Radar Online has incident reports detailing Jeremy Madix's multiple arrests in Florida before he moved to LA to start a new life.
Most of Jeremy's arrests are related to domestic violence and violating a restraining order obtained by his ex-girlfriend in 2011, just 11 months after she and Jeremy started dating. When she filed for the restraining order, she submitted a report detailing months of alleged abuse.
"[He] threw a beer can at me, hitting me in the chest," she wrote. "Then he forced me in the car. As we were driving, he was ripping off my top and slamming me into the passenger’s side door."
The report continues, "When we arrived home, I tried to get out of the car and he jumped into the passenger’s seat from the driver’s seat and tackled me onto the driveway. I was screaming for him to get off of me but he continued to wrestle me and push my face in the ground."
The ex also writes that Jeremy threatened her and her adult children with guns before her son forced him out of the house, but that she continued to live with him after the incident because she couldn't afford to move out.
After she was granted a restraining order, Jeremy violated it by texting her and showing up "to a place that he knew she would be and threatened to hurt a male acquaintance she had with her," but she and Jeremy ended up reconciling and she dropped the restraining order in court.
In 2012, Jeremy was arrested again, this time for battery.
"[Redacted] advised she was in a verbal altercation with Mr. Madix at their residence," an officer wrote in the police report of the incident. "She advised during the argument, she asked Mr. Madix to leave the residence. She stated Mr. Madix took her dog and walked out of the residence. [Redacted] advised she walked after Mr. Madix to retrieve her dog, at which time Mr. Madix did actually and intentionally grab her with one arm against her will while he had his other arm around her dog."
Jeremy denied that their fight had gotten physical, but a witness told police he had, and he was arrested. That case ended up being dropped too.
Jeremy moved to LA just before Season 5 of Vanderpump Rules started filming. Radar Online reports that he's starting over there with his sister, working "as a part-time photographer and part-time busser at SUR."
Things are heating up between Prince Harry and his latest love interest, actress Meghan Markle, so naturally our thoughts are turning toward the idea of an American princess in the palace! And that makes us wonder: How do the star's fashion choices hold up next to her maybe-future-sister-in-law's, the Duchess of Cambridge? Let's take a look.
The former Kate Middleton is a future queen consort and the mother of two in direct line to the throne and has toned down her fashion choices considerably in recent years. Hemlines have gotten longer, prints have tended toward the twee. Some say the look is more mature; others complain it is dowdy. Even her Vogue spread was, dare I say, a bit yawn-inducing.
Markle, while the same age as Kate (both are 35), is a childless divorcée who lives in LA and has a lot more leeway with her fashion choices. For example, while we rarely get a glimpse of Kate's poor knees these days, Markle loves showing off her legs in shorter hemlines. Behold:
Meghan Markle fashion 1
Meghan Markle fashion 1
And check out that bold red lip! Kate generally sticks to soft pinks and nudes.
By contrast, here is Kate at a recent holiday event (with Markle's man, no less!):
We don't see too many sequins bedecking Kate's evening gowns, but Markle loves some sparkle and shine. Here is one of the few dresses we've seen Kate in with sequins, and it's gorgeous:
Kate Middleton fashion 2
Kate Middleton fashion 2
And here's Markle in a sparkly, black off-the-shoulder stunner:
Meghan Markle fashion 2
Meghan Markle fashion 2
Some of Kate's most fun accessories are scarves. We've seen her in lots of different types, although they tend to stay in the plaid or floral families — like this one:
Markle's scarf style is far more Bohemian, like this look she sported doing volunteer work in Africa:
Meghan Markle fashion 3
Meghan Markle fashion 3
They both look ravishing in red…
Meghan and Kate 1
Meghan and Kate 1
And Markle even wore a sexed-up version of Kate's black lace evening gown.
Meghan and Kate 2
Meghan and Kate 2
And they've both got incredibly perfect princess hair!
Kate Middleton hair
Kate Middleton hair
Meghan Markle hair
Meghan Markle hair
Basically, Markle's style is edgier with a definite LA flair, while Kate's is more classic and traditional. But one thing is the same. They both always look fabulous!
On Monday, the U.S. Department of Agriculture released a report that estimated that for a middle-income family with two children, the average cost of raising a child from birth through age 17 is $233,610, or almost $14,000 a year. That number, based on data from 2015, is a 3 percent increase from 2014, and is expected to increase again for babies born in 2016.
If you're like most parents, you're thinking, "Well, retiring sure would have been nice. Guess I'll be dying at my desk, now." You might also be wondering, "Where the hell is all that money going?"
According to the USDA, parents spend 26 to 33 percent of that money on housing, a number that of course varies greatly depending on where you live. The total amount spent per year also differed greatly, with parents in the urban Northeast spending the most ($257,770) and those in the rural Midwest spending the least ($193,020).
After housing, parents spend the most on child care, education and food for their children. One statistic about the cost of child care was particularly interesting. In 1960, the cost of child care was only 2 percent of a family's child-rearing expenses, a number that has gone up to 16 percent, most likely due to the fact that most mothers don't stay home full time to raise children anymore.
The report also found that older children cost more than younger children by a difference of $13,900 to $12,680 a year. (If you think this is mostly due to the cost of feeding those growing monsters, you're right.) Another surprise was that families with more children spent less per child (24 percent) than those with fewer children (27 percent) due to factors like shared bedrooms, hand-me-downs and the magical world of Costco.
Keep adding to that savings account, folks — you're going to need it.
Sometimes, Facebook is about as satisfying as two-day-old pizza taking up space in the fridge. Sometimes, though, it's the kind of Facebook day when you find your new BFF and start fangirling and tearing up and yelling OMG RIGHT? RIGHT?!? at your screen.
