow the famous necklace in a delightfully awkward scene. She then must convince actress Daphne Kluger (Anne Hathaway) to wear the six-pound necklace to the Gala. Never over the top, her performance is funny without being clownish and she has surprisingly great chemistry with Hathaway. While Blanchett and Bullock are hard-edged and devious, Bonham Carter isn't afraid to be soft and pliable, allowing her to charmingly stumble through the heist.

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5. The blink-&-you'll-miss-it romance

Bullock and Blanchett have such good chemistry on-screen, it's really easy to argue that there's a good amount of sexual tension between them. There are no awkward kisses or any obvious references to their attraction to each other, but it felt to me as if love was in the air. There's an intensity in the way in which they look at each other, rely on each other and distrust each other that feels like they could be lovers.

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What did you think of the film? Let us know in the comments section below.

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The Health Benefits of Hot Yoga

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If you're one of the more than 36 million Americans who practice yoga (according to a 2016 survey conducted by Yoga Journal and Yoga Alliance), then you've likely tried, or at the very least considered, hot yoga.

Hot yoga, also known as Bikram yoga, is a 90-minute class consisting of a series of 26 poses performed in a studio heated to around 105 degrees Fahrenheit with a humidity of 40 percent. And it's the heat that typically keeps people at arm's length.

Some also question whether hot yoga is any different than "regular" yoga in terms of health benefits. One study published in January 2018 in Experimental Physiology suggested that it's the physical practice of yoga that's good for you, not the heat.

Despite the study, however, hot yoga does have its health benefits. Here are five we found.

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Increase in flexibility, leg strength and balance

According to a 2008 study published in The Journal of Strength and Conditioning Research, young adults who attended three Bikram classes a week for eight weeks showed improvements in flexibility, leg strength and balance — more specifically, the ability to balance on one leg. This makes sense considering how many yoga poses and sequences of poses, such as the Sun Salutation, are known to strengthen and tone your body.

It's good for the heart

Hot yoga may be good for the heart, according to a 2015 study published in Evidence-Based Complementary and Alternative Medicine. Australian researchers studied healthy young adults, some of whom showed a decrease in arterial stiffness. Researchers also studied a small group of older participants who showed a decline in insulin resistance.

Another study, published in 2013 by the Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine, saw similar results regarding arterial stiffness. The study also found that insulin resistance declined among a small group of older participants who did Bikram yoga.

More: 7 Beginner Yoga Poses for Couples

It reduces stress

In a 2011 study published in the Journal of Exercise Science & Fitness, 51 adults between the ages of 20 and 54 reported less stress after doing 20 Bikram classes over the course of eight weeks. Participants also showed improved mindfulness, suggesting that hot yoga positively affects psychological and physical health.

It's good for your bones

"Hot yoga is actually really good for your bones," Dr. Gordon MacGregor, one of the two professors at the University of Alabama in Huntsville who published research in 2017 titled "Calcium Lost Through Sweat: Is There Evidence of Bone Remodeling Due to Cutaneous Calcium Loss During Bikram Hot Yoga?" said in a statement.

MacGregor and Dr. Shannon Mathis studied eight premenopausal women with a mean age of 47.4 years who had practiced hot yoga for about two years. Not only did it show that "only just a little bit of calcium is lost" during hot yoga, but Bikram yoga also "appears to be a safe practice for premenopausal women," Mathis said in the statement. "We still recommend that fluid, sodium and calcium are replenished after hot yoga practice."

It improves your mood and decreases anxiety

According to The Washington Post, Casey Mace Firebaugh, a public health researcher at Central Washington University in Ellensburg, surveyed 700 people in an ongoing study and found that 48 percent of participants said hot yoga improved their mood. Further, 47 percent reported improved flexibility, 34 percent felt less anxiety and 33 percent reported clearer skin.

It can possibly lower blood pressure

A 2016 study published in JAMA Psychiatry found that raising one's body temperature via regular sauna use could lower blood pressure and reduce the risk of heart disease. There might be a case for hot yoga providing the same benefits, but this has not been studied directly.

More: How to Navigate Yoga While You Have Your Period

Ready to give hot yoga a go?

While hot yoga does have its health benefits — major weight loss not one of them, unfortunately — there are a few things to keep in mind before you head to your first class: Know your limits, know when to take a break and, most importantly, stay hydrated.

"Everyone is encouraged to drink at least eight glasses of fluids per day in general," Kamala Nayeli, Director of Spa & Wellness at Hotels & Resorts of Halekulani, tells SheKnows. "When you exercise, this amount should increase by two to three cups. If you raise your core temperature or partake in a hot yoga class, I would [also] recommend including a small dose of salt prior to the class. Or have a natural 'sports drink' that will replenish the sodium you lose when sweating."

So, if you've been considering trying out hot yoga, now's as good a time as any. And, like everything else, if you don't feel well during the class, just excuse yourself and sit for a moment or head out. (At least you'll have tried it!)

A version of this article was published in September 2017.

Make Dad or Grandpa This Easy DIY T-Shirt for Father's Day

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You know what's better than getting Dad a new set of grill tools on Father's Day? A homemade gift — especially one from the kids. With so many DIY gift options out there, the one that truly stood out to us was an easy, customizable Father's Day DIY T-shirt Dad or Grandpa would be more than proud to show off, be it around the house, on a morning or evening walk or even at a sporting event.

All you need for this inexpensive DIY gift is an unprinted T-shirt, a bleach pen and a touch of creativity — that's it!

Sound doable? Let's get to it.

More: 16 Cool Father's Day Gifts for All Types of Dads

DIY Father's Day Shirt

Supplies:

  • Plain, dark-colored T-shirt (avoid shirts with stretch or pre-treated cotton; cheap T-shirts work best!)
  • Bleach pen
  • 8.5 x 11-inch sheet of vellum paper
  • 8.5 x 11-inch piece of cardboard
  • Craft knife
  • Spray adhesive
  • Design template (click here to download the "Daddy" template and here for the "Grandpa" template)

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Now that you have the supplies, let's get started.

Directions: 

Step 1: Choose a design template and print the template onto vellum paper.

DIY Father's Day Shirt

Step 2: Place the printed design on cardboard and carefully cut out lettering with the craft knife. Make sure to save the inside of each letter, as they will be needed to complete the stencil for your design.

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Step 3: Insert the cardboard between the front and back of the T-shirt, placing it directly underneath where you will be placing the stencil.

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Step 4: Cover the back of vellum sheet stencil with spray adhesive. Spray the back of the inside of each letter that you have saved as well. Spray generously, making sure to cover the edges of your design thoroughly to prevent the bleach from bleeding through.

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Next: Placing the stencil

A version of this article was originally published in May 2012.

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Step 5: Place the stencil evenly across the front of shirt. The adhesive will easily pull away from the shirt, so take your time centering the stencil and placing it exactly where you want it before smoothing it down completely. Place the insides of any letters that are separate from your stencil in their places as well. Make sure all edges are firmly adhered to the T-shirt.

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Step 6: Use a bleach pen to fill in the entire area of your stencil. Apply a generous amount, working from the edges inward to reduce the chance of the bleach bleeding through the stencil.

