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Elizabeth Banks Is Tired & Disappointed in Steven Spielberg's Sexism

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ICYMI, Elizabeth Banks gave a speech on Tuesday at the Women in Film Crystal + Lucy Awards, where she was being honored with the Crystal Award for excellence in features. Unfortunately, the impassioned actress and director made a miscalculation concerning Steven Spielberg that promptly got her dragged on Twitter.

During her speech, Banks called out Hollywood's boys' club culture, revealing, "The first agent I ever met in this industry told me to get a boob job. I was so grateful that I didn't have enough money at the time to follow his advice. I also did not sign."

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If we want representation in film to change, she explained, "co-opting men and boys into that process is the only way that progress is going to happen."

Here's where things went off the rails a bit.

In emphasizing to the audience how important it is to take children to movies with female leads, Banks took industry heavy-hitter Spielberg to task. "I went to Indiana Jones and Jaws and every movie Steven Spielberg ever made, and by the way, he's never made a movie with a female lead," Banks said. "Sorry, Steven. I don't mean to call your ass out, but it's true."

When actress Shari Belafonte tried to tell Banks from the audience that Spielberg directed the iconic 1985 film The Color Purple, Banks basically skimmed over the comment and continued discussing the importance of women having agency on TV and in film.

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Well, it didn't take long for Twitter to sink their teeth into Banks' oversight. Comment after comment dragged the actress-slash-director for forgetting an film so important to black women and black Southern culture in general.

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Elizabeth Banks 1

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In response, Banks issued a tweet of her own, this time apologizing for both failing to recognize The Color Purple and for seeming to dismiss Belafonte.

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Elizabeth Banks 3

Obviously, everyone who was upset by the omission made an excellent point. The Color Purple was a hugely impactful film and leaving it out in any context is a grievous mistake.

Therein lies the danger of speaking in such hyperbolic terms — because while Banks was clearly inaccurate in stating that Spielberg had never directed a movie with a female lead, she did have a point. She simply negated it by using the word "never."

Yes, Spielberg has The Color Purple to his credit. He can also claim The Sugarland Express starring Goldie Hawn from 1974 and The BFG in 2016 (although the little girl technically shared the lead with the eponymous male BFG, or Big Friendly Giant).

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Banks wasn't wrong to call out Spielberg, though, who is largely considered one of the most influential voices in the film industry. In a career spanning many decades and even more credits, Spielberg should absolutely have more than three female-led films under his directorial belt.

The same goes for other Hollywood male creative executives. In scrutinizing the canons of these powerful men in the industry, Banks is highlighting the alarming lack of representation for all women.


Did Diana & Prince Charles' Marriage Implode Because of Baby Harry?

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Although glimpses into the marriage of Diana, Princess of Wales, and Prince Charles have been revealed over the years, few feel as deeply personal and painful as the revelation from Diana's candid conversation with royal biographer Andrew Morton exposed in the re-release of Diana: Her True Story — In Her Own Words.

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According to Diana, her marriage to Prince Charles simply couldn't survive the strain of having a second child. Or, more specifically, a second child who wasn't a daughter.

"Charles and I were very, very close to each other six weeks before Harry was born, the closest we've ever, ever been and ever will be," she recounted. "Then, suddenly, as Harry was born, it just went bang, our marriage. The whole thing went down the drain."

Apparently, Prince Charles had long desired a daughter, so Diana decided not to tell him when she found out in an earlier ultrasound that that their bundle of joy would be a boy.

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"He wanted two children, and he wanted a girl," Diana said, adding that Prince Charles' initial reaction upon seeing Prince Harry was, "Oh God, it's a boy... and he's even got red hair."

Yowch. That's bound to do damage on poor Harry's psyche. However, subsequent moments in Diana's conversation alluded to what was likely to real culprit in her marriage's demise: Charles' extramarital affair.

Noting that "something inside me closed off" after Harry's birth, Diana admitted, "I knew Charles had gone back to his lady" — alluding, of course, to Charles' now-wife Camilla Parker.

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While Diana expressed her frustration with her flailing marriage at the time in relation to her second child and tension stemming from the birth, she later referenced her husband's rogue relationship with many of the royal couple's problems.

After all, remember her rather famous response during a 1995 BBC interview? "There were three of us in this marriage, so it was a bit crowded." And she definitely wasn't talking about baby Harry.

Yes, Single Men Use IVF & Surrogacy to Become Parents Too

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Some people have always known that they have wanted to be — or not be — a parent. For Tom Garden, his desire to become a father wasn’t clear until a 2014 bus ride in Jerusalem.

Born and raised in Minneapolis, Garden spent years “married” to his family business, as he put it, and never really thought about being a parent. After leaving the business in 2014, he took a trip to Israel — his first since he left the country in 1995 after two years of serving in its military. It was during that trip that he ended up taking the bus ride that would change his life.

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As the bus wound its way through the streets of Jerusalem, Garden suddenly recognized the woman sitting next to him: a relative he hadn’t seen in 20 years. They started talking, and she asked him if he was married or had kids; Garden told her he didn’t know if either was going to happen for him.

“That’s when she said to me, ‘Just to let you know, you’re the last of the Garden males. If you don’t have kids, the Garden name is going to die out,” Garden told SheKnows. “That bus ride changed my whole perspective on everything.”

After returning home to Minnesota, Garden told his mother that he wanted to be a father, and she suggested the in vitro fertilization and surrogacy route. Too nervous and embarrassed to make the call to his local clinic himself, Garden’s mother made the call for him, getting some basic information.

Being Jewish himself, Garden knew he wanted a Jewish egg donor. After not having any luck finding one in the Midwest, he connected with a egg donor service in New York called Lifespring run by Ruth, an Israeli woman. Like Garden, most of the organization's donors had also served in the Israeli military and then donated their eggs anonymously after fulfilling their service.

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After selecting a donor based on photos, family background and genetic history, Garden was ready to move forward with the process. The only fertility clinic that Lifespring works with is the Reproductive Medicine Associates of New Jersey based on positive patient outcomes (i.e., a lot of healthy pregnancies and babies), so Garden flew to the East Coast to meet with the doctors to walk through the rest of the process.

“I was just a single guy doing this — I had no idea what it was to be a father,” Garden said. “The doctors and the nurses were so compassionate.”

Soon after, the egg donor flew in from Israel for the retrieval process, Garden provided his sperm sample, and he came one step closer to fatherhood.

Initially, he didn’t realize that the egg donor and surrogate would be two separate women. While that’s not always the case, it is for donor eggs acquired through Lifespring, so Garden worked with Surrogate Steps, another agency based in New York, to connect with a surrogate from Arkansas.

Garden and his surrogate became very close during her pregnancy and have remained friends. In fact, they’re going through the surrogacy process again together in a few weeks, as Garden tries for a second child.

His first child, Joseph, will turn 1 on June 25.

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Image: Courtesy of Tom Garden

While Garden may be ready to have another child now, when Joseph arrived a year ago, he felt less than prepared. Having never held an infant or changed a diaper in his life, he said that he was “less scared in the Israeli army” than he was as a new father. His mother suggested a doula, whom he hired to stay with him and Joseph around the clock for several months.

But it wasn’t just the practicalities of being a single father that Garden thinks makes other men apprehensive about going through with it — it's also the stigma.

“There are guys in their late 40s who for whatever reason don’t have kids, but want them,” he said. “Because of stigma, fear and financial reasons, they don’t do it. But having a baby via IVF is not just for couples or single women — there are a lot more guys out there like me.”