My new BFF doesn't know me. We've never met. But when Gylisa Jayne — a 24-year-old mother and blogger from Cornwall, England — posted her bracingly honest list of things that no one told her about motherhood on Facebook on Dec. 14, she pretty much became every mother's immediate BFF.
I'm pretty sure that if I'd had Gylisa Jayne's warrior voice in my ear as a first-time mother, I would have consumed less Ben & Jerry's — and felt far less shame and guilt over the fact that motherhood was not the easy fit I thought and hoped it would be.
Those early days with a fragile, blinking, terrifyingly awake infant staring me down 24/7 were brutal beyond measure. Like many other new mothers, I was terrified to breathe a word of those shoot-me-please feelings to anyone. Reading Gylisa Jayne's list of all the things she didn't know before she pushed a wee human out of her hoo-hoo? I'm amazed to find it still triggered a whole-body exhale for me, a full decade and change out of the teeny-tiny baby years. (And maybe a tear or two. It's very dusty here. Allergies. Onions. Stop looking at me.)
If you've ever been a new mother ready to run for the hills and change your identity, chances are pretty good you'll relate to her words. Here are some of my favorite excerpts:
...no one told me that it's perfectly fine to admit you didn't "love" your baby when it was fresh from the minge and being thrust at you. Its ok. I felt the same way I felt when I saw my placenta in that sick bowl - morbidly interested in what it looked like - but no thanks I don't really fancy a cuddle with it.
(FRESH FROM THE MINGE. Nope, she's mine. She's MY BFF. You can't have her.)
No one told me that stitches in your vag can actually hurt way more than birthing a 7lb baby.
(Or the "checking to see" how dilated your stubborn cervix is, I might add. I yelped so loud someone coded on the cardiac unit right above the maternity ward.)
No one told me that breastfeeding DOES FUCKING HURT. Anyone that says it shouldn't is only HALF right. It is a sign of a bad latch if there is pain - but it is also a sign that your nipnop is being aggressively sucked for ( presumably) the first time. It takes a week or two for that to ease. But I swear - it does! And then your partner can take cute photos of you smiling with your cub instead of gritting your teeth and crying.
(My nipnops still have not recovered. But my life is better now that I have learned to call them "nipnops." Can we all just agree to call them "nipnops" now?)
No one told me that EVERYONE will have an opinion on your baby — how to feed it, how to clothe it, how to name it, how to rock it, why you should only rock it for 5 seconds a day else it will be a spoilt little fuck, and how if you aren't holding it 24/7 then you are clearly a Shit Mum.... and so on.
No one told me a polite way of telling said opinionated people to Eff Off.
(Yes. Yes. A thousand times yes, Gylisa Jayne.)
No one told me that I would really, honestly NEVER be alone again. This includes shitting, showering and shaving. Especially when they get older and find your shaving your fanny acutely interesting and you pray it doesn't scar them for life....
(My children still remember sitting on my lap on the toilet while I pooped. I am too afraid to ask them what they remember about the "fanny-shaving.")
... No one told me that despite feeling like I couldn't do any of this, that I wouldn't know the first thing about motherhood, actually my instincts would not fail me, and everyone is winging it. Some just make it look easier than others. Admiring someone else's way of doing things shouldn't make me question mine.
(Mic drop.)
No one told me that they felt mad too after their babies. That they felt lonely and scared and weird and not like themselves anymore. No one told me so I felt I couldn't tell anyone I felt like that either, until one day I did tell someone and it all spilled out and I ended up sharing my words with thousands of you. And you all admitted it too.
And then you all DID tell me, that those feelings don't last forever. That sometimes it comes back and you want to run away, but you all said, each and every one — that it gets better. It gets easier. It will fly past. It will be worth it.
And it's not forever.
(It's not. But sometimes, it really, really feels like it is.)
When Us Weekly asked Jayne what she thought about all the attention her Facebook post has received, she said, "I think it is beyond important for women to be more open about how they felt after giving birth. It would put a stop to an endless cycle of women putting on a brave face and hiding that they are struggling."
Amen, soul sister. Carry on with your bad self. We're listening.
He's got some stiff competition (let's face it, Jimmy Fallon is no hack), but it's seriously time we recognize the fact that James Corden officially rules late night TV.
Maybe it's his delightful giggle, his adorable accent, or his wide-eyed innocence, but Corden just has that je ne sais quoi that keeps me staying up past my bedtime every night to watch The Late Late Show on CBS.
Here are some of the things about the show that always keep me coming back for more.
1. The man can sing
James Corden and NPH Broadway riff-off
James Corden and NPH Broadway riff-off
Sure, he does it in a joking manner a lot of the time, but there's no denying that Corden has got some serious pipes. Anybody that can go head-to-head with NPH and come out looking like roses is definitely not lacking in the talent department.
2. He gives the people what they want
Image: CBS
That kiss between Corden and Ken Jeong? Priceless.
The show may begin with Corden's monologue, but the real energy starts with the opening titles. Corden and Reggie Watts click. Watts' great song, the beachfront, the lights and their obvious chemistry, the opening titles show two friends hanging out, driving around and having a great time together. It makes me excited about the rest of the show.
4. He sits with his guests
Image: CBS
Corden visits with his guests, treating them like longtime friends. He sits next to them, rather than behind a desk the way other hosts do. He's the ultimate fan, thrilled that his guests have stopped by.
5. His guests get involved
James Corden Chris Hardwick
James Corden Chris Hardwick
Singing and dancing are encouraged on The Late Late Show, and his guests fully commit to participating. Chris Hardwick from @midnight appeared last year and sang a wonderful Star Wars-themed Christmas song with Corden. Another time, Corden, Bryan Cranston and Watts teamed up for their own version of a boy band. It was fabulous! Even the Governator stopped by to play.