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Step 7: Let the bleach dry completely before removing stencil. Use a hair dryer to speed up the drying process if needed. To remove the stencil, peel from one corner lifting upward; take care not to let any parts of the stencil touch the T-shirt once removed.

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Step 8: Using the template as a guide, choose the years that pertain to the special dad in your life, and carefully pen in small lettering using the bleach pen. Let dry completely.

Step 9: Wash and dry the shirt by itself — do not put in with other laundry. Now your personalized shirt is ready for Dad or Grandpa to wear this Father's Day!

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Is It OK to Use Marijuana During Pregnancy?

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Using medication during pregnancy remains controversial; using a non-prescribed drug during pregnancy even more so. But there are plenty of pregnant people who swear by marijuana.

Although some states have legalized marijuana for medical use (and some have gone even further and legalized it for recreational use), it remains taboo in some circles — despite the fact that marijuana is considered less damaging than alcohol (according to a 2017 report conducted by the Society for the Study of Addiction). The medicinal properties of cannabis have been well established for many years, and it's often used for pain and nausea relief, according to the National Institute on Drug Abuse. Plus, according to a January 2017 study published in JAMA, marijuana use among pregnant women increased from 4.2 percent in 2009 to 7.1 percent in 2016. But why are pregnant people using the drug?

More: A Growing Number of Pregnant Women Turn to Cannabis to Treat Morning Sickness

Some have found that using marijuana during pregnancy improves their morning sickness symptoms significantly. And although morning sickness is bad on its own, some pregnant people are unlucky enough to experience hyperemesis gravidarum, a serious pregnancy complication characterized by severe nausea, vomiting and dehydration. HG can lead to hospitalization so that the parent-to-be can receive intravenous fluids and, in some cases, nutritional support. There are medications available to treat HG, but they’re not always effective and may have adverse effects on the pregnant person or the developing baby, according to the American Pregnancy Association.

"The main reason women choose to use cannabis during pregnancy is for severe nausea and vomiting known as HG," OB/GYN and integrative pain management specialist Dr. Joey Rottman told SheKnows. "They feel, in many cases, it is safer than prescription medications that physicians prescribed and they feel it is certainly safer than having a PICC line."

This is exactly why Sarah,* a mom of two from Iowa, says she would make that choice in the future, if it came down to it. "Honestly," she told SheKnows, "If I were to have another baby, if I again suffered from HG, I would probably seek out edibles," she says. "I was sick the entire time with both of my girls and don't like taking medications when they are only semi-effective. As a last resort, I would smoke, but I would definitely try a pot cookie or a brownie or something similar to see if it worked."

More: Is Smoking Weed in Front of Your Kids Ever OK?

Of course, it can be difficult to get the blessing of a health care provider for cannabis use during pregnancy. But it's not impossible.

"My health care provider believes that there are circumstances in which the benefits outweigh some risks, and I fall under that category," Texas mom-to-be Andrea* told SheKnows. "Recently, we acquired a vaporizer known as a volcano. The marijuana is heated to super-high temperatures, and the vapor then fills a plastic bag. It has a mouthpiece you can attach to it to inhale it. There is absolutely no smoke. Since I gave in and started smoking again, I've had almost no issues with morning sickness, and my appetite has returned. My anxiety level, which is normally extremely high, is about as level as it can be during pregnancy, which I believe has had an enormous benefit. With my son, I spent so much time scared and crying and in a panic. Now the same problems (chronic bleeds, high blood pressure and so on) are either resolving or healing, and I attribute that greatly to not stressing my body out for no need."

Missouri mom Callie,* who is expecting her second child, also got the go-ahead from her provider. "I have the support and encouragement of my midwife," she explained to SheKnows. "[Marijuana] really helps me relax, and it also helps with aches and pains related to pregnancy."

But what are the risks? Well, they're not quite clear.

"A decrease in birth weight, a slight decrease in Apgar scores and an increase of admission to the NICU," Rottman explained. "The study data is fuzzy because they cannot and do not separate cannabis use and alcohol consumption at times. There was one study in Jamaica which showed a benefit of marijuana, but they also showed that those who used cannabis were in a higher socioeconomic class. No known studies compared methods of consumption, but it is commonly felt today that vaporization is safer than smoking and more effective than oral consumption."

More: Does Marijuana Use Impact Your Fertility?

One thing Rottman pointed out is that few studies support the use of medical marijuana, but not for the reasons you might think.

"There are so few studies, in general, which support the use of marijuana for medical purposes and any studies or trials very rarely meet standards because the FDA/NIDA makes it very difficult for researchers to conduct large-number randomized controlled trials on humans, unless those studies are designed to show the harm of marijuana," he explained. "FDA-quality trials are very expensive and the funding is not often possible for cannabis research because there are no large pharmaceutical companies paying for the studies as there is no money to be made for them from the results."

The bottom line? "One must sit down with the patient and discuss the risks and benefits of cannabis use," Rottman said. And that means that, sometimes, pregnant people and their care providers can come to an agreement that using cannabis might be a better option than certain medications — and in many cases, better than being hospitalized with a PICC line.

So, if you do catch a whisper that a parent-to-be is using cannabis, maybe think twice before judging them — it may be what's keeping them going toward that 40-week finish line.

*Names have been changed.

A version of this article was originally published in February 2014.

Chrissy Teigen's Response to Anthony Bourdain's Death Says So Much About Depression

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In the hours after reports of food journalist and chef Anthony Bourdain's death by apparent suicide and the days after fashion icon Kate Spade also took her own life, many — celebrities and others — have taken to social media sharing information about suicide hotlines.

But this morning, model Chrissy Teigen spoke up about her own experience with depression on Twitter and how knowing about a hotline wasn't enough for her to get help.

More: Anthony Bourdain Dies in France at 61 Years Old

"In my deepest, darkest post-partum depression, I would have personally never called a phone number," Teigen wrote. "If John or my doctor never reached out, I would have never even known. It really can be a lonely hole. Watch the people you love and don’t be afraid to speak up."

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A minute after her tweet, she added, "Obviously not everyone is me and the hotline is incredibly important."

Her powerful message is simple. While hotline phone numbers are vital information to have for those struggling with anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts, it's not the only way that loved ones can help those struggling with these mental illnesses. In fact, there's more you can do if you believe a friend or relative may be thinking of taking their own life.

More: What People Don't Realize About Suicide Prevention

"These mental illnesses are complicated things and difficult to diagnose," said Dr. Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills family and relationship psychotherapist, author of The Self-Aware Parent, regular expert child psychologist on The Doctors and costar on Sex Box.

"But although a diagnosis requires professionals, loved ones can keep their eyes and ears open by watching out for signs and symptoms. At the same time, they should also not to feel responsible if they miss things.

Walfish said that one of the most helpful and effective things you can do is ask straightforward questions.

“Family members and friends who are concerned about an individual who they think might be grappling with hopelessness or suicidal thoughts should never be afraid to ask the question directly: 'Are you having thoughts of hurting yourself or killing yourself?'" she said.

"Many people fear that if they ask, they will implant the idea in the person’s head, but that’s just not true," she continued. "You can’t implant a suicidal thought that is already there, but if it is there, and you confront it, bringing it out into the open is a giant step toward getting help."