Garden was also subjected to something most women go through at some stage during their childbearing years — having people question his personal reproductive choices.

“There were one or two family members who weren’t as understanding, asking ‘why don’t you have kids the ‘normal’ way? Why didn’t you meet a girl?’” he said.

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But it’s not that he didn’t try. Prior to his trip back to Israel, Garden had been doing some online dating, but hadn’t met anyone who made his “heart sing,” he explained. Many of the women he was meeting were in their early to mid 40s and either already had kids or didn’t want them.

“I thought I was destined to be a guy who doesn’t have a family,” Garden added.

Now, he’s trying for a second child.

Despite loving his past year of being a full-time stay-at-home father, Garden said he was initially surprised at how much work it was to be a single dad, but said it has been “a wonderful challenge” and something he will do again.

“Having the gift to bring a child into the world — to bring a life into the world — is truly special,” he said. “I love being a dad — it’s a wonderful thing. I don’t regret anything for an instant.”

If there is one thing Garden wants other single men who are interested in becoming fathers to know, it’s that IVF or adoption are absolutely viable options for them.

“Life is short — just go for it,” he said. “If you want something, do it and don’t be afraid.” 

8 Things That Will Inevitably Happen When You Road Trip With Your Kids

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Your bags are packed, work can wait and you're all set to head off for a treasured American pastime — the family road trip. How does that saying go? Oh yes, life is about the journey, not the destination. You're gonna want to put that into your mental piggy bank to pull out during your voyage.

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It's not that family road trips aren't fun. In fact, when you look back on them, you'll likely only remember the priceless memories you made together. When you're in the thick of it, though, you're much more likely to focus on these things that inevitably happen when you road trip with kids.

1. Packing the car is like playing Tetris

You once thought you had a lot of stuff. Then you had kids and realized that the sheer amount of stuff kids require for travel puts your stuff to shame. Fitting all of this into your loaded-down vehicle — while still leaving room for actual humans — is legit like playing the hardest game of Tetris you've ever played. When all's said and done, you will have shaved an inch off your favorite suitcase and, you know, years off your life.

2. You try to distract them with road games

You figure that if you get the kids to focus on finding letters on billboards or counting cows your car passes in pastures, they might stop incessantly questioning you. Unfortunately, it's only a matter of time before the Alphabet Game turns into The Hunger Games. And while we're on the subject of hunger...

3. Hunger pangs strike frequently

It doesn't matter that you just ate lunch or that it's nowhere near mealtime; your kids will ask for snacks and drinks like they're going out of style. And while you make them swear on all their TV time that they won't spill any, your floorboards will look like a snack factory exploded before all is said and done. Just try to arm yourself with liquids that come in packages that don't explode with the tiniest squeeze and foods that vacuum easily out of carpet.

4. Nature calls, but it never calls anyone at the same time

Despite your near-constant pleading for everyone to go potty before you hit the road, it will take mere minutes for someone to claim they are dangerously close to peeing their pants. Faced with the alternative, you cut your losses and find a gas station or rest stop. You then repeat this pretty much every 15 minutes, because when nature calls, it apparently calls everyone separately.

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5. You'll fall into a time warp that prevents you from being punctual

Sure, you'll set travel goals for yourself. You just won't ever meet them. When you take a road trip with kids, you somehow warp the time-space continuum in a way that ensures you will never make it anywhere by the time you intended. You'll always be at least five minutes behind schedule, and that's a conservative estimate. Just roll with it, Mama.

6. Choosing a radio station will devolve into chaos

One would think a bit of music might buffer the tension now building in the car, but no. Just, no. Because getting everyone in your car to agree to one radio station without someone simultaneously inventing a rock-country-Disney-pop channel just ain't gonna happen. So what started as a simple quest to serenade the people in the car will turn into a shouting match that is definitely not music to your ears.

7. A favorite toy will be irretrievably lost

There's a terrible place inside every car I like to call the Bermuda Triangle — no matter how much you try to reach that spot from your seat (without causing the entire car to careen off the road), you cannot seem to make contact. This is the spot that your children will undoubtedly drop their favorite toy during your road trip, making it impossible for you to retrieve it and quell the savage cries now coming from your kid.

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8. You'll magically transform into your mother

Just when you start to think things can't get any worse, someone does something that elicits a primal response that bubbles up from your soul and spills out of your mouth, "SO HELP ME, I WILL TURN THIS CAR RIGHT AROUND!" And there you have it. You have magically transformed into your mother and now realize she was right — One day, you'll have kids of your own, and you'll understand.

This post was sponsored by Fruit Shoot®.

Barack Obama Showers Praise on Jay-Z for a Milestone in the Rapper's Career

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You know who has the power to make Fridays a little better? Barack Obama, that's who.

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Turns out, we have a damn fine reason to talk about Obama today: on Thursday, Obama released a video of praise for Jay-Z after the Watch The Throne rapper was named as one of the newest inductees into the Songwriters Hall of Fame. For Jay-Z, it's a milestone moment because he is the first hip-hop artist to be inducted into this prestigious group. No doubt, being shown some love from a friend and former president is probably just the cherry on top to this sweet moment.

Barack Obama Jay-Z Tribute Video

Barack Obama Jay-Z Tribute Video

Obama's show of love and solidarity was absolutely charming. To see someone support and congratulate someone they admire is always inspiring, right? In the video, Obama discussed what he loved about Jay-Z as an artist and how he saw himself in comparison to Jay-Z.

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"I like to think Mr. Carter and I understand each other," Obama stated. "Nobody who met us as younger men would have expected us to be where we are today. We know what it's like not to have a father around, we know what it's like not to come from much, and to know people who didn't get the same breaks that we did. And so we try to prop open those doors of opportunity so that it's a little easier for those that come up behind us to succeed as well."

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Jay-Z Songwriters Tweets 2

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While Obama was posting a sweet video, Jay-Z chose to celebrate the milestone moment by going on a bit of a tweetstorm. The rapper thanked all of the musicians and rappers who inspire him to greatness every day. In classic Dad-fashion, Jay-Z's tweet style was a bit confusing and silly, but truly, we wouldn't have it any other way.

Semen Allergies Are Real & Can Make It Harder to Conceive

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Let’s talk about human seminal plasma hypersensitivity – more commonly known as semen allergy. Basically, it’s an allergic reaction to proteins found in semen.

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This was first documented in the 1950s, and we’re still not entirely sure how common it is. In one study with 1,073 women participants, 12 percent had probable semen allergies.

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But we do know that the allergic reactions can be systemic (meaning that they affect the whole body and could involve difficult breathing) or local — like a skin rash in one particular area. While both men and women can have semen allergies, it’s more common for women to have a more serious, full-body reaction. Symptoms could last for a few hours or as long as several days.

It’s also not an all-semen-or-no-semen situation. You can be allergic to one partner’s semen, but not another’s. You could also suddenly develop an allergy with a longtime partner. A person’s allergies can change over time, and this is no exception.

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Semen allergies can be tricky to diagnose, as there are some overlapping symptoms with vaginitis, yeast infections and some sexually transmitted infections, like herpes.

The most common way of diagnosing a semen allergy is to see if the symptoms go away if you use a condom. There’s also the traditional prick test where a doctor exposes your skin to small amounts of the allergen.

But semen allergies aren’t just annoying — they could make it harder for women to conceive since their allergy means that they may not be able to have sex without a condom. But the good news is that aside from difficulty having unprotected sex, there is no known connection between having a semen allergy and infertility.