Need I say more? Stevie Wonder, Madonna, Lady Gaga, Justin Bieber, One Direction, Gwen Stefani and Bruno Mars were all awesome, but the real magic happened when he drove around with Michelle Obama and Missy Elliott.
This guy and his band are simply the best on late night television. I find myself wishing the commercials would end so I can hear the song he and his band are playing. Corden really doesn't need to book bands for his show, because Watts and friends can do it all.
The man himself is the reason to stay up late. He makes me laugh, and it's a nice way to end the day on a truly positive note. Corden is heart-centered and impish, perhaps the most playful host on television today. All that laughter and I sleep like a baby!
Solange solo is a force — her lyrics bite, her music soothes and sparkles, and her interpretive dance moves are next-level. And then there’s her older sister Beyoncé, who is simply referred to as the Queen, capital Q. When you pair them together, whatever happens is pretty much guaranteed to be amazing — aka, the time they performed on stage together at Coachella in 2014.
Solange Knowes Interview magazine
Solange Knowes Interview magazine
So when Queen Bey interviewed Solange for Interview, the result was, naturally, amazing. In the long, rambling piece, we learned all about the sisters’ relationship — and got a better sense of the way they interact. Though the interview itself is long, we assembled our favorite parts for a quick primer on the piece (in case you don’t have a good chunk of time to settle in and read the whole thing).
1. Solange is eloquent as hell about the misconceptions of being a woman
“One thing that I constantly have to fight against is not feeling arrogant when I say I wrote every lyric on this album,” Solange said. “I still have not been able to say that. That's the first time I've actually ever said it, because of the challenges that we go through when we celebrate our work and our achievements.” Solange added that she learned about owning her achievements from her big sis. “It's something I've learned so much about from you, getting to be in control of your own narrative,” she said. “And, at this point, it should be an expectation, not something that you're asking permission for.”
2. But she’s also not afraid to watch a little reality TV
Turns out Solange is a Real Housewives devotee, and Beyoncé had no idea. “What makes you laugh the hardest?” Beyoncé asked.
“The Real Housewives of Atlanta, hands-down,” her sister replied.
Bey’s response is priceless: “Really?! I didn't know that.”
Solange copped to it hard, though. “I watch it religiously, and I am in stitches the whole time,” she said.
3. Solange seems to break out in hives all too often
“I was with you the week leading up to your release, and it's the most nervous time for any artist, but I know it was a nervous time for you,” Beyoncé said.
“Yeah. I was breaking out into hives,” Solange replied. “I could not sit still. It was terrifying.” But later in the interview, she also admitted that she developed hives at a Diana Ross show. Bey blew her cover by announcing that Solange completely freaked out when she met Nas, and asked if Solange would react that way if she met anyone else famous. “Diana Ross. For sure. I broke out in some hives when I went to her concert,” Solange said. Somebody send over some antihistamines!
4. Solange’s breakup with the father of her son, Julez, is so relatable
When Solange wrote "Cranes in the Sky,” it was eight years ago, and she was in a lot of pain. “It was a really rough time,” Solange said. “I was just coming out of my relationship with Julez's father. We were junior high school sweethearts, and so much of your identity in junior high is built on who you're with. You see the world through the lens of how you identify and have been identified at that time.”
Now that she was single, she put aside her identities of being a mom and a wife and had a hard look at who she really was. “I really had to take a look at myself, outside of being a mother and a wife, and internalize all of these emotions that I had been feeling through that transition,” she said. “I was working through a lot of challenges at every angle of my life, and a lot of self-doubt, a lot of pity-partying. And I think every woman in her 20s has been there — where it feels like no matter what you are doing to fight through the thing that is holding you back, nothing can fill that void.” If it’s good enough for Solange, it’s good enough for the rest of us.
5. Beyoncé is a “kickass” big sis
Bey pulled out the big guns at the end and asked how she did as an older sister. Without missing a beat, Solange answered, “You did a kickass job. You were the most patient, loving, wonderful sister ever,” she continued. “In the 30 years that we've been together, I think we've only really, like, butted heads ... we can count on one hand.”
Yeah, it’s official: Bey and Solange are among the sweetest sisters ever.
Streep low-key dissed Trump during her speech at the Golden Globes on Sunday, and his response was a mini tweetstorm calling her "one of the most over-rated actresses in Hollywood."
Donald Trump slams Meryl Streep after Golden Globes 1
Donald Trump slams Meryl Streep after Golden Globes 1
Donald Trump slams Meryl Streep after Golden Globes 2
Donald Trump slams Meryl Streep after Golden Globes 2
Donald Trump slams Meryl Streep after Golden Globes 3
Donald Trump slams Meryl Streep after Golden Globes 3
Setting aside the fact that in 2015 Trump told The Hollywood Reporter that Streep "is excellent; she’s a fine person too," who's really the overrated one here?
Streep was raised in New Jersey alongside her two younger brothers. Her upbringing was fairly modest — she attended public school, where she acted in school plays and sang in recitals. She took opera lessons, but quit after four years. Her parents were encouraging; Streep told Vanity Fair that her mother told her, "you can do whatever you put your mind to. If you're lazy, you're not going to get it done. But if you put your mind to it, you can do anything."
Trump grew up alongside his four siblings in Queens. His family was extremely wealthy due to his father's success in real estate in the New York area.
Their education
Streep attended Vassar University, which is where she started to take acting seriously after starring in the school's production of Miss Julie. She graduated cum laude and went on to receive an MFA from the Yale School of Drama in 1975.
Trump attended the prestigious Kew-Forest School, a college prep school for kindergarten through high school. In eighth grade, he transferred to the New York Military Academy. After graduating, he attended Fordham University for two years, then transferred to study economics at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania.