If a person admits to having thoughts of hopelessness or suicide, the next step is to get them help. This could be as simple as talking them to a primary care physician (a family doctor, an OB-GYN or a pediatrician can help) or, if the person is in immediate danger, staying with them and either calling 911 or taking them to the emergency room.

"When in doubt, lean on the side of caution," Walfish concluded. "Follow your gut intuition. If you think you’re with someone in danger, get them help now."

More: Chrissy Teigen slammed for being brave enough to admit moms need help

Chrissy Teigen has been candid about her battle with postpartum depression since her daughter, Luna Simone, was 11 months old.

“I couldn’t figure out why I was so unhappy," she wrote in a cover story for Glamour. "I blamed it on being tired and possibly growing out of the role: ‘Maybe I’m just not a goofy person anymore. Maybe I’m just supposed to be a mom.'”

Like many people with depression, she didn't realize what was wrong until loved ones stepped in and she spoke to her doctor.

“My doctor pulled out a book and started listing symptoms," she wrote. "And I was like, ‘Yep, yep, yep.’ I got my diagnosis: postpartum depression and anxiety.”

Teigen's message is just as important as the hotline information. Some people need direct help and can't reach out alone, either because they don't know they need help or because their illness stops them.

For more information on the warning signs and prevention of suicide, click here. If you're considering suicide or fear you may become suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 24-7 at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). If you're worried about someone you love, visit SuicidePreventionLifeline.org. If you live outside the U.S., you can find a list of suicide-prevention hotlines worldwide here.


How David & Victoria Beckham Are Responding to Divorce Rumors

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It seems in Hollywood right now that no marriage can last. From Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan to Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux, celebrity marriages are ending left and right. But one marriage is staying strong despite the rumors.

Reps for Victoria and David Beckham spoke out Friday morning after a report started circulating that the couple was getting divorced and would be releasing a statement shortly.

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"If I spent all my time responding to ridiculous Beckham gossip and rumours there wouldn’t be enough hours in the day," Victoria's rep said. "What nonsense. There is no impending statement, no divorce."

David's rep added, "It is nonsense. It is one of those laughable, nonsense things. There is no divorce. It is laughable."

Victoria also seemed to squash the rumors on her social media by posting a picture with her daughter, Harper, and the caption, "We love and miss u @davidbeckham," complete with several pink heart emojis.

Victoria and Harper Beckham

David is currently in Miami launching a soccer team but is expected to head back to the UK — and to his family — this weekend.

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The Beckhams have been together for over two decades. They met in 1997 at a charity soccer match and were married in 1999. They have four children: Brooklyn, 19, Romeo, 15, Cruz, 13, and Harper, 6.

This is far from the first time the couple has faced daunting rumors. In 2004, there were reports that David had an affair with his personal assistant, Rebecca Loos. Then in 2005, the Beckhams' former nanny, Abbie Gibson, revealed details of the couple's struggles. In 2016, David was reportedly caught flirting with another woman, and on and on the rumor mill goes. Despite it all, Posh and Becks remain united.

Last year, Victoria spoke about her relationship in an interview with Elle.

"David and I both respect that each of us are very, very busy; we are both running big businesses, but we do put the phones down, and sometimes we just talk," she explained.

Despite being busy, Victoria and David have each other's back.

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Victoria added, "The children will be in New York, and he's already planned to take them to museums then out for dinner on Saturday night... That's how you can show your support in a marriage, by saying, 'You know what? I've got this.' That's what makes a good partnership."

How to (Safely) Look for & Have No-Strings-Attached Sex

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In an ever-swiping dating landscape, sometimes, you want to get laid without a big commitment. There’s nothing wrong with casual sex. And although I loathe the term “hookup culture,” it’s not reserved only for millennials (nor as pervasive as we’ve been led to believe). Plenty of people in their 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond are doing the promiscuous thing. Relationships take time and effort, and sometimes, those elements are off the dating docket. Done right, one-night stands can be stress-free and fun. Here’s how to do it.

Have no expectations

If you enter a casual sex scenario with no (and I mean no) expectations and safety in mind, no-strings-attached sex can be a great way to explore your sexuality without emotional baggage — at any age. Let’s be clear though: NSA sex is not about candlelit dinners and deep conversations, so don’t throw caution to the wind with someone you really, really care for. You may think you can handle it, but trust me, feelings always worm their way in. Not to say that casual sex always precludes intimacy.

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Know your motivations

Before you jump into something, take a look at what you're looking to get out of the situation.

“First, know thyself and feel comfortable and aware about your motivations,” Dr. Carol Queen, a sexologist, tells SheKnows. “I've definitely known people who weren't honest about their reasons for stating they wanted casual sex, caught feelings, suddenly behaved not-so-casually. You can find a life partner when out playing around — I did — but it's important to be honest with yourself and feel good about what you're doing.”

Queen says this means being honest with the no-strings person too, so you can make sure you aren't actually incompatible with your so-called casual hook-up's true motives: “Failing to do this opens the door to drama.”

Use dating apps to find like-minded partners

So, how to do you find a partner who wants the same things you want? Jennifer and Sean Rahner of GeekySexyLove are big fans dating apps. “They are a great way to pinpoint what you are looking for and screen potential partners,” they say.

The Rahners note that there are new ones introduced every day, so it is difficult to keep up with all options, but you can use something like Tinder, which shows you matches who are geographically close to you, or OkCupid, which allows for a bunch of personalization in terms of sexual orientation, gender expression, relationship desired, etc., and matches you with other people who are like-minded through a series of questions.

"Your desire for an NSA situation can be expressed via your answers to their questions, and you can easily find partners who feel the same," they add.

Use specialty sites for niche interests

The Rahners also suggest seeking out specialty sites if you are looking for something specific. “I counted at least a half a dozen sites geared toward 'cougars,' which might be just the perfect opportunity for an NSA situation,” they say. “Younger man/older woman matches can be a ton of fun, sexually, given our different sexual peaks.”

Have the difficult conversations in advance

Another reason the Rahners are fans of meeting via an app is that it is often easier to have consent and safer-sex discussions online before meeting. “If a potential partner balks at condom use or says they've never been tested for STIs, do you really want to invest your time and energy in meeting them?” they ask.

Again, meeting online is a great way to sort through options before spending valuable time. “Bring up difficult conversations — STI status and testing, safer-sex protocols, pregnancy-prevention options (if applicable), NSA expectations, consent expectations — as you're getting to know each other via chat and once you do meet, any 'action' can just flow more naturally.”

Steer clear of excessive alcohol

Queen admits it may be a little controversial, but she suggests trying to develop your skills, your game, your casual-sex persona when you are more sober than not. “I really believe casual sex can be a good thing, so I have a dog in the race — I want people to do this because they want to and feel good about it,” says Queen. “Party drink and drugs can cover up mixed feelings, and I urge people to be aware about that. Also, it lets you learn the safety elements of getting intimate with strangers.”

We should all be safe all the time. “I want that to be true as much as anyone, but in lived experience, I want us to be able to keep our wits about us when it comes down to that,” she says. “Also, to the degree you are actually in it for the pleasure, don't cover it up too much." A few cocktails can be great for so-called "liquid courage,” but may make you less aware of your surroundings — which could be a safety issue.

