Mastering the art of making finger-licking ribs can make you the most popular guest at the party all summer long — and we promise you'll get to use your new skills in the fall and winter too. For the carnivores among us, there's something so comforting and so delicious about those ultra-tender (and expertly cooked) ribs that fall apart at the first bite.

Unless it's your first time bellying up to the pit, you probably know by now that grilling ribs is nothing to be taken lightly. Everything — from the quality of meat you choose to the temperature of the grill to the flavor of the barbecue sauce — makes a difference. If you're looking to grill ribs that literally fall off the bones as you eat them, you're at the right place. We searched high and low for the best tips when it comes to grilling ribs. Give it a try — we're certain you won't be disappointed.

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1. Make a rub

The first thing in preparing tender ribs is creating a rub that's sure to delight your taste buds and add to the ribs' already delicious flavor. We like to keep things simple with a rub consisting of just three ingredients — salt, pepper and cayenne pepper. After applying a generous amount of the rub to the ribs, let them sit and marinate for a good 30 minutes.

2. Precook the ribs

Most people place their ribs directly on the grill after they marinate. Though this will produce delicious ribs, we recommend precooking them in the oven first. Wrap the ribs in foil, and place them in the oven at 300 degrees F for 45 minutes. Precooking them helps intensify the flavor and naturally brings out the juices, ensuring your ribs will be anything but dry.

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3. Grill the ribs

This is the easy part! Place the ribs over indirect, medium heat on your grill. The temperature should be about 325 degrees F. Cover the grill, and cook the ribs for approximately two hours. Do not check on the ribs for the first 30 minutes — this is crucial! If you open the grill too many times, you put the ribs at risk of drying out. After the two hours are up, use a fork to make sure the ribs pull off the bone easily. If so, they are done. If you're using barbecue sauce, now is the time to slather the ribs in it.

What is indirect heat? The cooking does not take place directly over the heat. If you're using a gas grill, turn on half the burners, and place the ribs on the unheated side. This allows them to cook more slowly and evenly and makes it less likely for them to burn. You can learn how to create an indirect heat zone on your grill, with tips from celebrity chef Michael Symon.

4. Cool the ribs

After the ribs are fully cooked, take them off the grill, and let them rest for 10 to 15 minutes. Allowing the meat to rest lets the moisture build up again and prevents the juices from running out of the ribs as you cut them. If you cut the meat right away, you lose a ton of vital juices pertinent to the overall flavor. We know you're hungry and your mouth is watering, but it's worth waiting an extra 10 minutes.

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Common grilling mistakes

The most common mistakes people tend to make when grilling ribs — or grilling meat in general — include:

• Grilling over direct heat. Any meat that is 2 inches thick or more should be grilled indirectly.
• Putting on the barbecue sauce too soon. Save this for the end. You don't want the sauce to burn.
• Peeking too often. If the recipe calls for a closed grill, do your best to not peek. Once per hour is fine, but any more than that, and you run the risk of losing too much moisture.
• Getting tipsy. We know it's more fun to grill with a drink in hand, but try to limit yourself to just one until the food is served.

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Originally published May 2013. Updated Aug. 2016.

Not all celebrities shout their baby names from the rooftops — or emblazon it all over their Instagram accounts. Some — like Cat Deeley and her husband, Patrick Kielty — keep it under wraps for as long as they possibly can.

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The couple welcomed their first child — a baby boy — back in January but have never announced his name... until now. TV presenter Deeley dropped a very big hint at Sunday’s Teen Choice Awards in Los Angeles. She accessorized her denim dress with a personalized gold necklace bearing the name "Milo."

Totally worth the wait, guys! A Latin and Old German name, Milo means "soldier or merciful." It has grown in popularity recently (ranking 288th in the U.S. in 2015), but it actually has a rich history, including being the name of an ancient Greek Olympic wrestler who won the Olympic Games six times. It was also a very popular baby boy name in medieval Europe.

Modern-day baby Milos include the sons of celebrities Ricki Lake, Camryn Manheim, Sherry Stringfield, Liv Tyler, Craig Ferguson and Alyssa Milano.

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Deeley and Kielty, who presented U.K. TV talent show Fame Academy together in 2002 but didn’t start dating until several years later, have always chosen to keep their personal lives private. They married in secret in Rome in 2012, and the public has yet to have a glimpse of their 7-month-old son.

Good for them! We love the couple's baby name choice — and they deserve major props for keeping it a secret for so long!

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These blindfold-friendly sex positions are Fifty Shades of Awesome. Thanks to super-popular books like Fifty Shades of Grey — and the hotness that is a blindfolded Kim Basinger in 9 1/2 Weeks — most of us are more than ready to incorporate some new props in bed.

"Blindfolds are the number one bedroom prop for good reason," says Jessica O'Reilly, Ph.D., author of The New Sex Bible. "The sensory deprivation you experience when you eliminate the sense of sight only heightens the perception of other senses, making every touch and every whisper all the more titillating. But blindfolds are also popular as a tool to reduce inhibitions and reduce performance pressure. By blindfolding your lover, you can let loose and forget about any self-consciousness that might interfere with pleasure."

There's another perk, too: "Sex play that incorporates a blindfold can also help to shift the power differential in a relationship," says clinical sexologist and relationship therapist Kat Van Kirk. "If the guy is the one to usually initiate, it can be a great way to allow her to take the reins and control the action."

Below are four sex positions that are even better with a blindfold. Start practicing your double knot now.

1. The Private Dancer

How you do it: Think of this position as the best, most straight-to-the-point lap dance ever. Ready? Now blindfold him. "He sits on the edge of a couch and she stands in front of him [facing away from him]," O'Reilly says. "With her feet (preferably in heels) on the floor, she squats down over his entire length, allowing her body weight to rest in his lap for the ultimate in deep penetration. She leans into him on the upstroke for full-body contact, but bends forward on the downstroke to press his bulging head into her swollen G-spot. She can tug on the blindfold depending on how much she wants him to see."

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Why it's especially awesome with a blindfold: "This position gives her ultimate control of pace, rhythm and speed," O'Reilly says. "By blindfolding her partner (partially or fully), she can comfortably ease herself into the exhibitionist role."