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So what can you do if you’re having symptoms?

Doctors’ first recommendation is typically to use condoms when having sex. The other possible treatment for women is desensitization therapy, either by having sex two or three times a week until your body stops having allergic reactions or through intravaginal injections of increasingly stronger dilutions of their partner’s semen. And good news: Both methods are proven to be fairly successful.

Semen Allergies Are Real & Here's What You Need to Know
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A Great British Baking Show Premiere Cake-Eating Game

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It's summertime, which means it's also time for the most wonderful, relaxing and sweetest hour of television to return to PBS: The Great British Baking Show (known as The Great British Bake Off across the pond). For seven seasons, we have watched in utter delight as totally kind, nervous and normal contestants have joyfully baked desserts for abnormally kind and supportive judges, all in a festive white tent in a field in the U.K.

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It goes against almost all of the tenants of your average reality show. No one yells, no one stabs anyone in the back, and none of the judges are mean, ever. When someone is politely asked to leave the show at the end of each episode, it's with a lovely mix of constructive criticism and compliments (and contestants always respond with pure gratefulness that they were a part of the production to begin with).

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Note that this is Season 7 of The Great British Bake Off (as it airs in the U.K on BBC.) also known as Season 4 of the Great British Baking Show (as it airs in the U.S. on PBS).

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Currently, England is up in arms about the upcoming Season 8 of Bake Off in which the show's production is moving from the BBC to Channel 4 (a for-profit television station in the United Kingdom). It's a move that has not been seen as positive by the millions of British fans. British celebrity baker Mary Berry has left the show as a judge, while beloved co-hosts Sue Perkins and Mel Giedroyc also decided to stay with the BBC and leave the cooking show. The only remaining judge is Paul Hollywood, another noted British baker, who will be joined by famed British cook Prue Leith. The hosts will be Sandi Toksvig and Noel Fielding.

But for Season 4 of the United States' airing of the show, Berry, Perkins and Giedroyc will all return one last time before the switch will be seen and felt in the U.S. next summer.

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So we are entering this new season with a lot of anticipation, a lot of high hopes and a few concerns about biscuit crispness. What better way to cushion our anxieties than with cake? Or even the unwise overconsumption of cake? Let's take it all, the good and bad, with big, big forkfuls of cake.

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Without further ado, here your Great British Baking Show cake-eating game.

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Take a bite of cake...

  • When they say, "On your marks, get set, bake!"
  • When a host says something extremely helpful and supportive for some reason
  • Every time someone says a British word you don't understand
  • Every time you feel wistful pang for Mel and Sue leaving next season
  • When someone gazes anxiously into an oven
  • When someone uses a cooking technique you've never heard of
  • When you suddenly say something really British, such as, "I'm mad as a box of frogs!"
  • If someone tears up or cries

Eat a forkful of frosting...

  • If you have to turn on the closed captioning
  • When someone uses an ingredient you've never heard of
  • When a host makes a saucy joke
  • When a baked good does not rise

Finish your piece of cake...

  • If absolutely anyone is mean to absolutely anyone else
  • If absolutely anyone says, "I'm not here to make friends"
  • If you are watching the show while in a large tent in the middle of a field in England
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What kind of cake are you baking to celebrate the new season of The Great British Baking Show? Sound off in the comments.

21 Sex Moves That Are Subtle but Mind-Blowing

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Y'all, we're busy. Every single one of us. And sadly, sometimes that means our sex lives fall by the wayside. It's not intentional. It just kind of happens — and when we finally realize that we aren't having sex with our partner as much as we should and start to seek out hot sex tips to get things going again, we're a little less limber in the getting-it-on department. There's no way we're going to be able to pull off any of the crazy antics and sex positions that a lot of articles suggest.

That's why we're bringing it back to the basics.

If you're on the hunt for your lost orgasm, some simple sex moves are all you and your partner need to get back in the game. And you don't even have to be a contortionist to pull these puppies off.

1. Get stoked

Sexy moments can strike when you least expect them. So seize the chance to spice up a night on the couch. Sex therapist Gloria Brame, Ph.D., suggests having your partner use their fingertips to slowly, gently caress your skin.

"The light, sensual touch creates a tingling sensation that will wake up your body while also relaxing you for sex," says Dr. Brame.

2. Keep your panties on

Back in high school, you probably had rules for how far you'd go: under the shirt, over the pants, and so on. Well, the teenage you was on to something. "It can be pleasurable torture to play with each other over your underwear, teasing and stroking through the fabric," says sex coach Patti Britton, Ph.D. "You're building up the anticipation, so when you finally do have skin-on-skin contact, it'll be that much more explosive and exciting."

3. Make circles

Let's be honest: Most people are just grateful to be getting a oral sex. But that's no excuse to rest on your laurels. Rather than simply moving up and down, use your tongue to slowly wind around his member or her clitoris.

"Swirl up the shaft with the tip of your tongue. When you're at the top, slide your whole mouth down and then up, with a sucking motion," suggests sex therapist Carole Altman, Ph.D., author of Don't Have Sex Again Until You Read This Book.

4. Give barely-there kisses

Rather than simply making a beeline for your partner's below-the-belt region, create a slow burn with featherlight kisses. Start by kissing eyelashes, then the corner of the mouth, the jaw, and the collarbone. Next, kiss your partner's nipples, chest, down along the treasure trail and over to one hip bone, then the other.

"You're building up anticipation as you make that slow, seductive crawl," says Altman. "And the randomness of your kisses keeps nerves on high alert as his/her brain and body try to figure out where you're going next."

5. Bend it better

For greater stimulation in missionary position, try this: "Hook your knees over your partner's shoulders," suggests Britton. "The angle puts more pressure on the clitoris, giving you a better chance of achieving orgasm." Clench your butt and lift your pelvis to create more friction and make your climactic moment even more mind-blowing.

6. Get a little rough

Give a jolt during sex by gently nipping your partner's shoulders or earlobe. "When you're in the heat of passion, you may go more into your head than your body," explains Brame. "A little pain snaps you both back to the moment."

7. Sit up tall

You love you-on-top because you can control the speed, angle, and motion; your partner loves you-on-top because he/she can just lie back and watch. But what lazybones might not realize is that sitting up can enhance the pleasure even more. "Not only can you both do more with your arms and hands, but the sex is also more intimate with your torsos pressed together," says Britton.

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8. Guess what's next

A little unpredictability during sex can make the experience even more intense for you. "While in missionary, have your partner tease you by mixing up the movements: slipping in just a little, going in halfway, and thrusting deeply, in random order," suggests Britton. Two short strokes followed by a long one, three deep ones in a row followed by two quick teases...you get the point.

9. Show off

Although your inner bad girl may get off on the idea of being caught in the act, the real you may not feel right about sneaking off to a bar bathroom. But you can feed any secret exhibitionist appetites by doing the deed in front of a window with the lights out. "Stand up against the window, facing out," says Britton. You'll get a rush from just the possibility of being watched.

10. Blow hot air

No matter what position you're in, you can enhance the experience by gently exhaling on each other's skin. "You're already feeling pleasure in your genitals, but this move adds soft, steamy heat to other sensitive areas like your neck, your nipples, or the inside of your wrists, giving you tingles from head to toe," says Britton.

Next Up: 11 more sexy moves for the bedroom

Originally published January 2008. Updated June 2017.