Be prepared

If you’re thinking about causal sex, adopt the Scout Motto: Be prepared. “If you have lube, condom, sex toy preferences, pack them in the big handbag before you go out,” says Queen.

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Always be safe

Of course, even if your intent is an NSA encounter, don't lock yourself into a particular situation sight unseen. “Meet for coffee or a drink in a public place and discuss how you'll proceed if one or both of you aren't into proceeding once you've met,” says Queen. “Book your own room if you are traveling out of town so you have a place to retreat if the situation isn't right. Make sure a trusted friend knows who you will be with and where. Arrange for a check-in call so that someone knows you are safe.” 

Aside from safety, NSA sex is all about enjoying yourself. So as long as it's fun and no one gets hurt, go forth and have casual sex without consequences!

Why I'm Raising Huggers in a Keep-Your-Hands-to-Yourself World

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My twins love hugs, which is great, because their mother is a touchy-feely, in-your-face Jewess with no sense of personal boundaries. From the day my son and daughter were born, I was all up in their grill, and now that they are 6, I still hug and kiss them on the regular. For me, our physical closeness is a natural expression of the warm relationship we share. I know it’s not like that for everyone; I'm sure there are plenty of non-demonstrative parents who no doubt love their kids. I'm sure it's possible to love your kids without constantly squeezing and tickling them — I just don’t know how to do it.

For my daughter, big hugs are a truly essential part of life; she has autism and craves the sensory input of firm pressure. My son is also a hugger, and hugs are integral to the social connection he shares with friends. When we used to live in Brooklyn, we'd run into a friend of his on the street, and they'd run up to each other and embrace (and possibly pretend to act like cats for some reason). From an early age, physical touch has been a part of his social currency.

But after we moved to New Jersey, my son got the startling news that his spontaneous embraces were not so welcomed by many of his classmates.

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His wonderful teacher spoke to me about the issue of personal space, confiding that she too considers herself a hugger. But the kids didn’t know what to make of my son’s hands-on approach to friendship. As a stopgap, his teacher told him to imagine a giant Hula-Hoop of personal space surrounding his body and the bodies of his friends. Whenever he needed a reminder to back off, she’d simply say, “Hula-Hoop.” 

While I appreciated her gentle reminders and the importance of consent and personal space, I wasn't entirely convinced. I thought of the times in my life when I’d crossed the Hula-Hoop boundaries myself. For example, even if I've just been introduced to you, if I’m hugging the rest of my friends goodbye, chances are I’ll throw in a hug for you too. In fact, I've done this and seen a stranger’s eyes suddenly light up with warmth. In my opinion — and in my life — hugging isn’t something that needs to be held back. Doesn't the world need more hugs?

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I was ready to throw that proverbial Hula-Hoop out the window until one afternoon when I saw my son run up to a new friend and throw his arms around him. The other boy did not hug back; in fact, he seemed put off by my son’s sudden and totally gleeful embrace. "Damn," I thought. "Maybe we need that Hula-Hoop after all."

Later that afternoon, I reiterated to my son what his teacher had told him about personal space. “Some people just aren’t huggers,” I said.

In the moment, it felt like the right thing to tell him. After all, he’s getting older, and he needs to fully understand the concept of consent — as well as social cues and how to read his peers' body language. He already understands that his body is his own and that he needs to be respectful of the bodies of others.

But then again, I think about how some of the best moments in my life have been when a friend unexpectedly hugged me or held my hand. Hugs have been proven to reduce illness, stress, anxiety and loneliness (seriously there’s scientific shit to back that up — specifically, a 2015 Carnegie Mellon University study).

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A few weeks ago, I was at my uncle’s funeral. My dad’s death was less than two years ago, and the loss of his older brother reopened the pain for me. At the funeral, my cousin's husband approached me, my mom and my sister. And without asking permission, he hugged us — really hugged us. And it was the best thing, perhaps the only thing in that moment that could have possibly made us feel better.

I want my little guy to be like this — to be the guy who knows when crossing that social boundary is the right thing. My family isn't the type of family who waves at you from across the room or awkwardly pats you on the back; we hug. So what if a few people squirm along the way? In a world that’s increasingly isolated, where life is lived on a phone screen, we’ll be the ones to hold and to squeeze — to say, "This is real, and I am here and we are in this together" and bring you into our circles.

The Most Effective Product Pairs for Every Hair Texture

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With thousands of hair products on the market, it can take quite some time and a load of money to find out what actually works best for you. And since we’ve all got different textures, there’s no such thing as one-size-fits-all. Our stylists may recommend using the same products used during our salon visit, but sometimes it just doesn’t work the way we'd hoped.

The only assumption we can make is that more often than not, we need more than one product to reach whatever #HairGoals we’ve set for ourselves, whether it’s smoothing out frizzies or adding volume to lifeless strands, so we touched base with a few experts to create the perfect cocktails for your texture. Find your perfect match ahead.

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Fine & flat

If your strands are fine or flat, you’re probably looking to add some volume and bring life back into your hair. “For fine hair, the goal is to create body without weighing strands down,” says Katie Manselle, Oribe hair care educator. “Apply a volumizing spray at the root to give hair a lot of body and finish with a lightweight balm styler to add sheen and hold.” This featherlike combo gives strands controllable movement so you don’t have hair that is sticking to your scalp.

Product Pairs for Every Hair Texture: Briogeo Blossom & Bloom Ginseng + Biotin Volumizing Spray

Briogeo Blossom & Bloom Ginseng + Biotin Volumizing Spray

Get thicker strands now and later with this vegan volumizing spray. Infused with ginger and biotin, this spray not only thickens strands with each spritz but promotes new follicle growth over time.

Blossom & Bloom Ginseng + Biotin Volumizing Spray, $20 at Briogeo

Product Pairs for Every Hair Texture: Oribe Featherbalm Weightless Styler

Oribe Featherbalm Weightless Styler

Made for fine strands, this weightless styling cream gives soft hold and shine to liven up your tresses. Bonus: A blend of passion fruit seed oil and acai gives hair a boost of hydration.

Featherbalm Weightless Styler, $42 at Oribe

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Wavy

If your hair is not quite straight but not quite curly, you’d likely label it wavy. Hair that has any texture is often desperate for added moisture to revive a defined shape into the strands. “For wavy textures, look for lightweight products with anti-frizz ingredients that are pro-moisture,” says Sarah Potempa, celebrity hairstylist and inventor of The Beachwaver Co.

Anti-frizz products can come in a variety of formulas. It’s important to know which formula best suits your hair type, from serums and sprays to soufflés. If your hair is on the finer side, a lightweight serum is a great option. It will give hair hold and shine without looking greasy. For wavy girls with thicker hair, opt for a hydrating lotion or cream and apply the product on your ends so your waves don’t lose their form. Finish with a spritz of lightweight hair spray to lock in your style.

Product Pairs for Every Hair Texture: Living Proof Prime Style Extender

Living Proof Prime Style Extender

There’s nothing exciting about walking out of the house only to find that your waves have fallen flat. This lightweight cream not only gives touchable hold but helps extend the life of your style so you can go through a day’s activities with confidence.