Their early careers
Streep moved to New York City when she was 26 and started acting in theater productions. She was discovered by Robert De Niro, who saw her in a play and scored her a role in The Deer Hunter, which turned out to be a breakthrough job for Streep, earning her her first Emmy nomination.
Trump, on the other hand, started working for his family's real estate company while he was still in college. After graduating, he was made president of the company and started taking on real estate projects while depending heavily on loans from his father to finance them. In 1973, just three years after Trump took over the family business, he and his father were sued for discriminating against black people who tried to rent their properties.
Their achievements
Streep has been nominated for a staggering (and record-breaking) 336 awards. She's won 167 of them. Those include a ton of really major awards, including three Oscars, a Presidential Medal of Freedom, a Kennedy Center Honor, honorary doctorates from Yale, Dartmouth, Princeton and Harvard universities, two BAFTAs, eight Golden Globes, eight People's Choice Awards, two Emmys... seriously, the list goes on and on.
Trump, on the other hand, has been nominated for exactly two shared Emmys, and didn't win either of them. He has, however, won a Razzie Award for Worst Supporting Actor.
He's also declared bankruptcy six times, though he claims it was only four — as he told the Washington Post, he counts his first three bankruptcies as one... for some reason.
It's hard to quantify any business success that Trump may have had because he's kept his finances carefully out of the public eye. He actually sued a journalist in 2006 for writing that his net worth is somewhere between $150 and 250 million. Trump himself has claimed that he's worth billions, but stated under oath that he calculates his own net worth based on "markets and with attitudes and with feelings, even [his] own feelings." He continued on to say he arrives at his total net worth based on his "general attitude at the time that the question may be asked."
Their impacts on the world
While Streep serves as the national spokesperson for the National Women's History Museum and has received awards and accolades from more than a dozen charities she supports, Trump has insulted 289 people, places and things on Twitter, according to a running list compiled by The New York Times. Make that 290, actually, because it hasn't been updated yet to include Streep.
Bonus: Meryl Streep actually called herself overrated
Meryl Streep calls herself overrated in Emmy win speech
Meryl Streep calls herself overrated in Emmy win speech
In her acceptance speech for an Emmy award in 2004, Streep said, "You know, there are some days when I myself think I’m overrated." After a long pause to let the audience finish laughing, she continued, "But not today."
So maybe, despite her hilariously self-deprecating sense of humor, Streep is a highly successful, albeit overrated, actress. She said it herself.
Yesterday my 21 year old son, headed back to Pine Bluff following a fun-filled holiday break. He will start junior year classes and there will never be enough words for me describe how proud I am of him. He's a good man. He's the product of a very dysfunctional, broken home, but what he's become is a testament to the fact that you don't have to become what you see. My child, like many others, lived through his parent's divorce and witnessed my eventual breakdown as a result of many, many years of mental and emotional abuse.
He witnessed some of the most absurd fighting between his father and me, and he was scarred. He remembers so much – even the things I don't. Unfortunately, I do remember some of that mess and I'm embarrassed. Once, after his dad had been out the entire night snorting up anything that resembled coke, we had a vicious blowout. He was coming off a major high and I was mad because he had been out drinking and drugging again. My temper and everything about it was horrible.
That Saturday morning after my ex had been out running all over Dallas/Ft. Worth partying, he had quietly walked in, but I was ready for war. He reeked of alcohol. He looked like he'd been reheated five or six times in one of those old-school microwaves that would pop a weenie open after 10 seconds. Looking at him made me sick. I started yelling about what a bum he was and how stupid he was. That was one of those mornings when he was only half interested in arguing, but as always, he was extremely verbally abusive.
So that our son couldn't hear him, he quietly said, "I have to get drunk and high to deal with you." I chose not to respond quietly. I yelled, "I should cut your head off and put it in a shoe box!" Will heard that. He's never forgotten it. I allowed my anger to blind me to the fact that my child was just upstairs and could hear everything that was being said.
He had been on the receiving end of his father's inability to interact with other adults as a whole and he suffered. It didn't matter if he had a near-perfect basketball game with one missed free throw – he never heard about the good things he did. The focus from his father would be on that one missed free throw. Some of the things he said to Will over the years were so cruel I won't repeat them here.
Despite all that, my son is amazing. He has definitely come into his own, but he did hit a bump. After he graduated in June 2013, he went to my alma mater, Grambling State University. I was so proud, but I was newly divorced. My ex-husband had left me to pack a 3500 sq. ft. home. I was so consumed with fear, pain, and confusion that I couldn't even remember the basic stuff my child needed for his first semester in college. Thank God for my sister and nephew who took him shopping for the things he needed.
My child didn't leave for college under normal circumstances. He left shortly after the divorce. He left a house filled with boxes that contained his childhood. Good times or bad, his entire life was taped down in boxes. I sat among those boxes, lost and hurt. The nest was empty save for a million boxes, four pets who could feel the tension, and a mind that wandered and wondered. For the first time in 19 years, I was alone. The nest wasn't just empty, it was barren. I sat in the middle of the giant great room and just cried. I felt that I was stranded in the desert and no one knew I was there. It took deep self-reflection, counseling, and good old time, but I'm good now. I'm at peace. I love who I am as a woman. I love the woman who was molded from the fire of abuse.
Wounds heal and so do hearts. Let no one rush you to that heavenly place of peace.
Eighteen women have filed a lawsuit against USA Gymnastics and Michigan State University physician Larry Nassar accusing him of multiple counts of sexual assault, battery, molestation and harassment.
A majority of the women were minors at the time of the abuse according to People. Some are still underage. They were from various sports including gymnastics, swimming, figure skating, track and field, hockey, basketball and soccer.