2. Rock 'n' Roll

How you do it:

"Both partners wear a blindfold for this move," O'Reilly says. "He sits on the bed with his back against the headboard and his legs outstretched with a slight bend in the knee. She sits on his lap, facing him, with her legs on either side and her feet planted on the mattress next to his hips. He helps to pull her hips into him as she rocks against him."

Why it's especially awesome with a blindfold:

"This position offers a balance of intimacy, as you're face to face in a vulnerable position, as well as unpredictability, as the blindfolds force you to feel your partner's rhythm in order to stay in sync," O'Reilly says. "This is a minimal-movement position. You can use dirty whispers, pelvic squeezes and deep breathing to heighten the sensations."

Next Up: The Splitting of a Bamboo

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3. The Splitting of a Bamboo

How you do it: Blindfolded, the woman places one of her legs on her lover's shoulder and stretches out the other leg (you can alternate as you go if you'd like). He kneels, straddling her outstretched leg. Hence the name "splitting of a bamboo." Get it?

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Why it's especially awesome with a blindfold: The large amount of skin-to-skin contact will deliver big-time sensation. "Any of the Kama Sutra positions could work with a blindfold, but the best ones are those of a more tactile nature," says Eland Sparklers, author of Kama Sutra Connect-the-Dots.

4. X Marks the Spot

How you do it: "Have your partner lie spread eagle on their back on your bed," Van Kirk says. "Blindfold your partner. Begin various licking and kissing all over his or her body. Then break out silk arm restraints and use them to tie wrists and ankles to the bed. Switch up between oral and penetration. To really change sensations, include other props like feathers, ice, sex toys and even food."

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Why it's especially awesome with a blindfold: "There is something about lying this open and vulnerable," Van Kirk says. "This will create a smorgasbord of sensation that your partner wouldn't have experienced relying on their sight."

Originally published Nov. 2014. Updated July 2016.

As if you needed a good excuse to make your kids something goopy and gross to play with at home, we've got four simple DIY slime recipes to get you started. Any kid who's watched Nickelodeon's Kids' Choice Awards has probably already begged for their own slime for playtime. And with movies like Ghostbusters making slippery slime even more en vogue, we figured we'd show you how it's done.

Set up shop in the backyard or put down a tarp inside, and let the fun begin:

1. Borax-based slime

Found at your favorite craft store or the laundry detergent aisle of your grocery store, Borax powder not only helps you make your own Nickelodeon slime for your kids, but offers a fun way to sneak in some science lessons too!

What you'll need:

• white glue
• 2 5-ounce paper cups
• food coloring (optional)
• water
• Borax powder
• popsicle stick
• measuring spoons

What you'll do:

1. Fill 1 paper cup with water and add one tablespoon of Borax powder and mix well. Set aside.
2. Take the other paper cup and add glue until the cup is filled about an inch high.
3. Add 3 tablespoons of water to the glue and stir.
4. Add food coloring to the glue concoction in the hue of your choice and mix.
5. Take your Borax solution and add 1 tablespoon of the liquid to your glue mixture and combine well. In less than a minute your slime will be oozing with Nickelodeon-style fun for your fingers!

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2. Glowing PVA-based slime

Make your own Nickelodeon slime glow with a secret ingredient that will surprise your youngster when the lights go down!

What you'll need:

• polyvinyl alcohol
• water
• disposable cups
• glow-in-the-dark paint
• Borax powder
• zip-close sandwich bag
• measuring cup
• measuring spoons

What you'll do:

1. Mix 3/4 teaspoon of polyvinyl alcohol and 1/2 cup of water in a disposable cup to create a PVA solution; set aside.
2. Add 2 tablespoons of PVA solution to a sandwich bag and mix in 1/8 teaspoon of glow paint. Zip closed and squish around to combine well.
3. In a separate bag, combine 3/4 teaspoon of Borax powder with 1/2 cup of warm water, zip closed and mix by squishing until the powder won't dissolve any further.
4. In a new sandwich bag, combine two tablespoons of PVA solution with 2 teaspoons of Borax solution, zip closed and knead with fingers to combine.
5. To make your goo glow, hold the bag up to the light, let it charge up and when the lights go off you'll watch your DIY slime light up the night!

Next Up: Moldable slime

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3. Moldable slime

Similar to Nickelodeon's Floam, this shapeable DIY slime is the perfect way for your kids to get their slime on while crafting a Nickelodeon award or any creation!

What you'll need:

• disposable cups
• water
• Borax powder
• white glue
• food coloring (optional)
• 1 cup polystyrene beads (or Styrofoam block and a cheese grater)
• zip-close gallon bags
• measuring spoons

What you'll do:

1. Combine 1/4 cup white glue and 1/4 cup water in a cup.
2. Add a few drops of food coloring into the glue mixture and stir. Set aside.
3. In a separate cup, mix 2 teaspoons of Borax powder with 1/2 cup of water. Set aside.
4. In the plastic bag, pour the glue solution and polystyrene beads, and 3 tablespoons of the Borax solution, zip closed and squish to combine thoroughly.
5. Now that your formable slime is ready to play, you can let your creations air dry for a keepsake or return to an airtight bag and store in the refrigerator for next time!

4. Cornstarch-based slime

One of the easiest ways to make your own Nickelodeon slime at home, this DIY slime recipe uses materials you probably have in your cupboard. Make this recipe for slime and you can host your own Nickelodeon awards at home — slime and all!

What you'll need:

• water
• cornstarch
• bowl
• food coloring
• measuring spoons

What you'll do:

1. In a bowl, combine 1 cup of water with 1 cup of cornstarch and mix with fingers until you reach a slimy, smooth consistency.
2. Add in a few drops of food coloring and your DIY slime is ready for fun!

Originally published March 2013. Updated August 2016.

Last December my best friend gave me the biggest surprise of my life when he tricked me into thinking we won sideline passes to watch the Philadelphia Eagles warm up at their game against the Buffalo Bills at Lincoln Financial Field. The sideline passes were only part of his devious plan. The other part was when he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him in front of the entire stadium. I was shocked and delighted, and of course, I said, “Yes!”

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I’ve been sober for three out of the four years of our relationship. In fact, Fernando was the reason I decided to try sobriety. After years of an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and countless attempts at moderation and drinking “normally,” I finally gave up the fight on May 7, 2013. It was because Fernando had broken up with me after months of watching me self-destruct that I decided to give sobriety a shot. After my decision to quit, we were able to form a healthy partnership.