Living Proof Prime Style Extender, $20 at Sephora

Product Pairs for Every Hair Texture: R+Co Tinsel

R+Co Tinsel

You don’t have to worry about the oils in this two-in-one smoother and hydrator feeling greasy on your hair. A blend of jojoba and argan oils softens and hydrates strands without sitting atop the hair shaft.

Tinsel, $25 at R+Co

Product Pairs for Every Hair Texture: Amika Fluxus Touchable Hairspray

Amika Fluxus Touchable Hairspray

Seal in your style with this flexible-hold hair spray. Spritz as little or as much as you like, but it’s sure to stay soft and flake-free.

Fluxus Touchable Hairspray, $25 at Amika

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Curly & kinky

From S-shaped spirals to coils, moisture is key, and the experts agree. “For curly hair, cocktailing products enhances the natural curl pattern,” shares Giovanni Vaccaro, Glamsquad artistic director. “Combining a moisture cream with a curl gel works to create separation within the curls while hydrating the hair.” Like wavy girls, the consistency of the curl cream will depend on the weight of your hair. For finer hair, opt for a lotion or milk, while thicker textures should choose a thicker cream.

Product Pairs for Every Hair Texture: Ouai Curl Jelly

Ouai Curl Jelly

This two-in-one gel oil not only gives hair hold and structure but minimizes frizz and hydrates your spirals.

Curl Jelly, $26 at Ouai

Product Pairs for Every Hair Texture: Amika Curl Corps Defining Cream

Amika Curl Corps Defining Cream

A medium-weight curl cream that helps smooth frizz and keep hair shiny and moisturized.

Curl Corps Defining Cream, $25 at Amika

Product Pairs for Every Hair Texture: SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen & Restore Smoothie

SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen & Restore Smoothie

Great for girls with thick and dense coils, this weighted cream hydrates and helps to elongate coils.

SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen & Restore Smoothie, $12 at Sally Beauty

Originally posted on StyleCaster.

If You Can't Sleep, It May Be Because of Tinnitus

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If you're hearing a ringing, buzzing or hissing sound, and it's definitely not a smoke alarm, your phone or anything else that other people can hear, you may be experiencing tinnitus. The condition can range in severity and can negatively impact your life — especially when you're trying to snooze. Here's a look at what tinnitus is and why it's so annoying.

Tinnitus: What is it, anyway?

While tinnitus is generally known for causing ringing in the ears, it can manifest itself in other unpleasant ways, such as buzzing, hissing, whooshing, clicking or whistling. Essentially, tinnitus is the perception of sound when there is no external noise present. The American Tinnitus Association estimates that over 45 million people experience tinnitus, which makes it one of the most common health conditions in the U.S.

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Dr. Irene Tien, a board-certified emergency medicine physician, further explains to SheKnows that those who have tinnitus can also experience other symptoms, such as a fullness sensation in the ear or a sense of dizziness that patients describe as imbalance or a feeling that the room is spinning.

Tinnitus causes

Interestingly, one of the most common causes of tinnitus involves hearing loss. "We believe tinnitus is what your brain does to fill in when there is hearing loss or a relative void of sound input from your ears," Tien notes. "It is actually a symptom that originates in your brain and not your ear."

However, hearing loss can manifest itself in a couple of different ways according to the tinnitus association. There's age-related hearing loss, which describes what happens to many adults as they pass the age of 60. Then, there's noise-induced hearing loss, which describes what happens after exposure to loud noises, which can happen after one traumatic experience or can occur gradually over time if someone is consistently exposed to loud environments, such as work-related noise or frequent outings to loud places like music concerts or sporting events.

There are other potential causes of tinnitus, such as head and neck trauma, traumatic brain injuries or certain ototoxic drugs, such as NSAIDs, the tinnitus association's website notes. However, the most common cause remains hearing loss, and noise exposure is high on the list of the reasons hearing loss occurs.

Tinnitus treatment

Unfortunately, there really isn't a direct treatment for tinnitus aside from identifying and treating reversible hearing loss, Tien says.

For those who are already living with tinnitus, practitioners will focus on improving coping skills and reducing what the American Tinnitus Association calls the "perceived burden of tinnitus," which describes how the condition affects those afflicted. This type of treatment can include hearing aids, a focus on general wellness, sound therapy, behavioral therapy and in some cases drug therapy — particularly when tinnitus has caused or increased a patient's stress, anxiety or depression, according to materials from the association's website.

Instead of relying on treatment being available, she says that it's vital to prevent tinnitus before it becomes a problem, so for those who aren't affected, it's important to take a few steps as you go through life. "Prevention of hearing damage by wearing protective earplugs or sound-dampening earmuffs when in a loud environment (like a loud concert, jackhammers, loud lawn equipment) is best," she explains. If possible, you should also avoid the noises altogether.

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While tinnitus can be a huge problem for some, it's good to know that there are steps you can take to prevent it or at least not make it worse. While it's usually a benign condition, it can negatively impact someone's life, and it is possible to learn how to cope.

How to Raise a Body-Positive Teen

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Growing up as a fat teenager, I often felt like people didn’t want to see me. I thought society reserved happiness and opportunities for thin, perfect people. I rarely saw myself or my feelings represented in books or movies, and this fact inspired me to write my debut novel, Fat Girl on a Plane. I desperately wanted to create a character who’d been on a journey similar to mine.

As someone who is now a fat adult woman, I’ve been thrilled to see the body-positive movement gain momentum. But much of this movement is geared toward helping adults who have experienced significant fatphobia and fat-shaming recover their sense of dignity and self-worth.

For teenagers, I think a real opportunity exists to intervene early and help a new generation avoid many of these painful experiences. After I finished my book, I thought a lot about my relationship with my own teen daughter. I had created a body-positive character, but what could I do to help my teen daughter feel that way in real life?

Here are the top strategies I've learned for how we can all raise a generation of body-positive teens.

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Praise their achievements & efforts

A Facebook friend recently posted a few pics of her new baby, and I quickly commented, “What a beautiful girl" — and immediately regretted it. The baby was beautiful, but that moment made me think about how often our impulses are to praise a young person for the way they look. The bedrock of our kids' — of our — self-esteem should not be appearance. Instead, we should try to instill in our kids a sense of self-worth that's derived from their great personality qualities and abilities.

Studies have found that when parents praise efforts more than innate characteristics like beauty or intelligence, children are more perseverant and better problem solvers. So, it’s important to note what your teen does well. Do they always get their homework done on time? Do they help out with their younger siblings? Are they MVP of their school’s volleyball team? Praise their hard work, their helpfulness and their commitment to success more than their appearance.

Educate yourself & discourage unhealthy behavior

Most of us who are parents of teens came of age being fed a lot of confusing, misleading and even false information by the diet industry. From raspberry ketones to the soup diet to celebrities on juice cleanses, today’s teens are bombarded on social media with weight-loss messages that are likely not be in the best interest of their health. Many experts believe that fad diets may be worse for long-term health than carrying a few extra pounds, making it more important than ever for parents to become informed. In our household, we’ve decided that making simple healthy changes is the best. We discourage our teen daughter from skipping meals in hopes of cutting calories; instead, we encourage her to incorporate fresh fruits and vegetables, cut back on sugar, and try to be active as a family.