Nassar reportedly committed the crimes by saying the acts were done as medical treatment or physical therapy between the years of 1996 and 2016.
Nassar was charged with two counts of child pornography-related charges less than a month ago. People also reports Nassar was arrested for allegedly sexually assaulting two underage gymnasts just a few weeks before that.
The only victim who has been named thus far is Rachael Denhollander. She said in a 2016 interview with IndyStar that Nassar massaged her breasts and penetrated her with his fingers while she was receiving treatment for back pain. She was only 15 years old at the time.
She told reporters on Tuesday, "The fear and shame in myself was my own misunderstanding. The reality of sexual abuse is that a pedophile is only as powerful as people around him allow him to be."
Nassar has worked for USA Gymnastics for 29 years and was held in high regard by the organization for decades, the suit reports.
larry nassar pic 1
larry nassar pic 1
"When we first learned of athlete concerns regarding Dr. Nassar in the summer of 2015, we immediately notified the FBI and relieved him of any further assignments," the organization reports.
But the lawsuit claims USA Gymnastics failed to notify Michigan State University of its concerns and was, therefore, "grossly negligent."
Michigan State University didn't fire Nassar until September 2016.
The university said in a statement, "We are deeply disturbed by the state and federal criminal charges against Larry Nassar, and our hearts go out to those directly affected."
In a Tuesday news conference, the plaintiffs' attorney, Stephen Drew, explained the purpose of the lawsuit is not monetary gain, but rather to "act as a mechanism to achieve institutional change and non-monetary concessions so that acts of sexual abuse like this will never happen again to young athletes and students."
He added, "Protecting them is more important than enhancing the reputation of the athletic system that invites their participation. Children are vulnerable because they trust, and once that trust and innocence is stolen it cannot be easily restored."
We love it when a star breaks out, and right now that star is miso paste. You know the fermented soybean paste used to make the quiet soup you get with your sushi? It's hopped out of the soup and is transforming every kind of dish, from roasted vegetables to desserts, with its salty umami goodness. Is there anywhere miso can't go?
Here are a few cool tricks you can try with miso paste.
The secret to making crispy miso-roasted chickpeas via Dinner with Julie is to pat the chickpeas dry with paper towels before tossing them with other ingredients.
I knew I had a problem when I became afraid of my therapist. I was scared of her, of going to her office and of her being sick. All this sent me spiraling downward in an agoraphobic sobbing tailspin. I feared eating out, avoided going places without my mom, wouldn’t wear the super expensive boots I had been given as a gift because they came through the mail. I was a mess and I wasn’t living life in the slightest.
I couldn’t bear to go to the therapist who I felt was judging me instead of helping me. It felt like she wasn't on my side, and didn’t give a damn about me, so I stopped going. At the time this seemed wrong in so many ways, but looking back now it was the best thing I could do and I wish I had done it a year or two sooner.
This didn’t mean I was suddenly cured. I wasn’t – I was sad and scared. I was unhappy with the way my body looked after regaining a few of the pounds I had shed nearly a decade before, so I started exercising.
Exercise had never been my thing. I avoided gym class like the plague and danced around the house or rode bikes a bit as a kid to get in my “exercise,” but not enough to outdo the damage from the fast food and sports drinks I was shoving into my body.
This time I began to run, not pacing myself or trying to run as fast as I could, just something to be up and about and kill time. As I began to exercise, I noticed my body changing, which I loved, but I also noticed something else happening: I wasn’t afraid.
Well, I wasn’t as afraid. Even now, fear comes sometimes and I can’t always stop it. There are still things I want to check off my list of things that no longer scare me. But I don't even recognize the girl who dumped her therapist and picked up a pair of running shoes for no real reason other than boredom.
Exercise is empowering in a lot of ways. It is something I can control in a world in which it is increasingly more difficult to predict much of anything. it is up to me – and only me – to ensure I get my daily workout in. Though it is only something small, that sense of control is reassuring and sometimes helps to relieve worries about things that are totally out of my control.
It gets those endorphins flowing. Do you remember in Legally Blonde when Elle Woods defends her client by saying, “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands, they just don’t?” Exercise definitely gives me endorphins and endorphins make me way happier than rehashing the past over and over again with a therapist and feeling judged. Because unfortunately, no matter how many times you talk about the past, it doesn’t change.
Endorphins give me a bit of clarity that still can’t affect the past, but totally allow me to see the future with fresh eyes and positivity. I find I do some of my best thinking and problem solving when I am exercising and immediately following a tough workout.
Exercise also allows me to challenge myself. Sure life throws plenty of challenges my way, but most of them are things I cannot overcome, at least at the time. By saying I’m going to increase speed or resistance on the elliptical, or run longer, or try a challenging workout DVD and then actually doing it, leaves me with an incredible sense of accomplishment that can lead to feeling better about the rest of my life.
Therapy might be great for a lot of people, but I am so glad I found a less expensive and more effective solution in the form of exercise. If therapy isn’t helping you break through the wall of anxiety or depression, I hope you will try your favorite form of exercise and see if it makes a difference.
Rihanna and Drake broke up most recently in October 2016, and a source who spoke to The Hollywood Insider told the outlet Rihanna is not happy Drake has moved on from her so quickly.
"RiRi’s really angry with Drake. It feels like he’s flaunting his relationship with J.Lo, knowing it would hurt Rih," the source explained. "Everything he’s done since their split has been cold-hearted. They’ve always had an up and down relationship but Rihanna really thought he would still at least be considerate of her feelings. Drake said such sweet things to her, but now Rih feels like they were all lies.”