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11. Find a new angle

"In order to orgasm from oral sex, you need him/her to use consistent, steady strokes," explains Britton. "The easiest way to do that is by licking up and down." But you're more likely to orgasm when his/her tongue is running across your clitoris. The solution: Your partner should be perpendicular to you (in a "T" shape), lying on his/her side. Working the tongue will be easier, and it's an angle that's optimal for your pleasure.

12. Buzz away

Put a spin on oral sex by getting a third party in on the action — a sex toy.

"While your partner is pleasuring you, have him/her lay a vibrating bullet against the cheek," suggests Olivia St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed. "It creates a hum that's not too intense."

13. Work your muscles

You can put an extra-special twist on intercourse just by clenching your pubococcygeus muscle (the same muscle you use to stop and start the flow when you're peeing).

"Squeeze the muscle tight around him and then let go as more of his length moves in," says St. Claire. "Squeeze again as he pulls almost out. Then repeat with each thrust."

This creates a tight pressure around his penis, as though you're massaging it. The benefit for you: Your clenching motion creates pleasurable tension in your G spot and clitoris, making orgasm easier to achieve — and more explosive.

14. Don't take it all off

Who doesn't love getting naked? Still, there's something so primal about clothes-on sex. While wearing a skirt or dress, get on the edge of the bed.

"It's a spontaneous, must-have-you-now move," says Britton.

15. Anchor him

Try this hands-on approach to increasing sensation during intercourse: Form a ring with two fingers and your thumb and gently hold down the skin at the base of his penis.

"Pulling his loose skin taut brings the nerve endings closer to the surface, making him more sensitive," explains St. Claire.

16. Squat instead of straddle

Here's another way to make you-on-top more interesting: Squat over your partner rather than straddling him.

"By supporting yourself on your feet, you get better ease of motion," explains St. Claire. "You can bounce higher and have more control of your movements, so your pleasure is intensified."

17. Tighten up (or loosen up)

There are a million ways to adjust to achieve the perfect, er, fit.

"If you want more friction during missionary, slide your legs together so that they're between your partner's," suggests Brame. "You'll have to start out with your legs flat on the bed, outside of theirs."

For deeper penetration, spread your legs wider with your knees up.

18. Give a tug

When it comes to his below-the-belt area, you're probably more focused on the star than the supporting players. But you can make sex a heightened experience for him by stroking his testicles. "Softly massaging the area increases blood flow to his pelvic region, increasing his arousal and sensitivity," says Brame. "Then, as he's about to orgasm, gently tug on the loose skin around the 'boys' to amplify his big finish."

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19. Grab hold

Call him/her your prisoner of love and they'll laugh. But pin him/her to the bed and they'll know you mean business.

"You can take a fun and playful approach to the whole domination thing by pinning hands down while you're on top," says Brame. "It's a delicious tease because all he/she wants to do is touch you, and you're not allowing it." Of course, if you'd prefer that your partner take control, just ask!

20. Go neck and neck

You already know that the neck is a sensitive spot — little shivers and moans when you nibble at your partner's throat should clue you in. Still, there are a few nooks that will elicit even more of a "yowza!" reaction.

"The line that runs from behind his/her ear down to the crook where his/her neck meets his shoulder is especially sensitive," says Britton. "You can lightly kiss other lesser-known hot spots as well, like along the jawbone and even the back of his/her neck."

21. Tickle

Your partner may think they have seen every trick in the book, but show that you're still full of surprises with this oral sex move: While down south, slip your finger into your mouth and stroke him.

"The unexpected texture makes it a pleasurable treat for him," explains St. Claire. The creativity alone will give him a rush since it's something he's probably never experienced before. For women, your partner can create a similar sensation by using their fingers and their tongue at the same time in different places.

Reprinted with Permission of Hearst Communications, Inc. Originally Published: 21 Little Sex Moves That Will Rock Your World (and His!)


How to Cook Chicken on the Grill so It's Perfect Every Time

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Grilling season is officially upon us, which is fabulous news — unless you have yet to perfect the art of barbecuing up the tenderest, juiciest chicken ever.

Whether you plan on being the neighborhood grill master this summer or just want a tasty alternative to plain old baked chicken, being able to perfectly cook chicken on the grill is a skill that you should take seriously. Here's how to make sure your chicken is always on point.

1. Start with the right tools

Grill tools

Grill tools

It's all about the tools, baby. If you use grilling utensils with long handles, you won't end up barbecuing yourself along with your chicken.

Also, investing in a meat thermometer helps ensure safe internal temperatures of your chicken — chicken breasts should usually check in at 165 to 170 degrees F, with the thermometer inserted into the thickest part of the cut. Nowadays, there are even fancy Bluetooth thermometers that let you monitor temperatures from afar.

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2. Clean your grill first

Grill brush

Grill brush

Not only is a clean grill more hygienic, it's also what's going to get you those grill marks that make your chicken look oh so professional. Follow these tips from Real Simple to get your grill all shiny and new-looking:

  • Preheat the grill.
  • Once it's hot, brush the grate with a long-handled stiff-wire grill brush.
  • If you don't have a grill brush, use a ball of crumpled foil held in long-handled tongs.

Don't want to deal with all that scrubbing? The Grill Daddy brush cleans with steam, which is a lot easier — and even safer since you don't have to touch the grill. Not only that, since you don't have to scrub as hard, wire brush parts aren't as likely to end up in your food. (Grill Daddy, $13 and up)

3. Marinate that bird

How to get the best grilled chicken
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As we all know, chicken tends to dry out in a hurry, so prepping your meat is key. Always marinate first (check out some of our favorite chicken marinades here), and Kingsford even suggests brining (use a basic brine solution of 1/4 cup salt to 4 cups water) before cooking.

4. Oil it up

chicken on the grill

chicken on the grill

You're gonna want to grease that grill up so your chicken doesn't stick to it and turn into a shredded mess. Simply fold a paper towel into a small pad, dip it in a bowl of vegetable or olive oil and rub it over the bars using tongs. Be careful not to let the oil drip on the coals.

You can also use nonstick cooking spray, a chunk of bacon or steak fat to lube up your grill.

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5. Don't let the coals get too hot

Hot coals

Hot coals

Grilling your chicken over the perfect medium-high heat is so important. If your grilling heat is too high, you'll end up scorching the outside of the chicken and not cooking the inside. If you are using a grill thermometer, Kingsford recommends a steady 350 degrees F with the lid on.

Speaking of that lid...

6. Keep it under cover

Grill with cover

Grill with cover

There's nothing really to see while your chicken is cooking, so if your grill has a cover, make sure you cook with the top down. Keeping the cover on makes your grill operate more like an oven and also helps to keep the temperature more consistent and keeps the flames from flaring up.

7. Avoid the flipping temptation

Grilling chicken

Grilling chicken

It may seem like you're helping the chicken along when you continually flip it, but you're not. If you're following a recipe that says only flip the chicken once — then only flip the flipping chicken once! Your chicken will cook more evenly and quickly when you let it cook properly on each side. If you follow rule No. 5, this shouldn't be a problem.

8. Don't leave the meat on too long

How to get the best grilled chicken
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This is key. While it's obviously better to eat overcooked chicken than undercooked chicken, no one wants their chicken to be so dry you feel like you're eating sawdust. As we mentioned above, as soon as your meat reaches an internal temperature of 165 degrees F, pull it off.