Give teens a voice in important discussions

Last year, I discovered that my daughter had been skipping lunch at school. While I was heartbroken to learn that she was struggling with body-image issues, the situation did lead to a lot of productive discussions in our household. Not only did we discuss the importance of complete and balanced nutrition (and calories!), but I also worked with my daughter to come up with a list of healthy foods that she actually enjoys eating. She became more active in packing her own lunch and expressed interest in cooking. She researched her own healthy recipes. Now, a few times a month, my daughter makes a healthy, delicious dinner for our whole family. (Her coconut curry chicken is delicious.)

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Take advantage of available resources

I still struggle with my own body issues, and even after those candid conversations with my daughter, I wasn’t entirely convinced I was the very best person for her to talk to on this subject. We’re fortunate in that our health insurance does cover counseling services, so I booked a few sessions for my daughter. It was incredibly helpful for her to have a supportive but neutral party to listen to her concerns. Also, the fact that many of the ideas we adopted came from a mental health professional gave me a lot of reassurance as a parent. If you find your teen is having body-image issues (dealing with fat-shaming or fatphobia or struggling with self-esteem) and you have the ability to get counseling services, I strongly recommend it.

Encourage teens to be sensitive and inclusive

One of the most difficult aspects of raising a body-positive teen is that the world at large is often far from body-positive. It’s important to speak with teens about being welcoming to people of different body types, and this involves being appropriately sensitive. Most teens know to avoid fat jokes and the like, but sometimes even otherwise kind teenagers will make offhand hurtful comments. I once overheard a teen shopper at the mall tell her plus-size friend, “That shirt would look cute on you, but we’ll never find it in your size.” As someone who was a fat teenager, I know these comments stick with us.

On the other hand, when a teen connects with a group of supportive peers, the results can be so powerful. When my daughter wanted to become more active, she joined an athletic team at her school. Considering that she’s inherited my lack of coordination, it was a brave decision. She initially struggled because she was often the last to finish some of the daily drills. But the other girls on the team encouraged her to stick with it. A few weeks in, after my daughter had worked hard to improve her performance, they voted her student athlete of the week. My daughter was so proud of the award, and I was so impressed by her teammates for all they did to create a welcoming environment.

It’s important to discuss with teens what's not okay to do or say in terms of body-related speech and comments, but it's also crucial to emphasize the positive difference they can effect on someone else's self-esteem, simply through their own inclusive and body-positive attitude.

Set a good example

Because children and teens often mirror what they see at home, the key to raising a body-positive teen is to truly be body-positive yourself. Do you make critical remarks about your own body? Do you voice negative or judgmental thoughts about the bodies of other people? Pop culture and the media can make it easy to assume this kind of behavior is normal and fall into it unaware.

If you’re experiencing negative emotions about your own body, try to practice self-care and find a sounding board for these thoughts — other than your teen. If you find yourself making critical comments about others, consider whether you’d want your teen repeating those comments to a schoolmate or friend. Change your own outlook and speech for the better, and you're modeling the best body-positive behavior for your teen.

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Today’s parents have a real opportunity to shape a future that’s free of fatphobia and fat-shaming for generations to come. Raising body-positive kids will help create a world that’s better for all of us, regardless of our shape or size.

This Game of Thrones Prequel Is Officially Happening & It's Going to Focus On...

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Good news, Game of Thrones fans! Not only has HBO officially given the go-ahead to prequel spin-off pilot, but the network also offered a few intriguing bits of intel about what the drama will be like if it gets picked up. And, not surprisingly, it sounds like another TV-addiction in the making.

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As of right now, the prequel from feature writer Jane Goldman and GoT author-slash-co-executive-producer George R.R. Martin remains untitled. Despite not yet having a name, though, the prequel boasts plenty of enticing detail.

"Taking place thousands of years before the events of Game of Thrones, the series chronicles the world's descent from the Golden Age of Heroes into its darkest hour," reads the synopsis, per The Wrap. "And only one thing is for sure: from the horrifying secrets of Westeros' history to the true origin of the white walkers, the mysteries of the East to the Starks of legend... it's not the story we think we know."

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Intrigued? We are too. Alas, we'll all have to just put a pin in that anticipation for a minute — or, you know, a year. HBO has already stated that if there is to be a spinoff (or more than one, even), it won't air until after the original GoT completes its run. Currently, production is wrapping on the eighth and final season, which is set to air sometime in 2019.

So, the fact that the network goes to the extra trouble of pointing out the prequel won't be what we expect obviously creates an air of mystery. Still, surely there are certain things we can and should expect, right?

Like, for example, a deeper look into the Long Night — the mythical winter that is said to have covered the entire world and lasted a whole generation. Reference in the prequel's synopsis to the world's "darkest hour" would certainly suggest as much.

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By nature, GoT is an ambitious body of work and there's much ground (literal and figurative) that could still be covered. But hey, we've got the entire next year to mull over the possibilities.


Khloé Kardashian Gets Real About Problems With Breastfeeding

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Khloé Kardashian always keeps it real, and the new mama isn't changing her M.O. in motherhood. On her website and app this week, Kardashian revealed she's been supplementing baby True's breast milk with formula because she simply doesn't produce enough liquid gold (as mamas often dub the natural stuff) to feed her sweet offspring.

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In the update, the Keeping Up with the Kardashians star called the Baby Brezza Formula Pro One-Step Bottle Maker a "total lifesaver" product during her first foray into parenting.

"Technically, I don't need something like this because I breastfeed, but because I don't produce enough milk, I also have to give a bottle with every feeding. And, with the formula I use, I have to give True the bottle within 30 minutes of making it, so it's amazing to have this machine make it for me," Kardashian explained.

Khloe Breastfeeding 2

Khloe Breastfeeding 2

She also underscored the value of such an efficient machine, saying, "It's super easy to use — and fast, so when I'm exhausted and can't even keep my eyes open in the middle of the night, it's a total lifesaver."

Kardashian's situation isn't unique. According to Parenting, around two percent of all women can't produce enough breast milk. There are myriad possible explanations for poor lactation, and they range from exhaustion to previous surgeries and plenty in between.

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Some mothers must return to a non-breastfeeding-friendly work environment where pumping frequently enough to sustain your supply is not possible. Such was the case for this writer (*raises hand*) at a former desk job during my first pregnancy and motherhood experience.

Kardashian doesn't elaborate on why she isn't producing enough milk — if she's even been able to pinpoint it — and it shouldn't matter. Whether or not she chooses to breastfeed her child and why should be a decision any mother can make without worrying about being stigmatized for it.

Khloe Breastfeeding 1

Khloe Breastfeeding 1

In fact, in a 2015 study published by the UK's Swansea University, researchers found that women who ultimately stopped breastfeeding due to difficulties (such as low breast milk supply) were at increased risk of depression. What mothers need during this time is emotional support, not criticism.

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So while Kardashian's admission may prompt a few self-appointed breastfeeding police to deride her decision to supplement, we applaud the new mama for her candor. As Jan Barger, an international board-certified lactation consultant (IBCLC) told BabyCenter, "Good parenting is more than breastfeeding."