I never dreamed that I would be planning my wedding as a sober bride because until three years ago, alcohol was always one of my main priorities. Now we’re planning our wedding for Feb. 2017, and one thing is for sure: Planning a wedding sober is unique.

1. Alcohol or no alcohol?

My partner is a normal drinker, as are many of our guests. This will not be a sober wedding. Obviously, if I had my ultimate choice, alcohol wouldn’t be present, but as a partner, I have to compromise. I want my guests, family, friends and future husband to be able to enjoy themselves and have a drink of alcohol if they so choose. That means I have to prepare myself to be at my wedding where alcohol will be present.

2. Wedding favors

Have you noticed that a lot of wedding favors are geared toward drinkers? Koozies, wine glasses, cork stoppers, flasks, shakers and shot glasses. You never really realize how many wedding favors and gifts have to do with alcohol until you’re sober. It’s been a struggle for me to dig deep on the internet and Etsy to find wedding favors that have nothing to do with drinking, creating or saving alcohol.

3. Paying extra for non-alcoholic options

I know it might not be this way at all venues, but at our venue, we’re going to have to pay extra to have some additional non-alcoholic options like non-alcoholic beer and a flavored water bar. To me, this is worth it because I want myself and my sober guests to have options. I want them to feel included and have drinks available that are fancier than just plain water or soda, but also don’t have alcohol.

4. Telling your wedding planner you don’t drink

I am not shy when it comes to my sobriety, but it was a little awkward explaining to my wedding planner that no, I do not drink. I felt like I needed to get it out of the way almost immediately when we spoke over email and then met in person. Of course, they might ask questions. My wedding planner asked me if I ever drank or why I was not going to be drinking on my wedding day. I simply said I used to drink a lot and then I quit three years ago. Maybe I’ll tell her more at a later date. I think honesty is the key to planning the wedding you want.

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5. Alcohol is always addressed first

When Fernando and I were looking at wedding venues, we visited one place where the woman showing us around did not stop talking about the “big party” our wedding would be. She talked about the dance floor, how drunk people would get and how we would be partying until the early morning hours. I wasn’t amused by this. This is a wedding, not a drinking fiesta, but I understand that for many other brides, alcohol is a main concern.

6. Sober bachelorette?

It’s basically unheard of, and there is so little about it on the internet it’s depressing. But that’s who I am. I’m a sober bachelorette and I am entitled to my sober bachelorette party! Why aren’t there many options? I guess society is used to drinking bachelorettes. My maid of honor has graciously started to plan my bachelorette party that will include the beach, spa, relaxation, food and laughs with my girlfriends. We sober brides deserve these options and a bachelorette celebration all our own!

7. Do I put wine glasses on our registry?

Another fun part of wedding planning is putting together a gift registry. Fer and I headed to Bed, Bath, & Beyond a few weeks ago to sign up for a variety of goodies for our new home. As we browsed through the china and frying pans, we came to the wine glasses and beer mugs. I stood there and asked Fer, “Should we put wine glasses on our registry? Who knew there were different glasses for white and red wine?” Fer doesn’t drink wine. As I pondered, I thought about my future with sparkling water and mocktails. They deserve a beautiful glass too, and I put them on the registry.

8. Cultural differences

I’m from the U.S. and my fiancé is Mexican. Weddings in each country are very different. In the U.S., weddings normally end at 10 or 11 p.m. In Mexico, weddings are typically designed as huge parties that generally last until 3 or 4 a.m. Booze is a main staple at Mexican weddings, whereas in the U.S., it’s not uncommon to have a cash bar or no alcohol at all to limit alcohol costs and consumption. This is a reality I’ve had to deal with in planning my wedding. We’ve compromised with having a wedding that will allow drinkers to imbibe and ending the wedding at a reasonable time for my liking.

9. The internet is void of sober bride advice

Once I got engaged, one of the first things I searched for online was “sober bride” and it came up with results that weren’t helpful. I was really looking for advice from other brides like me who are in recovery or just don’t drink. What I found was information for alcohol-free receptions or weddings, and even reasons to stay sober at your wedding. We need more brides who are willing to speak to the issues of planning a wedding that will contain both drinkers and non-drinkers and where alcohol will be present.

10. Yes, alcohol will be present on my special day

I won’t sugarcoat it. Alcohol and I are no longer friends. But as a sober person moving through the world, the reality is, I will be in situations and at places where alcohol will be. It’s a part of life. I’ve chosen sobriety and I will continue to choose it every day, and especially on my wedding day.

Could it actually be true that Kim Zolciak is headed back to The Real Housewives of Atlanta?

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Since leaving the show at the end of Season 5, Zolciak has been keeping busy with her own reality series, Don't Be Tardy. But now, amid rumors of some serious money problems, Zolciak might be returning to her roots and taking a new Bravo contract to appear once again on RHOA.

According to what a source told The Inquisitr, Zolciak has already been filming scenes with some of the other women from the show, including Sheree Whitfield. Zolciak attended Whitfield's birthday party in July in front of Bravo's cameras. The source says Bravo producers are testing the waters for now, filming scenes and seeing how Zolciak does with the other cast members.

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Since Zolciak's husband, Kroy Biermann, isn't playing football currently, sources say Zolciak's return has to do with needing another paycheck for their huge family — the couple has six kids. Zolciak gets paid by Bravo for Don't Be Tardy, and her social media accounts are full of sponsored posts, but with her expensive tastes, RHOA might be the best way to start raking in more cash — it's been rumored that the stars of the Real Housewives franchise can bring in six figures per season.

When Zolciak departed RHOA, she attacked a cameraman on her way out and was vocal about how the show wasn't a good fit for her and that the women who star on it were not her friends. Though Zolciak has remained close with RHOA star NeNe Leakes, it's already been confirmed that Leakes isn't returning next season, so it remains to be seen whether Zolciak can handle being around the rest of the women without her ally.

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Do you think Kim Zolciak is returning to RHOA?

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The most moving part of the 2016 Teen Choice Awards tonight was the tribute to victims of gun violence, but that didn't mean it didn't go on without its share of critics.