Here are some rules of thumb for how long to leave different cuts of chicken on according to Real Simple:

  • Breasts: Direct heat, five minutes per side
  • Wings: Indirect heat, 25 to 30 minutes, turn occasionally
  • Bone-in breasts, thighs and drumsticks: Indirect heat, 40 to 50 minutes, turn occasionally

9. Dress it up at the last minute

Chicken with bbq sauce

Chicken with bbq sauce

If you're using barbecue sauce on your chicken, brush it on toward the end of your cooking time. Brush each side of the chicken with your sauce on its last turn on the grill. Not only does this keep the extra sauce out of the flames (and thwarts flare-ups) but it also prevents the sauce from burning and tasting bitter.

10. Clean your grill... again

Grill cleaner

Grill cleaner

Yeah, we know the first step was to clean your grill, but you're gonna want to make sure you clean off your grill after each use. Scrape the grate with a stiff wire brush while it's still fairly warm, and the gunk will slide off easier. You can also soak your grate in 1/4 cup of grease-cutting dish soap combined with 1/4 cup of baking soda for about an hour. Then scrub it clean with a wire brush or heavy-duty scouring pad.

If you choose to spray any cleaners straight on your grill, opt for something natural and nontoxic. Any chemicals you put on the metal are sure to end up in future meals.

What are your favorite grilling tricks?

Originally published January 2011. Updated June 2017.

A Wheelchair Doesn't Make My Husband Any Less of a Father

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Lying in bed in a hotel tucked away in California wine country, my husband turned toward me and tentatively covered my hand with his. His eyes were wide and happy and a little teary. "We’ll figure it out," he promised.

Like many fathers who’d just seen two pink lines on a convenience store pregnancy test, he was left a bit breathless — but probably a little more surprised than most. My husband is a quadriplegic wheelchair user, having broken his neck and suffered a spinal cord injury many years ago. He’s healthy and active, but when it came to fertility and fatherhood, we weren’t sure how things would go. Our doctor warned us about the uncertainty of our being able to conceive, at least without expensive and invasive procedures. We were prepared for a long wait and a lot of heartache. But — surprise! — I got pregnant right away without a need for medical intervention. We were thrilled — and terrified. (Did I mention we were still in grad school, living in a shoebox-size apartment and planning a cross-country move the month of my due date for my husband’s new teaching job? Yikes!)

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It turns out our experience isn’t too uncommon (save maybe the postpartum cross-country move). There are approximately 12,000 new cases of spinal cord injuries each year, making it one of the most common long-term disabilities, and most SCI patients are men. While many men with spinal cord injuries worry about being able to become fathers, 80 percent of male wheelchair users with SCIs are able to become biological fathers — some with the intervention of assisted reproductive technologies like IVF and some without.

But fertility is just the first step in starting a family with a disabled parent (or parents). While there are many resources available to parents of disabled children, from educational programs to extended networks of support groups, disabled parents aren’t always so lucky. When I started trying to find resources aimed specifically at partners of SCI fathers or disabled parents in general, I was surprised at how little information is out there. Like us, many new disabled parents must feel lost. "What baby products will work for us?" we wondered. "Can we both change diapers? Are there wheelchair-accessible cribs? Strollers? If so, could we afford them? Would pediatricians and teachers treat my husband as an equal partner and authority in our child’s life?"

Everything was up in the air, it seemed, and it was rough to find any definitive answers. Still, I was sure we could handle it. By definition, life with a disability often requires a DIY approach, and parenting — which demands flexibility of everyone — is no exception. I turned to fathers with spinal cord injuries and their (primarily able-bodied) partners to find out how they successfully navigate parenting. Every parent with a spinal cord injury has a different set of physical abilities — some might need a lot of assistance, others very little or none at all — and many fathers have found creative ways to work around challenges. Since mass-marketed baby items like babywearers and strollers aren’t generally made with adaptations for disabilities in mind, handiness is a helpful trait.

Sherry P., whose husband has been the primary caregiver to both of their children since their son was just 3 months old, cherishes that trait in her husband, the father to their two children. "My husband is very creative and resourceful — we made a harness out of rock-climbing webbing with a handle on the back so he could scoop the kids off the floor when they were crawling and put them on his lap!"

One father with an SCI agrees with Sherry that one-on-one time is especially important for fathers with disabilities. "I was terrified to be left alone with our baby for the first time, but knew it was necessary and that, with some flexibility, it would be OK. Turns out, we had a great time, and I now cherish one-on-one time with her."

Like other parents, but to a different extent, a spirit of creativity and a positive attitude toward problem-solving are essential for fathers with SCIs or other disabilities and their partners (disabled or not). Family power dynamics can also be tricky when one partner is disabled and the other isn’t. Negotiating parental roles is a challenge for any couple, but there’s even more of a learning curve when one parent is a wheelchair user, as the everyday demands of parenting can disrupt the flow of communication or create a situation in which an able-bodied partner becomes the default authority figure.

Nina W., mom to three kids ages 9, 5 and 3, says that she was afraid her son would disobey her husband or not see him as an authority figure. Offering advice to able-bodied partners of disabled fathers, Nina argues that backing up your spouse is key. "My best tip is to be open and honest with your partner about parenting and discipline, but don’t overpower your spouse… You have to be a team more than ever."

Some disabled dads are worried that their significant others will question their ability to parent effectively. Anne, a mom to a 13-month-old son with her husband James, says that the reactions of the public can sometimes feel stigmatizing or condescending, saying, “A lot of people do that patronizing pity face when they see us together as a family.”

One father with a spinal cord injury agrees, citing others’ assumptions about disabled individuals’ abilities or inabilities as the primary kind of discrimination he’s faced as a disabled father. “It's mostly pretty subtle and in the form of people being ‘curious’ about how we accomplish parenting tasks and often offering unwanted 'help.'" While requested help might be appreciated, the presumption of someone’s effectiveness or lack thereof as a parent because of how they move in the world is frustrating for many.

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When asked about the benefits of parenting with a disability, many parents mention the development of patience, empathy, open-mindedness, a sense of self-sufficiency and confidence and respect for differences in both themselves and their children. Kristen Sachs, a blogger who has written extensively about her family’s SCI parenting journey, attributes several positive aspects of her daughter’s attitude and development to her husband’s disability, which has helped them both develop deeper emotional intelligence and maturity. "My husband has a lot of patience with our daughter — certainly more patience than I do. He is the parent who most often will get her to slow down and focus just by using his words. He explains things very well — from ideas on how to help her through an emotional time to instructions on how to complete a physical task."

As I write this, I’m due in six weeks. Like many fathers-to-be, my husband is at once excited and frightened out of his mind. But with an added stroke of the qualities that help any parent be successful — dialogue, flexibility and a willingness to mess up until you get it right — I’m confident we’ll do just fine.

Barack Obama Leaked Top-Secret Information About Beyoncé's Twins

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Red alert, world, because while Beyoncé is maybe but almost definitely in labor, we don't have to wait to find out the sexes of her perfect twin babies before they arrive. Barack Obama already accidentally revealed that.

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It happened at Jay Z's induction into the Songwriting Hall of Fame, which Jay Z himself missed, obviously, because his wife might be actively giving birth to two new humans at this moment. It's not really something you can pop out of for your own Hall of Fame induction.

So Jay Z's longtime friend Obama gave a glowing speech, singing the rapper's praises and telling the crowd all the adorable, bromancey things the two of them have in common, like this gem:

"Jay and I are also fools for our daughters, though he's gonna have me beat once those two twins show up. And let's face it, we both have wives who are significantly more popular than we are."