Rihanna and Drake also chose to kept their extensive on and off relationship on the down low, but Drake doesn't seem to have a problem so far with flaunting his relationship with Lopez, another issue that has Rihanna stewing.
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Jennifer lopez instagram pic with drake 1
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Jennifer lopez instagram pic with drake 2
DraLo, as they've been dubbed, were spotted kissing at the Winter Wonderland part in Los Angeles on Dec. 29. The couple then spent New Year's Eve 2017 together. And Lopez sat front row in the VIP section for Drake's recent performance at Hakkasan in Las Vegas.
Amber Heard is just ready to move on from her life without Johnny Depp.
Depp reportedly accused Heard of using the divorce as a way to "extend her fifteen minutes of fame," according to Cosmopolitan. Depp is also reportedly seeking $100,000 from Heard to cover his legal fees.
In a report obtained by E! News, Heard supposedly said, "Johnny and his counsel seem to wish to prolong this proceeding as a means of punishing me."
If that's the case then, unfortunately for Heard, she's still probably got a while before she'll be able to move on.
She continued, "I am now told that Johnny is taking outrageous steps of seeking legal fees from me because I have asked the court to enforce the settlement agreement that we reached four months ago. I am told that Johnny somehow claims I am the one who is delaying settlement rather than the other way around. These claims are contemptible and shocking."
She added, "Johnny has delayed the resolutions of this matter. I want my life back. I want to be divorced from Johnny now."
Heard is correct is saying that Depp is claiming the proceedings are delayed because of Heard.
In a report back in December, Depp's team stated Heard "continues to needless litigate a case which has been settled, all while parading in front of the media in a desperate attempt to extend her fifteen minutes of fame."
Heard alleged in the divorce that Depp abused her throughout their marriage. If those statements are true then let's all hope they can move on from one another as soon as possible.
Are you as tired of the Heard/Depp divorce saga as Heard seems to be?
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During his acceptance award speech for his win in the category of Best Performance by an Actor in a Limited Series or a Motion Picture Made For Television, Hiddleston came of as a little self-indulgent. He expressed how Doctors Without Borders workers binge-watched his series The Night Manager during his charity work in South Sudan.
Check out Hiddleston's full speech below in case you missed it.
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tom hiddleston golden globes award speech
Hiddleston said in a statement on Twitter yesterday, his intention wasn't to toot his own horn at all. Rather, he was trying to raise awareness.
"I just wanted to say... I completely agree that my speech at the Golden Globes last night was inelegantly expressed. In truth, I was very nervous, and my words just came out wrong," Hiddleston explained. "Sincerely, my only intention was to salute the incredible bravery and courage of the men and women who work so tirelessly for UNICEF UK, Doctors Without Borders/ Médecins Sans Frontières (MSF), and World Food Programme, and the children of South Sudan, who continue to find hope and joy in the most difficult conditions. I apologise that my nerves got the better of me."
Some people seem to know exactly what they want to do the minute it’s time to enter the Real World—or sooner—while others have no idea and spend years exploring different jobs, refining their preferences, and figuring out what feels right. Neither way is wrong, and each has its own challenges. (Sure, your friend who’s known she wanted to be a neurosurgeon since age 17 might seem like she has it all together, but trust, she’s probably had her moments of fantasizing about being a food critic, too.)
Whether you’re looking to figure out what to focus on for your first job, weighing your options at a current gig that feels “meh,” or considering whether to jump ship into an entirely different industry, these seven questions can help. Career satisfaction guru and International Emotional Strategic Consultant Shiran Raz shared a few questions you can ask yourself to shed light on whether 2017 is the right time for you to consider making a major career move.
If you constantly feel fatigued and blasé when you’re at the office—but not when you’re at happy hour with friends or at the gym on Saturday morning—it’s a sure sign that your current job isn’t infusing you with passion or motivation. “If you don’t feel like getting up in the morning to go to work, and feel tension and exhaustion once you do get there, those physical symptoms betray an underlying disinterest and divestment from your job,” says Shiraz. Obviously every single hour of your days on Monday through Friday aren’t going to be a thrilling roller-coaster ride of passion and excitement, but if you never perk up in meetings when your coworkers are talking about something interesting or feel a shot of motivation when your boss assigns you a challenging new project, you’ve lost your mojo and should be looking to make your next move.
Do You Have Room to Grow?
If you’re not sure whether your current job or company is the right place for you, odds are, you’re experiencing boredom or dissatisfaction of some sort. Shiraz’s first advice in that case is to do everything you can to grow in your current role—you might find that you’re much happier once you do. “Initiate, be proactive, explore, discover, learn, and engage in new projects,” she says. “If your company or manager doesn’t allow or facilitate any of this, it’s definitely time to start looking for something new.” And when you do leave, you can feel good knowing that you did everything you could to make the situation work—and have no regrets when you give notice.
Often, unhappiness at work can be channeled in unproductive ways, like water-cooler gossip, complaining, or perceiving yourself to be a victim of your unsatisfying job, company, or boss. Not only are these behaviors unprofessional and unproductive; they’re actually self-destructive. Realize that your energy would be much better directed toward the hunt for a new job and remember that you’re the only one in control of your career. “If you always tell your boss you’re doing fine even if you feel overworked, if you procrastinate and feel taken advantage of with every new assignment, and if you feel generally out of control, you’re only contributing to your own unhappiness at work,” says Shiraz. Yes, if you’re this unhappy, it probably means you’d do well to go elsewhere, but at the same time, it’s important to realize when you’re the one sabotaging your success—in case you can salvage the situation and end up being content right where you are.
Does Your Job Reflect Your Values?