Kudos to Kardashian for doing the best she can to keep baby True healthy and happy.

Yes, You Can Have PTSD Even if You Weren't Violently Attacked

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It's often assumed that a person with post-traumatic stress disorder is a survivor of military combat, rape or some other form of horrific violence — and in plenty of cases, this is true. In fact, PTSD was first added to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders in 1980 when doctors observed that Vietnam War veterans exhibited symptoms of the illness.

Today, it's known that approximately 7.8 percent of Americans (and 10.4 percent of women) will develop PTSD at some point in their lives according to the Nebraska Department of Veterans' Affairs. Because trauma comes in many forms, it's entirely possible to have PTSD without a history of being violently attacked.

Without treatment, this illness can become debilitating and make it extremely difficult to live your life. John Hamilton, a licensed therapist and chief clinical outreach officer at Mountainside Treatment Center, tells SheKnows that PTSD is characterized by the following clusters of symptoms:

  • Hypervigilance (feeling tense or on edge, trouble sleeping and difficulty controlling emotions
  • Avoidance (avoiding people, places and things that remind a person of the trauma and wanting to "zone out " when confronted with these reminders; in some cases, PTSD sufferers have trouble recalling details of the trauma) 
  • Reexperiencing (flashbacks and nightmares, reliving the fear evoked by the trauma when faced with reminders of the event) 
  • Mood changes (depression and anxiety are common in people with PTSD)

Living with these symptoms is just as difficult as it sounds, and they can be caused by a wide variety of traumatic events — not just a violent attack. "Many other situations meet criteria for a traumatic exposure," Dr. Brian Doane, licensed psychologist at Tampa Bay Counseling Services, tells SheKnows, citing examples such as surviving a dangerous earthquake or hurricane, being in a serious car accident or going through a surgery that has a high risk of death.

"In general, someone needs to be exposed to an event that threatens bodily harm, but they don’t need to witness it directly," Doane explains. For example, he says that a person can develop PTSD after learning that a family member or friend was killed in a violent way. "Even though this person didn’t see the death occur, learning of a violent or unexpected death of a loved one can cause many problematic symptoms to develop."

Bianca L. Rodriguez, a licensed therapist, tells SheKnows that medical trauma, especially when it occurs in childhood, is often overlooked when PTSD is discussed. "Being hospitalized, separated from one's parents and not understanding what's going on can be very frightening and experienced as a threat to one's life and well-being," Rodriguez explains. Children who suffer from severe asthma may also develop PTSD — Rodriguez says they often report memories of feeling like they're drowning and are going to die.

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PTSD is a complex illness, and it's accompanied by other myths and misconceptions. It can't be diagnosed until a month after trauma occurs — but Doane says many people don't know that sometimes the symptoms emerge much later. He says it's fairly common for people to believe that because they were fine for years, their symptoms don't mean they have PTSD. There are a few theories as to why this delay occurs, and he says that a prominent one is that, if the survivor isn't in a place to safely heal, his or her body attempts to protect itself.

"For example, if a child is being abused by a family member in the house and opening up about the abuse would put the child at greater risk, the body may protect itself by storing the memories in a fragmented pattern," Doane says. "These fragments in isolation are not as overwhelming and allow the person to focus on basic survival."

This serves as an effective defense mechanism until the survivor reaches a point in their life when they can safely process what happened to them, he notes. At this point, it's common for the memories to resurface with more clarity — and they're often accompanied by PTSD symptoms, such as nightmares, flashbacks, anxiety and avoidance.

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Another incredibly damaging myth about PTSD is that it's developed by people who simply aren't strong enough to handle trauma. "This one is especially awful because it associates shame with something that's often already inappropriately linked with shame and guilt," Doane explains. He points out that many sexual assault survivors are already unfairly shamed and peppered with victim-blaming questions like, "Were you drinking?" and "What stopped you from leaving?"

"So if that person also believes that symptoms of PTSD are a result of being weak, their agency and confidence that they can get better — or are even worthy of getting better — can dramatically reduce," Doane says. As a result, they may not seek treatment.

Not seeking help or treatment is already a problem among people with PTSD because Doane says they often mistakenly believe that there's nothing anyone can do and they simply need to figure it out for themselves.

"I suspect this is probably the biggest reason why people who are suffering don’t seek help," he says. "[But] many people suffering from PTSD can and do get better. It’s not about changing the memory or forgetting, but managing the symptoms and eventually learning to be OK with yourself."

According to a study published in American Family Physician, people who get treatment for PTSD experience symptoms for a shorter period of time (three years) than those who don't (over five years). So, although the path to recovery isn't always easy, it's more than worth it to get help. If you think that you or a loved one may be suffering from PTSD, it's crucial to remember that the trauma is valid; it's not a sign of weakness, and it's completely possible to recover and have a happier, healthier life.

Veterans who would like more information on PTSD or to seek treatment can contact the Wounded Warrior Project. If you or someone you know is feeling suicidal, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

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The Ultimate Dad Rock Playlist for Father’s Day

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Father's Day is going to be a special day this year, especially if you have some exciting events planned for your dad, maybe a great gift or two just waiting to be unwrapped, and you're just over-the-moon excited to lavish your pops with all the attention and love he deserves.

But do you know what would make this Father's Day even more special? A really great playlist. Not just any playlist, mind you, but one filled with all of the classic songs your dad grew up listening to. He'll be overwhelmed with nostalgia and thrilled to hear them on a playlist just for him.

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That's where we come in. We've put together the ultimate playlist for Father's Day, filled with songs that fall into the "dad rock" category. You know, those classic rock jams or country hits churned out by musicians like Blake Shelton, Van Halen and Bruce Springsteen. These dudes (and more!) have made dad rock songs in their day, and we rounded them all up for you onto one great playlist.

So, did your dad's favorite make the cut? Keep scrolling and see for yourself!

1. Van Halen, "Jump"

Van Halen Jump

Van Halen Jump

Dads everywhere know that this Van Halen hit is the perfect way to get a party started.

2. Queen, "We Will Rock You"

Queen We Will Rock You

Queen We Will Rock You

A playlist without a Queen song is unthinkable, TBH.

3. Blake Shelton, "I'll Name the Dogs"

Blake Shelton I'll Name the Dogs

Blake Shelton I'll Name the Dogs

A popular choice for the fathers of the world. Dad will appreciate seeing this Blake Shelton song on the playlist.

4. Aerosmith, "Walk This Way"

Aerosmith Walk This Way

Aerosmith Walk This Way

Trust us, your dad will love seeing this great Aerosmith hit come up on shuffle.

5. Florida Georgia Line, "May We All"

FGL May We All

FGL May We All

Florida Georgia Line's anthemic, mid-tempo "May We All" features a whole lotta goodness — and Tim McGraw, to boot.

6. Daryl Hall & John Oates, "Rich Girl"

Hall Oates Rich Girl

Hall Oates Rich Girl

You may laugh, but Hall & Oates know how to lay down a perfect dad rock anthem, and "Rich Girl" is Exhibit A.