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That's right. Obama, with his two daughters, apparently will be beat in number of daughters by Jay Z once his two new children arrive and add to his one daughter. Do a little math, and that reveals that Jay and Bey have two daughters on the way. Welcome to the best accidental gender reveal of all time. Of. All. Time.

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Barack Obama accidentally revealed Jay Zs twins sexes 1

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Barack Obama accidentally revealed Jay Zs twins sexes 2

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Obama's presidency may be over, but here he is just casually continuing to give Americans what we need. Bless him.

Trump Is Undoing Michelle Obama's Work to Improve Food Labels

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First lady Michelle Obama was known for lots of things — her inspiring speeches, formidable law career and incredible grace under pressure to name a few — but her passion project was making sure American kids were getting access to healthy foods.

The former FLOTUS also wanted to make sure that everyday Americans (you know, those of us without an advanced degree in nutrition) could easily make informed choices about the food we buy with just a glance at the label on the side of the package.

But under Trump's administration, the FDA has indefinitely delayed the rollout of an updated nutrition facts label that would do the following super-helpful things for consumers: make calorie counts on packaging larger and easier to see, itemize sugar so people could tell how much was added and how much was naturally occurring, and change standard serving sizes to reflect what people actually eat (because honestly, who stops at 11 Doritos?).

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It's hard to see why there would be an issue with making nutrition labels easier to read. So, who benefits from the delay? Not to get too conspiracy theorist here, but basically, the FDA is favoring the needs of large corporations (aka "big food") over those of everyday people like you and me, who are trying to make healthier choices.

Food lobbying groups who are paid huge amounts of money to represent the interests of major manufacturers have been pushing the FDA to delay or modify the nutrition label requirements almost since FLOTUS's changes were announced. Never mind the fact that the changes were scheduled to go into effect more than a year from now, on July 26, 2018.

How much time does a major company really need to change their labels? I mean, if we can have what's basically a flavor-of-the-month Oreo that follows the latest Instagram trends (pumpkin spice, Peeps, you name it!), which requires not only developing, testing and producing an entirely new product, but also designing brand-new packaging, don't you think such large-scale operations would be adequately prepared to make a simple label modification?

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Unfortunately, Trump and his administration have said they plan to massively cut FDA regulations to make it easier for businesses to sell their products. The idea they're pushing is that when major corporations flourish, so do the rest of us — a concept that's known as trickle-down economics (or, in Hillary Clinton's words, "Trumped-up trickle-down economics"). But this theory has been repeatedly debunked by economists, and when those corporations' profits come at the expense of Americans' health and lives, it's hard to pretend this is all happening with our well-being in mind.

Let's spell out the depressing capitalist truth here: Putting an emphasis on the negative nutritional values of a food has the potential to discourage customers from buying it (in theory, leading them to healthier purchases), which goes directly against the aims of big businesses.

TL;DR — Michelle Obama, we still need you!

Very Pregnant Serena Williams Is Still Playing Tennis in Her Third Trimester

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Being seven months pregnant seems like a great excuse to sit down, put your feet up and demand that someone rub them. If you're Serena Williams, though, LOL at that.

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Williams is in her third trimester, and that isn't stopping her from killing it on the tennis court just as hard as she always has. She posted a video to Instagram that shows her smashing balls around like the total killer she is. Her belly is noticeably huge, and it's not slowing her down one single bit.

Serena Williams kills it on the tennis court 7 mo preg

Serena Williams kills it on the tennis court 7 mo preg

Really, though, did we expect anything less from Williams? Now that we think about it, no. No, we did not.

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This is the first baby for Williams, who announced she and her fiancé, Alexis Ohanian, were expecting in April. She later revealed that she didn't even mean to make the announcement — she revealed her pregnancy by accidentally posting the wrong selfie to Snapchat: one showing her posing in a yellow bathing suit that was captioned, "20 weeks."

"I was on vacation just taking some time for myself and I have this thing where I’ve been checking my status and taking pictures every week to see how far along I’m going," Williams explained at the 2017 TED Talks Conference. "I didn’t tell a lot of people to be quite honest and I’d been saving it. Every week I just take a picture and save it and I’ve been so good about it and this was the one time I slipped, but it’s OK. On social media, you press the wrong button and… 30 minutes later I missed four calls and I’m like, ‘That’s weird.’ But it was a good moment. I was only going to wait five or six more days [to tell people]."

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Now we just can't wait to see what Williams' baby can do on the tennis court — after birth, of course.

Rough Night Is Not The Hangover for Women, & That’s a Great Thing

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Everything you’re going to hear about the latest Scarlett Johansson film Rough Night is going to compare it to the ultimate men’s bachelor party film, The Hangover. Rough Night is not The Hangover, and that’s the best news, because the film delivers a female buddy film in the best way possible — through humor and a great story.

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While The Hangover delivers major hijinks during a bachelor party weekend, Rough Night manages to take a night of over-the-top drama and give it way more heart. While most bachelorette weekends won’t take such a crazy turn, it is a more realistic portrayal of female friendships.

Here’s why Rough Night needs to be on your summer must-watch movie list and every reason why you don’t have to worry that it’s another version of The Hangover.

It’s Weekend at Bernie’s meets Big Little Lies

That’s a pretty broad description of what happens in the film, and without giving away too many spoilers, there is a dead stripper involved. What they do with that body is pretty darn creative and makes Andrew McCarthy and Jonathan Silverman’s shenanigans look pretty amateur in comparison.

Yet things aren’t always what they seem, which gives the added twist that Big Little Lies delivered in its first — and hopefully not only — season. To give even more street cred to the BLL comparison, Zoë Kravitz is also part of the girl squad in Rough Night. She delivers a performance that is completely different from her HBO character, and it makes you realize Kravitz is here for the long haul in Hollywood.

Demi Moore

Demi Moore Rough Night
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Need I say more? Demi Moore doesn't just look good, her deft handling of comedy in scenes as a passionate and lustful swinger with her husband Pietro, played by Ty Burrell, leave you wishing for more Moore in every film.

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Female friendships

Let’s be honest. We know our female friendships go through more ups and downs than male friendships. As women, we often have a more emotional connection with our female friends. Even in the bad times, our relationships tend to run deeper because we learn so much from our experiences of womanhood.

That’s exactly what Rough Night delivers — the dynamics of five women who all represent something different, but equally important to each other. The childhood friend trying to keep her place in life with the bride-to-be, the college friends who represent four short but significant years in a woman’s life and the deep friendship you make as an adult that sometimes has stronger roots than the childhood friend.

As complicated as it may seem, you still need all of these women in your life.

Kate McKinnon

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Kate McKinnon is a national treasure. Anything she touches is comedy gold. She does so without being too much because subtly is her specialty — McKinnon gives us moments of humor that we didn’t see coming.

I don’t know what we did to deserve such an amazing comedian, but I am glad to call her one of our own. Her take on an Australian BFF coming to the U.S. to celebrate her friend’s bachelorette party is pure genius. She's truly Rough Night's MVP.

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Female-driven film

Lucia Aniello not only wrote the film with Paul W. Downs, she directed the film. The conversation of women in film, particularly behind the lens, is important because inclusion for our gender in Hollywood has been a long time coming.

This is Aniello’s first big outing as a director, and it deserves to be a hit at the box office. It’s a smart female-driven film that’s not a Hangover knockoff. It’s a movie we’ve all been waiting for, and it’s the perfect time for this film to make its mark.