Take some time to meditate on what matters to you most in life. Naming these priorities will give you important clues as to what you need in a job. Is travel your biggest life goal? Then you either need a job that involves business trips, pays well enough that you can take your own trips, or has the flexibility for you to take time off to travel or work remotely. Are you most invested in being creatively fulfilled? Then salary may not factor in as much as a stimulating, innovative environment. “If you work more hours than you’d like, your job isn’t as challenging as you’d hoped, or you feel that the company’s mission is at odds with the things you care about most socially or politically, you may have no choice but to seek another job,” says Shiraz.
What Does Your Gut Say?
In case you hadn’t heard, your intuition has the power to give you super-important intel about whether you’re on the right life path. That means that one of your most vital tools for making smart career decisions is already built into your brain and body. “If your gut, or your inner voice, tells you a current or prospective job isn’t good for you, don’t ignore it,” says Shiraz. “Research has shown that when your inner voice tells you you’re in the wrong place, you probably are, and would be happier elsewhere, so don’t drag your feet!” Ultimately, if that niggling feeling says something just isn’t right, listen, and start applying.
Love Donald Trump jokes? Urine for a real treat. Buzzfeed released a purported secret dossier detailing alleged spy intel on Donald Trump's dealings with Russia, and one incident in particular has already become the Twitter event of the year.
In the documents published by Buzzfeed, among other serious transgressions that show collusion with the Russian government, Trump allegedly engaged in some ... interesting behavior while visiting Moscow. According to the story, the Russians exploited "Trump's personal obsessions and sexual perversion in order to obtain suitable 'kompromat' (compromising material) on him." This includes one anecdote where Trump rented the presidential suite at the Moscow Ritz Carlton "where he knew President and Mrs Obama (whom he hated) had stayed on one of their official trips to Russia, and defiling [sic] the bed where they had slept by employing a number of prostitutes to perform a 'golden showers' (urination) show in front of him."
The information in the dossier reportedly came from a British intelligence agent with a high degree of trustworthiness; however, Buzzfeed admitted the information in the document was unverified, and some 4chan users are claiming they made the whole thing up.
That didn't stop Twitter from exploding in its first golden moment of 2017.
So is this real news or fake news? As of right now it's still unclear, but one thing is for certain: after such a great story, this week's Saturday Night Live will be a Trump hater's wet dream.
The show is the darkest of dark, rivaling others like American Horror Story and Penny Dreadful. Fans are already hooked after tonight's premiere.
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taboo premiere reaction tweet 1
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From the gritty cinematography to the violent plot points, Taboo doesn't hold back from exploring the dark depths of humanity. But the premiere felt a little bit like it was just bitch slapping us around with all of its doom and gloom.
Tom Hardy's character Delaney spends his time grunting in his gravely voice, tearing out the throats of the people he hates using his teeth and having crazy visions that seem to suggest there's a darker taboo within Delaney, something witchy.
The show seems to put Delaney against the others who would steal his land but is that really going to keep us all going with intrigue for eight episodes?
There got to be more. But I think exploring that is going to be half the fun of this new series.
I hope the show will further delve into Delaney's time in Africa, and his mixed white and Native American heritage. Delaney's strange visions seem to point us right in that direction of discovery.
Otherwise, Delaney amounts to some unexplainable cannibal version of James Bond in the early 19th century — interesting to watch, but will we be stuck watching without ever feeling sure where our empathy belongs?
Surely the show is painting Delaney as the anti-hero. There is no doubt about that. There is also no doubt Hardy is a master at giving his villainous characters depth and soul. I'm confident he will weave it into Taboo, and I'm anxiously awaiting its arrival.
It's easy to dissolve into a puddle of sentimental goo when you're looking a cuddly cat in the face, making rational thoughts like pet care costs disappear before your besotted heart-shaped-emoji eyes. However, cat ownership is a big commitment, and you should know the costs going in.
It goes without saying that the love between a cat and its human is priceless, but still — being a responsible pet owner means knowing whether or not you can not only give your pet unconditional love, but also meet all of its other basic and unexpected needs.
If you are considering making a feline part of your family, you may think the initial investment is where you'll spend most of your money... particularly if you are planning to purchase a purebred cat from a breeder. However, the routine costs of owning a cat each year far exceed the initial outlay when you factor in those expenses annually.
For a tidy breakdown, let's start with the ASPCA's pet care costs comparison chart. According to the chart, the average annual costs of owning a cat are as follows:
Food: $115
Recurring medical: $160
Litter: $165
Toys and treats: $25
Health insurance: $175
Miscellaneous expenses: $30
That comes to a total of $875 in routine annual costs associated with owning a cat. So let's couple that with the capital costs:
Spay or neuter: $145
Other initial medical: $130
Collar and leash: $10
Litter box: $25
Scratching post: $15
Carrier: $40
Those costs amount to $365, for a grand total of $1,035 in cat care costs for the first year. However, it's important to note that these figures are highly subjective and could fluctuate depending on where you live, the breed of cat you own and other variables.
Also, the ASPCA chart does not include capital costs for adoption or purchase of a cat. When adopting a cat, you can pay anywhere from $75 to $125 or much more, depending on the rescue organization. (On the plus side, higher adoption fees generally include spay/neuter and other medical expenses.) Buying from a breeder is a whole other ballgame. With most reputable cat breeders, you are probably going to pay $750 or more.
Then there is the issue of emergency vet care. Should your kitty require immediate medical attention, that'll probably set you back another $2,000 to $3,000, according to Dr. Louise Murray, vice president of the ASPCA Bergh Memorial Animal Hospital in New York City — and that's nonsurgical. If your cat requires emergency surgery, the cost will likely be closer to the $3,000 to $5,000 range.
So if you were going to put a number on the real cost of owning a cat, we can calculate the minimum amount by multiplying the estimated annual costs of owning a cat ($875) by the average life span of a cat, which is around 15. That gives us $13,125. But we also need to add in the $365 in capital care costs, which brings us to approximately $13,490.