7. Huey Lewis & the News, "The Heart of Rock and Roll"

Huey Lewis Heart Rock Roll

Huey Lewis Heart Rock Roll

A little fun with Huey Lewis and the News never hurts, especially on a day like Father's Day.

8. The Cars, "Just What I Needed"

Cars What I Needed

Cars What I Needed

The Cars are an ideal dad rock band, period. End of story.

9. John Mellencamp, "Jack & Diane"

John Mellencamp Jack and Diane

John Mellencamp Jack and Diane

Mellencamp's storytelling and an iconic chorus make "Jack & Diane" a near-perfect rock song.

10. Pink Floyd, "Money"

Pink Floyd Money

Pink Floyd Money

You've heard your dad grumble about it your entire life. Now he can hear Pink Floyd sing about it, too.

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11. Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers, "Don't Do Me Like That"

Tom Petty Don't Do Me

Tom Petty Don't Do Me

"Don't Do Me Like That" is an infectious, upbeat rock track that never gets too old.

12. Darius Rucker "Wagon Wheel"

Darius Rucker Wagon Wheel

Darius Rucker Wagon Wheel

Darius Rucker's country crooning is great for when you want to take a break with your dad and just hang out.

13. Thin Lizzy, "The Boys Are Back in Town"

Thin Lizzy Boys Are Back

Thin Lizzy Boys Are Back

Because chanting "The boys are back in town!" is way more fun when you do it with your dad.

14. Santana, "Black Magic Woman"

Santana Black Magic Woman

Santana Black Magic Woman

Santana's incendiary guitar skills are on full display in "Black Magic Woman," which means he needs a spot on our ultimate dad rock playlist.

15. Bruce Springsteen, "Born to Run"

Springsteen Born to Run

Springsteen Born to Run

It's a truth universally acknowledged that dads love Springsteen, so of course our ultimate playlist involves one of Asbury Park's finest.

16. Booker T. & the MGs, "Green Onions"

Booker T. Green Onions

Booker T. Green Onions

Booker T. & the MGs' hit single "Green Onions" is the perfect music for you and your pops to drive to while you make your way to a special Father's Day event.

17. Steve Miller Band, "The Joker"

Steve Miller Joker

Steve Miller Joker

This is the ultimate chill-out song from true classic rockers The Steve Miller Band.

18. Paul Simon, "You Can Call Me Al"

Paul Simon You Can Call Me Al

Paul Simon You Can Call Me Al

Who doesn't love a little peppy, fun Paul Simon?

19. Cream, "Sunshine of Your Love"

Cream Sunshine of Your Love

Cream Sunshine of Your Love

We can assure you that the groovy tunes of Cream will make your dad feel like a teen again.

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And if you love all of these songs and want to keep the party going, fire up Spotify and tune in to our Dad Rock playlist, where you can find all of these classic songs in one place.

Spotify Ultimate Dad Rock Playlist

Spotify Ultimate Dad Rock Playlist

The Queen Honored a Woman Who Founded New Zealand’s Prostitute Collective

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Move over, Helen Mirren — there’s a new dame in town! This week, Queen Elizabeth bestowed the title of Dame Companion upon Catherine Healy, the same title she gave to Mirren. Healy’s honor, though, is significant in a distinctly different way: She is the founder of the New Zealand Prostitutes Collective, which was instrumental in decriminalizing prostitution in the country (New Zealand was the first to do so). In fact, Healy herself is a former sex worker.

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It was during that time, in the 1980s, that Healy reportedly realized the stigma associated with the profession and how lacking the field was in any sort of protection for its people. Accordingly, she has spent the last 30 years of her life advocating for those in the industry.

Perhaps no one was more shocked than Healy to hear that the queen was awarding her the title of Dame Companion of the New Zealand Order of Merit for service to the rights of sex workers.

“I’m very touched. Looking at the different kinds of people who are put forward for these honors, in no way did I think I would ever be a recipient. I’m not sure what the queen would be thinking about this, but certainly it’s no secret that I have been a sex worker, and obviously my work is pushing for sex workers’ rights,” Healy told The Washington Post.

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Of course, Healy isn’t the only person being honored by the queen this week. Each year, Her Majesty releases “The Queen’s Birthday Honours List,” which recognizes the achievements of people in various fields and endeavors, both in the spotlight and behind the scenes.

In addition to Healy, Emma Thompson is receiving the title of Dame for her services for being one of Britain’s “most versatile and celebrated actresses.”

Keira Knightley, best known for her role in the Pirates of the Caribbean franchise, will receive an OBE award — in essence making her an “officer” of the British empire. Actor Tom Hardy will receive a CBE award, making him a “commander” of the empire. (Is it just us, or does this sound like something straight out of Star Wars?)

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Other honorees include Nobel Prize-winning novelist Kazuo Ishiguro, historian and broadcaster Professor Simon Schama, and Winter Olympic gold medalist Lizzie Yarnold.

Can You Guess Which Real Housewife Just Won a Bodybuilding Award?

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If you thought Teresa Giudice was good at flipping tables during her OG Real Housewives of New Jersey days, wait till you see her now — furniture doesn’t stand a chance against the reality TV star. Giudice has muscles to spare, which she showed off by competing in the bikini division of a bodybuilding competition. Even more impressive? The super-toned and fit mom of four took home third-place honors.

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Giudice flaunted her ripped physique in a teensy two-piece at the NPC South Jersey Bodybuilding Championship in Medford, New Jersey, on Saturday and clearly impressed the judges.

Since being released from federal prison in December 2016 after serving nearly a year for mail, wire and bankruptcy fraud, Giudice has been sharing her fitness journey with fans on social media. Most recently, she posted a video on May 31 of herself in the gym working on her shoulders.

RHONJ Teresa 2

RHONJ Teresa 2

However, Giudice remained mum about the bodybuilding competition — as of yet, she hasn’t released any sort of statement about her participation. But according to a People source, "She has been training for this bodybuilding competition since December. She wanted a new challenge and pushed herself to the extreme. Right now she is in the best shape of her life."

More: Joe Giudice's Prison Sentence Was Already Drastically Reduced

C’mon, girl! Be proud of all that hard work. Shout it from the rooftops!

Teresa Giudice

Perhaps the reality TV star has been laying low to avoid stealing the spotlight from another member of the Giudice fam: her daughter Milania, 12, who released her first music album last week.

At this point, little is known about Milania’s musical stylings. “Trap Queen” rapper Fetty Wap attended the preteen’s album release party, which would suggest that the album contains at least some rap. Naturally, the prevailing speculation seems to be that the details of Milania’s budding career will be revealed during the next season of RHONJ.

More: Teresa Giudice Is Standing By Her Man

It’s a safe assumption, though, that anything Milania does will be spirited. Having grown up in the spotlight, this middle Giudice daughter has never been shy about her diva ways. On Sunday, Teresa posted a photo to Instagram that seemed to capture her daughter’s sassy essence. In the pic, Milania relaxes in a bikini atop a golden inflatable swan. Giudice’s caption? “Goddess!!”

RHONJ Teresa 1

RHONJ Teresa 1

Noticeably absent from both his wife's bodybuilding competition and his daughter's album party is Joe Giudice, who is currently serving his own 41-month sentence in federal prison.

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