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Jessica Alba led the tribute and was joined onstage by relatives and friends of gun-violence victims, including Alton Sterling's son, victims of the Orlando Pulse nightclub massacre, and teen family members from tragedies like Newtown, Aurora and Dallas, as reported by People.

But one victim was not represented – Christina Grimmie – and viewers definitely took notice.

Grimmie, who made a name for herself on NBC's The Voice, was shot and killed during an Orlando concert back in January. She was killed by a deranged fan.

Fans weren't the only ones to notice and express their disappointment on Twitter. According to a source close to Grimmie's family, the family was also upset that she was left out.

"It seems they could have paid honor or tribute to her in some way and that opportunity was missed," the insider said to Entertainment Tonight, relaying the thoughts of Grimmie's family. "The fans have a right to be upset."

Maybe, since the producers of the show knew that Grimmie was nominated, they didn't feel the need to mention her twice. She did end up winning her first Teen Choice Award tonight, months after her tragic death. She was awarded the title of 2016's Choice Web Star. But a tribute to victims of gun violence definitely felt lacking when one of the most notable cases of the year for the entertainment industry was left off the list, especially as some of the tweeters above said, her name was used in conjunction with promotion for the show.

And while I agree that Grimmie should have been mentioned at the very least, I do think that the message behind the tribute still stands strong despite the fact that she was unfairly left out.

"Tonight we stand together with these teens, united in our call for peace and an end to this violence," Alba said in her speech. "Now, more than ever, we need to stop, feel and ask what's going on."

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Teen Choice Awards representatives have yet to comment on the controversy surrounding their use of Grimmie's name for promotional purposes in the show.

Do you think Christina Grimmie deserved an honorable mention during the TCA's tribute to gun violence victims?

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

JoJo Fletcher and Jordan Rodgers are now an officially public Bachelorette couple, but they did have to endure a couple of months of sneaking around to get here.

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"Endure" being the key word here.

Fletcher and Rodgers sat down on Live! Tuesday morning and chatting with Kelly Ripa about their time in hiding after Rodgers proposed but before the show's finale aired.

"We've been in hiding," Rodgers explained. "We bounce around every couple of weeks to these safe houses."

"A lot of Netflix," Fletcher chimed in.

Uh-huh, Netflix and chill.

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Although, in the couple's defense, it sounds like they actually watched some Netflix.

But let me get this straight. Rodgers and Fletcher had two and a half months during which they had to sneak around together and stay inside all the time in a house together, and you're going to tell me they just watched Netflix the whole time? No way. We all know what they were doing in that safe house, and it definitely doesn't sound like something to complain about.

"I really do think you're really onto something, though, with filming what goes on inside the ABC safe houses," Ripa suggested.

Except, my thinking is that show definitely wouldn't be even a little bit PG.

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Rodgers and Fletcher also played an adorable game of The Nearly-wed Game with Ripa and Anderson Cooper. Find out how they did in the video below.

Would you watch a show that documented the safe house life of The Bachelor and Bachelorette's newly engaged couples?

Before you go, check out our slideshow below.

The Bachelorette's runner-up, Robby Hayes, doesn't seem to be having any problems moving on from JoJo Fletcher, who gave him the ax during Monday's season finale.

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"He’s doing really well," a source reportedly close to Hayes told Us Weekly. "With the help of family and friends, he’s progressively been able to move on."

Hayes was the first suitor this season to tell Fletcher that he loved her, and he was singularly devoted to her throughout the season until she let him go before he proposed on the final episode.

"I can’t let you get down on one knee — I can’t let you do that, because I don’t want to take that moment from you," Fletcher said on the show. "I fell in love with you, but for some reason my heart is somewhere else."

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Hayes addressed Fletcher seemingly comfortably during the After the Final Rose special that aired live immediately following the finale.

"You say a lot of things that make me think that it should have been us," Hayes told her. "[You said] that you love me, that your family thought it should’ve been me. … I’m asking now, with the time that has passed, is there anything that’s more clear as to why one love was stronger than the one love we had?"

Fletcher replied, "My heart was always with Jordan."

Hayes' diplomacy in the wake of heartbreak is suspicious, to say the least. It's been less than two months since Fletcher dumped him — does his neutral stance mean he's angling to be the next Bachelor?

According to a source, "Finding out that JoJo is happy was comforting and is helping him move on. Robby still cares for her, and in caring for her, all he wants is for her to be happy."

The insider continued, "The entire experience was positive, and Robby would do it again. Robby just wants JoJo to be happy, and he knows she had to make the right decision for her."

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Do you think Robby should be the next Bachelor?

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Anton Yelchin's death already prompted a class-action lawsuit, but that's not enough for his parents.

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According to Us Weekly, Yelchin's parents, Victor and Irina Yelchin, are planning to file their own lawsuit in their son's death: a wrongful death suit against Fiat Chrysler.

Yelchin was killed on June 19 when his 2015 Jeep Grand Cherokee rolled backward down the driveway of his Los Angeles home and pinned him against his brick mailbox post. According to the Los Angeles County coroner's office, Yelchin died within a minute of the incident. His cause of death was blunt trauma asphyxia. His family reportedly blames defects with the car for his death, and will allege so in their lawsuit.

According to Us Weekly, Yelchin's car was one of 1.1 million vehicles that were recalled because of a faulty gearshift that made it difficult to put the car into park, drive or reverse. A class-action lawsuit sparked by Yelchin's death was filed on June 23 and alleges that the car's manufacturer, Fiat Chrysler, has been "intentionally covering up fatal design flaws and deaths from the defects."

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The class action is led in part by law firm Hagens Berman Sobol Shapiro, which wrote in the suit: "The safety issue is real. Well over 300 accidents have already been reported, causing dozens of serious injuries, and potentially the death of Anton Yelchin, a young Hollywood actor who was crushed to death when his own 2015 Jeep Grand Cherokee rolled down his drive and pinned him against his brick mailbox."

The Yelchin family's attorney, Gary Dordick, is expected to hold a press conference to share details of the family's lawsuit. The Los Angeles County coroner's office ruled Yelchin's death an accident, and investigators are working out whether the car's gearshift was a factor.

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Today I'm talking about how to handle when people you'd rather not be privy to your personal thoughts are reading your online writing.