You're lookin' to spend at least $13,490 on your cat during its lifetime. Depending on emergency costs and other factors, though, this figure could come closer to the $18,000 mark. I know what you're thinking — you've got to be kitten me right meow.
But if you think about it, that's a small price to pay for the pure pleasure of your cat's company over the years and the immense joy that kitty company will bring you. If you need more reassurance, just look at it this way: It's still cheaper than the cost of owning a dog.
Blac Chyna and Rob Kardashian have one of the most complicated relationships we've ever witnessed, and things just got even more complicated: Chyna has been hanging out with Khloé Kardashian's ex-boyfriend, French Montana.
Taking to Instagram earlier this week, Montana posted an image of himself and Chyna hanging out on the wing of a private plane. He captioned the photo with "young legends."
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French Montana Instagram
Now don't get us wrong, we doubt there's anything romantic going on between the pair because French Montana is rumored to have been hooking up with Iggy Azalea in recent weeks, but still, the internet really doesn't like seeing Chyna and French together (most probably because Montana is Khloé's ex-boyfriend).
Comments on the photo include one from jlouissss who wrote, "This bitch is really disrespectful."
Ladyinthesouthwest also slammed the photo, assuming that Chyna and Montana must be hooking up. They wrote, "Ghetto trash. Who's next? Lamar? Revenge for some reason is what this ho is all about."
Others are confused as to why the duo are hanging out at all.
"Wtf is going on. Literally bizarre," chrissimarie22 commented. And ayosnow wrote, "Dnt [sic] she got a new born wtf is she doing here."
However, Chyna seemed to poke fun at the reports that there could be anything more than friendship happening between herself and Montana, as she reposted the photo on her own account along with the caption "Bruva."
And on Tuesday, Jan. 10 Chyna seemed to confirm that she and Kardashian are still together, because she posted a pic of Rob and herself, along with their 2-month-old daughter, Dream — and you don't have to look hard at the photo to see that her massive diamond engagement ring is sitting pretty on her finger.
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Blac Chyna Instagram 2
Do you think everyone is being unfair about Chyna and Montana hanging out? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Like most of the world, I'm still shocked and deeply saddened by the sudden loss of Carrie Fisher, followed by her mother, Debbie Reynolds, a day later. I happened to be listening to Fisher's last book, ThePrincess Diarist, the day she died. Read by Fisher herself for the audio version, the experience felt deeply personal, as if Fisher were whispering her life story to me through my earbuds. While everyone knows the book is mostly about her affair with Harrison Ford, she revealed other intimate and surprising tidbits.
1. Fisher was asked to lose 10 pounds to play Leia
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Fisher was only 19 when she was hired to play Princess Leia. Surprisingly, the producers told her to take 10 pounds off her already petite frame before filming started. "I only weighed 110 pounds to begin with, but I carried about half of them in my face. I think they put those buns on me so they might function as bookends keeping my face right where it was – between my ears and no bigger," said Fisher.
To lose the weight, her mother sent her to a "fat farm" in Texas, where she met Ann Landers and Ladybird Johnson. Fisher's stay only lasted a week, however, because she couldn't take the pressure and realized she was already thin enough. She said she was terrified while shooting Star Wars that the producers would discover she failed to lose the weight.
Maybe it's because of all the bra burning in the 1970s, but in both Shampoo and Star Wars, the directors didn't want her to wear a bra. Shampoo's director and star, Warren Beatty, was asked by the costume department if Fisher should wear a bra. "Warren squinted in the general direction of my breasts. 'Is she wearing one now?' I stood there as if my breasts and I were somewhere else." He asked to see Fisher in her tennis outfit without her bra. Well, you can tell from the photo above that Beatty liked her better with out it.
3. No bras in space
Fisher showed up on the Star Wars set in Princess Leia's white gown wearing a bra and panties underneath. But in the book, she said director George Lucas made her ditch the undies because "There's no underwear in space." Later, Lucas explained to Fisher that because your body expands in space due to the lack of gravity, your bra might actually strangle you. I'm still trying to work out the logistics of that.
4. The hair was inspired by female Mexican revolutionaries
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leia hair
When Fisher arrived in London to make Star Wars, the movie's hair stylist, an Irish woman named Patricia McDermott, showed her some hairstyle sketches. Many of them were inspired by different cultures around the world, including "Russian princesses to Swedish maids… Eventually we arrived at the hairy earphone configuration." This particular hairstyle was inspired by the Soldaderas or Adelitas, the women who fought in the Mexican Revolution from 1910 to 1920. Seems perfect for a feisty space princess.
5. Inspiration for all that masturbation
Image: Lucasfilm
Every teen boy from 1977 onward has the image of Princess Leia in that metal bikini scorched into their brain. And most of them have used the picture as fodder for pleasuring themselves and are apparently not shy about telling Fisher about it. "If I had known about all the masturbating I would generate! When men approach me to let me know I was their first love, I have mixed feelings. Why did all these men find it so easy to be in love with me then and so complex to be in love with me now?"
Fisher was just a tot when her father, Eddie Fisher, left her mother Reynolds for Elizabeth Taylor. Obviously, this was devastating for Fisher and her brother, Todd. But growing up, Fisher said she blamed herself for her father leaving. This experience made her never want to mess around with a married man. Then she met Harrison Ford. She claims she was terribly conflicted about having the affair with him, knowing he was the father of two, but at 19, on location in England for three long months, she succumbed to his good looks and taciturn personality. It's kind of hard to blame her.
Image: Lucasfilm
Ah, Carrie Fisher. We miss you. May the force of others be with you.