Billy Cosby Trial Jury Can't Agree on a Final Consensus

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Updated June 16, 11 a.m. PT: The jury in Bill Cosby's rape trial has been deliberating since Monday, but remains deadlocked without a decision.

In the more than 30 hours they've spent in deliberation, the members of the jury have paused six times to further examine the evidence in the case, Refinery 29 reports. The judge presiding over the trial, Judge Steven O'Neill, praised the jurors for the long hours they've put in.

"This is an incredible jury that has just acted with incredible dignity and fidelity," O'Neill said. "I don't have any higher praise. You have taken your task so seriously."

Cosby has been accused of sexual misconduct by some 60 women. He is charged with three counts of aggravated sexual assault.

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In an extremely chilling series of photos, Bill Cosby — beloved actor-turned-monster after three sexual assault charges and over 50 women claiming the same — and his wife Camille look like they’re on a regular old family outing as they arrive at the courthouse this Monday. It’s the first time she’s accompanied the comedian to any of his court hearings, which began six days earlier.

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As of now, there are no plans for Camille to testify during the trial period, though she was “deposed in Feb. 2016 in a defamation case brought by several women who accused Bill Cosby of sexual assault,” according to ABC News.

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Camille, 73, is seen walking arm-in-arm with her husband, 79, who dons a walking cane and black suit. The two have been married since 1964 and have four daughters, all of whom stand firmly behind Cosby and deny all claims of wrongdoing against him. His daughters have yet to attend, but his Cosby Show co-star and TV daughter, Keshia Knight Pulliam, who played Rudy Huxtable, joined Cosby in support of “the truth,” which she told reporters is that he has done nothing wrong.

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Despite all these allegations and the notion that this man would do something this horrific and being sent to trial for it, the Cosbys seem unfazed by the entire ordeal. The husband and wife must have a strong bond to be able to stay together as long as they have, especially through this. Then again, Melania Trump is still with her husband despite everything he’s done. I guess being in denial together about the world around you is the key to a good relationship? Hmm, I don’t think so.

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Whatever the reason is for smiling their way through Monday’s proceedings, the couple has made it seem like this is just a silly misunderstanding; over 50 of these women are so silly to be saying the exact same things in regard to the exact same man. One can only wonder what it must be like to be so rich that sexual assault is no big thing. We may never know.


Eating Too Much of This Type of Potato Could Kill You

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In 2017, it's the new normal to have a constant stream of nutrition studies telling us anything and everything we eat can potentially kill us (except, of course, the ever-perfect Mediterranean diet). We’re used to it. Meat, sugar, dairy, booze — everything that tastes delicious is sure to be terrible for you.

Of course, sometimes these studies sound more logical than others. A recent study in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition found that people who eat fried potatoes two or more times a week double their risk of an early death compared to those who avoid them.

The study looked at 4,440 participants between 45 to 79 years old and found that eating potatoes alone doesn't indicate an increased risk of overall mortality — good news for fans of baked or mashed! — but people who ate fried potatoes two or three times per week were twice as likely to die early. That’s pretty serious.

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It’s actually pretty scary: Fried potatoes, whether they're French fries, tater tots, hash browns, Irish Nachos, or anything else delicious that happens to involve potatoes and piping hot oil, are a seriously dangerous (and dangerously common) food.

Still, keep in mind that this was an observational study, meaning there could be other factors involved. Maybe, for example, the people eating lots of fried potatoes were also overweight, had heart issues or were more sedentary. It also stands to reason that people eating fried potatoes that often might have an overall less healthy diet than the ones who don't. Plus, fried potatoes tend to involve lots of oil and salt, both known to be bad for you. So, how do we know it's the potatoes that are to blame?

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"Even if it's an observational study, we believe that the cooking oil, rich in trans-fat, is an important factor in explaining mortality in those eating more potatoes," says Dr. Nicola Veronese, lead author of the study and a scientist at the National Research Council in Padova, Italy. "Trans-fat has been shown to raise 'bad' (LDL) cholesterol in the blood, which can lead to heart disease."

So, if heart problems run in your family or you're a french fry addict who's simply concerned about your health, it certainly wouldn't be a bad idea to cut back just to play it safe. Why not experiment with mashed or oven-baked varieties? These garlic mashed and baked sweet potato recipes look just as mouthwatering as the fried kind.

Tamra Judge Finally Reunited With Her Estranged Daughter

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One of the most heartbreaking storylines in all of The Real Housewives of Orange County's 11 seasons was the estrangement between Tamra Judge and her oldest daughter, Sydney, after Judge's divorce from Sydney's dad, Simon Barney.

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As much as Judge has tried to keep her relationship with Sydney off the show, it's still leaked in — obviously, because it's such a huge part of both their lives — and Judge's heartbreak has been so apparent to viewers. At one point, Judge admitted during a RHOC reunion show that she and Sydney hadn't spoken in two years. With tears in her eyes, Judge explained that she still sent a weekly text to Sydney, letting her know the door was always open to rekindling a relationship.

It apparently worked. Sydney graduated this week, and pictures from the event show Judge, Sydney and the rest of the family all together.

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Tamra Judge at Sydney's graduation after estrangement 1

From the sound of the caption, Judge has mended her relationship with more than just Sydney. It sounds like she and Barney may have worked out some of the vitriol viewers saw both before and after their split.

"So many things to be proud of this month. Our family has come a long way and I couldn't be happier. Simon and I are so proud of these amazing, smart, funny, beautiful & crazy kids. Congrats Sidney," Judge wrote. "Your smile lightens up the room and your future is so bright."

Barney also shared some photos, congratulating Sydney and the other graduates in her class.

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Congratulations to Sydney for graduating and to Judge for apparently rekindling their lost relationship.

Alex Jones Slams Megyn Kelly for Being a Fraud, Leaks Private Conversation

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Updated June 16, 11 a.m. PT: Megyn Kelly's controversial interview with conspiracy theorist Alex Jones is still days away from airing, and he's already crying that she's framing him as a fraud.

Kelly tweeted a promo video for the interview with Jones, who thinks the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting was a hoax, and Jones thinks the promo proves the interview will be edited to make him look bad. He called Kelly to talk to her about it, secretly recorded their conversation and tweeted it, and is now threatening to release unedited footage of the full interview.

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Alex Jones Megyn Kelly phone call leaked

"I’ve never done this," Jones says in his video. "In 22 years, I’ve never recorded another journalist. I’ve never done this, but I knew that it was a fraud, that it was a lie."

In the leaked recording of the phone conversation, Kelly can be heard saying, "All I can do is give you my mind. If there’s one thing about me, I do what I say I’m going to do and I don’t double cross. You know you just became very fascinating to me. I just always thought you were this maybe, one-dimensional guy, like this is your thing."

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Alex Jones Megyn Kelly phone call leaked 2

She continues, "My goal is for your listeners and the left — you know, who will be watching some on NBC — to say, 'Wow, that was really interesting.' And then next time I wanna get somebody, they’re gonna say, 'Look what you did to Alex Jones.' It’s not going to be some gotcha hit piece, I promise you that. …. Of course I’m going to do a fair interview. I’ll still be me. I’m not going to go out there and be Barbara Walters, but you just trust me. I’ll ask you about the controversies. I’ll be fair about it. I’ll give you a chance to respond."

Responding to rumors that the controversial interview would be pulled off the air, NBC issued a statement reading, "Despite Alex Jones' efforts to distract from and ultimately prevent the airing of our report, we remain committed to giving viewers context and insight into a controversial and polarizing figure, how he relates to the president of the United States and influences others, and to getting this serious story right."