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Question:

I’ve been writing blog articles for SheKnows.com and my own blog for more than a year. I’ve become more and more vulnerable in what I put out there. I’ll write about something hard, something embarrassing, and then think, Well, I don’t have to hide that any longer.

Obviously, my blog is open and anyone can read it. Thanks to Google Analytics, I’m now getting statistics showing who’s reading my blog. Because of the search terms they use and the location of the visitors, I'm 99.99 percent certain that someone who reads my blog is someone I cringe thinking about (someone from more than a decade ago), who now has access to my thoughts and life.

That’s stopped me from writing any posts, and I’m thinking of taking down my blog.

How do I get past this? I loved writing my blog.

Answer:

You’re letting this person into your mind.

Don’t. It’s your mind. You’re the owner and the landlord; don’t let someone from your past rent space there.

That you’d let this past person block you from the writing that feeds your soul says you’re letting him control you at a deep level by attacking your own sense of self. As I wrote in Beating the Workplace Bully, “If you couldn’t let another person stomp on your foot or physically slam you off balance, don’t let a bully stomp on your spirit, or bump into and push you over inside your head.”

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Think back to that thought you had when you first started letting your writing fly: I don’t have to hide that any more. Let yourself be bold and let your blog shine with your truth. Let each post say, “This is my life. I’m proud. I’ve earned where I’ve gotten to and what I’ve created. I’m telling my story so others can grow.”

You can build your mental Kevlar by looking at your last dozen blog entries. What do they say about you? That you’re real, genuine and insightful? If so, we need your voice out there, connecting with others.

Here’s what’s been happening as you’ve written your blog: You’ve developed the courage to express who you are, what you’ve seen and where you’re going. You’ve expanded your comfort zone. Now, having learned this person reads you, you face a new contest. Embrace the challenge. And, remember, you own the blog and can block him as a guest. But more importantly, don’t let him block you.

© 2016, Lynne Curry. If you have a career questions you’d like Lynne to answer, write her @ lynne@thegrowthcompany.com. Lynne is an executive coach and author of Solutions and Beating the Workplace Bully, AMACOM. You can follow Lynne through her other posts on sheknows.com, via www.workplacecoachblog.com, www.bullywhisperer.com™ or @lynnecurry10 on Twitter.

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The rumors of Tamra Judge’s custody battle continue to get uglier despite the fact that she’s not currently in a custody battle. She finally sat down with Entertainment Tonight to set the record straight about what’s going on with her and her children.

Judge said, “I've never lost custody of any of my kids. I hear that all the time.” But she insisted, “I’m not going through a custody battle.”

Judge has two children with her ex-husband Simon Barney, and the two have endured a terribly ugly divorce that resulted in a huge rift between the four of them. Two years ago, their daughter, Sidney, told Judge she didn’t want to live with her anymore, and the two haven’t seen each other since.

Judge revealed that last year that a therapist said Sidney suffered from  “parental alienation,” in which she is rejecting the parent she doesn’t live with.

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Once Judge was strong enough to talk about her heartbreaking separation from her daughter publicly, she’s been using every opportunity to reveal what is happening in her own family and so many other families. She said, “It's sad, and hard, and horrible, and it's happening all over the world. It's when a kid gets stuck in the middle.”

She explained that “there was no huge thing that happened between us. It wasn't like we were fighting or screaming at each other. It was nothing like that.”

Judge wants parents to know that they can prevent it if they’re more aware of their actions during the divorce. She said, “If there's anything that I can do from this experience, it’s let other people know that this is happening all over the place, all over the world. Parents get divorced. Kids sometimes choose sides... they just want to pick a side. They don’t want to hear about it.”

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That is an important message to spread. Children aren’t the ones who initiate the divorce, nor do they fully understand it. Parents need constant reminders that it isn’t the children's business. Keeping them out of the drama is the No. 1 priority.

Although Judge hasn’t reconnected with her daughter yet, she’s not giving up. She said, "I've gotten so many emails from children that have gone through it, and the thing that they always say to me is, 'Never stop communicating with her. Even if she doesn't answer, send her a text message. Send her an email. Send her whatever you can,’ and I do. Every single week, I send her something. ‘Thinking of you’ ... it’s all I can do.”

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It’s a heartbreaking reality Judge is living and she’s deciding to be incredibly brave about it. She doesn’t deserve to be treated so horribly with rumors of a non-existent custody battle. We all need to show her compassion instead of judging her.

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Beach days are the best days, but when you reach into your bag and pull out a sand-covered, molten PB&J, it's hard to not just want to pack up and go home. Luckily, thanks to these tips, eating in style at the beach is possible, no food poisoning, crunchy sand and hot bottled water to be found.

Packing your food

Choose something easy to eat. No one wants to use a knife and fork at the beach. Opt for something that can be enjoyed utensil free, like sandwiches, cold pizza, cold fried chicken and wraps. If you are OK with juggling your fork, make sure things are easy to spear — opt for chopped salads, cubed watermelon, short pasta (no long noodles!) and precut meats.

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Keep food sand free. It's a good idea to have two lines of defense against sand. For handheld food, place your food in a zip-top bag, or wrap it in foil or plastic wrap, and then put it in a Tupperware container before slipping it into your cooler. Then, as you eat it, unwrap only the part you're about to bite into.

Avoid perishables. Extremely perishable foods, especially fish, rare meats, soft cheeses and other dairy, are better enjoyed in your home. Leaving those foods in the sun for hours, even in your cooler, can lead to bacteria growth that'll make you and your family sick.

Keep it simple. Everything tastes better at the beach, so there's no reason to get too fancy. Making your favorite simple foods is the best way to enjoy your time at the beach, with no pre-beach cooking stress to worry about.

Packing your cooler

Get a hard cooler. Soft coolers can be less expensive, but they're also not as good at keeping your food cold. A hard cooler will keep your food safe.

Pre-chill your food. Even food like sandwiches, which you may be used to eating at room temperature at home, should be refrigerated for a few hours before you put them in the cooler. This will help keep them at a safe temperature for longer.

Pre-cool your cooler. Coolers left in the garage or attic can get warm in the summer. Try dumping a bag of ice into your cooler for an hour or two before you start packing, then dump out that ice when you're ready.

Use a thermometer. Use a thermometer to make sure your food stays at a safe temperature.

Get icy. Put a layer of ice on the bottom of your cooler before you start packing, and then, as you add food, add layers of ice between items. Frozen water bottles are great to include too — they keep your food cold, and as they melt, they become perfectly chilled, refreshing beverages.

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Keep sand away

Stop sandy feet. Don't let sandy feet get on your blanket, tracking more sand into the area where you'll be eating. Sprinkle baby powder on your hands and feet, and then brush away sand before you eat.

Bring a table. Consider investing in a small, elevated beach table. They're very lightweight, easily portable and will keep your food off the ground.

Bring water. Bring a gallon of water to rinse your hands with before you start handling and eating your food. You can use tap water; you'll be using it just to rinse with.

Stop the wind. Using a beach umbrella, pop-up tent or windbreak to block your food can stop the wind from blowing sand into it.

Dining at the beach will always be a little more hectic than at home, but with these tips, you'll never go hungry at the seashore.

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Have you had it with short baby names? These boy names are large and in charge, and at four syllables each, they're fancy enough for any baby.

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These names are regal. They're gorgeous. And any one of them would make an excellent name for a baby boy. While most of the names we're familiar with tend to be of a shorter variety (all the top 10 baby boy names from 2015 were two syllables, with two exceptions), that doesn't mean looking for a longer, more formal baby name is out of the question.

And sure, there are names here you probably recognize — Alexander is one, and Nathaniel is another. Both are traditional names that stretch back centuries, and both can be broken up into nicknames quite easily. That goes for quite a few of the rest of these names too. Many of these names have Italian or Spanish origins, and some are biblical in nature. But they all pretty much rock.

Pair a long, unique name like this with a short, sweet middle name for the best combo, and get busy picking an elegant name from this baby name list.

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• Alexander
• Amadeo
• Amadeus
• Antonio
• Arsenio
• Bartholomew
• Cornelius
• Demetrius
• Eleazar
• Emilio
• Emmanuel
• Eugenio
• Everado
• Ezekiel
• Giovanni
• Iakona
• Ignatius
• Indiana
• Jeremiah
• Leviathan
• Mauricio
• Maxmillian
• Montgomery
• Napoleon
• Nathaniel

• Oleander
• Omarion
• Patrizio
• Roasrio
• Salvatore
• Sebastian
• Thelonious
• Tiberius
• Zachariah

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First women. Then Mexicans, Muslims, Ukrainians and the parents of a fallen soldier. Why should anyone be shocked to learn that Donald Trump kicked a crying baby out of his recent rally in Virginia and (one can hope) shamed the child's mother right into the arms of Democrats? It's really only a matter of time before he drops kerosene all over his podium, lights a match and laughs maniacally like the protagonist in a bad '80s heavy metal video.

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And yet, even though nothing about this man should surprise Americans anymore, let's breathe in the hypocrisy: Trump, the same man who stands a 50 percent chance at heading the country he feels no longer gets the respect it deserves, just disrespected a supporter and mom who brought her baby along to hear him speak. Since all children are born with bullshit detectors that, sadly, dissipate as they become socialized, the most clued-in person in that room began flipping out at one point while Trump was speaking. Did the GOP nominee pull a Professor Sydney Engelberg and sweep the tot into his arms while continuing to deliver a speech about how only he can make the country great again for this otherwise cursed young American citizen? Of course you just spit your water out at the thought. Here's a snippet of what he said instead: 

"You can get that baby out of here. Don't worry about that baby. I love babies. Don't worry about it. I love babies. I hear that baby crying, I like it. What a baby. What a beautiful baby. Don't worry, don't worry. The mom's running around like — don't worry about it, you know. It's young and beautiful and healthy and that's what we want."

Now that's the Trump we know and love (if water isn't shooting again from your mouth, that statement rings true for you). It's sometimes very difficult to believe this is the same person who raised wonderful children — because, make no bones about it, he and his ex-wives and Melania Trump have raised wonderful children. You have to assume some compassionate person in his family understood that the behavior of babies is more unpredictable than what comes out of his own mouth on a typical Tuesday. But nah, at the end of the day, the baby — like anyone else who fails to serve Trump or gets in his way — got booted from the rally for being disruptive.

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Calm down, lady, he's joking, you say. So was every bully with whom you went to high school. The "joke," and let's remember that Trump's entire campaign has been filled with similar "jokes," devolves into insensitive, brutish behavior when he fails to recognize the nation's cues and the cues of his own party telling him to cool it.

Babies don't belong at rallies, you say? Agree with that statement until the cows come home, but that doesn't make his reaction any less disappointing for those of us who can only judge him on his character at this point. After all, when others are acting in ways we don't like or understand, we can only control our reaction to them, right? If Trump gets twisted over an unruly baby, the moment Kim Jong Un or Yahya Jammeh or, heaven forbid, Vladimir Putin, so much as criticizes his tie, he's going to lose his ever-loving mind and take the rest of us sane folks with him on a stroll down Crazy Lane.

Trump's insults and rants have shifted from being worthy of headlines to being facts about his character, no more newsworthy than reporting on the number of legs on an arachnid. He has sunk so low that, in order to truly deserve the headlines he gets, Trump has to slither on his belly in the grass and take down the grieving parents of a soldier who died defending America. At this point it has to be said: It's time to stop blaming Trump for being Trump. He shouldn't be told to stop being Trump. It's the rest of the nation that needs to quit pretending that, beneath that rough exterior, John Cusack is waiting to sweep us off our feet.

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The businessman chose to make this campaign more about himself than about GOP values or the issues he claims he can fix. Since that's the case, American voters have no other choice than to support him for what he, and he alone, can bring to the table, and that includes his personal feelings about whole groups of people and how he believes they should be treated in his America. For all of his faults, Trump has never tried to be anything but Trump. But so many Republicans who support him act like victims of relationship abuse when asked to explain why his rhetoric doesn't trouble them.

"He isn't really like this in private."

"I've read accounts from people who know him and who say he's actually a really nice guy."

"This is all for publicity. He won't act like this once he's president."

If it acts like a duck, swims like a duck and gives better duck face than most 13-year-old girls, it isn't an eagle in disguise.

As I write this, I’m lying by a swimming pool in a beautiful villa near Venice, Italy, watching my children splash in the water without a care in the world beyond what flavor of ice cream to have after lunch.