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Megyn Kelly's switch from Fox News to NBC was pretty highly anticipated. But now that she's made her debut on the new network, she's faced hardly anything but criticism.

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First, there was her exclusive sit-down with Russian president Vladimir Putin during which she lobbed softball questions amid a federal investigation into Russia's involvement in November's U.S. election. Now, she's under fire again for her decision to air an interview with one of the most controversial names in media today: Infowars creator and conspiracy theorist Alex Jones.

Kelly's interview with Jones is set to air this Sunday, June 18, which is just bizarre timing; Kelly was scheduled to host a benefit for victims of the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting on June 14, while Jones has maintained publicly for years that the shooting was a hoax.

Sandy Hook Promise, the gun violence-prevention organization behind the Promise Champions Gala, announced in a statement its decision to rescind its invitation to Kelly to host the event.

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"This decision was spurred by NBC’s planned broadcast of Kelly’s interview with conspiracy theorist Alex Jones, who believes the tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary in Newtown, CT, was a hoax," the statement read.

Nicole Hockley, a co-founder of Sandy Hook Promise whose 6-year-old son Dylan was killed in the shooting, also released a statement, saying, "Sandy Hook Promise cannot support the decision by Megyn or NBC to give any form of voice or platform to Alex Jones and have asked Megyn Kelly to step down as our Promise Champion Gala host. It is our hope that Megyn and NBC reconsider and not broadcast this interview."

Meanwhile, J.P. Morgan Chase has pulled its ads during Kelly's Sunday show, and she's received criticism from other big names on Twitter, including Chelsea Clinton, who wrote, "There is no justification for amplifying lies (or a liar), particularly about unimaginable tragedy. I hope no parent, no person watches this."

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Kelly has not publicly addressed the backlash, but tweeted a preview of Sunday's interview.

5 Ways to Have Sex While on Your Period

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So you have your period. You’re aching away, probably singing along to something bluesy and sad, cramps at full blast, and then all of a sudden you’re incredibly horny.

First and foremost, this is completely normal. In fact, orgasms can help calm the pain of period cramps. “But it’s so messy!” you say. Fear not! We've got some tips and tricks ready to go for getting it on while you’re getting your period.

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1. Dismantle the patriarchy & dispel the idea that sex is only penis-inside-vagina

Most vagina owners orgasm from clitoral stimulation and not penetration. So during you period, clit action is your savior. Before fooling around, take a quick trip to the bathroom, insert a tampon and do a quick wipe around with a damp toilet paper. Your period blood (endometrium lining) leaves your body in waves, so you should be good to go for a while! Remember to be gentle. Bodies are generally more sensitive during period o’clock, so take it slow.

2. Shower sex

If you’re craving cunnilingus or penetration, fooling around in the shower is a great way to make sure you don’t destroy your sheets. This is especially great if you’re looking to have penis-vagina penetrative sex as it is easy to quickly clean up any messes. Want to get extra fancy? Get yourself a shower sex handle for easy balance.

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3. Use a menstrual cup

Menstrual cups allow for penetrative, mess-free sex of all shapes and sizes. Whether you’re using a finger or a penis or a toy, most cups will stay secure if you put them in right. The Lunette menstrual cup is a great choice for period sex. It’s nice and flexible while still keeping it all in there with some solid suction, not to mention they come in a whole lot of colors to make your period a little less sucky.

4. Take this time to try something new

Explore playing with your or your partner’s butt (especially if one of you has a prostate, hellllloo P-spot!), try out a partnered vibrator, such as the We-Vibe Unite, use a strap-on or keep all your clothes on and dry hump into oblivion.

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5. Put down a towel and embrace the red

Period sex can be sexy as hell. Though wildly stigmatized, it is completely normal to be interested in and even turned on by period blood in the bedroom. Buy yourself an extra-large dark towel, lay it on the bed and go to town. You’ll definitely want to do laundry after, but it’ll certainly be worth it.

So there you have it. Period play is totally a thing. Go forth, get messy and get laid!

By Hannah Rimm

Originally published on HelloFlo.

A Co-sleeper's Guide to Getting It On

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From time to time on hearing about the co-sleeping arrangement at our house, someone would venture the question, "What about sex?" I would toss my hair and summon my inner Mae West (if I could arch my eyebrow, I would have). "You only have sex in your bed? Yawn." Generally this would put an end to the questions. But it's true. The logistics can be difficult. To be clear though, parenting makes the logistics of sex difficult regardless of sleeping arrangements. It may not be the same ease of rolling over and getting at it that it used to be, but you're a mom. You can do anything. Even it.

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Think outside the bedroom

You have a floor don't you? Couch, kitchen counter, car in the garage? It may take a bit of ninja-ing to slip out of bed, and you might feel too tired to make the effort, but do it. You'll feel better and sleep better afterward. Research published in the journal Psychological Science indicates that the afterglow from one sex encounter lasts two days. That’s a pretty good payout! So close the bedroom door on your sleeping kiddos, channel your inner horny temptress and get it on, on whatever flat surface you can get your ass on. Beds are for sleeping!

Take matters into your own hands

Our arousal hormones operate in a cyclical manner… the more you get, the more you want, which means you probably will get more, ad infinitum (I hope!). The hormones released at orgasm are the same hormones that increase libido. Think of it like a muscle: use it or lose it. So if you happen to find yourself with a little time on your hands (*ahem*), you may want to give yourself a "work out." If you want to splurge a bit on a toy, Lelo is a luxury European brand that makes high-quality sex toys. Bonus points for discreet packaging. The letter carrier doesn’t need to know all your business.

Creative bedtimes

Co-sleeping is wonderful. It’s a nice way to get cuddle-time in with your kids, and there’s nothing better than sleeping beside your babe to facilitate breastfeeding. But you don’t necessarily have to sleep beside your kids for the whole night to reap the benefits. Experiment with laying down with your kids at bedtime, then getting up and having your sexy time once they're asleep. This is a little dangerous, as the risk of falling asleep yourself is high, but try to keep yourself awake with the promise of future pleasure or make a deal with your partner to wake each other up if one falls asleep. Also a dangerous proposition, I admit, but I know you. Danger is your middle name! Or try having your kids sleep in their room (they can sleep together if that’s easier) and bring them to your family bed if they wake in the night.

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Make it count

I'm not knocking the advantages of the quickie (aka the parents' usual). It gets the job done, and sometimes that's all you can ask. But when you do have the opportunity to spend some time rutting, to get down and dirty the way you imagine all those kids on Tinder do, make it count. Get out the massage oil (yes, I mean lube) put on the sexy uncomfortable lingerie (you won't be wearing it long) and maybe call in some reinforcements. No, not Tinder reinforcements. Like the reaches-just-the-right-spot and stays-on-just-the-right-spot kind of reinforcements. Just saying.

Afternoons can be delightful

Your kids might not be old enough for a sleepover just yet, but I'll bet they can handle an afternoon playdate! Getting them out of the house can help put the wind in your sails. No having to keep your ears open for tiny footsteps tripping down the hall to kill your buzz, no holding yourself in positions that will hopefully cause the least emotional damage should they be witnessed by prying eyes. Having the house to yourself can be freeing, and getting the house to yourself is more logistically possible in the daylight hours. So pay the neighbor girl to take the kids to the park for an hour or two and delight in the pleasures of an afternoon.

Co-sleeping doesn’t mean the end of sexy times. Just get creative and get on with it!

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