It’s incredibly peaceful and couldn’t be more relaxing. In a few days, my ex-husband will arrive — and I can’t wait.

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Most people react to the discovery that we regularly holiday together in one of two ways: complete disbelief or "so you're getting back together?"

Part of the reason we do this is that I’m not one of those mothers who thinks that just because the kids live with me 70 percent of the time, that gives me the right to call the shots. I don’t have the right to take the kids away from their dad for long periods of time. If I want to do it, we talk about it and try to work out a way to make it work that everyone is on board with. Three weeks is a long time for our children to not see their dad (and vice versa), because he’s been completely hands-on and present since their first day on this planet. So it’s always an option for him to join us for part of our summer vacation.

This year, we've also taken the children for a weekend staycation, and we regularly spend time as a family on weekends. Because we are still a family. He and I may not have been a couple for over four years, but that doesn't — shouldn't — affect our lifelong roles as parents.

In the same way that I ended my marriage because I wanted my children to grow up with two happy parents (and leaving an unhappy relationship will always lead to happiness, regardless of any initial disappointment, grief and regret), I spend time with my ex-husband in their company because I want them to see that parents who are no longer together can get along, even enjoy each other's company.

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I want them to grow up knowing that while co-parenting can be extremely challenging and stressful, it doesn't have to be all about resentment and bad feelings and arguments over visitation. From a young age, they've been raised by parents who aren't together, so our situation — vacations as a foursome included — is just normal to them. They don't know any different.

Undoubtedly, going on vacation together also eases the financial burden of holidaying as a single parent (you don't get any discounts for going in solo parentis), and it definitely makes those lengthy airport waiting periods a lot easier when you can take turns entertaining/placating/watching the kids and enjoy the luxury of a bathroom trip without having all your baggage and two small people crammed into the stall with you.

I appreciate that our situation is unique in many ways. It wouldn't be possible to do this if there was any negativity between us. We both have had to learn to focus on the bigger picture (primarily our children's happiness) rather than dwell on the small stuff. I know that for many former couples, spending more than a few minutes in each other's company is difficult enough, and the thought of sharing precious vacation time with an ex is unimaginable. In that respect, I know how lucky we are.

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I hope our approach to vacationing with the kids continues for as long as we're both comfortable with it. If new partners come on the scene, we might have to rethink the current arrangement. But whatever we decide, our kids' needs will come first.

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Bachelor in Paradise released a preview of the upcoming season and something completely out of the ordinary (not) happened — Chad Johnson threatened someone. Johnson is set on making Evan Bass feel unsafe and intimidated. Again.

In the preview, Johnson is in an interview talking about what he would like to do to Bass. He said, “I feel like there’s no competition. We can just kick everyone to the curb, me and Daniel [Maguire]. And as far as Evan goes, I didn’t murder him, so that’s good. I didn’t rip his dick off and shove it down his own mouth. But yeah, I still kind of want to cut his head off and throw it in the water.”

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So I guess we’re supposed to thank him for not decapitating and castrating someone on TV? Sure.

Bass and Johnson were famous for butting heads and shoving each other around on this past season of The Bachelorette when both men were trying to win JoJo Fletcher’s heart. And it sounds like Johnson hasn’t let go of any of the resentment he felt toward Bass.

But it’s not just Bass, Johnson has had problems with almost every one of his fellow male contestants, including Robby Hayes, Jordan Rodgers and Alex Woytkiw — just to name a few.

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All reality TV shows come with a little bit of unbelievable drama — something that you know just wouldn’t exist if there weren’t cameras around — but Johnson takes it to a whole new level. All of his fights are so ridiculous they’re hard to enjoy even as a ridiculous part of the show.

Maybe because all of his threats are overly-violent in nature or the fact that he doesn’t seem to care that he’s making everyone mad, but whatever it is, I’m ready for it to stop. Someone tell Chris Harrison this Johnson drama just isn’t worth it. Johnson needs to go back into obscurity as soon as possible.

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Good female dog names can be hard to find and many of the classics like "Lady" and "Princess" have lost their appeal. But lucky for you, we've come up with a brand-new list of unexpected names that will give your sassy lady a name as unique as her personality.

Even better, many of our favorite girl dog names have special inspiration. If you're a comic book lover, wine enthusiast, travel junkie or sports fan, this is going to be good.

Unique dog names inspired by comic books

Girls can be superheroes, too. Try one of these names inspired by our favorite fictional kick-ass ladies and sensational sidekicks.

• Felicity
• Psylocke
• Mystique
• Scarlet
• Rogue
• Harley
• Domino
• Storm
• Lois
• Mary Jane
• Natalia
• Raven
• Quinn

Unique dog names inspired by celebrities' babies

Celebrities sure do like to get creative with their baby names. Borrow a little of their naming mojo with one of these adorable names for your pooch.

• Arlo
• Grier
• Blue Ivy
• Coco
• Jett
• Halycon
• Finley
• Mavi
• Scout
• Tallulah
• ZuZu
• Jagger
• Luna
• Broncs
• Harlow

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Unique dog names inspired by Urban Dictionary

Need something truly unique and maybe a little irreverent? Urban Dictionary's got your back!

• Struggle Bus
• Bubaclat
• Ratchet
• Muffin Top
• Googlical
• Shizzle
• Menusha
• Double Rainbow
• Cougar
• Trout
• Twerk
• Poképace

Unique dog names inspired by wine

If your favorite way to spend an evening alone is to curl up with a good book and a glass of vino, you'll find your perfect pet name on this list.

• Carmenere
• Orvieto
• Pinot
• Chardonnay
• Chianti
• Asti
• Syrah
• Grenache
• Cherverny
• Malvasia
• Franciacorta (Frankie for short)
• Laurent

Next Up: Unique dog names inspired by athletes

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Unique dog names inspired by athletes

Athletic names aren't just for your boy pups. These names for your best gal-pal remind us that it's good to throw like a girl.

• Lolo
• Jelena
• Henie
• Jace
• Sue Bird
• Francisca
• Mia
• Burke
• Milene
• Danica
• Serena
• Mia

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Unique dog names inspired by sports

There's no reason your sweet pooch has to be named after the athletes themselves. What about a name inspired by sports?

• Puck Bunny
• Peek-a-Boo
• Alley (oop)
• Brighton
• Cadence
• Eire
• Oche
• Pepper
• Pokey
• Schatzi
• Volley
• Merkle

Dog names inspired by Dictionary.com's word of the day

If Words With Friends is your favorite game app, you'll love one of these word nerd-inspired pet names.

• Hurdy-Gurdy
• Bosky
• Boffin
• Comity
• Dulcinea
• Posy
• Epitome
• Guile
• Mrs. Fussbudget
• Skeigh
• Snarky
• Zan-zen

Next Up: Dog names inspired by other animals

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Dog names inspired by other animals

Sometimes it's fun to pretend our little fur-babies are actually members of a more exotic species. These names will help keep you both in the spirit.

• Sugar Glider
• Jackal
• Foxy
• Lorise
• Tayra
• Capybara
• Pygmy
• Lamb-y pie
• Jerboa
• Firefly
• Fawn
• Panda

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Dog names inspired by travel

Do you love to travel? So do we, which is why we love these dog names inspired by seeing the world.

• Delphi
• Geneva
• Aspen
• Kenya
• Sydney
• Verona
• Zaria
• Milan
• Iona
• Paris
• Pisa
• Venezuela
• Brooklyn
• Charlotte
• Eugene
• Odessa

Dog names inspired by exploration

Or maybe you prefer reading about other people's travels? In that case, name your sweetie after one of these adventurous gals.

• Amelia
• Nellie
• Octavie
• Lady Hay
• Annemarie
• Junko
• Valentina
• Kira
• Gertrude
• Isabella
• Nellie
• Renata
• Calamity
• Freya

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Originally published Feb. 2016. Updated June 2016.

It just creeped up, this malaise — slow and heavy and full, like a delivery truck lumbering down a residential street, stirring the trees and rumbling the concrete in its wake. My funk was real. And as a result, my writing — the skill that’s financed my life, won me accolades and brought me immeasurable joy— was shifting. Suffering. Painting with words felt less like hues of hot pink and neon orange on a fresh canvas, much more like gloomy shades of gray scribbled on scraps.

It took me a minute, but I recognized the feeling when it appeared. It was the same feeling that was the impetus for my leaving an incredible career as a newspaper journalist to become a magazine editor in 2000, and the reason I left my writing career in New York altogether more than a decade ago to become a full-time author and freelancer from a new home base in Georgia. I was on a search for something new.

The same is true right now, in this very moment. I am a woman in transition. But the focus is not so much centered on career growth as it is on personal fulfillment. The truth of the matter is that I am changing — as a wife, as a mother, as a friend, as a writer. Certainly as a woman. And things that used to mean something to me — winning others’ approval, catering to everyone else’s needs, being perfect for the sake of everyone else’s gaze — no longer take up the majority of my mind space.

I am hunting true joy. For me.

Years ago, observers may have called this transition a midlife crisis. Jokes about me soon tooling about town in a red Corvette, rocking clothes and make-up meant for girls 20 years my junior, and dumping my husband for some young, hot thang would abound. But I haven’t purchased a two-seater. Or served up divorce papers. Or gone looking for Idris Elba. And I’m most certainly not subscribing to the stereotypes assigned to 40-somethings when we finally start taking stock of our lives and figuring out what makes us happy. Society no longer gets to dictate how I should… be.

Instead, I’m painting the hot pinks and the neon oranges on new canvases, ones that brighten my personal picture. Where writing used to bring me joy, something altogether different makes my heart beat faster. Sunsets are my mediation. Evenings out with my girlfriends, full of laughter and good drinks and lots of shenanigans, make me feel alive. Getting lost in a good book, rather than writing them, inspires. Drooling over art, putting on lipstick just because, lifting weights at the gym until I’m sore — each of these things make me feel… new.

Like life is worth the living.

Like life is for the living.

Like I am… alive.

Mothers, wives, sisters, lovers, women — we need these things. We have to recognize the malaise and hear its rumble and embrace the grays, yes, but find the pinks and the oranges and color outside the strict lines society draws around us. The sooner we figure it out, the better. No need to wait until middle age. Trust me: focusing on self, no matter the age, makes the breathing just that much easier.

Breathe.

Denene Millner is a speaker at the #BlogHer16 conference, the premier event for women online taking place from August 4 – 6, 2016, in Los Angeles, California. Don’t wait! See the agenda and all the speakers and get your ticket now. She is also a New York Times bestselling author of 25 books. Her latest works, “Believing in Magic,” with Cookie Johnson, and “Around the Way Girl,” with Taraji Henson, publish in September and October respectively. The founder of MyBrownBaby.com and Denene Millner Books lives in Atlanta with her husband and two daughters.

It was a tumultuous time when Eva Mendes' second daughter was born.

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Mendes recently gave an interview to Latina magazine, and explained what a hard time she had welcoming her daughter just 12 days after her brother, Carlos, lost his battle with cancer.

"Losing my brother brought our family closer, and we were already close to begin with," Mendes said. "So to just see everybody be there for one another and show up, I feel so lucky to have them. We had a funeral service for [Carlos], and that same week, I had the baby. It was really, really intense and obviously beyond heartbreaking, but also kind of beautiful."

But because of the new baby, as well as parenting her first daughter, Esmeralda, Mendes admitted that she still hasn't "really processed" her brother's death.

"My older little girl is not yet 2 years old," she explained. "My little one is still an infant, and right now it’s really about surviving those nights and trying to enjoy this time as much as possible with them, and start the bond between Esmeralda and Amada. It’s a really, really special time. I’m loving it."

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Amid the tragedy, she revealed that she and her husband, Ryan Gosling, struggled to come up with the right name for their new daughter.

"My grandmother’s name is Amada, and Esmeralda Amada is the name of our oldest," she explained. "We had a few names picked out for our new baby, and when she was born, we didn’t feel like those names were her. We came up with a few more, even that morning, and tried them out. We were like, ‘What about Viviana?’ But we just kept going back to Amada."

Mendes continued, "In true Latin fashion, we reuse names all the time. … I actually told [Ryan], ‘This is common in Latin culture, so it wouldn’t be crazy.’ … And it was an emotional time with the passing of my brother. We thought how beautiful to go with what made us emotional and with what felt like her. When we looked at her, we thought, 'Aww, Amadita.'"

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What do you think of Eva Mendes' new baby's name?